I talked to ppl about my childhood and ppl said to call cps or the cops when I thought certain behavior is normal. I was also raised to never cry, always put appearance before health, never ask 4 help, and more. Plus ppl say that what I went through was abuse but Im not sure how to ask for help or how to manage my emotions plus I've asked them to get diagnosed 4 mental and personality disorders they said no along with getting a therapist. My mental health keeps declining and im to scared to report them or try telling family members again since my own grandma said its fine yet she even threatened to call cps. Im confused and im struggling in general how do I fix this and get the proper care and attention I need (im under 18)
#How do I fix this?
echo fulcrum
hidden marlin
I honestly don’t know but this is my best advice. Your family was horrible and should be ashamed for the mindset they raised you on. While they’ve left a hole in your heart and damage that can never be repaired, you can try to repair it other people and things. It will never be fully fixed but you can make it better. Starting with small things like asking for help with small tasks and practicing emotional regulation or even just identifying what you’re feeling and why can help start the healing process. You may never get the attention your parents should’ve given you but you can get something close or even better through other family members, friends who care about you and clearly at least your grandmother. You should tell someone about your current situation of course as they’re despicable human beings for doing this to a child they were meant to take care of and you shouldn’t be afraid of getting help from getting them out of your life. I hope your future is better and that you never feel pain like you did with them ever again in your life
echo fulcrum
I honestly don’t know but this is my best advice. Your family was horrible and s...
Thank u because I've been stressed out especially since im never enough and how do I regulate my emotions because I've never been taught that except 4 anger since my temper is short and I agree they shouldn't have done it and for years I thought all of it was normal and was acceptable and ngl this is amazing advice and it makes me really feel better
hidden marlin
Thank u because I've been stressed out especially since im never enough and how ...
I wasn’t really taught how to regulate emotions as a kid either, just to bottle it up so this I can help with this a lot. A large portion of why I didn’t know how to regulate my emotions was because of that. I kind of learned when I felt sad or scared by how my body is reacting like, sad feels heavy I guess. You feel like you wanna collapse but not from physical exhaustion just exhaustion, that or you feel your eyes watering and like you wanna scream and cry. It usually just takes a moment of stopping in an empty room and seeing if you feel like that to see. Fear feels like you wanna run or hide, or like something’s wrong and you should be suspicious. It’s different for everyone but you get the jist of it. After that it’s you choice on how you wanna deal with it. You shouldn’t do nothing with the emotions even though they’re annoying feel weird, like with sadness you should actually cry but beyond that, screaming, crying out loud and stuff like that so you can fully express it. How you identify and regulate will probably be different for you but having someone else’s experience is usually a good starting point like it was for me and I wanted to give you that
echo fulcrum
Yo that's the perfect advice thank you so much because Im still trying to learn how to cry again (so far I can't shed two tears or three if im lucky)
proven spruce
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