#My own personal heather

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broken chasm
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I'm sorry to hear that you feel that way feelsyeojin I think it's natural to compare yourself with others but just remember that you have plenty of good in you too.

It really sucks when your crush doesn't feel the same way about you, but that doesn't say anything about you as a person! Sometimes feelings are just like that and there isn't much to do other than to accept them.

And yeah, that includes accepting the bad feelings too. I think it's natural to be jealous of others but try to remember why you're close friends to begin with! It's okay to be upset because of the situation, but I'm sure your friend wouldn't want to hurt you on purpose, so try not to be mad at her because of it, or maybe talk to her about it sometime!

Either way, I'm completely positive that you'll be someone's #1 soon, just give it a bit of time ❤️

elfin niche
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If she is really your friend and you really like her don't let anyone to ruining your friendship. It's not her fault if every boy are obsessed by her. I know it's hard to see your crush being close to your friend but this happen to a lot of people. Even if they started to have a relationship don't let that to affect you. Accept it and if you need take a time away for them. I hope the best for you aKazuhaFighting

burnt steppe
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Thank you guys sm <33 ill remember your advice

ruby dock
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i think she is also your friend for a reason, theres something that u like about them, and it could also be something that your crush like about them. and i guess they r your friend cause you also have something they like about you
find out what they like about u and find out what u and your crush like about them.
don't think of it like some competition, but like think of it as a way to improve yourself i guess and everyone, even yourself should have a desirable quality

broken escarp
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I hope this doesn't sound overly political, but don't forget that in some cultures girls are subconsciously taught that other girls are always competition for a limited number of boys. The inferiority you feel because of this close friend may not entirely come from your heart of hearts or rational brain. It's valid and okay to be scared of romance ruining friendship, and to be angry about situations you can't control. The important thing is you don't direct your anger at her (unless you find out she's actively sabotaging you, in which case you have every right to be upset).

Do you think it would help ease your feelings to talk to your friend? Not to dump on her, but to let her know you care so much about your friendship that you're worried about boys coming between you, and you don't like that you unconsciously compare yourself to her.

burnt steppe
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Tysm to all of you

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Now i am dating my crush

broken escarp
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Nice!! Congrats! How are you and your friend doing with your new boo?

burnt steppe