Hey. So recently I’ve been questioning my gender. I feel like I’m maybe nonbinary or demigirl, but I’m not sure. For now, I’m trying the demigirl label. Am I doing the right thing?
#I need some advice
grim juniper
vast chasm
Hey. So recently I’ve been questioning my gender. I feel like I’m maybe nonbinar...
Generally speaking, there isn't any 'right' way to go about figuring out your gender, sexuality, e.t.c. So yeah, you are!
grim juniper
I’m just scared this isn’t the right label for me
I’m not saying it isn’t but what if it’s not?
wind void
I think the only thing you can do right now is trying things out. Or just waiting. If you identify as a demigirl right now and later find out this label doesn’t fit, that’s valid too.
grim juniper
Yeah. You’re right. However I’m also scared of telling my parents. They don’t really understand LGBTQ so
vast chasm
maybe you could ask them questions about it. It could help with seeing what their views are on the community :).
grim juniper
I have asked my mom about it
She said that she doesn’t really care. However she thinks minors can’t be LGBTQ which kinda hurt
I remember one time I sent something to my friend saying that I like girls and she saw and it didn’t really go well
She’s not abusive or anything she just doesn’t get it
vast chasm
Maybe you could ask her why she believes minors can't be LGBTQ+ (if you haven't already)
grim juniper
I don’t think I have but honestly I’m a little scared to ask her about that stuff. Idk why
I usually talk about LGBTQ topics with my friends since I trust them
vast chasm
I don’t think I have but honestly I’m a little scared to ask her about that stuf...
I get that very much :(.
It does get difficult to talk about more sensitive topics as they genuinely affect us deeply. I still think you should try asking, whenever you are ready and however you are comfortable :).
grim juniper
Tysm <3
vast chasm
I usually talk about LGBTQ topics with my friends since I trust them
Its good to have friends you can trust and talk with on these things :).
vast chasm
Have you asked them what you think you should do? They would likely be able to provide some better advice as they know you better, and potentially your mother too.
grim juniper
Not yet
vast chasm
It helps getting things off my chest
which does wonders for us and our general mental health
grim juniper
Exactly
grim juniper
Alright
Tbh I’m happy to have my friends. I told them about me questioning my gender and they said they’ll support me no matter what I am
wind void
Yeah. You’re right. However I’m also scared of telling my parents. They don’t re...
If you feel like it wouldn’t be safe for you to come out, you could just wait till you’re not a minor anymore. I get why you want to do it though. It really depends on what you think how she’ll (or other people) respond.
grim juniper
If you feel like it wouldn’t be safe for you to come out, you could just wait ti...
Yeah I’m probably going to do that. They can’t do anything if I’m an adult
wind void
Yeah that’s true
grim juniper
It’s just gonna be hard since I love my mom a lot and I don’t want her to be upset or anything
wind void
She might change her perspective on the queer community over time
grim juniper
Hopefully
And if she doesn’t maybe I’ll change her mind since she also cares about me
I’ll just have to try to stay positive
wind void
Yes, I wish you luck!
grim juniper
Though I still don’t have any plans on how I’m exactly gonna come out yet
Maybe a slideshow or something
wind void
ooh yeah, good idea
grim juniper
I’ll also explain what each of my sexualities/genders mean
wind void
I really hope it goes well! You got this:)