Idk wtf to do

[swift slate]

I’ve been bi for like a month ish now and I wouldn’t even know where to start with coming out or if I even should or if it’s necessary. Ik for a fact my dad won’t care (I’m very lucky to have a very accepting father) but my mom has made comments in the past like “I’ll still love you if you are but that’s not what I want for you. I want grandchildren.” So Ik I’m not gonna get kicked out or shunned or anything even near as extreme as others have to deal with but I wouldn’t even know where to start or if I even should yet. I’m very anxious about any kind of confrontation.

[midnight torrent]

Well about coming out there are some questions you should ask yourself.

[midnight torrent]

Do you care if they know? (And why?)
Do you care what they think? (And why?)
Do you want or need them to know? (And why yes or no?)

You should not rush coming out. Try to thing about it calmly, take your time.

I found out that I am bi about a year ago. And found that I don't really care who knows, unless they might bully me. I was questioning my sexuality and orientation for awhile. Slowing down helped me to think. I became convinced that my family would not care to much, so I didn't care if they knew. After some time I stopped restricting my appearance and acting (as a strait cis male). I started wearing my woolen thigh-highs more often than before, I started wearing braids, and stopped shaving my beard. They questioned my sanity (of course 🥲 ), my sexuality and gender.
I asked them why do they care. Some potential grandchildren and great-grandchildren were mentioned, and I did not care about those (they are not, could be, might be, but are not). So I openly told them I might find a partner of any gender or sex, it's none of their business. There are more important things about any person.
I care about my family, friends and other significant others not a bloodline. Love is more important.

So tell them when you're ready and you think the time is ripe. Do not rush it if not necessary. Its your orientation after all.

I don't say you have to be visibly different.
Be authentic, it could make your life more comfortable.

[swift slate]

Ok thank you, also

Yes I do care if they know, because they mean a lot to me and I care about my image to them.

I do care what they think, because they are a huge part of my life and I love them.

I don’t really need or want them to know but I also don’t like hiding it

[midnight torrent]

then tell them when it feels at least safe-ish, but rushing it could be more painful in my opinion

[swift slate]

I don’t feel unsafe. Ik they would never do anything to me. I just hate confrontation

[midnight torrent]

than you can do it