Mental health

[hearty pike]

Hey, im here for you. I get harassed and I used to be assaulted as well at school

[snow viper]

Hey, if you need to talk to someone im here. Dont feel like you're alone

[hearty pike]

At least you know they aren’t healthy, that’s a start and it means you’re well enough off to be able to fix it

Can you describe this relationship? That seems like the most easy thing to find a solution for, let’s start there

Oh okay I misunderstood then, I thought it was a relationship you were in

I also have some pretty bad anger issues

Mine is specifically called “oppositional defiance disorder” but I have Generalized Mood Disorder too

So yeah, ODD/GMD and it sucks so I get it

I mentioned the exact names caus I didn’t know if you were diagnosed but if you were you might’ve recognized them idk

Doesn’t mean you don’t have anything so dw I’m not saying you’re a liar

[hearty pike]

Diagnoses are only given if your parents are willing to get you checked out so idk

Of course

My girlfriend asked ME out and there’s a long story about what happened after that tbh b. We will just say it wasnt amazing lol

Yeah, it COULD be stress but it could be other stuff.

I’m not a mental health professional so I can’t say it’s one thing or another

[terse talon]

Is it worth talking to him about what youre going through

[hearty pike]

And I won’t imply it’s anything either so as not to convince you of anything

I didn’t say it necessarily to make you feel bad, just so you know I relate

[terse talon]

I mean im no professional but ive gone through similar things and I found talking helped alot

[hearty pike]

I’m it helps a lot when people relate to the person helping them so yeah

[terse talon]

Why would something bad happen

[hearty pike]

Definitely take your time before jumping into any sort of relationship, not accusing you of making a rash decision, I just know that desperation isn’t a good thing and you should never let it make decisions for you

[terse talon]

What really makes you think that way

[hearty pike]

Idk if that’s necessarily what happened but still

[terse talon]

Sorry if I sound rude btw

[hearty pike]

Huge red flag,

And you shouldn’t EVER have to feel like this about breaking up. That sounds a lot like some manipulation on his end to make you feel that way if he’s changing his profile and stuff like that to make you feel bad

Idk the full story I just have seen and experienced that before

It’s okay, thank you for being sweet and caring though friend

[terse talon]

Maybe try telling him how you feel about his actions and potentially make a few boundaries/rules

[hearty pike]

But yes, you shouldn’t EVER feel that way about leaving a relationship. What he chooses after you break up is NOT your fault nor problem, especially if he’s making you feel terrible

[hearty pike]

Yes, and the millisecond he breaks those rules, you out your foot down and leave. Not enforcing boundaries in a relationship is how so many people end up In terrible situations.

[terse talon]

From what I know it seems like your best option but if he continues that relationship can be really bad

[hearty pike]

It’s just online so it isn’t AS bad, but should you ever enter an in-person relationship and make that mistake, it can end very poorly.

Best learn to set and enforce boundaries now rather than later when it’s too late and you’re stuck in a relationship that causes you harm.

[terse talon]

Definitely i made that mistake and it ended horribly

[hearty pike]

I have seen it made too many times to count so that’s why I teach people about relationship boundaries and rule setting so often tbh

[terse talon]

Yeah its sorta sad that you gotta do it

[hearty pike]

Also, I’m very sorry to hear that, I hope you’re safe and sound now and are able to learn from the past 💜

[hearty pike]

Best be mildly sad telling someone not to make a mistake than watch that mistake happen and watch someone suffer

[terse talon]

You should naturally want to make your partner comfortable tho

[hearty pike]

True, I thought you meant the having to tell people how to recognize the signs

Yeah I wish it wasn’t necessary to learn signs of an abusive relationship

I wish people just DIDNT abuse their partners in any way but alas

💜

[terse talon]

I wish for that too

It really destroys you

I hope you can smooth everything out in your relationship

[hearty pike]

If you ever need relationship advice, or ANY advice, let me know

[terse talon]

Your faith is always the most important thing you can have

👍

[hearty pike]

If you ever suspect something is wrong let me know for sure, I’ve seen the signs and I can tell you what to look out for so when you enter a relationship you’re safe and prepared.

My best advice is to truly get to know someone far before you enter a relationship, and look for signs before you enter it. If you recognize them before you ever get into it, you won’t have to deal with the breakup portion

Good night!

[terse talon]

And make sure nothing turns abusive as its a sad thing to go through

[hearty pike]

Yup

[terse talon]

Have a good day

[terse talon]

You mind if I ask a question?

[hearty pike]

Sure thing!

[terse talon]

Why do you help these people

Truly

Sorry if it sounds cold im just curious

[hearty pike]

Because I choose to leave a legacy of kindness and caringness than to leave a legacy of destruction and harm

[terse talon]

Fair

[hearty pike]

Would rather go out leaving the world a better place than I left it

🤷

[terse talon]

That's noble

Don't let anyone change that belief

[hearty pike]

Plus people deserve to have a chance at kindness and to be cared for at least a little bit

[hearty pike]

I almost did myself for a bit but I realized that helping people is my passion

[terse talon]

Nice

[hearty pike]

I plan to become a social worker, I have a college set up already for me

[terse talon]

You sound like an amazing person

Its nice to know those exist in a world full of hate

[hearty pike]

Awww, thank you

[terse talon]

No problem

[hearty pike]

You’re wonderful yourself, so don’t let yourself forget that

You’ve done made my night, thank you :)

[terse talon]

Debatable

But thanks

[hearty pike]

Maybe, but so is me being good lol

[terse talon]

Lol

[hearty pike]

:P

[terse talon]

Its been fun talking to you