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whole creek
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THANKS

mild compass
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Bro relax with the ...

whole creek
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trust me it isnt

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relationships are fun

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usually end in emotional damage but

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often contribute to you as a person

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ive changed a lot thanks to my ex

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whole creek
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and ill be grateful for that

whole creek
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exactly

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but thats in a perfect world

wintry rampart
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that's what i'm trying to do

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take shit slowly

mild compass
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Welpo be honest

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Have you ever

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Had a gf

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Apart from kindergarten

wintry rampart
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i've had crushes

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but i was able to part ways peacefully

mild compass
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How tf would you know they all end in emotional damage 😭😭

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You're just assuming bruh

wintry rampart
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true

mild compass
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Relax that ass

wintry rampart
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cause they've got other shit to do

mild compass
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Facts

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Lucid dreams L

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All girls are the same L

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Kanye W

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Yeah sorry bro @eager ore

whole creek
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where are you guys from

wintry rampart
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now that's possible. although i'd have to balance it

mild compass
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I am from Norway

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And Japan

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And Korea

wintry rampart
whole creek
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i am from india

mild compass
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North

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West

whole creek
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and i can speak japanese

mild compass
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My father name is Kim jong UN

whole creek
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as fluent as a 5th grader but still

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😔

mild compass
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I am Kim Jamal Ung

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@wintry rampart what do you look for in a relationship

wintry rampart
mild compass
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Good, ask your mother to find you a wife

wintry rampart
mild compass
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Nah they're the first resort

wintry rampart
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especially towards Chinese

mild compass
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Literally 0 effort needed

hollow oyster
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No way Im leaving Canada without someway to get nationality

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jkjkjk

mild compass
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Marry me for a free Danish and Norwegian @hollow oyster passport

hollow oyster
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in pakistani

mild compass
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I MUST ADD IT TO MY COLLECTION

hollow oyster
mild compass
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Yasss

hollow oyster
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@mild compass 2 husbands? 👉 👈

mild compass
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One in Denmark, one in Norway

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UwU

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PyP

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Welpo take my hard cold advice

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Don't date

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I have a strong feeling you want to date because you want to emotionally depend on a female for your happiness and shit

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Which is a crap move

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No bitches will do that 4 you

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Men gotta suck their feelings up

wintry rampart
mild compass
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It's hard cold facts

wintry rampart
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why would you force a relationship?

mild compass
wintry rampart
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and obviously, avoid being the nice guy

mild compass
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Nah just be yourself

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when I say, yourself. I mean don't try to act cool

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be yourself

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Make racist jokes or something if that's who you are

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be comfortable

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Don't be ashamed of your identity

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He will stay virgin until qiyamah

wintry rampart
mild compass
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No don't go to any extreme

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Just be yourself and be comfortable with who you are

wintry rampart
mild compass
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You always do

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Literally don't share any information that can be used against you and also don't cry into her shoulder

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10000% will be used against you

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And watch peaky blinders for extra testosterone

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And breaking bad

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Bro is going to become Jesse Ibn Pinkman and simp for Al Jane Margolis

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😞

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I recommend quiting video games

wintry rampart
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i'll consider that. maybe valorant too

mild compass
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TOP G ADVICE

wintry rampart
mild compass
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no play Tetris

wintry rampart
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nah... Pac-man

mild compass
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And honestly

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Just don't date bro

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At least until you're 29

mossy delta
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maths

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was

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😦

wintry rampart
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always was...

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especially with college maths being taught in your 11 and 12th grade

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investment towards someone else will most likely end up becoming a regret rather than something to be grateful for

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well hey, at least during the time i was able to talk to her, i was being myself, and not selling myself as a simp, prolly much like everyone else does. she literally got simped on my uni's freedom wall for valorant reasons by other teens

olive wadi
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not entirely true

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if ur interested in someone and thats mutual go for it

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see what happens

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just dont chase a relationship dont force it

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Neither you

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Nor naf

olive wadi
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thats when it becomes waste of time

north karma
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Are in uni

wintry rampart
olive wadi
wintry rampart
olive wadi
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so stfu reddit commentor

north karma
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Saying relationships are a waste of time plainly is jus shallow and vague

olive wadi
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yes bec they aint

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just dont force anything or chase anything let it come naturally

north karma
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Not disagreeing with u

olive wadi
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👍

wintry rampart
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patience will always be the key to a happy life

olive wadi
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yeah

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half of my relationships were rushed

wintry rampart
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whether it'd be getting that dream job, or getting a good wife

olive wadi
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so they didnt end up well

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mistake from both ends

wintry rampart
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i mean, all of us are not in a damn race to see who gets married first

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or who gets to graduate first

olive wadi
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Yeah lmao idc abt marriage atm

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much to enjoy and see

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plus havent found that person yet

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so who cares abt that

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busy grinding studies anyway

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Ye

wintry rampart
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overthinking will be a fucking sin that will drive people to the extremes

olive wadi
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i just had the most unlucky 2hrs of my life

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ty

mild compass
mild compass
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By fucking Carl Jung

wintry rampart
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it takes a lot of time to read a paragraph worth of advice

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and experience

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I don't set that much expectations.

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I just let time do its thing

mossy delta
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ive lost all my exam motivation after today

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i dont know what to do

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i feel down

daring moth
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Its the endgame mecri

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plush depot
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avengers endgame was the last marvel movie i liked

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wintry rampart
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avengers endgame my ass...

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the og iron man was great

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as well as the first 2 avengers films

hollow oyster
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Could you guys please move the Marvel discussion to #chat-lounge please 🙂

wintry rampart
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aight aight

mild compass
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Yes me please

daring moth
mild compass
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Ignore it

glossy pewter
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daring moth
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Hii

daring moth
daring moth
# hollow oyster Damn that sucks, are you involved or effected by it?

No..so happened is my teacher called and knew she called for complaining.....but the fact is i didnt do anything....so i thought it would be the endgame...and turns out she called mom to tell that i am being irregular because i was absent just ONE DAY prev week!! She literally said i am not being serious in studies just because i was absent one dayKEKW KEKW KEKW , like i was confused whether i should laugh or cryImFine ImFine

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But now everything alright...mom said nothing heartlove BrillianceBlob BrillianceBlob

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|| @hollow oyster also what happened to the role colour?blobpeek blobpeek ||

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daring moth
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But the school drama still a mystery..no one knows what happening blobpeek

glossy pewter
daring moth
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So it was alrytBrillianceBlob

glossy pewter
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I know how you feel man it is so tiring so usually I take a break and just chill

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mossy delta
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does anyone ever feel like they arent smart enough

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everyone feels like that

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stuck mango
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Humans are never perfect

mild compass
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reading

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"the courage to be disliked"

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olive wadi
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@mossy delta word of advice from someone whos gone thru the things u are going thru rn , always look at urself. If u dont think ur smart enough then u grind more and improve urself , if u think ur lazy u get off ur ass and go do ur thing , if u think u arent good enough at something u grind at it and become good. Always and always look at urself and ur own path , compare urself with ur previous self are u better today than yesterday? than 3 months ago? than a year ago? thats what u should focus on bec u live this life ultimately for urself and whatever u do impacts u the most , u are ur own master , other ppl are simply side characters , always focus on ur own improvement bec everyone has something that the other doesnt so theres no point in focusing on others.

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@olive wadi become life advisor/motivator xD

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now im trying to figure out how to do that for myself

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I DO THE SAME TBH BUT IN THE BEGINNING IT IS A BIT DISCOURAGING BUT WHEN YOU GET USED TO MAKING PROGRESS ONLY THEN IS IT HEALTHY TO COMPARE AND MOTIVATE YORUSELF

glossy pewter
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But tbh I have a RIVAL who is one of my best friends he is as smart as me if not smarter and even more athletic so we usually compete every single time and it always leads me to push myself to the freaking LIMIT to just rub the win on his face 😂 and he also does the same to me when he beats me

olive wadi
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So i was supposed to watch jeffrey dahmer documentary film......and coincidentally i got a suggestion in yt of this case explained...and i dont think i will be able to watch the film anymore..its so disturbing.....gosh maybe I shouldn’t have seen that...cant get over it......

hollow oyster
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chilly solar
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Whatever you do dont go to gore sites

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Its very messed up

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I once saw a brazilian football referee who was dismembered by the crowd for not allowing a goal

tidal sable
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bruh 💀

daring moth
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grim void
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And I can confirm u should never visit gore sites

turbid galleon
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I'm exhausted, but I've got a math exam tomorrow morning. This is the last math paper out of 4, and the hardest for me...

chilly solar
glossy pewter
tidal sable
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there was that ribcage 1

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💀💀💀

glossy pewter
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i saw tiktok comments talk about that being the “worst” polaroid pic 😭

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i watched like an episode of the show and they showed some polaroid pictures of it and apparently they were accurate to irl 😭😭😭😭

glossy pewter
tidal sable
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daring moth
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Now staph

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No more discussion on this

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Lemme forget

glossy pewter
daring moth
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I forgot no thank u @glossy pewter

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hollow oyster
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Also his Instagram profile

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Was amazing

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“Looking for hot sex” was his status 😂😂

mild compass
grim void
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same lmfao one day the raiders came and the teachers (who didnt know how to kick or make the class secure) just straight up leaves the meeting thinking that iff i am not in the meeting the meeting is not being raided
so were left with the raiders in the meeting and im ready to watch some gay porn or some gore
instead the guy opens his camera and we all like yoo this is our senior 🤣

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rain bridge
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note: not my vent, but i really want to give advice to this person or help this person so any advice would be very appreciated
ps: ping me if u have a response to this

Since start of last year of high school i been studying to the point of burning out, of course i negelected myself too in that time. The whole point of it was to prepare myself for very important exam- secondary school leaving examinations. The government made this exam even harder for the students writing it in 2023 to the point of possibility of not being able to pass it. The pre-exam of it was this month to prepare us for it and i wrote it ok but i wouldnt pass math if it was real. I am non-stop trying to prepare myself for the exam to get to my dream uni and job. But lately my week schedule been so overwhelming for me that i cant take it anymore. For most of my days i spend 10 hours in school- from 8:00 AM to 5:00 PM. I rarely have some free time and its frustrating! I know that most or some people in this server have harder than me but...im just a human and have my own limits. Also i been trying to get C1 English Cambridge and i get that its harder level but they expect me to have so much knowledge in little time limit (i will be writing it in december). My family told me to not worry about it however i would be feeling so disappointed with myself after paying so much money on it and writing it badly.
Another thing that is bothering me is that I wish my teacher from subject that i extend will give us some place to breathe cause she gives us SO much tests,exams and etc. that i cant keep up. Irritating thing is that the stuff from that subject is duplicating that i cant rewrite the previous things that i did bad!
Overall everything is overwhelming that get depressed easily and want to cry. So if anyone is willing to give me advice how to cope with pressure i will be so f thankful. Thank you for reading that ♡♡

olive wadi
# rain bridge **note: not my vent, but i really want to give advice to this person or help thi...

Hey so first of all , great freaking job , you have gone thru all this pressure and stress and yet u stand here trying to know how u can improve and be better , that in itself is a huge deal and heres the thing; many ppl go thru same stressful things as you or maybe even worse things but not everyone makes it. What makes you and those who didnt make it aka those who gave up was the fact that you want to stay in the test that is life and keep improving , u did and admiral-able job studying but u need to cure this burn out before it gets worse , and u can study countless hours u want for any exam but if ur mental game is so weak and ur just out of mental batteries then ur gonna screw that exam up anyway , whats the bloody point of this knowledge and studying if ur not healthy and thriving. I dunno what ur schedule looks like on a day to day basis but you should (if u dont already) go outside more , just for a walk , for a workout , with friends , at home find different hobbies that dont involve technology e.g drawing / cooking / yoga / etc and also everyday try to compliment urself and boost ur own confident and motivation bec at the end you are the one in control u should be the one motivating urself , keeping urself in check and ur just the key to ur own success which includes health above all things.

Overall i'd say go out more and socialize more , exercise more , just do something productive with ur time that doesnt involve studies and u will automatically feel better , remember that depression and anxiety and such things takes time to cure the same way they take time to happen , you cant be depressed in 1 day same way u cant be not-depressed within 1 day , they take so much time and effort and i know u got it in u to fix them all bec u took time out of ur day to write down these things and ask for advice , it shows u care and want to change for the better version of urself and i admire that bec i have gone thru and still do go thru the exact same thing. Never feel disappointed about urself , always keep ur head up and grind it out , eventually u'll get where u want to be if u just dont give up and keep going , bec thats how life is , every time u climb a mountain and reach the top of it , u cant stop climbing bec that the top of that mountain is just the bottom of another one. Take ur time and look after urself and try new things and say yes , ik exams suck and i hate them too and i think we could use a better education system but whats undeniable is that they teach u how to overcome problems in life bec u dont always know everything so u must find ways to get over them and i think thats the most important skill u'll learn. Good luck :)

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Damn i wrote a lot , hope it helps

drowsy pelican
# rain bridge **note: not my vent, but i really want to give advice to this person or help thi...

Aw hihi, like Naf said you're doing a great job. I am very proud of you, you're doing your best. But take time off, you need to take care of yourself <3 I know education is important and sometimes you have to make sacrifices to achieve your goals, but your goals aren't more important than you. If you're in a good position, mentally and physically, you can try again. There will be tomorrow, don't stress yourself out too much. There is so much more to life than appeasing educational standards. Real talk? It won't get easier after you have achieved the goals you have right now. University is hard. Having a job is stressful in its own way. As cliché as this sounds enjoying your journey is the best way to achieve your goals.

About the C1 exam, you're trying. And if it doesn't work out it's not your fault, you tried your best. It's easy to be hard on yourself, but try to treat yourself the way you would treat a friend :))

I don't have a lot of advice as I don't know what exactly are you studying but planning helps a lot with getting tasks done, try to plan what you need to study in a way that's the easiest for you and it will help you lots. Testing yourself after you read through something is helpful, active recall is an amazing method for memorising. You can also try doing mock tests, if they are available. Having a routine is amazing, even if it's not a strict one. And and and are you guys marked for the class tests in your final grade? If not, just do whatever on them. Plus you can discuss this with your classmates and you all can bring up how overwhelming it is to the teacher, that might help

Also it doesn't matter if others are going through something worse, your problems are totally valid. It's going to be okay. Just remember to take care of yourself and stay hydrated <33

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daring moth
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But its alright.. i will try to copePepe

glossy pewter
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So better not to sleep than to be woken up from deep sleep bigbrain

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tysm @drowsy pelican and @olive wadi i just sent ur advice to that person :)

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yeah i honestly hope so
it sucks knowing their situation but not knowing what to say asjhdkja

drowsy pelican
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Aw yeah, I get that. It's an awful feeling — knowing that someone is going through something and not being able to help :(( But just being there is great, it helps a lottt <3

rain bridge
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yeah for sure :)

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Hope life gets better for you kids

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@olive wadi @drowsy pelican @sweet moat msg passed on from the person:

Oh my god
Not gonna lie i was a little scared to see the ping hehe but these responses touched me and made me to reflect that i should be proud of myself. You guys are right i should take care not only for my education but my mental health. It will be hard to break my routine and need to study but i hope that using your advices i will get better. These answers mean so much to me that im gonna save them. Also i wish these people that took time to help me a wonderful life. i hope they will see my message for them (there were some emotes at the end of this that i can't copy paste so just imagine some here LMAO)

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wintry rampart
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how hard is it for people to be inspired by others' successes?

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cause all i feel is envy in the first few hours

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and sudden triggers of the past coming back to terrorize me

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i feel like nothing in this world

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after seeing friends get promoted as executives of university orgs, i feel that i should have took leadership training years ago rather than now

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so that i could elevate my sense and need of responsibility

sweet moat
# wintry rampart how hard is it for people to be inspired by others' successes?

for me i dont get motivated at all, i usually feel like "ah man i wish i could do that" basically i feel jealous of them. then part of me is like "you could if you actually worked hard" and that makes me feel motivated to do good, its about perspective even though you feel envy at first you still feel like you can do it if you put in the work

sweet moat
# wintry rampart after seeing friends get promoted as executives of university orgs, i feel that ...

dont compare yourself with others, you have good features and things that they may not have, comparing urself with others will only demotivate you. Instead think about it this way "i know i can do it if i work hard, and i will" and ur whole mindset will change. sure they may be doing something else but you have your own positives focus on that you'll automatically feel better. im pretty sure ur a great person in general

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i know, but after realizing that all i did outside of studying for the past 2 years could have been used for more productive stuff, like finding myself even more through org training + work that could have made me into a completely different person today.

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especially when dealing with my damn mother comparing me to everyone else

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leading about 5-6 subject projects and getting good grades for being a "leader" in my stay at college isn't enough in my opinion

sweet moat
# wintry rampart i know, but after realizing that all i did outside of studying for the past 2 ye...

i understand, but even if you did all that productive stuff you wouldnt have had the free time you used to have right? would that completely different person be happy then if you actually did that productive stuff? even if that person was, taking a break from it has still made you a different person today. as much as you realize you should have done all that you didnt, and you still are a different good person now

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even though you cant change the past, you can work now and change the future

sweet moat
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but at what cost?

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sweet moat
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ofc theres room for improvement but you can only improve if you feel like you've improved before

wintry rampart
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"led a lot of projects for subjects in college only to score good grades"

sweet moat
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resumes

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then only can you improve

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its like climbing a mountain, you have all the materials to do it but you still search for more

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the only way you can improve in life is if you feel good about urself, if you never give urself credit then how can you improve?

wintry rampart
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how will i be able to feel all the satisfaction of these "achievements"?

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got my photos featured by a game developer x times, 2 car manufacturers, plus being the highest scoring group in a final paper that i'm leading...

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all of these feel temporary

sweet moat
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i would have felt that if i took leadership training 2 years ago

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rather than this term in uni

sweet moat
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think about how happy younger you would have been about these achievements

wintry rampart
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as soon as i felt envious, i pinged my therapist and told her that i needed to find a way to get over this

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as quick as possible

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feeling the envy consume you is a short-term move, but dangerous in the long-term

sweet moat
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especially if you get compared a lot by your parents

sweet moat
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the best thing to do with that is to think about your achievements(esp when you have a lot) even if other people think they arent good enough its fine, its you who worked hard for all those achievements

sweet moat
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for me even if i get full marks in one exam or all A* in my exams i always celebrate by giving myself a small treat(like a little break, or hobbies) that actually motivates me

sweet moat
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cause I know that if I believe in my mother's expectations, I'd be put somewhere worse than what I'm feeling now

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prolly take a darker path. at one point, i wanted to sell my soul to the devil

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but i didn't cause it would mean trouble

sweet moat
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wintry rampart
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for a while

sweet moat
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keep doing that even for the smallest achievements

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you'll start to feel better about urself

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its you who has to start celebrating ur achievements

wintry rampart
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as much as i want to buy chips for simply scoring the highest grades in a paper, i can't. instead, i waste time on video games instead

sweet moat
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my mom discouraged me to do so

sweet moat
wintry rampart
sweet moat
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either ways, you can still give urself other rewards like video games or something else

sweet moat
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as i said, best way to feel good about urself even if others are discouraging you is to give urself rewards or appreciation that you've done something extraordinary

wintry rampart
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i have to thank you for that.

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although it isn't my first time battling envy

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i've began battling it since november last year

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and pretty much, it motivated me to apply for leadership training this year

sweet moat
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wintry rampart
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although what i want for now is to stop obsessing over the past

sweet moat
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think about what you have now and how far uve come because of certain choices

wintry rampart
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even if the present is mundane?

sweet moat
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think about how good of a person uve become

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instead of thinking about what type of person you could have become

wintry rampart
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extracurricular activities, and achievements that will be very beneficial in the corporate world, like leadership training, leadership experience and project involvement

sweet moat
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then ur future self would be proud of you now for doing that

wintry rampart
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but is it too late to begin now?

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cause i know that i should have started younger

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maybe as soon as i started my very first year at uni

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if i didn't shift out of my damn IT course, i would have been in deeper regret

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at least this shift gave me 3 more years to make this college life worth the weight

sweet moat
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I'm failing in class and my friends are getting ahead of me, I'm also falling behind, my exams are in the next two weeks and I need to ace it for my predicted grade and my retake for biology AS is next week I can't do this anymore

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gw pngn bnh tmn2

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# kindred ridge I'm failing in class and my friends are getting ahead of me, I'm also falling be...

im not too good with consoling others, but i too im failing my practice and i too have exams in the next two weeks,i have heaps of uncovered content and im falling behind everyone around me keeps getting better an i feel like i keep stagnating with my improvements i cant seem to get the motivation to read and i feel really lazy,if it makes you feel better you are not alone we are all in this together dont be afraid to air your thoughts dont be afraid to fail it took many great thinkers many several failed attempts to get to where they are get back up and keep fighting and you are no less of an equal to them, you can do it!!!

drowsy pelican
# kindred ridge I'm failing in class and my friends are getting ahead of me, I'm also falling be...

Aw that sounds very difficult :( Do you have any idea why you're falling behind? You might not be able to give enough time to studying or you might be having trouble understanding stuff. It might be something else entirely. Figuring out what exactly the problem is helps solving it! Moreover, don't worry too much. If it all feels very overwhelming, take a break. Do something fun without thinking about academics. And once you're feeling better, try talking to your teachers about how you're feeling, they can help you with the predicted grades. And unless your university admission depends entirely on them, predicted grades don't matter much. Here for youu <3

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I wish I had the motivation and the ability to discipline myself and study for the upcoming in-class tests and exams in a few days. I wish I was able to respond to challenges instead of freezing up and not doing anything about it.

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# vapid tide I wish I had the motivation and the ability to discipline myself and study for t...

The first thing i would suggest anyone to do in this situation is to calm down.

Relax yourself, don't know how? Take a walk, breathe air.
Just get out of your room and go outside. It will improve your mental health.

Usually sitting at home all day stresses us out, because humans weren't meant to be boxed into concrete walls all day staring at a screen or a book.

You can meditate or something but that's up to you. First relax yourself

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Once you're relaxed

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Focus on what's most important that needs to be done right away

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Make a list of all of the things that have top priority

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Then figure out how much time you have left to do them (your deadline)

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Your start time should be obvious (now)

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Now plan all the way (realistically) how much you can cover and practice

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don't be all macho and shit like "Oh ima do fucking 8 chapters in this 7 hour period 😎 💪 " that's legit stupid

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you will only end up wasting those 7 hours stuck on 1 chapter

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or your mind will get overwhelmed and distract itself

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So plan realistically

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You know yourself better so it's up to you how much you can cover in 4 or 5 hours a day / week etc.

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Finally

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the backbone of this all: Focus

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please just throwaway your phone for a couple days

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your computer won't be as much of a distraction as your phone will be

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if you need the internet for something just use your PC with blockers (to block distractions)

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if you don't have a PC and need the internet to look up something

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use your moms or dads phone

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use a nokia 3310 your grandma has but stay away from your own phone

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Hope it helps

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Goodluck

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🙏 pls don't just read this and go back to procrastinating

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bro didnt miss 💅🏻💅🏻💅🏻

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this needs to be pinned istg

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# vapid tide I wish I had the motivation and the ability to discipline myself and study for t...

I get how you feel, task initiation is hard. Harder for some. But trust me once you get past it, it gets easier. And once you start something, stay consistent. Or otherwise you'll have to go through the struggle of task initiation again :(( I am awful at starting tasks, especially academic ones. I used to start studying a week before exams. It was tough, and I really want to say procrastination is silly and I am so over it, I can plan and study, yada yada yada but that's not true. Even right now I struggle a lot with procrastination. Which is more of an emotion regulation problem, than a time management one. You don't want to feel awful doing a certain thing right now, however you will feel awful about not doing it right now ⚰️ and the more guilty and/or stressed you feel the harder it is to start tasks

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A few things that help me with starting tasks are:

  • Try to figure out why you can't start tasks. Why do you lack discipline? Once you know the problem you can work towards solving it :)
  • Focusing on breaking down only the next step, breaking all the tasks down makes me feel more overwhelmed. I just work on what task I am doing right then and try to forget the rest <3 Thinking about it all at once can be paralysing.
  • NOT focusing on deadlines. Yes, deadlines are important and help with getting tasks started because of the ✨ sense of urgency ✨ but focusing too much on them makes you feel anxious, overwhelmed, plus in a lot of cases guilty.
  • Making tasks fun. I get it, studying for school in almost all cases isn't fun, but the process of studying can be. Personally, I love listening to music so I make study time also the only time I listen to music (mostly). I am very excited to at least start studying then. And yes, I know music is very distracting and blah blah, but as long as it's helping you, why not? I usually change the music to instrumental music once I totally get into studying so I won't get distracted. Also making pretty notes helps me to actually like the process of studying, you can try to find things that you find fun :)
  • Starting with easy tasks, once you are done, you'll feel like you achieved something and that will help you with getting other tasks done. It makes your brain feel like "oh hey, it isn't that overwhelming"
  • Managing distractions. You really can't stop procrastinating if you are surrounded by distractions. Maybe go to a library to study, or anyplace where there aren't as much distractions as your room. Also, leave the phone (or at least social media apps) for at least a few days.
  • Not waiting for motivation. Motivation doesn't always come and you have to start working anyway. Otherwise you wouldn't be able to meet deadlines
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Getting over procrastination is hard. It's not permanent, but it's doable. You should try different things and see what works best for you, goood luck <3

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Fuck Cambridge

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And fuck A levels

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😡😡😡

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Cambridge is more like Scambridge

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I'm getting nightmare of being the lowest in class and getting shit report card grades at the same time I'm struggling with my subjects I used to be good at. Can nightmares be a reality?

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whaaaa?

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Also think rationally is what i would suggest you to do. If you're struggling with a subject, narrow down where exactly you're struggling. Usually it's not the subject itself but like 1 or 2 topics.
Then grind the weakness out, watch videos on the topic, look up notes from other people on THAT topic and then when you think you've understood some bit of it. Do past papers and practice.

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Cambridge isn't about how smart you are. It's about how well you can shove shit down your throat

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Remember to take a break for an hour if you're overwhelmed

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and go outside (very important)

mild compass
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got better grades than everyone in class

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So just think rationally and be organized

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with your approach

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alright

mossy delta
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What do yall think of segmented sleep

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im considering it cause long sleep is makign me depressed

mild compass
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Y'all are getting sleep?

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^

unreal shadow
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set an alarm

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and wake up

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it’s that simple

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a good sleep is necessary for being healthy

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dont avoid it

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# mossy delta im considering it cause long sleep is makign me depressed

ooo honestly try it if you feel like it will be better for you. just keep in mind that segmented sleep might be unhealthy for you, go back to sleeping normally if you feel like you're sleepier that usual or anything like that <3 and segmented sleep might not work for your schedule. try to think about how it can work before you try it! also hihi 👀 i am curious, why do you feel like sleeping for a long period at once is making you depressed?

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yk load shedding n sh*t

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i dont know

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i dont like exams but i miss the stress of igcses

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i dont know im feeling alot of confusing feelings

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# unreal shadow it’s that simple

Its not that simple not everyone has electrcity , understand my point of view , im using discord from the school library because at home i dont have that , nor do i have a phone i rely on my body clock

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its like i physically tired but im not mentally tied

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so when i sleep long its good for my body but not for my mind

mossy delta
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its not a privilege i have

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alarms can be set there too, im pretty sure

glossy pewter
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If you wanna do something you will always find a way

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the best alarm is an actual human being to wake u up

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ur in IGCSE no way u live alone

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u can just tell someone in ur house to wake u up at X time no matter what

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sprinkle water on u do anything they want to wake u up

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thats something even an alarm clock doesnt do for u

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also since when tf do u need electricity to wake up

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ive gone to villages with 0 elec and ppl there have a clock aswell

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yall dont get it

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i just aasked abotu segmeneted sleep simple nwo you are saying im making excuses

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what part of i dont have anything

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do you not undestand

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seems a bit rude for you to assume that

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How did this even turn on an alarm clock thing , i asked if segmeneted sleep is safe or good

mossy delta
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for a thread that meant for venting it seems to have very judgemental people

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u wanna try segmented sleep? what benefits u r aiming to get from it

mossy delta
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when i sleep for long period of time , it makes sluggish and sad i dont know it makes me feel sick

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If i give u my personal opinion from what ik of segmented sleep i will say its no good

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but u can try if long sleep isnt working

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and for u its even harder bcoz how do u expect to wake in segments if there is no one to wake u

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even if there is someone to wake u for the first week or more segmented sleep is going to make u even sluggisher than u r bcoz ur body is not used to sleeping in segments and u may bbe like fk it imma just sleep monophasic today

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in the modern world when everyone has mobiles ppl during there awake periods of there polyphasic sleep use mobiles/computers which is gonna make it impossible/very hard to fall asleep again ruining the whole point of segmented sleep

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but thats not possible for u since u mentioned u only use mobiles in the library

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so if u do try it make productive use of ur awake period

mossy delta
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ive been trying all week to sleep in one go but its hard

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i dont know if changing sleep patterns will effect me negatively

grim void
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and if ur bbody cannot adapt to the change

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its gonna effect u negatively in the further phases aswell

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but if u still wanna try

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go for biphasic sleep first before polyphasic

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Also question
how do u expect to be woken in between segments of ur sleep?

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havent seen any positives of it in the modern times

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mightve worked for our ancestors 1000s of years ago but nowadays i think its no good

mossy delta
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maybe i should push for monophasic for a bit longer?

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its still hard to adjust

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how long do u sleep for in ur monophase sleep

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9-11 hours now that i have no exams

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for u i will specifically not advise segmented sleep @mossy delta
the whole point of segmented sleep is to wake up when its quiet and peaceful and make use of that to be productive

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but since u have 0 electricity

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what the heck will u do when u wake up at 1am in the night

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u cant study u cant do anything

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yes thats what happens i just end up going back to sleep until the sun is up

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or if there are candles ill try and read but still useless

grim void
mossy delta
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ok cya

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but yeah to conclude

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no point of segmented sleep
and for ur conditions its of absolutely no use

mossy delta
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ill try monphasic for a little more and see if i adjust

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okies bye bye

mild compass
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Are you in like Pakistan or India lmao

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mild compass
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You really are dedicated @drowsy pelican not many can have it inside them to stand by for a lot of people

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but

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most days nothing :/

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let alone a lower bank

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yep, and uhh it costs money to buy a decent one
loke quite a bunch

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better to buy a 4star+ rating power bank

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All my power banks have stopped being useful after a few months and now I've given up on them

mild compass
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or a pc

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hes poor

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so its just the stuff at school that he uses

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just some nice management and it'll last you till it breaks

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why did everyone turn into an asshole yesterday lol

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mossy delta
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i thought the currency was abandoned

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since it was too inflated

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doesn't mean you're suddenly rich

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drowsy pelican
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I don't think I mean it intentionally or consciously but subconsciously with the things I do and the way I think I have no self-respect I think

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good luck and i hope it gets easier

drowsy pelican
# mild compass I don't think I mean it intentionally or consciously but subconsciously with the...

dang, that's very tough. loving yourself takes effort, the idea of self-love can be very unrealistic. we don't fully love things or people for who they are, but in spite of who they are not and in spite of who they are. self-respect is achievable though. some acts of love that help work towards self-respect are being kind to yourself even when you don't feel like you're doing well, pushing towards your goals, and acknowledging your value- being valuable is an inherent thing about everyone. that can be hard to remember when you don't feel like it, but feelings aren't facts <33

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ALSO i can't imagine how sucky it must be, i am sorry you have to go through that :( and i understand if my rambling about self-respect doesn't help a bit, i struggle with anxiety and most of the time reading advice about it doesn't help at all. talking helps, yes. but sometimes listening to advice and stuff is just very meh ⚰️ especially when i don't know how to work towards fixing it

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Also yeah that's quite true that feelings aren't facts

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Also no your rambling is kind of reassuring

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Because I also have tendencies to ramble about random stuff to people

drowsy pelican
mild compass
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Thats most of it

drowsy pelican
# mild compass I also struggle with anxiety but to a point that I think I'm just out of place a...

anxiety for me is just there lolol, even when i am not consciously worrying over silly things i am experiencing it like visual snow, heart palpitations, headaches, dizziness, blah blah. besides when it gets bad, it leads to me feeling angry. it makes my head hurt. and i uh snap at my parents 😔 i feel SO GUILTY later, but rip. i am working on that though! however there are days when things are almost normal and i don't think about anxiety at all :)) and i am hopeful it will get better with time haha

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This also seems to happen in the times where I go through burnout

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Which usually happens at the later end of the year

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So take it as around this time till end of the year and up till mid Jan

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I suffered it a lot last year lmao

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There was a good 3 weeks period around early December where I constantly felt like just ending one day and waiting for the next whilst feeling nothing in me except tiredness

drowsy pelican
mild compass
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Same

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i am sorry you have to experience that too, it is upsetting :((

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Also at least last year around these times when I lost it I had people to talk to, to keep myself in check and also a person who actually listened to me and idk but it might have helped that she was doing Psychology at Uni lmao

drowsy pelican
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i haven't talked with my best friend for 2 months because talking with him was overwhelming me

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i feel like an awful friend ⚰️

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Fast forward 1 year, part of those people are so busy that they don't come on discord (or they just ignore me idk they're still in my friends list but I've never seen them come on once) and the person who listened to me? Well there was this part where I lost my brain entirely around March and I unfriended pretty much everyone on discord except irl people and 1 guy who was not irl

Ever since then I did send back reqs to some of those people and some did accept but for that person who used to listen to me, yeah I didn't even try

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I think people already have a skewed perception of me and to try to reach out to them again after doing something like that will make it worse

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So for 95% of this year I've had the great displeasure of keeping everything to myself

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I'm also not that guy who likes to talk in servers and vent there and I'm much more of a DM person

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This is like the first time I've ever opened up about anything in a server

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Yeah but I don't think trying to bother her again would be worth her or my time

drowsy pelican
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also talking one on one feels a lot easier

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Something I've learned quite a bit this year in all sorts of ways is that things are never the same a 2nd time and that is true in ALL cases in any field for me at least

However I have experienced 1 amazing exception to this
I had a friend who I used to talk to in 2019 and then we both were going through some bad patch at that time (him more so) and I unintentionally pissed him off
Last year I stumbled across some discord archives and I remembered his username
I sent a friend request and the dude accepted in like minutes
It took about 3-5 days but once we settled we've talked almost every day for more than a year now lmao

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It also helps that we have pretty similar music taste

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mild compass
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And that he might even be more socially anxious than me

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Like he has had proper I am worthless thoughts and those are the moments where I have to tell him thats not true

drowsy pelican
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also did he know it was you when you sent the request?

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👀

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I never asked him either

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We never talked about how he unfriended me except once

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It turned out that he had unfriended me due to him being pissed off and I took it as I got blocked which was the reason why I never sent him a request in over 2 years so when I found his tag again I was like lets see if I'm blocked as an experiment and I was like wait what when the request went through

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HAHAHA i love that

mild compass
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The most I've ever talked with someone continhously is 2 hours

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that was with guess who?

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that person who would listen to me last year lmao

drowsy pelican
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the friend that you sent request to? 👀

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When i told her it was the longest I talked with someone she was surprised

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OH

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rip

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my guessing skills are awful

mild compass
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Lmao its fine

drowsy pelican
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My guessing skills are decent I'd say but I overestimate myself sometimes ngl

mild compass
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2 hours for me seems like a damn good convo

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even an hour

drowsy pelican
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or 30 mins

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NO NO IT IS

mild compass
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i just meant as the longest conversation

mild compass
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Guess anything you want about me now

mild compass
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2 hours is the longest I've had continuously

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ohhh

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mild compass
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ive also had a 4 hour convo with someone else but it wasnt continuous we were doing our thing in between every few mins

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that was a first time for me

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in fact this happened like some weeks ago

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lmao

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AWJAJD i once had a conversation for weeks over something with a friend

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mild compass
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weeks?

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bro

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yes, weeks

mild compass
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You guys got an entire movie planned out

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lmaoo we could have, i usually get tired mid conversation and have to leave so sometimes it takes a lot of time lolol

mild compass
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oh

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I MEAN i don't get tired always, but i might get tired if i have had a similar conversation with someone else

mild compass
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I usually dont have the same convo twice ngl

drowsy pelican
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ajuwejss how?

mild compass
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I don't know either

drowsy pelican
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a lot of times i get stuck in a same conversation that i have had

mild compass
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That doesn't happen to me

drowsy pelican
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anf i am tired of typing conversation, it has a complicated spelling

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i keep missing the r or n

mild compass
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I prefer to throw things in the rear mirror and drive past them if I really get stuck on something

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mild compass
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i used to get confused between conservation and conversation last year LMAO

drowsy pelican
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i disabled autocorrect lmao

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i hated it

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sometimes i do miss it ngl like having to edit a spelling or letter

drowsy pelican
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AND it is 3am so i feel my hate for long words is valid

mild compass
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but then again I like to stick to something

mild compass
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is your timezone GMT+5?

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are you in like

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south east asia

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I've been awake for 13 hours now lmao

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around

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most i've been awake is 22 hours

drowsy pelican
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i woke up at 11 and its 1 rn

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but i took a nap

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I wish I could do those

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I used to take naps before

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mild compass
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Over time school and all took it away from me so I decided to stop them

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nice

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i mean- it is questionably nice

mild compass
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If I had 10 nukes to send to any country in the world, all 10 would go to Pakistan

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I hate that I'm Pakistani lmao

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Actually I don't

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But I hate the country

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There's no hope

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I mean I never had any as a kid

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But for some reason I gained some hope when IK came into the frame and with all the circus that fucked everyone's brains in the last 10 months, I would say that there's no hope at all

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Thankfully I don't live there or I might as well have ended it

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drowsy pelican
# mild compass I mean I never had any as a kid

ouchie, lmao as a kid i was very very optimistic about pakistan. i thought i could just make hotels for every person who is homeless or lives in a bad condition, and then people can work on other stuff. young me was so clueless ⚰️

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oh wait wait, where do you live now? if you are okay telling

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Pakistan isn't for the average person

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Its for the person with deep pockets

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And in Pakistan there are a lot of ways to have deep pockets but the cause of those deep pockets isn't always clean

drowsy pelican
mild compass
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Its the same all over Asia tbh

mild compass
drowsy pelican
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oooo where?

mild compass
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Within 30 days I had confirmed all my reasons for why I hated this country by being there myself and stuff that happens lmao

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LMAOO

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okay yes valid

mild compass
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Want the address?

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Kek

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I must say tho

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When I was a kid

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I always wanted to visit Karachi

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But Honestly

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As time went by up till today

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I don't wanna go to Karachi anymore LMAO

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Dar lgta hai

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HAHA GREAT

drowsy pelican
mild compass
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no, lahore lmaoo

mild compass
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oh nice

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ive been to some cities in pak

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but not karachi

drowsy pelican
mild compass
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Lahore, Islamabad, Rawalpindi and Multan

drowsy pelican
mild compass
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because of that ghade ki bryani or something

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i mean

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those are all places we got relatives in and we also got some in Karachi but I havent been to karachi

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sadly

mild compass
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but a lot of my relatives thankfully moved out too

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well not a lot

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just the ones that I bothered spending time with

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so a lot for me LMAO

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i was expecting it to be some one off report that turned into a joke

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but to hear its real is sad

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didnt karachi have something like kutte ki biryani

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Lmao

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# mild compass are they burgers

no no i bet they don't even know what burgers mean, but ugh i just find it hard to cause family already knows so much about you from your parents and it makes me feel shy

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i don't know it is weird

drowsy pelican
mild compass
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AHH YOU MEANT BURGER AS IN THE SLANG RIGHT

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not the actual burgers?

mild compass
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YES LMAO

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LOL OKAY SORRY I AM TIRED

mild compass
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its fine

drowsy pelican
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yes, i blame being dumb on sleep

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doesnt pakistan have only sunday as a weekend

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or is it sat and sunday

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Hey, dont wanna ruin the fun but if you guys are having a casual convo, I recommend talking in > #chat-lounge instead

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oh woops, sorry!

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Its alright, no worries

mild compass
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i guess you now know what i meant with my thing about convos with people with only 1 thing in common @drowsy pelican 😂
sorry for that

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Why do I always mess up 😞

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because you haven’t messed up enough times yet

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or you have but just didn’t learn

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# oak stream Why do I always mess up 😞

I also used to think I always messed up but I did something that helped me a lot and that Is to think that I always get second chances at stuff that I mess up at and I have another chance to get better

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yeah that's one type of cardio

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oh you mean

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nvm

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It's not even fair my friends are all getting glow ups and some are even getting gf but in still a ugly f*%k and antisocial bro i cant even talk to people irl only online

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I thinks maybe cuz i had a goal to not chase women but chase dreams

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But sometimes I feel like I regret it

lament cloud
# cold quiver It's not even fair my friends are all getting glow ups and some are even getting...

You gotta understand, you are not an ugly fuck, that's the view you have of yourself, not the view others have of you. There are definitely people who find you attractive, or will find you attractive in the future.

The antisocial thing is something that you have to work on over time- try going out for a walk outside and slowly get used to the feeling of going outside in general. Then try talking to people, it may be scary and difficult the first time, but you'll be better off for it. You'll naturally build up your social skills from there and your self confidence too. After this, if you still feel a relationship is something you want, it'll be easier to pursue. Remember that confidence and self esteem is one of the most attractive traits a person can have. (I can't comment on any cultural restrictions you may encounter)

It's not a quick process, but take 1 step at a time and you'll make it.

plush depot
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also delete discord

mild compass
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the common trait that successful people have is that they do not waste time, or at least they make use of most of their time

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also to clear up any misconceptions, being successful doesn't mean owning 999 million dollars or having 59976765 followers on YouTube.
Being successful is having control over your mind, knowing yourself/who you are deep down, and being happy/content with what you have and what you're doing. Yet also striving to achieve more, learn more, do more.

mild compass
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to add to what ken said

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i dont believe any man is born ugly or is ugly generally

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men can change their looks

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drastically

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by just working out

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and taking care of themselves

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watch before and after gym pics or videos on youtube

lament cloud
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@cold quiver these guys are a little harsh but they're 100% right

wintry rampart
# cold quiver It's not even fair my friends are all getting glow ups and some are even getting...

comparing yourself with your friends is a huge source of mental damage that could shatter self-confidence and self-esteem, while letting envy fuel the most negative actions that the human mind can do. i once was like that, although after seeking help from therapists, while seeking life advice and inspiration from the people that i envied (well, a college friend for now) i felt that i was beginning to turn that comparison into the motivation to strive harder as a person.

instead of whining in discord, be inspired by your friends' glow-ups and maybe ask them on how you can have your own glow-up. if that doesn't work, well, then maybe identify what certain aspect of your life would want to set as a major focus for your glowup and actually find ways to improve on that "glowup target", as i'd like to call it. taking positive action is a far more better move than crying about it here

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well, i used to cry here a lot about "oh, my friends are better than me", or "oh, i'm an envious coward", until i realized with the help of ken, jamal, eminiemsomething, brave, pt and pretty much everyone else who was lurking here to actually develop a solution to turn that envy into inspiration, and with some self confidence, i was able to find a solution into reducing that mindset into ashes, which is to find my own path, starting with joining a student org's leadership training, not only as a chance to make friends, but to also carve a path towards being an optimistic and committed leader in the future.

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while also finding a set goal that i could build in small chunks as time passes.

rough holly
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lifes depressing, imagine spending half ur year 12 life tryna get an A predicted in EPQ and you end up with a fucking B

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When you try your best and you don't succeed 😎

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credits to people who know where that comes from

mild compass
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Holy fuckin shit what in the glorious self improvement growth mindset business oriented money making fuck?

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Bro changed 🥵🥵🥵🥵

mild compass
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Stop listening to music while you study

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Istg y'all focusing more on the deepness of the lyrics then the content you're supposed to b learning like bruh 💀💀💀💀

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Plug out them earphones and study with the natural sounds around you

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Too noisy? Go to a Library hoe

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Can't afford? Bro don't give me that nonsense bullshit excuse. You got money up front to pay the Cambridge examination board but none for taking a cab to a Library or a quiet place ?

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Tf

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Stop the 🧢

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Study harder bozos

stuck mango
rough holly
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we should ban jamal from venting

olive wadi
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@mild compass Be nicer if u wanna reply to someones vent otherwise ur gonna be restricted from here

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its supposed to be a safe place for anyone to vent out , not receive criticism

real junco
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the andrew tate of znotes

topaz ember
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Inshallah

gentle lagoon
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there is not use of telling a person that your weak and this and that just man up and ignore your emotions

wintry rampart
gentle lagoon
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nah bro

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i feel so weak asking for therapy like a lil bithc

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you may feel sad and weird but there is no need for another peoron to know your weakness

gentle lagoon
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idk how people can live knowing that there is person who knows your weakness like the person could seriosuly damamge you

lament cloud
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Ignoring emotions and problems is what gets people into trouble in the first place

lament cloud
drowsy pelican
# gentle lagoon you may feel sad and weird but there is no need for another peoron to know your ...

Emotions are difficult to understand. We don't all experience them the same way. We all have different ways to deal with them. That's okay. It's not lacking. However, keeping emotions bottled up can be unhealthy. That being said, opening up to someone takes strength and deciding to take up therapy is so incredible. Deciding not to give up, no matter how cruel your mind has been to you, is brave. Letting others know you are struggling on your own is brave. Trying is brave. Honestly I am super proud of everyone who takes therapy, it isn't easy admitting that you're going through stuff and asking for help

lament cloud
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the nicer and better written version of what i intended to say

safe kernel
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@slate stirrup 😩

stuck mango
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You can't easily trust ppl

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But once you do

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It helps a ton

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In making you feel better

drowsy pelican
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it can be hard to trust others, especially if you have trust issues or you have been taught stuff like "everyone is evil"

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but once you trust others it gets easier

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gentle lagoon
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trusting aint my thing its useless i have never trusted someone to let them know what i am sad happy about

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honstly there is nothing you need therapy for

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a family member died . sad but i dont think i need therapy cause look people die we know that and we should be happy that we livied with them rather then cry

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and go depresson expreso

chilly solar
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Bro do you not have autocorrect

real junco
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that doesn't mean no one needs it

cosmic ginkgo
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^^

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It's like saying nobody needs hospitals because you fell down and it healed at home

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Everybody is different

gentle lagoon
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my oppinon but

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"your a man" > therapy

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the phrase works better for me

cosmic ginkgo
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Therapy isn't just about talking

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There are so many forms of therapy

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Also exactly that works better for you, it's not the same for other people. And it's a personal opinion based on your life experiences not research on a group of people

real junco
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so every therapist is a white person

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and every person is a man

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plush depot
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and i dont even fkin pay

opal prism
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It’s not as simple as just waking up one morning and saying “ I am not depressed anymore I am better now “ if you suffer from depression is a serious mental health disorder it can’t simply “go away” or “cease to exist” just because your telling yourself you aren’t depressed anymore

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I am giving a example

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I didn’t say you said that

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Yes the reason people become depressed is because of the negative experience in there lives

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Yeah I agree

plush depot
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thats a diff matter 😂

opal prism
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People can become depressed because of there faulty thoughts

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A therapist

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Could help you

plush depot
opal prism
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Identify that problem

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By talking to them

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Some stuff are in our unconscious mind so are suppressed

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By talking and venting

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Yeah you need to let whatever is causing the problem

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No I meant let go

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Of the problem

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Like move on I guess

plush depot
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yup for depression we can't, thats why i deleted my msg

opal prism
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We can’t what?

plush depot
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i think ken is explaing

opal prism
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If this was true Ken that people are able to identify the problems themselves and get over depression

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Yes but they don’t want to

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Though

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That’s why people take medication

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For depression

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Yeah maybe

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We’re just talking about depression

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@plush depot what do you think ?

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massive W

real junco
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bruh it’s not that easy

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you guys don’t know how hard it is

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you guys think depression is what these 12 year olds are experiencing because their discord gf went offline but it’s much worse

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and psychiatrists exist for a reason

opal prism
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None of us think that’s what depression is

opal prism
real junco
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and what is depression

opal prism
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I don’t believe a psychiatrist can honestly diagnose someone with a mental health condition. They diagnose based on what you tell them and if you tick all the boxes in the checklist your suddenly have some sort of “mental health condition”

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Oh I wasn’t replying to his message

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lament cloud
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Maybe so, but spotting the problem is much harder than you think it is and a good therapist makes that job much easier for you

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Also not every problem can be solved by yourself

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For example if you're a teenager being abused by family members and that's what's causing you to be depressed

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Just like a doctor figures out where the problem lies by running physical tests, a therapist/psychiatrist figures out where the mental problem lies by talking and a bunch of other tests that they've learnt throughout their degree and the time they've practiced

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And I mean sure, just like if you're physically sick, you can google your symptoms, maybe speak to friends/family with similar experiences and figure out the cause of your problem and treat it by yourself, but the odds that the average layman is wrong is very high

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You can actually be depressed for no reason, depression is not just "my mood is sad rn", it's a significant lack of serotonin that can happen because of anything

cosmic ginkgo
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and it could also be a purely biological response to something

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or it could not

lament cloud
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Again this is fine and all, but again there are people who are extremely depressed (and suicidal) who can't really do this on their own, there are people that feel so shit that they can't get up and brush their teeth, and this is not because they're lazy

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This is my opinion, but I think your thoughts are coming from the place of a person who hasn't experienced something similar and therefore doesnt have empathy as to how much help people with debilitating mental health issues need

cosmic ginkgo
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i agree ^^ also some people can function in society when they are clinically depressed but that doesnt take away things like suicidal thoughts..

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one of my professors took his own life two months ago and he was working until the last day.. so please dont judge people for asking for help, even if you dont help them, dont harm them

lament cloud
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Exactly

lament cloud
slate sky
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imo, just like physical sick leaves are available, there should be mental sick leaves available too

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Cause like people who are depressed atleast need a day or so without stress where they can relax

slate sky
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It’s like a dark phase that effects your lifestyle in a very negative way

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Like u reach depression when u find nothing enjoyable

lament cloud
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^^^^^^

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Straight facts

grim void
# gentle lagoon i think the brain is the only organ that doesn't need a under paid , uneducated ...

Ur brain might not need a therapist until it can consciously or rationally think for itself
but if u get a call one-day that every single member of ur family died in a car crash or in some shooting ur brain suddenly loses all that logic/rationality and ur kind of pulled away from reality
at that point u need someone else whose mind is thinking rationally to help u to come back to life
Even though I think therapy is NOT the solution most of the times I will admit that it is essential in some scenarios and is rlly helpful for some ppl
u can't say every single person doesn't need therapy just because ur mentally capable enough to deal with ur own shit

grim void
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glossy pewter
real junco
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just leave this now

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if you can deal with it

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good

wintry rampart
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irresponsibility and laziness combined would lead into developments that nobody, not even yourself can predict, often harsh to not only yourself, but to everyone else. all this arrogance from being lazy was a consequence for being lazy, although i seek to cull it and turn it into humility by putting myself in the shoes of the people that i initially envied so that i can get to experience what it's like in their end while knowing the realities they face in their desired paths

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after tracing that source of envy/depression within me, i simply decided to begin formulating a solution after a lot of self-encouragement, starting with taking career-related risks, with little to no peer pressure (i'll admit, peer pressure is quite a main detrimental factor that can affect your decision making) influencing my decisions. even if i'm aware that my peers are still trying to get me to avoid taking too much risks, just cause "oh, welpo, your grades mean more than experience", or the endless amounts of comparisons i got with other kids, i didn't mind it and in the end, i was able to start a long-term journey of having the opportunity to experience what it's like to work for an (student) organisation, while bringing a new challenge, which is to balance organisational work with my academics and family.

i mean, why whine about starting your path yesterday when you can start it now, without the whining?

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the main reason on why most people will live with all these negative emotions deep in their heads are cause they're not only lazy when it comes to dealing with them, but are really scared to relive these emotions.

in reality, facing your negative emotions and moving on from them IS a risk that would lead to large reward

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get this shit pinned

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cause ken's speaking facts

amber salmon
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imagine having 8 exams, 4+ hours each, continuously without a damn break except for sunday

glossy pewter
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Nah that ain’t possible 😂

glossy pewter
glossy pewter