#serious-discussion

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timid bronze
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Fr

flat harbor
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i had a rough last yr bc of stress and lack of sleep

velvet dagger
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Lol as messed up as my sleep is now

flat harbor
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and if i culd id want to tell myself to at least stop worrying about losing sleep

velvet dagger
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It's still a blessing compared to the first 4 years of grad school

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Like not even the time amount but the quality of sleep

timid bronze
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edcept thay

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30 min nap turns into 8 hours

velvet dagger
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LMAO yeah

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I mean tbh the quality of sleep being bad was because of apnea

timid bronze
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bro but even showers dont wake me up anymore after i come from class

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nor does water or food

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Like im always tired

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after class

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i have to drink coffee to help me

velvet dagger
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Went for a sleep study and the doctor was like "With these oxygen levels how are you able to do math? Or even function?"

neat lintel
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@storm sage alright imma type in here cuz other goes way too fast

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so what u need is i assume u got the

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lsp-mode working

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which implements the lsp

velvet dagger
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And if it goes too long you'll even build a tolerance to that

timid bronze
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Blame school for not letting me get enough sleep

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thats why like

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a 2 days after a semester ends i just rot in bed fr for those couple days

neat lintel
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@storm sage have u got lsp-ui config?

storm sage
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I have this, I'm not sure if that's the same as what you're asking catthimc

fresh comet
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I admit I've slept in the bus/subway far more this year than I ever have before, due to poor sleep

timid bronze
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im too scsred to fall asleep in public

fresh comet
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I want to try to sleep better next year

timid bronze
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Chz the pics they take sometimes

velvet dagger
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If I'm not actively talking to someone boom

neat lintel
velvet dagger
timid bronze
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i was gonna send a funny one

storm sage
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huh so how do I add the ui then

velvet dagger
coarse bridge
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icl they were never planning to in the first place vrostnikov 🥀

storm sage
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I also have an lsp layer on spacemacs catthimc

timid bronze
storm sage
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maybe I need to toggle some of the settings

timid bronze
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Except ur not going to be 21 this year

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I still think ur 21

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even tho u arent

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U just give off 21

fresh comet
neat lintel
fresh comet
timid bronze
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And i act liek this

velvet dagger
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Oh no

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Here we go

storm sage
velvet dagger
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What is "tm" about to say

timid bronze
coarse bridge
timid bronze
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.

velvet dagger
timid bronze
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can u shut ur ass

coarse bridge
fresh comet
timid bronze
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.

velvet dagger
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I fucking KNEW IT

neat lintel
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why this chat got active outnowhere bro lmao

timid bronze
deep mango
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hi Gary

timid bronze
fresh comet
neat lintel
timid bronze
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His ego is so ugly big

timid bronze
neat lintel
deep mango
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discussion rn is washed

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full of nutters

neat lintel
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true

storm sage
velvet dagger
deep mango
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discussion 2 is goaty

neat lintel
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yes

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indeed

coarse bridge
coarse bridge
jovial ember
coarse bridge
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😭

neat lintel
flat harbor
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ghibli moment!!

flat harbor
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mofo cant handle posting 15 msgs in a row with zero engagement in discussion followed by one with 6 replies

deep mango
coarse bridge
velvet dagger
deep mango
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go back to your cave

jovial ember
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What does icl mean

velvet dagger
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"I can't lie"

flat harbor
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this is my cave now

deep mango
flat harbor
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and they aint lookin at u :rofl

jovial ember
deep mango
velvet dagger
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"Pmo me off" is crazy and I might start using it

jovial ember
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Do ppl be saying I can’t lie enough for it to get shortened

velvet dagger
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I think it's replacing "ngl" somewhat

coarse bridge
flat harbor
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ts shit dont make sense

jovial ember
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The west is falling

coarse bridge
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pmo me off was a thing in like december gng

flat harbor
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if u were in highschool ud get pushed into the locker

coarse bridge
velvet dagger
neat lintel
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can u try

velvet dagger
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Because you're not a capitalist

flat harbor
storm sage
flat harbor
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hes the greg from wimpy kid of this chat

coarse bridge
neat lintel
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we gonna add more

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on top

storm sage
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I still don't see any errors pop up

deep mango
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blos stuck in anime high school tropes while were out here rushing frats

neat lintel
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yeah

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u don't

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we gonna add

neat lintel
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alright

flat harbor
neat lintel
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did u like reloaded the configuration?

coarse bridge
storm sage
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yeah

neat lintel
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alright

coarse bridge
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yeah is crazy

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pack it up blo

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😭

flat harbor
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damn

deep mango
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i drank too much wine

timid bronze
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what r u all yapping about

deep mango
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I dont feel good

flat harbor
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the world hates me.. but i love the world

deep mango
timid bronze
coarse bridge
jovial ember
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I don’t yap

flat harbor
timid bronze
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drink a lot of water

jovial ember
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Ally do u think I yap?

deep mango
flat harbor
deep mango
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and

timid bronze
flat harbor
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im dictating

deep mango
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my tummy

jovial ember
deep mango
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hurts. a little.

timid bronze
coarse bridge
jovial ember
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I’m not as much of a yapper as Ryc at least

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Right

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Ryc is like yapmaster

deep mango
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thanks ally

timid bronze
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💧

neat lintel
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@storm sage (python :variables python-backend 'lsp python-lsp-server 'pyright) add this as another entry in that configuration

deep mango
coarse bridge
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ts wine bro it might as well be water 😭

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ryc scared of the real shi

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:Rofl:

jovial ember
deep mango
coarse bridge
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pmo successful - returning to base

neat lintel
neat lintel
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right

deep mango
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TEQUILA!!!! WOOO!!!! - ryc on an avg friday night

neat lintel
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exactly

flat harbor
velvet dagger
neat lintel
flat harbor
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actual frat kid but in his mid 20s

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sorry unc how abt u go n drink some prosecco :rofl

storm sage
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I got some warnings catthimc

coarse bridge
timid bronze
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f

deep mango
storm sage
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I'm still not getting a typecheck warning though

neat lintel
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but do the reload

neat lintel
storm sage
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yeah I did the reload

neat lintel
velvet dagger
neat lintel
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now

storm sage
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oh there's more steps

neat lintel
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thats needed

deep mango
storm sage
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it's already installed

flat harbor
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u aint classy mate

coarse bridge
flat harbor
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u aint deliberate

deep mango
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"wow, it really does taste like melon rind!" - man who is not good at pretending he knows wine

neat lintel
flat harbor
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the best way to pretend to know wine is to take a sip and frown

neat lintel
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its not needed

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and then reload

storm sage
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wait isn't that just what I originally had

flat harbor
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cause god "knowing about food" is a curse that makes u the most miserable bastard ever

deep mango
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is that... elm wood

neat lintel
flat harbor
neat lintel
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that python

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is outside that

storm sage
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OH wait wait

neat lintel
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parentheses

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bro

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lmao

storm sage
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yay it's working now!!!

neat lintel
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WOA

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LMFAO

storm sage
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you're awesome LOL

neat lintel
storm sage
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was it seriously that one parenthesis that was messing it up 😭

deep mango
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🥶

storm sage
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insane

deep mango
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who asked for this sideplot-

scenic mauve
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gary

neat lintel
storm sage
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wdym

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oh I think I have a formatter

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how do I make it do it on save

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rn I have it set to , =

scenic mauve
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hm i like the name gary

neat lintel
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thats to install one

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(setq-default dotspacemacs-configuration-layers '(
  (python :variables python-format-on-save t)))```
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this will make it do it

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on save

storm sage
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ohhh

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thank you! :D

neat lintel
neat lintel
storm sage
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now time to learn how to use python typing catthink

scenic mauve
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Damn python

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Usefull things but so annoying to get and setup

storm sage
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sick this is gonna come in so useful

neat lintel
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yes indeed

scenic mauve
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im always too lazy

neat lintel
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i like it

storm sage
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I used to program in haskell so I missed typing so much

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hm do you know if there's a shortcut to jump to the next error

neat lintel
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u can make one

storm sage
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ah

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okay too much work for now

neat lintel
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yeah

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just keep it simple

storm sage
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ty for the help! saved me some sanity

neat lintel
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SPC m s i
to open up REPL for on the go

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stuff

neat lintel
storm sage
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oh wow this lsp does a lot

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nice!

hardy iron
proven knoll
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because it’s risky

bronze stream
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Whats worst thing about indian education system

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You have to spend 6-7 hrs for 4-5 days a week , in a place where learning is 0 , then u need to study in home from youtube ,

timid bronze
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can agree i spend so much money on uni tuition only to be referring to youtube for my lessons most of the time

storm sage
hardy iron
winged pawn
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Some classes I feel like I learn from the professor in a way I could've never on my own

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And sometimes it's what u say

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Good professors teach well who would've thunk it kekhands

timid bronze
storm sage
hardy iron
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This developer team made so many neat python toolchains

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like uv, it's a package manager + project manager that replaces pip, pipx, and other tools

jovial ember
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@deep mango you’ll never believe it

hardy iron
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or ruff, It's an extremely fast linter

jovial ember
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I am about to enter the city (town?) of yakumo

winged pawn
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(I think)

hardy iron
# neat lintel Tf pipx

pipx makes running python applications and installing them in isolated environments easier

neat lintel
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Easier than pip?

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what does easier mean

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lmao

coarse bridge
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less difficult

neat lintel
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pip is pretty simple and i think pipx is at same

coarse bridge
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ah i didn't read the context

hardy iron
hardy iron
neat lintel
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PATH?

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is this windows we talking

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well pip also adds to PATH automatically

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Nah

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Path just env variable

neat lintel
misty spoke
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Very much si

quartz garnet
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There should be first the math introduced with logic than numerical i think not in kinder garden but to high schoolers rather putting numbs and trying to make out formulas and learn them

misty spoke
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Thing is

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It's abstract

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And you need some working foundations in symbolic stuff in my opinion

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I think they should integrate it, but I think most systems are looking at general knowledge and mathematical logic is really mostly for people interested in that area of study

surreal spade
raven plaza
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First order logic should be a part of gened

jovial ember
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True Arki red fox

bronze stream
# misty spoke IITs are cracked tho

i mean even for class 5th - 6th kids , if our school not there , only tutuion and schools for exams , then our time and money could be saved and in that time we could learn new skills , study , and play , and have fun , they ruin our childhood with tons of homeworks, alwys writtien and to be copied from internet or other notebook

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Just see , in summer vacation , if u r discipline u r cover tons of syllbus way faster than school days

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i think next gen ( kids of late gen z ( who r 14 in 2025) ,, there will be all online , much better

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At least we have Ai tools , to faster work , i do all my homework in my custom font ( same as my handwrittin) with a writting machine of 7,000rs .. soo much time save

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IM JUST FRUSTRATED

timid bronze
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@velvet dagger Hello.

velvet dagger
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Hey!

timid bronze
velvet dagger
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Learned my lesson from last time

jaunty ibex
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Hey

velvet dagger
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Yes

jaunty ibex
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Thank you

timid bronze
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before the dog

velvet dagger
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Lesson didn't stick, I fear

jaunty ibex
velvet dagger
timid bronze
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WHY DID YOU CROSS YES

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YOURE SO MEAN

velvet dagger
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IT'S NOT MEAN I GAVE AN ACTUAL ANSWER

timid bronze
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NO

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I HATE u UR MEAN

jaunty ibex
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Yes

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I'm so bored bearlain

velvet dagger
jaunty ibex
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@pure hollow how's ca

pure hollow
jaunty ibex
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It's okay

pure hollow
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I'm still at the first chapter

jaunty ibex
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What book are you using?

pure hollow
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Stien

jaunty ibex
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Goated book

pure hollow
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it's the book my uni will be using for my CA course

jaunty ibex
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That's great lol

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I used something else

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(Bad book)

pure hollow
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oh

jaunty ibex
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Rudin

pure hollow
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Rudin is uhhh... different I suppose

jaunty ibex
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It's hard lol

pure hollow
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it was papa rudin right were you able to read it?

jaunty ibex
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Yeah papa rudin was the one I used

pure hollow
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I don't think I can read Rudin for a while

jaunty ibex
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I should've used Stien but whatever

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I barely even use CA anyway

pure hollow
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I would use CA probably idk

jaunty ibex
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Well depends on what you're trying to do

pure hollow
jaunty ibex
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Circuit shenanigans

pure hollow
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yeah

pure hollow
jaunty ibex
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Signal anal is fun

pure hollow
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is that so

jaunty ibex
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Yep

pure hollow
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what do we do in SA like an example?

jaunty ibex
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That depends on what u guys do

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I'd assume you learn about fourier transforms

pure hollow
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yeah we have a course on transforms completely opencry

pure hollow
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I love transforming from one space to another

jaunty ibex
pure hollow
jaunty ibex
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oh

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hmm

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okay

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Kinda unexpected

pure hollow
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thus the reason we overlap with other courses

jaunty ibex
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Oh okay

pure hollow
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it's a bit new ig?

jaunty ibex
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I've seen it happen

pure hollow
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I have usually seen it happen with the electrical engineers

jaunty ibex
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Yeah

pure hollow
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not so much with cs

jaunty ibex
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Not CS

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CS is weird

pure hollow
jaunty ibex
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U should do math only fr

pure hollow
jaunty ibex
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how many years in?

pure hollow
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1 year

jaunty ibex
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That's not too far in

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Considering ur doing math as well

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Idk tho it's up to u

pure hollow
jaunty ibex
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ahaha i miss this gif

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I've been banging my head on master thesis

pure hollow
jaunty ibex
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Algebra

pure hollow
jaunty ibex
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Algebra is fun till it's not

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Jk

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I love algebra

pure hollow
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I'll be doing algebra this July

pure hollow
jaunty ibex
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Arithmetic geometry doesn't interest me that much eithee

pure hollow
jaunty ibex
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Number fields

pure hollow
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ah number theory pilled

jaunty ibex
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Yep

pure hollow
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I'll have a number theory course in my third year

jaunty ibex
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Had to switch advisors

solid yarrow
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vero slowly becoming deltoid frfr

jaunty ibex
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I'm honored but I don't think I'll ever get as good as deltoid

solid yarrow
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:3

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you'll never know until you try

jaunty ibex
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Idk sometimes I tend to compare myself

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I know it's bad to do so but i can't help it

solid yarrow
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it's not bad

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the part where you go wrong imo is comparing yourself to others

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compare yourself to yourself

jaunty ibex
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Yeah comparing myself to others

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This is bad

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Also I'm kinda burnt out from math

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My previous advisor has been such an asshole

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im glad i changed advisors

solid yarrow
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you're in grad school?

jaunty ibex
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Yea

solid yarrow
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oh lol

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i didn't know

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how's grad school? stareeyebrows

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aside from the advisor part

jaunty ibex
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It's okay I like it

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Definitely better than working in industry stuff

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Idk just wanted to refresh my mind lol

solid yarrow
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hm

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how does grad school differ from ug or masters though?

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like what are your experiences

jaunty ibex
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By grad school

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I meant masters

solid yarrow
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oh

jaunty ibex
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I'm still iffy about phd

solid yarrow
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still grad school :3

jaunty ibex
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:3

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Well in grad school

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You don't have to worry about doing well in classes that much?

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And it's more about you doing research

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Which is what I like the most

solid yarrow
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research scary

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i am especially scared of having to organize myself

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like i fear misplacing notes etc and not finding them again or something like that

jaunty ibex
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people in adv alg, nG, deltoid, sharpie and others kinda are helping me with my research problem

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idk sometimes i just dont feel like i produced my own work

solid yarrow
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:3

jaunty ibex
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Feels like I'm a fraud or something

solid yarrow
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well there's nothing wrong with collab, no?

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like as long as you try

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you're on a good way

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atleast that's the way i see it

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you can't solve every problem, since you're not perfect. no one is

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that's my 2c

jaunty ibex
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Ig so

solid yarrow
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though i get what you feel

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it's a bit like cheating no?

latent edge
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research is rough

solid yarrow
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deltoid :3

jaunty ibex
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omg deltoid

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how's research

latent edge
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read what i said above

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blind

solid yarrow
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oof

latent edge
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hi foxy :3

jaunty ibex
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dw he didn't mean it in a rude way

latent edge
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I love waking up every morning reading a lot of stuff for research

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The research I'm doing is the kind I'm not familiar with that much but I really like the experience

solid yarrow
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what's your day-to-day experience in research though? i can't really imagine how research is on a daily basis.

latent edge
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it's a sine wave of both getting very confused and super excited

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I don't work in the weekends

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The way my prof goes about it is kinda like "yeah just figure it out"

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sometimes they give books to read

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but yeah that has been the mood

jaunty ibex
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glad to hear I'm not the only person confused

latent edge
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in ur case its kinda better

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at least ur doing something ur very familiar with

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im not doing that lol

solid yarrow
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._.

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does reading dominate your time then?

latent edge
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yes

solid yarrow
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hm

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i always thought research is more on the side of "thinking"

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starting at a piece of paper

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until you get it

latent edge
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i mean u think while u read

solid yarrow
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yeah sure

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but you get a research problem

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i thought you solve it like "that"

latent edge
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tbh im mostly just reading what other people have done

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tweaking some stuff

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getting stuck

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repeat

solid yarrow
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hm

latent edge
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i ask my advisor a lot since they are more expert on the topic and have the "good" way to think about stuff

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instead of wasting a lot of time

solid yarrow
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what if you don't find anything related to your problem that you can read though?

latent edge
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good question

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well u cry in a corner ig opencry

solid yarrow
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it's these kind of questions that make research scary for me

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like theoretically you could waste your time

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and not even notice

latent edge
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most of the time the stuff you are researching, someone has done something with it

latent edge
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You have to think about asking the right questions

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And going the "right" directions

solid yarrow
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i still find it interesting that you use reading as way to get away from the problem

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it makes sense

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i just wonder why i haven't thought about such an approach

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i would have just put the problem away and be mad at myself shiver

latent edge
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and yk sometimes I just give up for the day and read something else

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Funny enough the research im doing is about unitary representations (combinatorial). When I get bored of it I say "okay im done with unitary reps im gonna do something else" then go and study unitary representations (Langlands) opencry

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ah yes take a break from unitary rep to study unitary rep

solid yarrow
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stonks moment

latent edge
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real

latent edge
# solid yarrow stonks moment

I proved a little proposition that I was proud of last 2 weeks or so since my prof was struggling to get the proof work in general. They were happy with the solution but the next day they found someone that already proved the result

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So in that sense I got owned LMFAO

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we did a little giggle about it and moved on 🗿

brittle socket
abstract light
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Why do mathematicians hate 0/0

somber saddle
surreal sapphire
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what is that even supposed to mean

somber saddle
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0 divided by 0

untold cedar
fathom swallowBOT
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emilia

abstract light
surreal sapphire
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but 4*0 is 0...

abstract light
untold cedar
tepid fractal
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So guys

If 9^(x-1) is converted into 3 as base, would the index be 2x-2 or x-1+1

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Or it'll be other

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(I forgot the basic)

deep mango
tepid fractal
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It become b×c?

deep mango
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yes

tepid fractal
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I literally forgot the basic opencry

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Thanks man

forest nimbus
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how to find mean from stem and leaf diagram

rocky robin
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Yall, i found this random problem on tiktok of some chinese girl and a barber. I have an answer but the comments say otherwise

The girl gets a haircut but forgets her wallet, so she asks the barber for 100 (chinese money) and said she'll pay the barber back later. She payed 30 for the haircut and pocketed the 70. She returned the 100 after a while but the man said that she still hadnt paid for the haircut. They get into an arguement and the woman walks out angrily. Who's on the correct side?

ocean harbor
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that sounds so stupid but I'd say the chinese girl is correct

rocky robin
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I just dont think i can sleep without a proper conclusion to the problem

ocean harbor
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just ignore it

rocky robin
icy heron
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The girl is correct, she effectively loaned 70 and paid back 100, equaling 30 which was the cost of the haircut

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Or to put it another way, the barber gives away 100 in total, while the girl gives away 130

neat lintel
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should i go with khanacademy or ***mathacademy ***to restart my math journey

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like which is more effective

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if i wanna learn math up to college level from middle school level within 12 months

wooden falcon
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I don’t have experience with mathacademy. But I can vouch khanacademy is quite good. I was able to use it to self study in under a year from zero to 5’ing the AP Calculus BC exam.

fast vortex
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Guys I want one good inequality question.

sharp mulch
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How to fix income inequality

limber thunder
fast vortex
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Na bro these one are for kids give me a bit more harder..

fast vortex
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I told a bit
Bro you took it too far

brittle socket
craggy parcel
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which book?

fast vortex
brittle socket
# craggy parcel which book?

Analysis in Banach Spaces _ Volume I_ Martingales and -- Tuomas Hytönen, Jan van Neerven, Mark Veraar, Lutz Weis -- Ergebnisse der Mathematik und -- 9783031465970

brittle socket
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That is, that the inequality holds, as stated

craggy parcel
vagrant mantle
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anyone else on mac in terminal see the command line is now "usr@mac" not like "usr@usr-macbook-pro" or whatever

sharp mulch
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No mine is still usr@usr-macbook-pro

small parrot
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What book would give you the ability to solve "Prove that any n-polygon ( for n greater than 3 ) can be cut into n-2 triangles?

small parrot
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lol

untold cedar
craggy parcel
ancient sluice
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can anyone can teach me how to use @fathom swallow

ancient sluice
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,help

fathom swallowBOT
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A brief description and guide on how to use me was sent to your DMs!
Please use ,list to see a list of all my commands, and ,help cmd to get detailed help on a command!

elfin smelt
small parrot
untold cedar
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did anyone else know that the Constitution of Japan was written by /checks notes/ Americans? opencry

fresh comet
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yeah

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Japan may as well have been a US colony in the direct postwar years KEK

untold cedar
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real lol

unborn meteor
jovial ember
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There’s still a military base there and there’s stuff from that

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But this was a big part of Japanese politics in the 70s

north topaz
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if you look at the road architecture and the barely functioning public transport system, you'll see the US influence

zealous garden
neat lintel
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Hi my lil extra chromosomes

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How we doing🩷

neat lintel
fresh comet
neat lintel
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Im good im good thanks for asking

fresh comet
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glad to hear!

wise wagon
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So, if I had a question/needed advice on a coding theory, does anyone know where I could go to?

wise wagon
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sick, thanks dude!

fresh comet
north topaz
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@fresh comet you there homie

fresh comet
empty mirage
fresh comet
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higher! lisayay

north topaz
fresh comet
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stay safe MiniheraBow

warm umbra
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welcome to the server @neat lintel

north topaz
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Drifting in the wind, ready to start again?

fresh comet
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do you ever feel, feel so paper thin?

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like a house of cards, one blow from caving in?

north topaz
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Lmaooooo you get it

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Okay so you do know the 2010s goodies

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You know the song

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Even if that means searching up the lyrics

fresh comet
north topaz
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How's life after finals?

fresh comet
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life is okay! MenheraSalute4

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how about you?

velvet dagger
timid bronze
velvet dagger
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Playing hide and seek!

timid bronze
velvet dagger
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"New" is diabolical LMAO

timid bronze
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Love is love

velvet dagger
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Tbh I mostly just think that cat is really cute

timid bronze
velvet dagger
timid bronze
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but i never knew she was in this server

velvet dagger
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Heavens no

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You have the right to whack me upside the head if I get a crush on here

timid bronze
velvet dagger
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The one that immediately jumps to mind is anger issues

timid bronze
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Dont shame them

velvet dagger
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If someone can't control temper then I immediately want nothing to do with them. Whether as a partner or in any other capacity

timid bronze
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i told u ab my ex-friend punching a hole in his door right

velvet dagger
timid bronze
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i dont even know what he was mad about

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but he yelled at me in vc before and started cussing randomly when i did nothing

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he has majorr anger issues

velvet dagger
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Yeah that's just not someone you wanna deal with

timid bronze
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what r they going to do to me in person

velvet dagger
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True the punching the hole through the wall means there's risk of violence

jaunty ibex
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Hewoo

velvet dagger
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Hey there Vero!

jaunty ibex
timid bronze
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i think one of my biggest red flags in a partner is like

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ugh im bad thinking on the spot but

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Ou

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if hes careless.

velvet dagger
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Yeah there's a lot of generic stuff but it's tricky to enumerate them

timid bronze
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bc that guy is gonna be my emergency contact one day

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same for my future kids

velvet dagger
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Yeah that's a good point. He needs to be able to handle things

jaunty ibex
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Rip boys

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so many requirements bnuuy

timid bronze
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also not a red flag but like

velvet dagger
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I mean these are fairly generic

timid bronze
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i prefer a guy a bit more on the emotional side

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so a preference

flat harbor
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i should write a list of like 50 things i want in a partner and tell nobody

timid bronze
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basically just have respect for urself and everyone around u and i think Ur good

flat harbor
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i want my partner to look good in a beanie but not THAT good so that they end up only wearing a beanie

timid bronze
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oh and inconsistent communication fr.

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excepting me to reply fast but then takes like 9 years to get to me

velvet dagger
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Yeah I'd say the principal thing I'm looking for is someone who's a good person and who I get along with. We should have trust, communication, healthy way of resolving conflict, that kinda thing

flat harbor
velvet dagger
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Which is fairly generic I guess, basically gets summed up as "morality and emotional intelligence"

timid bronze
flat harbor
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i want my partner to be a painter. i think painters are like really cool for some reason

velvet dagger
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Yeah I think what happens on the basic stuff is that people emphasize things to different degrees

timid bronze
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if they like you YOU will know

flat harbor
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but the thing is! this could also mean that i just want to be a painter myself but dont have the initiative

velvet dagger
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So maybe one person is more willing to tolerate X but is hypersensitive to Y

timid bronze
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what mixed signal type shit is social media trying to pull off as hot 😭

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the only time i get it is like if the person is shy and u just genuinely dk

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but if they arent a shy person and r like showing mixed signals.. movenon fr

velvet dagger
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Oh right yeah the whole, hard to get shit

cursive pilot
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woah

velvet dagger
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It's a mess on multiple fronts

timid bronze
fresh comet
timid bronze
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hi hei hei

velvet dagger
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Like if you're trying to play hard to get and give mixed signals, it starts to question the authenticity of your interest. Do you just want the attention and not care for the person? Eventually you're just toying with someone and they should (often will) move on

On the flip side, I feel like some people definitely take this and say hmm if she says no that really just means she's playing hard to get

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And that's an entirely new can of worms

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Since it turns into not respecting boundaries of people for whom no actually means no

velvet dagger
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🫂

fresh comet
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what does playing hard to get do for the person? pandathink

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I don't understand

fresh comet
timid bronze
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but anything else like

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wtf is this shit

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so dumb

velvet dagger
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I don't see any actual benefit. People who are into it talk about as like, oh enjoying the hunt. But finding a romantic partner shouldn't be described as a hunt

timid bronze
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ngl i think having a crush can be fun

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like that stage but

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playing hard to get im leaving bro

fresh comet
velvet dagger
fresh comet
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because it's not like the two people are together yet, right?

timid bronze
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i mean its kind of hard to explain if u identify as aromantic

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but its just like

fresh comet
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so they aren't sharing experiences and such yet

timid bronze
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a rush, excitement, butterflies

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yes but thats like

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ur starting to realize ur into them

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and ur basically like

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in worry of them actually liking u back too

jagged forge
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having your brain be flooded with chemicals is pretty fun thumbsupsmiley

fresh comet
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that sounds anxiety inducing kongouderp

timid bronze
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fr

fresh comet
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not very fun

velvet dagger
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You can think of it as being analogous to the general anticipation of something exciting

jagged forge
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also anxiety inducing yes clopencry

timid bronze
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i have so much fun in crush and talking stage

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thats like peak

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and beginning of relationship

jaunty ibex
timid bronze
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the honeymoon phase wares out eventually

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but like

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u still love each other obviously

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my longest talking stage was 2 months

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also higher its just

velvet dagger
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Yeah like you sorta get excited to see the person, you talk a lot, you start to think they like you back maybe, you're letting the excitement and confidence build until one of you makes the move

timid bronze
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like the best feeling ever if someone u like admits they like u too

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idk how to explain

fresh comet
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how do you know if you want to be somebody's partner or just their friend? Chibi_Paimon_Think

timid bronze
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its a feeling like

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theres many guys i love as a friend but would never date

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simply because i dont have the chemistry w them

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doesnt mean i dont love them any less though

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u can love many people equally but differently

fresh comet
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I see EB_EeveeDizzy

timid bronze
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🙄

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I am very obvious if i like someone.

velvet dagger
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Yeah the partition of what people look for in a relationship vs friendship depends on the person

But on the level of feelings, there's definitely more of a rush if it's a crush instead of a budding friendship

timid bronze
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oh and compatibility pls so important

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if u go into a relationship just for the romance

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its not gonna last lol

jagged forge
velvet dagger
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Yeah it's way too easy to get swept away in feelings and that's just a recipe for disaster later on

timid bronze
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ik a conrent creator who

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broke up w her ex bf cuz they realized they werent truly into each other

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kissing felt awkward they mentioned

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bc they dont have the chemistry theybrealized

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but now theyre super happy as bffs

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and have their own romantic partners

velvet dagger
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Hmm... That's an interesting situation

timid bronze
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It happens

velvet dagger
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Probably the most amicable breakup possible

timid bronze
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If u just truly dont have the chemistry

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it wont hurt really

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ull be happy actually id think

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because its less awkward

velvet dagger
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One thing which seems to happen sometimes is liking the idea of someone more than the actual person

jagged forge
timid bronze
timid bronze
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oops

timid bronze
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i said im

velvet dagger
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Yeah she meant to write "ik"

timid bronze
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LMGO

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I CANT

velvet dagger
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M and k are close

timid bronze
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I JUST REALIZED

timid bronze
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ur not welcome in this convo

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i want a deep convo rn And ur judt here to ruin it

winged pawn
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am i welcome in this convo

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wait what even is this convo

timid bronze
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Yes ur welcome

coarse bridge
velvet dagger
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Extrapolating off previous data

timid bronze
winged pawn
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nah

timid bronze
winged pawn
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i got an exam in 25 mins kekhands

timid bronze
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fr

jagged forge
winged pawn
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icba

timid bronze
velvet dagger
coarse bridge
winged pawn
timid bronze
velvet dagger
timid bronze
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Dami should chipotle be allowed in our philosophical convos too

jagged forge
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everyone has an idea of someone else in the beginning

velvet dagger
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Sometimes it's early on and less memories than preconceived notions

timid bronze
velvet dagger
timid bronze
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fr

jagged forge
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and then finds out the celebrity in question is a horrible person

timid bronze
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Ok r u calling me out

coarse bridge
timid bronze
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.

jagged forge
timid bronze
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where tf did i ever mention celebrity crushes

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Its not like its an actual crush

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and even if

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Abel tesfaye cane to me rn

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i aint dating him

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😂

jagged forge
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im not calling you out...

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half of mfs have celebrity crushes anyway

velvet dagger
verbal karma
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Uncomfortable truth is that people have stereotype of another person; more so like expectation or assumption of that person. That's normal. How would you react with it is another story. Some, you fantasize, some... well you probably know. But I think it is same mechanism really

jagged forge
velvet dagger
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In her diatribe at least

coarse bridge
timid bronze
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.

velvet dagger
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Oh my God

timid bronze
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dami

coarse bridge
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i mean makes sense ig

timid bronze
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fuck you

coarse bridge
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yooooo

timid bronze
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this is ur fault

velvet dagger
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No that's not what I meant

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I was saying that like

coarse bridge
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got it

magic oasis
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Sup guys

velvet dagger
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Actually wait

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Yeah given the message I replied to

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He can't even pull that out logically

jagged forge
velvet dagger
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"im not calling you out"
"she means Chip"

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Doesn't even work

coarse bridge
timid bronze
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i mean i agree u never rly know what a person is like ESPECIALLY not until u move in with them

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but like..

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if u picture them as a

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completely different person

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ur js going to get diff results

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they say u cant change anybody for a reason

jagged forge
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you could fall in love with someone for a number of reasons that just boil down to a (strong) initial impression, and many long relationships start that way

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not to say people don't fall in love with long-time friends

velvet dagger
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Yeah I feel like a lot of relationships struggle when people don't get along as roommates

And on a deeper level you get to know more about how they operate when you see them as much as people see each other when living together

timid bronze
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im ok w risking friendships for that reason

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many ppl say they wouldnt and i respect but

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im not letting go an opportunity that can be beautiful

velvet dagger
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I remember saying to my mom once that I think people should not have kids until after they've been married for some amount of time

coarse bridge
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what are we talking about?

timid bronze
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Um

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Read

coarse bridge
timid bronze
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Chipotle ur gonna make me kms rn.

verbal karma
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It is easy to get sway by what you think about a person, but once you observe the truth, that is the point where successful relationship start (if at all success)

jagged forge
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bro failed the test

velvet dagger
timid bronze
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csn chipotle liek be muted

velvet dagger
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Go there chip fr

timid bronze
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Thx

coarse bridge
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Why am i being witch hunted.

jaunty ibex
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Omg relationship discussy?

velvet dagger
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Nobody's hunting you bro

jaunty ibex
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yay

timid bronze
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discord when chipotle starts talking:

jaunty ibex
jagged forge
jagged forge
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i was gonna say that would have been crazy clopencry

timid bronze
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someone sent that earlier but i wouldbe died

coarse bridge
velvet dagger
timid bronze
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ok can we get back on topic.

fresh comet
timid bronze
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chipotle stfU GOF FAMN

jaunty ibex
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Omg each time I open cry someone then realize I'm blocked. It ruins the mood bearlain

coarse bridge
jagged forge
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ally the strat for dealing with chipotle is to ignore him

coarse bridge
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but instead, she sends me a friend req.

jagged forge
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can say from personal experience, works great 👍

velvet dagger
fresh comet
jagged forge
timid bronze
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but dami an ex partner u likeeealized u had no chemistry with

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a breakup wouldnt really hurt

fresh comet
velvet dagger
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Yeah that's probably the smoothest one tbh

fresh comet
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and I feel like I'd get in the way of my roommates a lot

jagged forge
velvet dagger
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Esp if both sides realize the lack of chemistry

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It's like oh hmm we jumped the gun. But you're chill tho

jagged forge
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i don't think it's a problem as long as you keep the clutter to your room

fresh comet
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I do clean up after myself though

velvet dagger
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Better than breakups because of fighting or broken trust or smth

fresh comet
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I was raised to despise dirty spaces

timid bronze
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im actually someone who doesnt mind if i get broken up with over text

fresh comet
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I'm just the kind of person to break things every other day for no reason

timid bronze
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some people hate that but

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i dont mind it

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just please communicate to me one way or another

fresh comet
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and I'm also just incompetent when it comes to life

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so that's another issue

jagged forge
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being incompetent is the first step to learning to adult

timid bronze
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higher is incompetent? i must be brainless then

velvet dagger
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But yeah regarding a relationship with a longtime friend: I haven't given much thought to it. The nice thing is that, you definitely enjoy each other's company/relationships should have a foundation of friendship (among many other things)

As for the risk of ruining the friendship, it is indeed scary

fresh comet
jagged forge
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ok uhhhh can you give an example

fresh comet
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like, I couldn't figure out how to open a can of spam for 15 minutes

timid bronze
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but i think its worth the risk

jagged forge
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oh clopencry nah bro that's just part of life

fresh comet
timid bronze
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an understanding friend will move on from it truly

jagged forge
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struggling with annoying crap

jaunty ibex
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I can't open it either

jagged forge
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then you tell your friends how stupid spam cans are

fresh comet
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but there's like a bajillion instances of issues like this

jagged forge
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good. u have more funny anecdotes

timid bronze
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higher i struggle with knowing basic things sometimes and feel like i always need help with the smallest things

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ur not alone

fresh comet
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I couldn't find the bag of shrimp that I put in the freezer for 10 minutes

velvet dagger
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I think if you're considering with a friend, the best thing is to get all of the "This could be a problem" questions out of the way before you even make the plunge

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Like hopefully trust is somewhat given, and hopefully you guys know each other's ways of communicating and resolving conflict

fresh comet
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and there was an instance where I couldn't figure out where the broom was

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despite it being where it always was

timid bronze
jagged forge
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idk this just sounds like normal life to me clopencry

velvet dagger
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So that you're less likely to have a breakup due to cheating or really nasty fights that kinda poison the original friendship

fresh comet
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idk