#feeling lost (looking for adult advice as an 18yr old)

6 messages · Page 1 of 1 (latest)

novel cargo
#

hi, 18y/o M. My issue isn't anything too major or anything like that, I just more so want to know how people who are in early adulthood / are adults deal with everything that's going on, because at the moment I feel quite lost in life, like how do you deal with things around you or that have happened to you?

           I know asking something like this is very broad and can have many answers, but if it's possible is there anyway to help or give some advice, because in my current situation of life, I know like I'm worthy enough to do things that I would like to do and strive towards and I always push myself towards certain goals, I've had many other opportunities in life that I've done and succeeded in, like another time I had to develop a plan do help deal with an addiction of some sort and I presented it infront of 200 people roughly, so I know I have potential to do things that I strive to do, but like even when I'm feeling like this feeling of being lost, I never really know how to deal with it  it has been soemthing that's been burdening me for a while
    I guess what I need is an indication that I am on the right path and that everything is going well, but how do you realise that what you are doing is right in the sense of your future (when I say indicator I mean something indirectly being like you are doing well for example, it's not that i want to hear it from anyone, I just want something to show me that I am doing the right thing you know?

final questions.

  • how do you deal with stress e.g moving?
  • what inspires you / what has inspired you in life?
  • does the feeling of being lost stay with you? by which I mean.. is it always a feeling that's burdening or does it come and go in waves?

I appricate anyone that has taken the time to read this, and even if it doesn't get read I appricate the opportunity to vent, I don't really do this much as I like to bottle my feelings away just so i don't burden people around me.

any advice is appricated <3

fallen field
#

feeling lost is normal! but unfortunately there is no real indication or guarantee you are in the right path in life. I like to think as long as you do your best in everything you try and just be nice to everyone that your doing well already. the future is not set in stone and making mistakes is bound to happen but learning from your mistakes, improving urself and just moving on after is the best thing you can do for yourself! Dont dwell too much on past mistakes because after all it is in the past and all you can do is learn and know better for the future.

Everyone deals with stress differently and moving is definitely a huge thing. I like to manage stress by taking breaks/time for myself so you dont drain yourself and just caring for myself like skincare or something.

hope this helped in anyways but i wish you all the best!

novel cargo
woeful glacier
# novel cargo hi, 18y/o M. My issue isn't anything too major or anything like that, I just mor...

hiya! fellow 18 turning 19 year old here! i feel you and have been in your position a lot, all my life ive always been stressed and my body has sorta been stuck in a fight or flight response, especially since my country is rlly fast paced with certain expectations whether it be with career, housing, hell even kids and marriage

to this day, i personally have no idea what im doing!! lmao, it sounds bad BUT, it’s not all that bad. im still uncertain of what i truly what out of my life, whether its to go for a career that gives me as much money as possible, or to travel the world, or to settle down quickly with my current partner. i dont even know if i wanna reside in my current country for the rest of my life lolz.

but i think the best piece of advice someone has given me as someone who stresses over her future too much, is to just take it a day at a time. it’s fine to be a lil worried, a lil stressed out, but don’t let it take up all of ur energy. live life.
enjoy what life has to offer.

personally how i deal with stress, is to maybe plan or buy smth that gives me motivation which is kinda random but hear me out!! just even buying a nice product like a new shampoo that ive always wanted to try makes me a lil excited and life worth living. doesnt have to be that, it could be planning outings or an event to look forward to!!

as for inspiration, i cant say theres much? i guess the people that come and go. ive met so many people from so many different types of backgrounds, with different dreams and aspirations, and it just reminds me that the world is so big filled with so many things we haven’t seen yet. maybe its a new cafe that opened up recently or a friend that could be someone that stays by your side no matter what. essentially, it could just be that we haven’t seen everything yet, and there’s so much that the world has to offer.

the feeling of being lost never truly goes away. it’s like a small weight of thought shoved away in our brain that lingers.

#

^ somewhere sometime we’ll always at some point ask ourselves, “what am i doing? am i on the right path? should i be doing this?”. it may not always be in that form. it could come in the form of guilt and regret, and how we linger in the choices we’ve made in the past. but always remember, what’s done is done. you always have a choice. to dwell on what you can’t change or to act on what you CAN change.

you don’t have to progress in life in strides or in big movements. as long as it’s a step forward, you’ve got this!

novel cargo
#

thank you for that, it really does help hearing about how other people are dealing with it, i really appricate you for taking the time out of your day to help me, you really didnt have to do that, but thank you, and i hope everything goes well for you too !!