In all honesty and sincerity, have you tried an escort? You are going to have to pay one way or the other and it doesn’t need to just be about sex.
#Better off planning to live out my life alone
hexed cloak
quick rose
No… honestly, after a 30 year marriage that involved frequent manipulation and other emotional abuse, I was just starting to feel comfortable with the idea of becoming friends.
Thankfully, I managed to get an appointment for Thursday morning at the local Veteran Center. Hopefully it will help me get clarity and figure out where to go from here.
hexed cloak
I am glad you are going to be able to talk to a professional about this. My comment was not intended to be callous or in jest. My wife and I have been together for 19 years now. It hasn’t always been smooth. But we have recently talked about “what if” scenarios and came to the conclusion we would probably forgo dating or marriage again. Mainly for the reasons you stated above.
But I am glad you are able to get some help in this. Everything tends to work itself out when we least expect it. Stay safe and wishing you peace and prosperity in your journey ahead.
quick rose
@hexed cloak I didn’t take your comment as anything bad…
final flame
My wife and I have been together 22 years now, and I agree with Darkstar, sometimes opening up to other and new things can be wonderful and so helpful to your mental state.
novel wyvern
No… honestly, after a 30 year marriage that involved frequent manipulation and o...
I mean, who knows? Might just take some time to settle in and try again later with that person if they actually mean that they want to be friends with you. Other people use the "I just want to be friends" because they're being a coward and don't want to just say "Hey, this is weird now and I don't want to be around you" so the "let's just be friends" just kicks the can down the road a-ways, but doesn't really address the problem
hexed cloak
People can definitely get weird around their emotions. I would be lying if I said I didn’t try to sabotage my current relationship a few times. Because there is a part of me that doesn’t want me to be happy and in a loving relationship. Luckily my Wife is strong in her love and saw that. Doesn’t mean it was a pleasant experience for either of us. But our marriage is stronger from it.
final flame
Before my wife and I got married, she broke up with me like 6 times in the 6 months leading up to our wedding. Nerves, anxiety, and misc shit can get in our heads and get in the way of emotions.
Sometimes just follow your heart, and if it says bail then bail, and if it says stick with it, then do it.
quick rose
Before my wife and I got married, she broke up with me like 6 times in the 6 mon...
I don’t know if it’s my heart or stupidity that says just give her time/space and be willing to give her a second chance if she softens up… more complications involved now too because her parents and kids eat breakfast at the same place she works at, and we’ve been having breakfast together for the past 2 months. I saw them in there yesterday when I stopped to eat before going out to cut Dad’s grass and her Mom looked at me and mouthed “I’m so sorry”.