#Some questions regarding trans ppl

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arctic walrus
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well first, i think you should start calling him by he/him pronouns if he is ftm. and some people do change from being trans to another gender, just as their gender and who they are shifts over time. this just means that he, instead of going by pronouns or titles that may be associated with what he was assigned at birth, he may want to use other ones like, as mentioned, he/him instead of she/her. id say to just try and support him in any ways you can and abide by whatever preferences he may have regarding names and pronouns.

tulip igloo
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exactly what orb said!! not all trans guys do go by only he/him (or not he/him at all), it's common but not always the case, so do make sure and ask what pronouns your friend wants to go by now! :]

upbeat blaze
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ftm = your friend's a man now (female to male). it's not a big of a change, but what gender ender said, ask them for their new pronouns, and stick to it. also ask them for their chosen name if they haven't already said it

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it might be hard to remember that ur friend's a man now, but you'll get there. make the effort to use their preferred pronouns, names, and that's how u respect them. don't make any comments about surgeries unless they want to tell u (or u know them for a while), and yeah.

marsh tapir
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About your second question:
Some people do come out as transgender and then go back to being cis, we call that detransitioning. The number of permanent detransitioners are really small, i think around 3%. it’s very unlikely that your friend will go back to identifying as female.
also, some people identify as binary transgender before realizing they’re nonbinary or some other identity under the trans umbrella. just keep your mind open to the possibly that your friend find a different identity or label that suits him better in the future!

snow path
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God knows where that came from

marsh tapir
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oh yeah that 80% detransition ´´statistic’´ is just bs