#Can aroace also be a phase?

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fiery sphinx
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I really don't mean to be Rude with my title. But personally I feel like I am Not capable Of loving someone, but I really don't want that. I want love but I'm Not Seeing it in anyone (relationship typa love, Not friendship). Maybe it's also just puberty or I haven't found the right one yet. Idk

long flax
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It's a long journey to discover yourself. Eventually you will settle on something that corresponds to you, but in the meantime if you want to call yourself aroace because you feel like it fits you, it's perfectly fine. You are allowed to change it later if you want.

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Also if you don't feel romantic attraction but still want it, you might look for the term cupioromantic

fiery sphinx
late pilot
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Im not trying to be like "oh aroace people are just mentally ill!!!" Because thats not true but in my case I thought I was aromantic because I have bpd and subconsciously wanted to stop loving so I would be able to stop being rejected. I also thought I was asexual because of past trauma. So you can be aroace rn but if it changes thats ok! And if it doesnt thats also ok!

fiery sphinx
eternal lake
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If you end up changing your mind, then it's fine, figuring out your identity is messy and can change over time so just go with what you feel comfortable