Ok, how can I help?
#help is very much needed
fallow frigate
minor flower
My name is Avery, well, that’s my preferred name. It’s not my birth name, but I tell people it is online because who really cares? It feels more real. No one in my real life knows I go by it. I chose it a while ago, but I’m still confused about my identity.
What I do know: I’m bisexual, very feminine-presenting, and AMAB. “Queer” is the label that fits best for now. I want to present femininely, but I’m facing huge obstacles.
Exhibit A: my family.
They’re deeply religious, conservative, and openly homophobic. Coming out could mean losing the only people I’ve ever had. I have intense attachment trauma and haven’t seen a professional yet, though I suspect BPD, autism, or something similar.
I can’t just leave my family. The guilt would eat me alive. My mum is chronically ill and relies on me, especially since my dad’s always working. I have to stay.
Exhibit B: society.
I’m African. I won’t say where, but my background is very recognizable. My people are almost 100% religious and conservative, just like my family. So if anyone recognizes me and sees me being myself, it could put me in danger. I’m not safe at home, and not safe outside either, even in London.
In school, work, or friendships, people would see me and assume I’m religious. So unless I come out over and over, they’ll expect me to conform. But coming out risks hate, rejection, or worse. Even with a new school, I know I’ll face the same cycle.
I also deal with dysphoria, which makes daily life exhausting and painful. I feel stuck. Being myself risks everything. Hiding tears me apart.
I need help. I don’t know how to live like this much longer. Anything is appreciated.
minor flower
Ok, how can I help?
you must forgive me the automod kept like denying my msg so I had to rewrite it a gazillion times
fallow frigate
This has been a, complex case, but I think that there is a way to fix things (somewhat), simply trying to discreetly reeducate your family to slowly get rid of their homophobia could be the best strategy to use for now
minor flower
This has been a, complex case, but I think that there is a way to fix things (so...
oh no that’s not happening they think we should all be executed lol
fallow frigate
ah
minor flower
they’re like religious fanatics with regards to LGBT issues
fallow frigate
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