Sorry for not attending to this before.
Firstly, to answer Seab's point: discussing mod decisions can be done in DMs, specially if the subject is heated, to avoid embarking the server in controversies that do nothing else but increase negativity.
But there's nothing inherently wrong with doing it publicly! We pride ourselves on being as transparent as possible, and discussing things publicly increases understanding for everyone who's interested, and allows a variety of point of views. As long as it isn't inviting sealioning or in-passing opinions, then it's all good.
Arguing with a mod is also not cringe, we're just people, we make mistakes, and we act mostly upon our best subjective judgement, which isn't necessarily the best. Just do it in the appropriate channels (not in the help or discussions where it's spam; here is completely fine).
Finally, regarding answering requests in general: do not answer around the question, please. Opinions about the subject take the subject astray, and in the ~ 50 lines here, there's 0% progress on the posed problem by the OP as a result. Please keep to topic.