#I like this guy and I can tell he shows interest but I don't know how to start a conversation

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lost leaf
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Y'all help me

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Pls

tardy viper
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as an introvert and sociall awkward person too, i suggest maybe a note? That way its direct, but not too direct that its awkward

supple shard
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how often and when do you guys see each other?

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do you have a class together or anything? after school activity? just someone you see in the hallway?

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any mutual friends? shared interests you know about?

lost leaf
supple shard
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perfect so you see him everyday

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just go up to him and be like 'hey I like your [shirt or something]'

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or mention something that happened recently, or if you have a shared interest bring that up

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try to talk to him outside of school too that would help

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and then just build it up from there

lost leaf
supple shard
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sure

lost leaf
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Tyyy

supple shard
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even if its basic its fine

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its not about the clothes

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its just an excuse to talk to him thats natural

lost leaf
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Yeah ik that

supple shard
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if he shows interest then he would be happy for you to do it regardless of what hes wearing

lost leaf
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I want to But like wouldn't it be weird to compliment like a basic gray shirt or hoodie?

supple shard
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not really

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even if it is he would probably just be happy anyway

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ik if a guy i was interested in complimented anything about me i would be no matter what it is

lost leaf
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Also im almost sure he's showing interest. I can kinda notice him looking at my phone since he sits behind me and looking at me in general

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I could be going crazy to but idk

supple shard
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is it just him looking at you?

lost leaf
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That and also he waits for me to do things and notices when I do things

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Like he waits for me specifically to get up before he gets up

supple shard
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how often do you actually talk?

lost leaf
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Neither of us talk at all bc I think we are both socially awkward

supple shard
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ah

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yeah just look for things to say

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like if he has a book out ask what its about

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if he has anything notable hes wearing say its cool

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its a bit awkward if you two havent said anything but just try and find little excuses

lost leaf
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I talked to him last year to at least try to start convo and you can tell he kinda got nervous lol I also got socially awkward (he kinda smiled subtle when I did that)

supple shard
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you could also just be direct

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and ask for his social media

lost leaf
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Yeah I tried that with someone else last week and it was awkward as fuck

supple shard
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how so

lost leaf
# supple shard how so

Well I wanted to try to talk to somebody and I did and I asked him if he had discord and it was so fucking awkward

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Like I just wanted to leave

supple shard
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why was it awkward

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like how exactly did it go

lost leaf
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I made an excuse to talk to him

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And then asked him if he had discord

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He looked me dead in the eye with a smile and gave a kinda shy no

supple shard
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i mean that doesnt sound that bad

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oh well its your choice what exactly to do

lost leaf
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No like I WANT to talk to this guy I've been talking about

supple shard
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no ik

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i mean its your choice how to go about it

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just like be confident though

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if youre awkward its gonna be awkward no matter what

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you gotta fully believe in yourself and what youre doing

lost leaf
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I have a hard time with that

supple shard
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yeah most people do i feel like

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but those are the two main things, find something to say and then pretend like youre saying it with confidence

lost leaf
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Ight

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Ill lyk how it goes

lost leaf
supple shard
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then you can discuss all the questions and material on it too

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then that can easily transition into more topics about the class broadly

lost leaf
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I just don't know where to take the convo after tho BC I don't really wanna discuss the whole test

supple shard
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so thats a really good conversation starter for your first time actually talking

supple shard
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nor would i imagine you have time to

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the conversation will develop naturally

lost leaf
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Wait idea

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"Yo what do you think you got on the test? ... Nice, hopefully same tbh, is this your 4th year of IT,? ... It's my 4th year before I get the Diploma.... Also I'm trying to make some more friends, do you have discord or snap? "

supple shard
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thats not bad

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it feels maybe a little rushed, idk with all my friends after tests we would at least talk about some questions

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these are very good anchor points for the conversation though if you think it feels awkward or it hit a dead end

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there is probably a better way to ask for his discord or snap though, saying im trying to make friends maybe comes off as a bit awkward and not confident

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i wouldnt even preface it with that, just ask for it

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'hey youre cool do you have discord or snap'

lost leaf
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Alr

supple shard
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you dont gotta pre emptively justify or excuse yourself, just be confident and youll go a lot farther

lost leaf
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Ight

supple shard
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have the energy of 'im gonna get this guys discord i dont care'

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if that makes sense lmao

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you got this though let me know how it goes

lost leaf
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I will

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(If I don't chicken out)

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Hopefully the next thing I say in here is "so uhhh we are talking back and forth now"

supple shard
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hopefully 🤞

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you got this i believe in you

lost leaf
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Ty

lost leaf
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I did that yes

lost leaf
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Well I talked a lil bit

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To him

supple shard
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howd it go

lost leaf
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Good

supple shard
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diud you get his discord or snap or anything

lost leaf
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Idk where to take it from here

supple shard
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do the same thing again

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find something to comment on or ask him about

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and just keep doing that

lost leaf
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Lawd

supple shard
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what

lost leaf
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Lord

lost leaf
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Ill try

lost leaf
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Going to ask for his discord / number tomorrow

supple shard
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sick!!

supple shard
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hows it going?