signal loom
Love that flag! You’re decked out
#🌈lgbtq
wintry monolith
The umbrella box optical illusions are super neat
Brand spankin new
The hand flags as well
dry swift
It has been two and a half hours.
I have gained one hour on download
Pray for me, y'all, I need the power of the gays
wintry monolith
Oh nooo
🙏
We had terribad internet at our last place
I know the feeling
We had 2 down 1 up.
fallow whale
hidden inlet
Fuck, I feel that. I remember being a kid and thinking it was pure magic.
hidden inlet
God, what would that make me. 🤣
supple brook
According to teenagers everyone over 20 might as well retire
fallow whale
If only
hidden inlet
According to teenagers everyone over 20 might as well retire
UBI-paycheck lifestyle when.
fallow whale
I'm pretty sure I burned an assignment onto a disc for school in 2016
Recorded presentations are ass
supple brook
It's wild that they don't eben know what it is anymore
hidden inlet
I remember borrowing a library book on how to understand Russian and it had a CD with spoken segments in it. Copied that. That's all I think I did myself.
fallow whale
Senior high school in Australia was a simpler time
supple brook
The fact that some people don't even know you can pirate things anymore???? Or how to do it?????? Or think it's morally wrong?????????
Like please how do you live like that I pirate EVERYTHING
fallow whale
Pirating has never been more punk
hidden inlet
Like I get the argument against it, but the people saying it's stealing is just dishonest. As if me torrenting a video game deletes the files of the company.
shrewd wasp
Remember the adds at the theatre about how you wouldn't steal a car
hidden inlet
You know it's not theft, it's copying. Chill.
timid bane
burning and ripping CDs were key skills in my childhood...
shrewd wasp
Like that was the same thing as pirating a movie xD
supple brook
Like do you just....... Wait a year and a half until the season gets released in your country with a shitty dub¿¿¿¿¿
timid bane
I would in fact download a pizza
hidden inlet
Remember the adds at the theatre about how you wouldn't steal a car
I would torrent a mercedes tho.
supple brook
If I could download a car I would bitch tf
timid bane
3D print a car
shrewd wasp
I mean I can't drive anyway xD
fallow whale
As a law student I should probably add a disclaimer that I enjoy all my content at my friend "trusted vpn" and "torrent"s houses
hidden inlet
Fair actually. I don't have my license.
timid bane
'can't drive' gays united
hidden inlet
I'd rather use public transport and skip on the gas/electricity and road tax. not to mention the upkeep
supple brook
As a law student I should probably add a disclaimer that I enjoy all my content ...
Omg wait do we have the same friends??
shrewd wasp
Hahahahaah Shi xD
fallow whale
It's crazy how they get around
supple brook
When I live in Berlin I don't drive either, public transport is just so good and convenient in big cities
shrewd wasp
I mean it's not even a matter of good public transport
supple brook
But atm I live with my parents again and we have a second small car and it's basically mine, public transport here isn't greeeeat
shrewd wasp
It's just a matter of survival xD
supple brook
Ahahaha
hidden inlet
It's just a matter of survival xD
This. So hard.
shrewd wasp
Driving in Paris is a death wish
shrewd wasp
Feral bikes everywhere, people crossing boulevards like it's a pedestrian streets
hidden inlet
Christ, I went past berlin on a class trip, your infrastructure is insane.
fallow whale
Oh god I have to take the trash out
supple brook
Yeah I'm too scared to drive in big cities too LMAO
supple brook
The amount of times I have almost been run over by a bike visiting the Netherlands 😶
hidden inlet
The amount of times I have almost been run over by a bike visiting the Netherlan...
Do y'all have the same problems with sport bikers? 😒
shrewd wasp
Bikes are lawless savages
supple brook
No y'all are just insane LMAO i love y'all but MY GOD
hidden inlet
Honestly, I get it. Amsterdam Central Station is fucking chaos during rush hour.
supple brook
Our cyclists also have a death wish but yours are just evil and don't care whats in their way
hidden inlet
Can't see where you're supposed to cycle and where you're supposed to walk because everyone just goes everywhere.
shrewd wasp
No cuz at least those use helmets and neon clothing, I have issues with the people who bike with their kids in the busy ass streetd with no gears, no lights, no neon clothing and absolutely NO respect for traffic laws
hidden inlet
I mean, no respect for traffic laws sounds almost universal for sport bikers.
shrewd wasp
We used to get sport bikers on our equestrian lanes
Every single time I felt like throwing a tree at them
Racing down the lane at full tilt not announcing themselves or slowing down when coming near horses when they're on our lanes.
hidden inlet
One of them dead ass yelled at me to move out of the way. Stopped at the side of the road, turned around to see him, 20 meters away from me, making a beeline for my bike. After knocking into it, he had the gal to call me various sexist and ableist slurs I will not repeat as I do not want to get banned and told me to watch the road.
🙃 Like, bruh, I was off the road. You watch your damn self.
supple brook
We're taught to stand as close to the sidewalk as we possibly can if we wanna turn right cause cyclists will try to squeeze past you if there are even 10cm of space between your car and the sidewalk. Death wish i tell you
hidden inlet
I'm so sorry Trin...
I'm okay, no worries. I was more surprised at how absurd the situation was than scared or offended.
supple brook
One of them dead ass yelled at me to move out of the way. Stopped at the side of...
Bruhhhhh whyyyyy are people like that
hidden inlet
That and I knew that skinny twink wasn't gonna do shit. 🤣
shrewd wasp
Oh yeah stopping at a red light's an alien concept too, or indicating where you're turning
supple brook
Sometimes they just decide to turn left into oncoming traffic like 😀 do you want to die this badly. There are less messy ways
shrewd wasp
I had a cyclist stop at a pedestrian crosslane to let me walk past and I legit gawked at her for a couple seconds, I was so shocked xD
hidden inlet
Sometimes they just decide to turn left into oncoming traffic like 😀 do you wan...
There's people who clean up scenes like that after their death. Like, are you for real? We're gonna be a drain on society even in death now, are we?
shrewd wasp
Yeah but insurance money if you get ran over
Well, an asshole in life, and asshole in death...
I have a perfect quote for this but it's untranslatable
supple brook
I have a perfect quote for this but it's untranslatable
Pain
shrewd wasp
Stupid english
hidden inlet
I mean, yeah.
shrewd wasp
I get pain too dw Trin xD
blissful granite
My response every time my cell phone rings: https://youtu.be/KTc3PsW5ghQ?t=144
supple brook
Friends does anyone happen to know of good EU based binder companies? GB works too i guess but EU would be preferred
wintry monolith
Not sure, sorry
fading cedar
I get that.
HAHAHA sorry all i saw was "pain" and you "I get that" xD
hidden inlet
HAHAHA sorry all i saw was "pain" and you "I get that" xD
What can I say, except "Pain is just relatable".
hidden inlet
Why must mermaids be so pretty and appeal to my type. I like the ocean and I like women and someone had the bright idea to put them together and I melt like the lesbian I am
Mermaid Rafael got me quaking too, ngl.
waxen hare
i fully relate with both of these things 😆
supple brook
Godddd I love eiry she's so damn good 😭
I've cried to her catradora songs many many times
Also for my critters she released a beauyasha song last week and it obliterated me
supple brook
Same omg
shrewd wasp
it's SO pretty
supple brook
Her gay jolene cover????? Ma'am
wintry monolith
Yos
simple yoke
she has such a nice voice!!!
idle bane
Is anyone doing camp nanowrimo next month?
rustic drum
Is anyone doing camp nanowrimo next month?
My cousin usually does, and i always think about it but never commit. I haven't written anything in such a long time, idk what I would even do
idle bane
😅 i haven't successfully completed it since i was in high school but i'm trying again this year
chilly river
Camp was more fun with the old website.
idle bane
I kind of like it being part of the main website now
neon latch
oh is nano in april? i might try it again this year, i always try it but never can complete it lol
idle bane
so there's "camp nano" in both april and july (and i think there's a scriptwriting specific one at some point) and camp nano is like nanowrimo lite™
you can set your own goal and it's less strict about you have to start and finish the project within the month
for instance my goal is just 20k of the novel that i've been working on
and tbh i don't think im gonna complete that goal (it's a little over 700 words a day, which is a bit much for me)
mossy hare
I was debating about it, I only made it like, halfway through NaNo last year :/
I went through a long period w/o writing and am getting back into the swing of things finally.
untold patrol
I’ve been thinking of doing NaNo this time around! After I started thinking of publishing, I actually wrote less because it felt like I wasn’t just writing what I wanted/writing for fun. I want to start just writing for fun again
fading cedar
https://youtu.be/vOz3W8TGSBE
I love this
wintry monolith
supple brook
HIM
I am partial to the bear I have to say I love him
But the shark is absolutely fantastic
fallow whale
My gf wants the bear lol
I Also got the pig
Might get the bear for her and the panda for me next time
fading cedar
I have one of these at home 😄
waxen hare
I LOVE HIM!!
fallow whale
Biiiiiig
hidden inlet
The best thing about leaving your shitty ex is that you get to keep the apology gifts.
That and the healing, I guess
fallow whale
I have a Cthulhu plush about that big I think
fallow whale
The best thing about leaving your shitty ex is that you get to keep the apology ...
Still sorry to hear that :(
hidden inlet
Still sorry to hear that :(
It's okay. I'm fine now. Honestly, I spend more time joking about it than dwelling on it. 🙂
fallow whale
Well that's good to hear
hidden inlet
I have a Cthulhu plush about that big I think
Cthulhu plushies exist?
shrewd wasp
my god I need one right this instant
frigid thistle
Yes and you can make your own if you know how to crochet
frail sphinx
I heard crochet 👀
shrewd wasp
that is absurdly cute.
frigid thistle
shrewd wasp
I just finished crocheting a dice pouch actually
fallow whale
I'm also doing a blanket, I'm still struggling a bit lol
shrewd wasp
oh nice !
if you need any help don't hesitate to ask 😄
not an expert or anything but sometimes an extra pair of eyes helps
frigid thistle
fallow whale
I keep going back to baby cross stitching lol
frigid thistle
I have made sevral
shrewd wasp
those are so cute
hidden inlet
YOU HAVE NO RIGHT TO MAKE THINGS THIS CUTE.
mossy hare
Oh those are EXCELLENT
shrewd wasp
also yeah I can't help with that Mags 🤣
hidden inlet
Oh God, I love the second one. What was that game called again?
I remember finishing it in like two days.
fallow whale
Night in the woods, one of my faves
hidden inlet
Night in the woods, one of my faves
God, I loved that. Hit me right at the peak of an existential crisis, so it helped me out so much.
fallow whale
Yeah it does hit pretty hard lol
hidden inlet
That and I could really feel Mae during the scene on the couch.
fallow whale
I found Gregg more relatable but the whole thing is pretty😭
hidden inlet
I liked him, but I liked Bea more.
Bit rude in the beginning, but honestly, I get it.
fallow whale
Yeah, I suppose I preferred the "fun" but also actually still oooof route
hidden inlet
I tried to placate both, but apparently, it just flipped to Bea.
fallow whale
Soundtrack also slaps lol
hidden inlet
I know right? God, I love it.
Honestly, the darker bits were my favorites. Probably because of the contrast between the wholesome, nice moments and the dark, real moments.
fallow whale
Yeah, that's what makes it real I guess
hidden inlet
It's like you're used to the cute, wholesome moments and then wham severed arm.
waxen hare
o my gosh i love embroidery!!! 
fallow whale
Might be an unpopular opinion but I kinda see it as the good version of life is strange lol
waxen hare
we do be enjoyin gay hobbies over here
hidden inlet
Might be an unpopular opinion but I kinda see it as the good version of life is ...
Nothing but facts here.
fallow whale
we do be enjoyin gay hobbies over here <:goatlove2:795962347499814912>
Thxxx
I just think (at least in the first one) the writing in life is strange is awful
waxen hare
i embroidered a seal, a fox and a hedgehog but idk if i took pics before i gave them to my pals 😭
hidden inlet
I just think (at least in the first one) the writing in life is strange is awful
Yeah. I didn't like the first one and its expansions. The second game was pretty dope tho.
fallow whale
I also didn't like the art style lol
fallow whale
i embroidered a seal, a fox and a hedgehog but idk if i took pics before i gave ...
Still nice!
hidden inlet
I didn't mind it, but the lip syncing was just... 😦
fallow whale
Was the original voice work French ?
hidden inlet
Lemme check, because that would make sense.
fallow whale
God I hated the characters lol
fallow whale
Lemme check, because that would make sense.
I Only said because I vaguely remember the developer being French
hidden inlet
I can't find anything about it, but yeah. Lip syncing wouldn't even be a massive con compared to the ending.
Won't spoil.
But shit.
fallow whale
I had to get my gf to tell me lol
Glad I didn't make it
I've never really enjoyed the style of game besides until dawn
hidden inlet
I love the style, but I hate how they did it.
fallow whale
I don't think they're bad, they just don't grab me since I never think my decisions actually matter
I suppose it's a bitch to write for
Although Pyre did a really good job I think of player decisions with the writing
hidden inlet
I mean, that's all on them, tho. They marketed the game saying you can change even the past.
fallow whale
Super giant games are a blessing lol
fallow whale
I mean, that's all on them, tho. They marketed the game saying you can change ev...
Another thing, I felt like changing your decisions removed the significance of them
hidden inlet
I can't really say what I want to say, because it links to the ending. 😐
fallow whale
Dm?
chrome cedar
I liked Life is strange for the biggest part but... it piled on too much drama towards the end. Just... too much in my opinion
fallow whale
Sorry if I seemed like I was being overly callous about it, I can understand that others might like it or parts of it
shrewd wasp
Was the original voice work French ?
it wasn't but the dialogues were written by french guys (the company dontnod is french, so a lot of it is eerr, a bit wonky, as you'd expect from grown french men trying to write american teen girl slang xD)
the original dubbing however is in english
shrewd wasp
yeah that'll be why
it's really cute when you're familiar with french slang cuz a lot of it is somewhat similar ? In ways I can't even being to explain lest I start writing a thesis about translation 🤣
it's quite clumsy, but I for one love the lis franchise
I think they had bold ideas and asked interesting question, though obviously one may be more or less sold on the execution
they really tried to go for something different and think outside the box, and I can at the very least respect and appreciate that
fallow whale
Yeah, it's good if they're trying to evolve their concepts with the newer games
peak musk
Yaaaay, a chat room for us !
wintry monolith
Looking back at teen me wanting to do a Chrona cosplay bc ambiguous gender makes so much sense as an adult now lmao
FMA Envy as well
Muscle goals as hell lol. And with that top you could absolutely use a short binder and 
Someday goals, for sure
strange void
a
shrewd wasp
ain't that hella true xD
gritty flax
fading cedar
ain't that hella true xD
Also you’re going with chaos dad lady now? 😂
shrewd wasp
I go wherever the wind brings me, Plomin ;)
I could be chaos lady dad
Or dad chaos lady
Or Dad.
rose ice
Ik it was just a joke thing to wake me up from my nap but my husband slapped me and I'm... extreme flashbacks to when I was younger and my 'friend' slapped me, I'm not okay
rose ice
Thank you
thorn sail
Imma say as a hetereosexual cis normative person I struggle a lot with empathy for my friends when they talk about their struggles as lgbtq+ I wanna thank everyone here for being so awesome and open cause you've been helping me open my eyes more with the subtly ways games and society can impact us
(Empathy I mean, not just feeling empathy but understanding a lot of the related logic involved which I need cause I struggle with emotions in general)
fallow whale
<@318537511074922506> oh my gosh I love those! Embroidery is so cool
Thanks !
fallow whale
Hella is my favourite thing from that game, i used it SO much xD
Fair enough lol
wintry monolith
fallow whale
Lol saw that one like 20 minutes ago
hidden inlet
Mood
waxen hare
mr aragorn 🥺 💖
brazen willow
Turns out I look good in beanies
shrewd wasp
it's a queer trait, we all look good in beanies and flannel shirts
waxen hare
how do u do fellow gays
dark patio
sup?
waxen hare
not much just procrastinatin my uni work 
what about u!!
dark patio
updating mods for startdew valley, waiting until my boyfriend is done with zine check-ins so we can watch bnha
crisp compass
updating mods for startdew valley, waiting until my boyfriend is done with zine ...
I completely forgot that there was a new season out 😭 until my boyfriend reminded me—
dark patio
i knew it was coming but i didn't realize it was today until my boyfriend saw it was out
crisp compass
Yeah, I got so caught up with attack on titan that I completely forgot about bnha..
heavy heron
Reminder that Bioware did a good with Krem.
dark patio
I have only one complaint with Krem and that’s just that I wish there would have been a trans guy voice actor for him
heavy heron
Yes, but I think Jennifer Hale did a good job regardless.
dark patio
She did, I agree, it’s just a “would have been nice”
supple brook
Same, that would've been great :/ I wish more trans actors would get to voice trans characters, I feel like that doesn't happen very often
fallow whale
Wasn't the nb character in she-ra voiced by an nb person ?
pure oxide
Yes
alpine drift
Jewelstar in it is also voiced by a trans man
supple brook
Yup!! That's the only show I can think of where they actually did that though
crisp compass
I mean.. also in the last of 2.. Lev is voiced by a trans man.
hidden inlet
Same. The hate they got was overrated.
inland ermine
wintry monolith
fallow whale
And Abby🥰
Abby and Lev were probably the best characters lol. I thought that Ellie didn't have a very good arc and didn't really develop much as a character
crisp compass
Not going to say that I enjoyed the second game, but I mean it had good aspects to it, and game-play was overall alright.
fallow whale
I wish there was more combat lol, even though the game wants me to feel bad about killing it was by far the most fun part of the game
crisp compass
Yeah, they did Ellies story arc so wrong, they made her into this character that was just so dull.. and she was my fave from the first game.. I don't like how they pushed abbys arc, since the whole thing was about joel and ellie.. and we didn't even get a minute with Joel.
fallow whale
The flashbacks seemed like a last minute idea to add characterisation
crisp compass
And we played most of the game as Abby, they tried to make us feel sorry for her, but I couldn't lol
Yeah, I get what you mean by the combat was lacking.. I felt like I was just walking most of the game, and sitting through scenes I didn't care about.
fallow whale
Tbh I cared more about Abby since ellie never really gave me a reason to care about her for most of the game
crisp compass
Yeah that's the thing.. no one cared for Ellie, cause we didn't get much Ellie.. all her story was is to get revenge for Joel, and when it comes down for that she ends up 'losing'
And they just did her so wrong.. she could have settled down with Dina, and helped raise that Kid, but no.. she just had to go find Abby, and not even achieve what she went to do.
fallow whale
I hate that she only spares Abby as a spur of the moment thing, it really should've been a gradual forgiveness, the last fight in the water was so stupid to me
crisp compass
That's what baffled me the most.. Abby bit of your fingers now you can't play the guitar, woe to you Ellie.
fallow whale
I Also found Dina a bit two faced lol
It was weird how they put that pseudo open world section at the start when it never happens again later
crisp compass
Dinas character was flawed, but I kinda was still rooting for Ellie having a love interest, since we all know how her first two went.
And the game had nothing to do with being in a zombie apocalypse... but humans killing humans, great.
fallow whale
Do you remember that one resident evil knock off boss lol
crisp compass
Lmfao don't get me started on that one, what on earth were they thinking
crisp compass
I literally felt like I was playing a resident evil game, but not that it was doing any justice.
Yeah, I feel like that annoyed me the most, that every corner you turned you'd get attacked from behind, and DEAD
fallow whale
Last of us 2 - "just go and play the resi 2 remake you'll have more fun honestly" would be a good slogan
crisp compass
I mean thats what took away the spark from the game.. the zombies just being ones we've seen before already.. that's why I liked the first one, because at least those zombies were like 'holy shit, what now'
But yeah them being carbon copies of what we get in other games, not so intriguing.
fallow whale
The zombies were boring as hell to fight compared to the humans
crisp compass
Lmfao went through the game thinking the humans were scarier than the actual clickers.
fallow whale
The "innovation" was more annoying ones to fight like the gassy boy and the resident evil reject
crisp compass
Was hoping to see Mr X pop out of nowhere and be like 'wasssup'
fallow whale
Mr x punching me in the face would have been a more interesting story beat
Maybe ellie could have stolen his hat
Kinda funny how much fun humans are to kill with how the game wants you to feel bad about it
crisp compass
Lol at this point they should have invited thanos to the party too..
I feel sorry for no one in that game.. It made me never want to preorder a big hit game again. ]
fallow whale
Ellie gets her smash invitation from Abby at the end of the game
crisp compass
Although, I like the representation, and how Lev was voiced by a trans man.. that's all I truly liked.
fallow whale
Her ultimate is resenting joel for years just for melodrama
fallow whale
Although, I like the representation, and how Lev was voiced by a trans man.. tha...
Yeah
brazen willow
o
so turns i was lied to my fellow gays
my rootin tootin cowgirl hat
isnt a rootin tootin cowgirl hat
its actaully
a crikey outback hat
fallow whale
Does it have corks lol
rose ice
Guys pls be careful about game spoilers for those of us who haven't played yet
Wait when did I come out, this year or last
I may just be rlly late to the game
Ignore me
fallow whale
June 19th 2020
rose ice
oh yeah I'm just rlly late ignore me
fallow whale
No worries
rose ice
I'm playing that recently
fallow whale
It's very pretty
crisp compass
Lol you don't remember that the story got leaked before we could even play it.
Someone from the games development team leaked the game.
fallow whale
Yeah
faint jacinth
Abby and Lev were probably the best characters lol. I thought that Ellie didn't ...
Yeppp deff, abby got lots of undeserved hate🤷🏻♀️
fallow whale
Oh no a non conventionally attractive woman, this doesn't sit will with the gamerz
So many people were saying stuff like woman can't be muscular lol
faint jacinth
Yepp, the girl that lent(sp) abbys face got loads of hate for the character too🙄
In the same subject but different character, i remember they released a poison ivy statue and she was more muscular and they were complaints about her "not being sexy enough"
fallow whale
Yepp, the girl that lent(sp) abbys face got loads of hate for the character too�...
That's pretty terrible
Laura Bailey got death threats too
faint jacinth
Yeah, I'll never understand the reason why someone would send death threats to an actor
fallow whale
Some people are just unhinged I guess
crisp compass
Oh no a non conventionally attractive woman, this doesn't sit will with the game...
I don’t think it’s the matter that she wasn’t deemed attractive, because I mean Ellie was also tomboyish— it’s just the fact that insert first part of the game here
fallow whale
No people did complain about how she looked too lol
I think the first part of the game was used as an excuse to hate her
crisp compass
I mean she’s got muscle but that’s about it.. she was working out, and i mean you’re bound to have a little muscle as a woman living in that sort of environment. I didn’t like abbys character because of what happened to my favorite character 😭
hidden inlet
At first I hated Abby and then I wanted her to win lol
crisp compass
I don’t understand people who play games for the attractive woman and when they’re not attractive they forget the actual story
fallow whale
At first I hated Abby and then I wanted her to win lol
Same lol
crisp compass
Yeah you wanted her to win because they showed her sad back story.. I still couldn’t feel sorry for her.
hidden inlet
Not even that tho.
fallow whale
I Also wanted her to win because she had a far more valid cause/reason then ellie did
hidden inlet
They both had sad backstories and I felt more for Ellie, but I just had more respect for the growth she had vs the growth ellie had.
crisp compass
The only characters I felt sorry for was Lev, and that guy that died without meeting his child
fallow whale
I think remembering him as "that guy" kinda shows how interesting of a character he was lol
crisp compass
I stopped feeling sorry for Ellie, ||because she killed all abbies friends just not to kill Abby||
hidden inlet
After she had about 100 bodies on her conscience, I just got bored and was like "Is this really worth it? :/"
crisp compass
I think remembering him as "that guy" kinda shows how interesting of a character...
Lol he wasn’t interesting.. but it just goes to show how I valued none of the other characters xD
hidden inlet
Like, at least Abby did what dhe needed to do and dipped.
fallow whale
One thing I found funny about Abby was her realisation of "hmmm is genocide bad?"
hidden inlet
One thing I found funny about Abby was her realisation of "hmmm is genocide bad?...
Baby steps.
fallow whale
Nah I just miss bill
An actually interesting and believable character
hidden inlet
Who was Bill again?
fallow whale
The gay man from 1, he helps you get a car and stuff
hidden inlet
Oooh. Yeah he's pretty cool.
fallow whale
Much better writing
But hey, at least in 2 they scream each other's names when they die lol
Seemed more gimmicky then compelling lol
At least we got spiritfarer
crisp compass
HAHAHAHA.. now that’s comedic relief at its finest
fallow whale
?
crisp compass
At least we got spiritfarer
Never played that game before
And screaming each other names when you die.. I mean— that sounds like something out of a movie, but I guess that’s the whole vibe they were going for.
fallow whale
It made me wonder if each npc had a specific name or if it would just pull a randomised name based on the model
forest plover
Morning
fallow whale
Yo
light bane
hello!!
brazen willow
Greek mythology question
Is Aphrodite technically a titan?
Also are Medusa’s armpit hairs snakes?
fallow whale
Is Aphrodite technically a titan?
I wouldn't say so
She's still a product of the titans
fallow whale
Some people don't lol
brazen willow
True
fallow whale
It's open to interpretation really
Although she is part of the main pantheon of Gods I guess
So personally I consider her a god
brazen willow
I don’t but also I accept typhon as inevitable
crisp compass
There’s this WEBTOON that I’ve been reading, and it’s to do with Greek mythology.. Aphrodite ended up falling for hades
brazen willow
All hail typhon
crisp compass
The art style is beautiful too
fallow whale
Hmm cool
brazen willow
Greek mythology is wack but I think that’s why I love it
crisp compass
Never quite understood it, but we had to do a lot of Greek mythology in school.
crisp compass
Yeah, kinda heard a lot of bad stuff about Zeus, but people put him on this high pedestal
waxen hare
hes v demonised tbh and he did some HORRIBLE stuff but thats also the kinda main message of the greek myths
like the gods are flawed like humans
brazen willow
Yeah, kinda heard a lot of bad stuff about Zeus, but people put him on this high...
Tbh my preferred age of Greek myth is when posidien was the main boy since
Aphrodite was a war goddess too <3
waxen hare
i love hades he just minds his own business and loves his wife and dog
brazen willow
And I love that
waxen hare
also dionysus what a fun guy
SHE WAS aphrodites so cool
i feel so bad for hera
when ur the god of happy marriage but ur no good husband keeps havin affairs ✌️
brazen willow
Should’ve divorced
crisp compass
I’m sorry but I do be loving Greek mythology but they’re like a reality show
hidden inlet
As someone who didn't look into Greek mythology, I'm definitely getting that vibe.
crisp compass
Also love Dionysus and Poseidon
hidden inlet
Watching people discuss the Gods is like watching people talk about the characters of Real Housewives of [insert place here]. And I love it.
crisp compass
Keeping up with the demigods
wintry monolith
Greek mythology in a nutshell:
"Zeus no!"
"ZEUS YES!"
brazen willow
Greek mythology in a nutshell:
"Zeus no!"
"ZEUS YES!"
Why did I read this in prozds Zeus voice
waxen hare
also artemis is a wlw ace queen 🥺 💖
fallow whale
Accurate lol
dark crypt
hello everyone 🙂
fallow whale
Hi
rose ice
Hmm my therapist took my husbands side in the binder debate, that I just need to get a proper bra instead of a binder cause they think it's a confidence issue..
hidden inlet
...Did they even ask you? ._.
fallow whale
Doesn't seem like a fair therapist lol
dark patio
Does your therapist have any experience with lgbtq issues?
fallow whale
It really is your decision
rose ice
Yes she does, she has a trans patient
dusky sphinx
no no no, no one can tell you what you do with your body 😦
rose ice
They want me to try dressing like a girl first cause a binder will 'damage' things
dark patio
Hm... I mean... does your therapist have a single other trans patient or do they have actual experience with lgbtq issues
rose ice
I haven't been able to get one yet but I'm debating even getting one at this point cause it'll just piss my husband off
hidden inlet
I'm trying to be delicate about this but... none of his business?
dark patio
I'm sorry, but that kinda just reads to me like they're not really an therapist who has a focus with gender and sexuality
rose ice
I'm just ahh directly back where I started feeling like I'm not allowed to be non-binary
dark patio
Not to say that's bad, but it's sort of specialized, i guess? like no one person can know everything.
humble tusk
❤️
dark patio
You don't need anyone's permission to be who you are.
humble tusk
giving love to you digi
hidden inlet
No one can forbid you from being who you are.
rose ice
Yeah shes a regular therapist first and foremost
hidden inlet
And I don't mean "That's wrong." I mean, it's literally impossible.
rose ice
Shes a great therapist tho she didn't try and push it or anything but just ahh
Thanks you guys
hidden inlet
Get 👏 your 👏 binder 👏 and 👏 let 👏 them 👏 stay 👏 mad. 👏
rose ice
I dont like people being mad at me though ahh
hidden inlet
Most people don't and that's okay, but I'm worried you'll compromise on living as who you are just to avoid the ire of people who don't get it yet.
You know who you are. If anything, defying both your husband and your therapist in order to become who you are would show a high level of self-confidence.
dusky sphinx
I'm trying to be as gentle as possible, but it's a form of control for your spouse to basically say what you can and can't wear 😦
rose ice
He's worried it will damage my chest tissue I guess
hidden inlet
Okay, your responsibility.
pure oxide
There are safe ways of wearing binders, you only war them for short amounts of time, etc.
But ultimately, they're your breasts and it's up to you if you feel comfortable wearing the binder and taking care of yourself, and you're aware of the damage they -can- cause and are willing to deal with that if it becomes a thing
rose ice
I am but I dont think he is even though it's my body
pure oxide
I mean... it's not his body though.
hidden inlet
I mean, you can try to educate him and send him some links? He seems open to some level of learning at least.
pure oxide
So at the end of the day, it has to be what -you- are comfortable with, not him.
hidden inlet
Just remember that it's ultimately your choice, not his.
pure oxide
Not to sound like an asshole, but you're young, and when you're young it's hard to be an advocate for yourself, especially with a partner, ESPECIALLY a partner who's that much older.
hidden inlet
...And if you feel brave enough, communicate that as well. I'll be with you in spirit. ❤️
rose ice
I'm really bad at advocating for myself tbh but we try and have as open communication as possible
hidden inlet
Yeah, that's fair. I've had my fair share of experience with an older domineering guy.
fallow whale
Should I leave a server if someone in it really upset me
hidden inlet
I think the best thing, regardless, is to say it's your choice, ultimately, and that as a partner equal to him, he should respect that.
dark patio
Should I leave a server if someone in it really upset me
how big is the server
and is it a server you otherwise enjoy
fallow whale
Pretty small
rose ice
Yeah, I'll get the binder when I have the money then
dark patio
could just block them and see how that goes, if you like being in the server otherwise
fallow whale
I do like it, but I'm pretty pissed and they're an active participant
Being gaslit is ass
dusky sphinx
is it a server that has mods?
fallow whale
Yep
dusky sphinx
maybe you can talk to one of them about the situation?
dark patio
you can still talk to a mod privately about what's going on
pure oxide
If they are good mods, they'll listen to you regardless
dark patio
my friend and I recently joined a server and saw someone was there who is banned from servers we run, and even though they haven't done anything here, we let the mods know so they can have a clearer view
fallow whale
One of the mods was kicked today for being toxic lol
dark patio
oh yikes
fallow whale
The owner isn't very strict unless you're obviously a troll or a chaser
I'll just fall back on my trusted tactic of trust no one lol
dark patio
hhh yikes
fallow whale
?
hidden inlet
It sounds careless at best from an outside perspective, if I'm honest.
dark patio
It sounds careless at best from an outside perspective, if I'm honest.
exactly
A bad server can have nice people
hidden inlet
Lackluster moderation and the moderators that are there might not be the best for the job.
pure oxide
100%
dark patio
but if people are getting to the position of mods who are toxic? that's worrying
hidden inlet
I'm not talking about individual people, no worries. I'm sure they're lovely.
fallow whale
I see
hidden inlet
You could message whoever you want to stay in contact with and throw up the deuces on your way out?
idle bane
Should I leave a server if someone in it really upset me
If the server is important to you, I've gotten great use out of the block button
The best part of discord's block feature is that you can still read posts you just have to make the active decision to click
fallow whale
I dunno, they're all kinda linked up
Still talking to the person who upset me to see how it was all my fault lol
pure oxide
... y tho
fallow whale
I don't know when to quit I guess
I liked the person a lot until now
Although I can sort of see it wasn't mutually beneficial now
But I guess I don't like throwing away work or friends
They're good at making me question myself too
hidden inlet
I get that, but the way you described the situation, it doesn't sound like they were putting in the effort of a friend.
Correct me if I'm wrong. I don't know the situation at all.
fallow whale
They claim to like me more then a friend but actively flirt with others in the discord lol
hidden inlet
Euh... and they then act toxic to you and make you question yourself?
fallow whale
Well I said why do you only flirt with others after I said I wasn't comfortable with it
Sorry, my phone keyboard is bad
hidden inlet
Sorry, my phone keyboard is bad
I get that. No worries. You're awesome for adding capital letters and punctuation still. 😛
fallow whale
Thanks!
They never listen to my feelings either
And when I try to they just try to make me feel bad about them
hidden inlet
Ew wtf.
fallow whale
Doing it right now
hidden inlet
Bruh, I thought I acted weird around my crushes.
(Tell me if bruh's uncomfortable, btw. It's kind of something I say all the time, but apparently some folk don't like it.)
fallow whale
Maybe poly isn't for me lol
wintry monolith
@rose ice 1, a bra does not equal a binder what the fuck.
2, your body your choice, not your partner's.
3, Getting a Properly Sized binder (not too small and Never one of the one of the cheap ones you see on amazon, those CAN break ribs) and following the hard 8hour limit is fine.
fallow whale
(Tell me if bruh's uncomfortable, btw. It's kind of something I say all the time...
I see it as pretty gender neutral
hidden inlet
I see it as pretty gender neutral
Same. Just wanted to make sure. 🙂
But yeah, poly-struggles or not, shaming you for your feelings isn't part of any healthy relationship.
hidden inlet
Ahkay. But yeah, in this situation.
fallow whale
I thought the screenshot highlighted trying to make me feel bad
hidden inlet
If you communicated yourself, I'd say that's that done. If they can't accept it...
🤷♀️ tough shit, I guess?
For them.
fallow whale
I just got "Maybe it would be best if we stopped Idk >~< We hurt each other so often :("
I'm pretty annoyed at "each other"
fallow whale
I get my head bitten off and called a manipulator for saying how I feel lol
hidden inlet
I mean, it's only natural you want to trust your friends.
Kinda sucks when they do stuff like that then.
dark crypt
@fallow whale they sound like a narcissistic control freak to me but maybe I am wrong? :S
fallow whale
rose ice
<@304850307534290955> 1, a bra does not equal a binder what the fuck.
2, your bo...
Yeah I'm getting one from gc2b(?) And I even emailed them my measurements to get the right size
hidden inlet
I'm trying to not be sarcastic, but she dropped that line really quickly, it's almost comical.
fallow whale
<@!318537511074922506> they sound like a narcissistic control freak to me but ma...
Sounds right
It sucks because I liked her a lot, even just as a friend
hidden inlet
I mean... is it that you liked her or that you liked the person you thought she was?
fallow whale
Hitting me with the sad ghost stickers now
hidden inlet
Maybe that's fake-deep, but that question helped me a lot with these types of people.
fallow whale
I mean... is it that you liked her or that you liked the person you thought she ...
True
hidden inlet
Hitting me with the sad ghost stickers now
Wh- How old is she, twelve?
fallow whale
20
hidden inlet
I'm sorry, but this is just guilttripping.
hidden inlet
UM.
dark crypt
:S
hidden inlet
Excuse me, w h a t ?
pure oxide
ew
vague nymph
Σ('◉⌓◉’)
supple brook
YIKES
fallow whale
I say flirting but it's just like "cuddley" shit in her defence, but it still makes me super uncomfortable
Like it's really drawn out
hidden inlet
Okay, but... I've literally heard groomers use that excuse before they're caught red handed.
hidden inlet
Like it's really drawn out
So is grooming. I-
fallow whale
hidden inlet
Sorry, I'm kind of blindsided, but I feel like it would be the best to let the admin or a trustworthy mod know to at least covertly keep an eye on her.
fallow whale
The mods aren't active
hidden inlet
Okay, well... fuck. 😐
vague nymph
Chat needs a hug
hugs
hidden inlet
Think magic and digi especially but thanks.
spare dock
Sounds like she did you a favor by saying 'let's stop this'
fallow whale
But there is loads of other examples
hidden inlet
I mean, I'll be honest, I'm missing a lot of context here, but the ">:)" is vomit-inducing.
fallow whale
Probably more in dm I haven't seen
supple brook
God that's so gross
fallow whale
She also went along with the idea of laying on the 17 year old
supple brook
😐 In WHAT world is any of that something you should say to a 15 year old gdamn
fallow whale
spare dock
If you're like 19 and flirting with 17 year olds, that's one thing. But like 20 and 15???
fallow whale
This was me calling her out about it
supple brook
Bitch if a CHILD makes dumb comments like that towards you, AN ADULT, you shouldn't be reciprocating???? HELLO??????
hidden inlet
Love her saying she's not literally following orders, completely side-stepping the "avoiding responsibility and pushing it on someone else" part.
supple brook
God that whole "but they started it" thing pisses me off so bad
hidden inlet
This is classic pedo shit.
Actually, soz, correcting myself. This is classic groomer shit.
fallow whale
I feel like I should've seen it sooner
supple brook
Yeah, groomer tactics
hidden inlet
It's okay. Grooming doesn't just happen on children. It happens to the adults near to them too.
spare dock
I feel like I should've seen it sooner
you should not feel guilty for that. it's hard to see stuff like this
fallow whale
The kids in question are both trans and need a lot of help/very impressionable
hidden inlet
They convince the adults they're trustworthy and just innocent too. It's not your fauly.
*fault
fallow whale
So I think they're at a higher risk
supple brook
If any minors are reading this and adults act like this with you please, please, please run and never look back. I know it can be flattering to get attention from someone older than you but you WILL get hurt
It's way too common in discord servers and it's unacceptable
fallow whale
She acts like it's normal friend behaviour
hidden inlet
If any minors are reading this and adults act like this with you please, please,...
Adding to this, if you feel like you're too mature to get manipulated, yours truly was manipulated at age 22. It's not an age thing, but it can influence it. It's okay to acknowledge that and leave.
spare dock
she may well believe that, but it doesn't make it right
fallow whale
I Also find it strange that she didn't want anyone on the server to know that were dating after a fashion
supple brook
Sure, be as physical with your friends as you want, I have absolutely nothing against that! But if you're going to be friends with minors as an adult you HAVE to set boundaries. You CANNOT treat children the way you treat people your age.
hidden inlet
Well, there you have it, really.
fallow whale
hidden inlet
You can be boundry-less and naive, and still cause irreperable harm to children. Going out on a limb here, but I feel like that would cause the most damage.
supple brook
If you're someone who struggles with setting and enforcing boundaries you just shouldn't be friends with kids. It's that simple. If you still insist on being friends with kids like it's a necessity in life you're sus as fuck
fallow whale
Here's me losing my cool earlier
supple brook
The fucking ":(" show it up your ass queen I hate people like this
vague nymph
There’s so many things wrong with that
supple brook
She reminds me of my ex
fallow whale
I might've lost my temper too bad lol
hidden inlet
I already know what you're rtping
supple brook
N
Fucking nonapology
hidden inlet
"im sorry you feel like I don't" FUCK YOU
I knew it. Ew.
supple brook
It's like saying "sorry for offending you" GRRRR
vague nymph
I had to put my foot down when someone older than me (I’m over 18) stayed in vc after trying to ship me with a minor. And I was not having it.
hidden inlet
It's disgusting.
fallow whale
I might've lost my temper too bad lol
Idk
supple brook
I had to put my foot down when someone older than me (I’m over 18) stayed in vc ...
God nah gross ew
fallow whale
I want to leave the server but Idk about the kids
vague nymph
They had been doing it but then left vc soon after, so when they stuck around, I tried to put my foot down best as I could manage.
It’s unacceptable to try and ship people without knowing their age.
hidden inlet
I'd say, reach out to them in private and keep in touch.
fallow whale
The 17 year old is already really tight with her
supple brook
In general shipping real people is such a fucking no no, ESPECIALLY to their face??? Hello?????? Yikes
fallow whale
I think the 17 year old has a crush on her tbh
crisp compass
I’m sorry magic.. those messages just irked me.. and when you said she was 20 I cringed.
supple brook
In general shipping real people is such a fucking no no, ESPECIALLY to their face??? Hello?????? Yikes
crisp compass
.. did you meet on discord?
fallow whale
Yep
crisp compass
She sounds like the typical.. “do not get involved with” type on discord
wintry monolith
Catching up on this convo and dear god. I feel sick.
hidden inlet
How do I say this... I've seen this happen from the perspective of a child before. She didn't think reconsider things until she was pushed back on this.
wintry monolith
Block this fucker. Please.
fallow whale
I feel bad since I told her a lot about me lol
hidden inlet
(I wasn't the child. Thank God.)
fallow whale
Personal shit
supple brook
Is there a single mod on that server you feel you can trust?
wintry monolith
Report them for flirting with minors. @fallow whale
crisp compass
Yeah, I couldn’t read past the messages.. it’s like the whole “kitten/mod” meme
fallow whale
I think I would be ostracized by the server
pure oxide
As a former 14 year old girl who was flirted with by a 21 year old man.. who didn't see anything wrong with it, and wore it like a badge of honor that someone so much older wanted to pay me attention... who ultimately trusted this complete internet stranger to pick her up in the middle of the night and go back to his house... who was raped by said 21 year old man
wintry monolith
Do you want to be in a community where this is seen as ok?
fallow whale
The kids don't understand the wrong doing and the mods are oblivious
pure oxide
All of this is so triggering, and it -breaks my heart- for these kids
fallow whale
I said I want to leave the server but by doing so I'm leaving them to the wolves
wintry monolith
Report the hell out of the server.
hidden inlet
They'd just create a new one, is the thing.
pure oxide
Yes. Report the server. If the mods won't listen and the people in charge won't take action, report to Discord
crisp compass
I mean, they’re just kids.. and it seems like it’s 100% grooming.. ugh— this is disgusting.
wintry monolith
Go dead air, report the server.
supple brook
Yeah I'm sure this is against discord tos
wintry monolith
It is
pure oxide
It doesn't matter if they create a new one. Report the server anyway
Scare the mods, scare the admins
fallow whale
Boy the server in question is drama central
pure oxide
Make them realize that something absolutely despicable is going on behind their backs, make them be more vigilant and take it seriously
hidden inlet
Scare the mods, scare the admins
Actually, good shout. That would scare the shit out of them.
fallow whale
I'm stressed lol
pure oxide
Block people. Report the server.
wintry monolith
Screenshot the hell out of things (before they can start deleting shit) and report the server
hidden inlet
I'm stressed lol
It's okay. You're aware of things now. That give you control.
crisp compass
Yeah, they need to be held accountable.
pure oxide
Tell these kids that what is happening to them is not normal, that attention from people so much older than them is not something they want, and that if they need a safe space or someone to talk to, be there for them and point them in the right direction.
hidden inlet
My suggestion is to take screenshots, just in case.
fallow whale
FYI I don't do any sort of like "pats you" "hugs" shit with ANYONE on the server, much less with children
Can I share something with names attached ?
wintry monolith
I left a server over a 17 year old talking about wanting to do cam work once they were legal and nobody said anything about it not being ok to talk to a minor about this. And giving them ideas for how to go about it. I was sickened.
fallow whale
It doesn't have discord ID
pure oxide
I give people hugs because hugs are hugs and I'm a mama bear, and I don't care how old people are, but like... I'm not talking cuddle piles with 17 year olds. ew.
wintry monolith
I think I reported the server? I was too shaken and can't remember
hidden inlet
I hope I don't sound larpy, because I think it's something to be taken seriously, but I think there's a plan of action here.
fallow whale
Can I share something with names attached ?
?
wintry monolith
CYA. Screenshot/document, organize, report.
hidden inlet
Screenshot everything
Report the server
Block her
Reach out to the kids and leave an open invitation for them to talk safely
wintry monolith
Make sure to grab screenshots of the full userid tags
fallow whale
Alva is 20, sleepy is 17 and resh is 15
This is about the time I really flipped out
And felt sick
hidden inlet
Just to reiterate, none of this is your fault.
Grooming happens to the adults surrounding the children too.
fallow whale
I do think I should've said something sooner
hidden inlet
But you have the opportunity to do what's right now.
pure oxide
I do think I should've said something sooner
don't play that game with yourself.
hidden inlet
If you should have said something sooner, that's not because you're naive or anything, it's because she's manipulative.
You're not at fault for that.
hidden inlet
Bitch, does accepting a ship between a child and an adult seem like a far fetch from grooming to you?
Not you. Her.
I-
Aaah
God, I wish I could have a word with her.
wintry monolith
"Yeah, I am. Interacting with children like this is creepy and you need to stop it. You are the adult in this situation, and need to behave as such."
fallow whale
I did tell her about my experience when I was 17 too lol
hidden inlet
Obviously she's gonna invalidate that as well.
crisp compass
Well, that’s distasteful.. “friends” using that as an excuse to cuddle with minors..
hidden inlet
"If it's grooming, I suppose you don't mind me checking the screenshots with some friends?" Or is that reckless?
crisp compass
I mean how old did you say these kids were 15?? The only friendship I have with a 15 year old is my sister.
fallow whale
I mean my experience was I was 17, person was 18 but it was in person and messed me up for years
crisp compass
Lol.. I mean.. I would not go out of my way to befriend a minor.
supple brook
This is a very hard task cause they're kids but if you're worried about them opening a new discord together and things escalating maybe it might be worth it to try to have a calm conversation with tjem about grooming?
hidden inlet
I wouldn't mind befriending them, but like... boundaries again. ._.
supple brook
So at least they're informed and can protect themselves a little bit..
crisp compass
Lol.. I mean.. I would not go out of my way to befriend a minor.
I had a situation where I was 16 and the person was 27.. so yeah different mentality, age gap is huge you’re both at different areas in life.. what would a 21 year old want with a 15 year old
fallow whale
I wouldn't mind befriending them, but like... boundaries again. ._.
I Only really talk to them to offer advice/talk them down if they're in a bad way so to speak
wintry monolith
My partner's youngest sibling is like. 14? I'm very careful about interactions with them. Memes and such? Sure. Resource links for the baby trans person? Yes. "uwu cuddles with you"?? Absolutely fucking not. Never.
hidden inlet
Long term plan here is to reach out, tell them what's happening to them and offer them a safe, open invitation to speak.
That way, even if they do build up a new server, you still have that connection and you've made them at least a little wary of what's happening.
Other than that, reporting the server and scaring the everloving shit out of the mod and admin team, I don't know how much more there is you can do.
crisp compass
That girl knows what she’s doing..
pure oxide
And she's a girl
crisp compass
She’s not naive.. and she’s not playing dumb,, she’s fully aware of what she is doing.
pure oxide
So people will be less likely to jump on the "grooming" bandwagon
Because women get a pass for abuses and sexual assaults that men don't a lot of the time, because society doesn't think women are capable of those things, and it's like... yes. yes they are.
wintry monolith
Caution the kiddos, send screenshots of the definition of grooming, and let them know to be careful and that this is not ok behavior for an adult to be doing with minors.
fallow whale
She Said, "Oh come on. Insinuating I'm grooming them fricking is" (Is going too far)
hidden inlet
You don't need to convince them instantly; that's not going to happen. All you can do right now is make them aware of the possibility.
wintry monolith
^^^^
hidden inlet
She Said, "Oh come on. Insinuating I'm grooming them fricking is" (Is going too ...
I mean, you're not insinuating. It just is. :/ I the thing.
fallow whale
I have brought up the dangers before I think
hidden inlet
*is
wintry monolith
Plant that seed of "hey maybe X is right about this being weird" is really important
hidden inlet
Hold up, I'm going to DM you something.
pure oxide
I mean, also remember that none of us have full context, only your part of the story
pure oxide
And I want to caution everyone here about that as well. yes, there's good advice, but ultimately not a lot we can actually do, and we only have part of the story or the context. I really don't want to see this chat get out of control or anything, so just... as a general reminder to remember to take a breath too
fallow whale
I mean, also remember that none of us have full context, only your part of the s...
I know, I'm trying to provide evidence and context but it's tricky
pure oxide
I get that. Ultimately it's sort of in your hands. My advice is, screenshot the things you think are damning or good evidence, tell this person what you think, talk to the kids and just say "look, maybe I don't know the whole story, but I'm worried about your relationship with XXX and it feels like they might be using/grooming you, so please just be careful" and then report the server to Discord
you can't do anything more, and neither can we here.
fallow whale
I might just leave and report, I don't think my words would have any merit
crisp compass
I mean there’s only so much you can do online, since it’s still their choice whether they want to continue communicating with X, as shlee said we also only know what you have told us, so yes it is best to just report the server and leave it up to discord.
fallow whale
Also I'm dumb and don't know how I report a server
crisp compass
So much typos because I can’t multitask 🙃
All I can say is that you’ve done your part, now let discord do theres.
fallow whale
Am I a groomer if I said I wasn't cute in the general chat? I'm worried about if I did anything wrong now
hidden inlet
You're not a groomer.
hidden inlet
Grooming is a very precise process.
fallow whale
Sorry, I'm tired and self critical
hidden inlet
Something that's really hard, if not nigh-impossible, to do accidentally.
You're not at fault.
fallow whale
I left
I don't even know if discord would do anything
Like the wrongdoing itself is between the lines in a way I think
Like the wrongdoing itself is between the lines in a way I think
I'm quite confident the dms would be more suspect
hidden inlet
Even so, it's worth a try.
hidden inlet
If she does, she'll be the one that looks worse.
hidden inlet
Would it be unsafe? Or is it a delicate situation?
fallow whale
I Could get in a lot of trouble lol
wintry monolith
offers 🫂 if wanted
Shit's rough.
fallow whale
I live away from home but there would be hell to pay lol
hidden inlet
Okay. I was going to suggest you beat her to it, but that might not be the good idea then.
This is a really scary situation and you're handling it the best you can. I hope you know that.
blissful scroll
Hmm my therapist took my husbands side in the binder debate, that I just need to...
Late, but I don't trust your therapist or husband on this
hidden inlet
We're here for you.
fallow whale
I mean my family already kinda don't like me, but if they knew the full pic I'd be in the shitter
Typical trans/homophobic shit
Also some are racist lol
hidden inlet
Lovely.
hidden inlet
My suggestion would be to reach out gently to the kids and keep a low profile from her then.
Regardless, you reporting the Discord is already a massive step in the right direction.
You're doing the right thing.
fallow whale
Damn, I really had to send my face didn't I
hidden inlet
Again, you trusted her, because she was your friend. Anyone would.
fallow whale
Thank god my dead name is my main online presence
hidden inlet
It's not your fault you're manipulated.
Lemme rephrase that.
It's not your fault she manipulated you.
supple brook
I really hope she won't sink that far as to out you to your family
fallow whale
I guess she could reverse image maybe
fallow whale
I really hope she won't sink that far as to out you to your family
I did stir the hornets nest
Groomers hate being called groomers
supple brook
Still, that would be a literal hate crime. I hope she's not that far gone 😐
pure oxide
Don't make mountains out of molehill.
One thing at a time.
Don't start assuming she's going to do anything before she actually does. It's not good for you mentally
hidden inlet
I didn't know how to phrase it, but that. We don't even know if that's what she's going to do.
fallow whale
I kinda have to cover my tracks to be fair
rose ice
I was terrified my former best friend would out me as poly to my husband before I told him, it never happened, lots of it is just internal fear taking over
blissful scroll
Damn, I really had to send my face didn't I
Can you delete all your selfies from that server and the DMs?
pure oxide
Breathe. And take it one day at a time. Don't escalate it and just let it go. You left the server, now just stop with contact. You don't have to block her if you're worried that would set her off
hidden inlet
Do whatever makes you feel safe, but try not to let potential bad future scenarios scare you.
That's called catastrophizing in therapy. You're okay now. You did the right thing now.
fallow whale
Can you delete all your selfies from that server and the DMs?
No selfies in the server but I can't find when I sent her pictures
fallow whale
I haven't been able to find it on my phone
rose ice
If you cant find it it's likely she cant either
wintry monolith
Try something like uh. As an example.
from:RavenFlight#1272 has:image
Oop, beat me to it lol
hidden inlet
That should pop up all images sent between you two and you can pick out your selfies and delete them.
wintry monolith
There's different options, too
fallow whale
Oh jeez I sent pics of myself in my nice clothes / makeup
I totally forgot
At least this isn't too recognizable
Besides my hair I guess
hidden inlet
Unrelated, but love the hat.
fallow whale
Thanks, my cool gf made it
I was really an idiot tbh
I think I cleared all the super identifying shit but she could have saved stuff
Can't believe I shared my music with her lol
hidden inlet
I mean, if I trusted someone, I'd send stuff like that too.
fallow whale
I'd survive if my family found out, I'd just get some bad texts
hidden inlet
Had a LDR with a Russian and we had to keep each other... entertained somehow, to put it in PC-13 terms.
fallow whale
I don't think they'd bother to actually come after me
fallow whale
Had a LDR with a Russian and we had to keep each other... entertained somehow, t...
I didn't send anything of that nature thank god
hidden inlet
Then you've done all you can.
fallow whale
I blocked her on discord
Still have her on an outside messenger
I dunno if I should hear her out anymore
hidden inlet
I mean, no. You shouldn't.
fallow whale
I have trouble cutting lose I guess
hidden inlet
Hearing people out is for people who are genuine, not manipulators.
fallow whale
Just like my family lol
The cutting lose I mean
It's still hard, I've lost a lot of sleep talking to her
hidden inlet
I get that. Had that with a mental abuser as well. It sucks, but this marks the time you get control back over the time you otherwise would have wasted on her.
fallow whale
I blocked 😖
hidden inlet
That's something to take pride in. 🙂 Not going to tell you how to feel, of course.
hidden inlet
I blocked 😖
You're doing great.
fallow whale
I'd probably be insane or worse without my gf
Only been dating for like 9 months but have been friends since we were like 15 and known each other since 12
hidden inlet
She sounds amazing.
fallow whale
I really don't deserve lol
shrewd wasp
that's how all the best relationships are tbh, a solid friendship at the base of it
why don't you deserve it ?
fallow whale
I'm just not as nice or as patient
hidden inlet
From the perspective of someone who used to be with someone who said that, I'll tell you this and I'm sure she'll agree:
shrewd wasp
besides you can have other qualities she can enjoy
hidden inlet
She's the one who decides who deserves her affection and she chooses you.
shrewd wasp
also you don't need to deserve being loved
hidden inlet
Just because you have character flaws, doesn't mean that you're blocked from deserving love.
vague nymph
People are flawed, but that doesn’t make them terrible people.
shrewd wasp
you don't need to be the best or the kindest to be worth received kindness and love yourself
fallow whale
Her biggest flaw is trying to take care of all my problems for me lol
wintry monolith
Relationships are a buddy system. 💛
fallow whale
And I don't not help lol, especially with anything gender related lol
shrewd wasp
that's why I love the song Lean On Me
hidden inlet
Relationships are a buddy system. 💛
That is the most wholesome take I've heard of relationships yet.
shrewd wasp
well there you go, you help her, she helps you, sounds like a good deal to me heh
fallow whale
I'm not good with feelings either lol
shrewd wasp
eh a lot of people have trouble with them xD
hidden inlet
I'm not good with feelings either lol
If that ain't a mood, jesus.
shrewd wasp
feelings are a mess
just take it easy and be patient with yourself
you can't control how you feel, just how you deal with it
and it's ok to need a minute to name what's going on
or even not be able to
fallow whale
My way of being grumpy is to go sit alone somewhere so I don't bother her with my bad mood lol
hidden inlet
Been chatting with someone I like for two days and I'm already shooting everywhere feelings wise. I think it's something everyone's struggling with in their own way.
shrewd wasp
that's why you need a support system, to get the support you need as well as outside perspectives
my feelings tend to play hide and seek with me 🤣
like I'm fine and all of a sudden it's like "SURPRISE BITCH WE'RE FEELING ALL THE THINGS"
hidden inlet
like I'm fine and all of a sudden it's like "SURPRISE BITCH WE'RE FEELING ALL TH...
So more "Marco, Polo". 😛
wintry monolith
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fallow whale
I can be bad at expressing love too lol
shrewd wasp
maybe you just don't know what your love language is
not everyone verbally expresses love
fallow whale
She has no problem with it
shrewd wasp
well then you don't need to worry about it
fallow whale
I mean she can express it fine
hidden inlet
I think you just love her so much you feel like you can't express it enough. 😛
shrewd wasp
some people say it with words, others say it with actions, some with little thoughtful gifts
fallow whale
But sometimes she thinks I don't hug her enough
shrewd wasp
some by asking you if you're not cold and have drunk enough water that day hehe
fallow whale
I'm not sure why, I've just never been huggy
shrewd wasp
there's a million and a half way of telling someone you love them without ever actually saying the words
hidden inlet
Does it make you feel uncomfortable or is it just not something you're used to?
fallow whale
I've always hated being hugged by family
shrewd wasp
physical contact can be difficult
hidden inlet
Valid. Tends to feel like an obligation, rather than a show of affection.
fallow whale
I think I find it suffocating sometimes
shrewd wasp
you can try with little things, like holding her hand
wintry monolith
Was your family the "you are being hugged with no choice about it" kind? Nmom was like that, wouldn't let go when I cued I was done with the hug.
fallow whale
I do hug her sometimes lol
shrewd wasp
I don't like that Raven
fallow whale
Was your family the "you are being hugged with no choice about it" kind? Nmom wa...
Yeah, especially non close family
shrewd wasp
like it's one thing to make your kid say hi, but forcing prolonged contact is just wrong
hidden inlet
Yeah, that would put me off hugging.
fallow whale
I found my step mother repulsive when I was a kid lol
hidden inlet
Luckily my mom was very respectful of my physical boundaries, so now hugging is my main way of showing affection. 😛 But I can get how getting no choice in a hug removes the appeal later on.
fallow whale
I can hug my gf, I just never really initiate myself
shrewd wasp
it's a huge issue people have with cats in particular, they'll hug and snuggle with them when the cat doesn't want to, and then act shocked and appalled when they end up with a claw in the eye
fallow whale
Hand holding stresses Me out because she likes to swing our hands and I worry about hitting someone
shrewd wasp
just do what you're comfy with, try little things and find your boundaries
rose ice
As a very huggy person myself I had to learn that hugs are not always needed let alone wanted
shrewd wasp
same Digi, I'm a very demonstrative person and naturally drift towards people
I often have to remind myself that not everyone enjoys contact hehe
fallow whale
I can sleep in the same bed now at least
wintry monolith
Oh I'm very much no contact with nmom. Trust kinda breaks when a parent tells their kid that they're not careful with their kid's food allergy bc the food allergy isn't deadly (just, yanno, agonizing pain like a few twisted bbq forks deep in the back for hours on end). @shrewd wasp
fallow whale
I used to have to sleep on the floor or something
shrewd wasp
Oh I'm very much no contact with nmom. Trust kinda breaks when a parent tells th...
well isn't that lovely...
I'm so sorry Raven ><
fallow whale
Yeah sorry to hear that
shrewd wasp
and it's just a matter of taking it at your own pace Mag
no one, and I do mean no one has the right to access your body if you don't want them to
hidden inlet
Oh I'm very much no contact with nmom. Trust kinda breaks when a parent tells th...
Yeah... that would be enough for me to remove contact too.
fallow whale
My mum keeps asking me what chocolate I like when I keep telling her it makes me sick lol
For some reason she doesn't believe that dairy messes me up
rose ice
I've luckily found someone who is super okay with physical touch and likes it as much as me, we're cuddle bugs
shrewd wasp
should tell her 60% of adults are lactose intolerant
fallow whale
She also made fun of my hair the other day
shrewd wasp
I've luckily found someone who is super okay with physical touch and likes it as...
that's awesome
my granny doesn't do it as much anymore, if at all, but I grew up with her obsessing about my weight
I was always just slightly too fat to be pretty enough
wintry monolith
On the hugs with SO thing, I totally get the not wanting to feel restricted feels. Which is where I communicate and say "I don't really wanna be touched rn, but can I hug you for a bit?"
shrewd wasp
unfortunately for her she's a strong woman who raised a strong woman so I learnt to tell her to fuck off and that I was fine as I was pretty early one xD
hidden inlet
My mom had a few growing pains with my autism and was forced into an overprotective role over me as a single mother. There were a few things that posed a threat to us, so she was locked in. When I became an adult, she started to really stuggle to let go because of how ingrained that protectiveness is.
wintry monolith
@fallow whale dairy allergy is mine as well! Not lactose intolerant, tried that special milk and still suffered. I'm pretty sure it's the milk proteins, whey and casein.
hidden inlet
That really caused some blow outs and worries, but we're okay now. Although it's still a bit contentious, we tend to go through it well.
shrewd wasp
it's always good when you can mend the relationship
fallow whale
Can't relate lol
hidden inlet
It helps that I understand perfectly where she comes from. If I was in her position, I don't know how much different I would have acted.