#My friendships are falling apart

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boreal cloakBOT
lament blade
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Friendships are an important part of life dude

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and its important to choose friends carefully

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if they obviously do not like you and you have no personal advantage by maintaining the friendship status

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break it off

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theres only harm im hanging out with the wrong or hanging out with people who obviously dont give a fuck

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lol

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and stop crying about it

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Confronting them is always a good idea if you’ve always been close from the beginning and know there’s enough space for you to go upto them and be like hey look I feel this way I feel not as included anymore and I really care for you guys and see you as being important to me and I don’t wanna be distant

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But literally not all friendships lasts don’t feel you’re the only one going through this because even the closest of friendships break apart especially nowadays where people are more invested in their own thing and don’t bother to put as much effort into a friendship as people used to at some point

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You know whether or not your close to someone or in a friend group you should train yourself to feel happy and included within yourself even if you’re in your own try spending time alone and doing your own thing taking up your own hobbies and make yourself stronger as an individually and have more independency because that’ll help you let go of relying on others emotionally and allow you not to be affected by things such as being sidelined or others not knowing too much about you

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You don’t need to let go of them you can still stay friends but don’t consider them being too close don’t over share with them and don’t think of them as all you have to the point where it’s taking a toll on you realise that you yourself can do things and accomplish things and as a good friend be there for them when needed don’t feel as though YOU are in need of them

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If they don’t wanna tell you things you don’t need to either if they don’t show interest in your things you shouldn’t show any interest in theirs either because at one point you’ll seem desperate to them and they’ll take advantage of that negatively and feel even more as if they can leave you out

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Ensure that you teach yourself that the world can be fake like literally that’s so normal at this point and things happen but you need to overlook them and move on and have all the trust in the world in yourselfffff if you cling onto this you won’t get anywhere think about it as if you’re letting some random people you one day decided to consider friends as hurting you like really are you really gonna let them happen you know they themselves don’t have a care in the world for how you feel and how they’re the ones hurting you bc if they did they would’ve been there for you and they would’ve have let it happen in the first place unless it was a complete accident which they would’ve realised as soon as they had done it

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Give yourself time off spend time with others when you feel genuinely left out just do your own things if your in a school environment you can go have a nice talk with a teacher or something

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Remind yourself that you will at some point meet better people and meet people who approach you themselves and prove themselves as being worthy of caring for you and having interest in your interests

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It’s difficult but it’s okayyyy trust me I know exactly how you feel

lament blade
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not gonna lie

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# lament blade this is really bad advice angel

I mean that’s what works for me I feel like cutting people off especially when I have to see them everyday doesn’t workout like I’d still treat them as being in my class and walk with them or small talk but I don’t emotionally attach myself to them and I’d go my own way and they’d go their own way in whatever circumstance

raven schooner
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honestly I've went through this too

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my friends always lived far from me so naturally they'd be closer, since they live closer too

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anyhow

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the latest friend group fell apart completely

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cut off one friend

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and yeah

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I consistently talk to one or two irl friends only now

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anyways yeah as inter said, choose your friends carefully

signal ivy
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Ive felt this, and i am not sure if i made the best decisions when i was in thsi position

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so ill hold off on giving you advice, but im hoping it gets better for you

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raven schooner
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mhm

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I never got too close to most of them

signal ivy
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i was very close with someone

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long story short, she chose her online twitter friends over her irl friends, never talked to us but told us she cared about us

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never met us

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didnt do anything to show we meant to her

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so i dropped her

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in not the best way

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i still regret the way i ended things, but not that i ended them

raven schooner
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💀

signal ivy
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yeah thats basically it

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imagine you have 2 irl friends

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all your other friendships ended

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youre in a fandom at twitter and you meet new people from various places around the world

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and for some god forsaken reason you decide to interact with them every day hourly, late into the night, constantly tweeting and talking in their gcs and discord groups

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and leave your irl friends on read for 2-3 weeks at a time

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felt like i was going crazy fr

raven schooner
signal ivy
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shouldve ghosted instead

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i had just been ghosted recently so i thought they deserved to know why im ghosting them

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not worth it

chrome night
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how to get peace of mind and carry myself more confidently around them and not feel so lonely and left out

honey I would recommend slowly removing yourself from that friend group, if they don't value you, they don't deserve you. find people who give back the same energy and efforts you give, and most importantly, find comfort and happiness in your own presence.

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there are many ways to get peace of mind, not just through people :) explore nature, notice the little things, practice gratitude and all that yk.

shut stone
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# shut stone You no joke have the highest eq in this server

Noo Ive just experienced alot of things honestly like Ive been in the same shoes as alot of these people and I know what that situation was like and either how I dealt with it or how I wish I could've dealt with it so like I know the rights and wrongs and whatever which helps alot in passing on advice honestly lol

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But thank you aw

robust forge
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I've also went through it but I rather not talk about it

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Please ask if you need anything any piece of advice thats completely fine

robust forge
boreal cloakBOT
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Gave +1 rep to angell71

wanton quail
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I'm gonna Invest my time revising instead of reading allat