So, I'm AFAB, and recently, I came out as agender to my friends. I want to start presenting as a less fem person, but my parents are super homophobic and trans-phobic. I decided I really like the dark academia style, but I'm not sure how to pass as less feminine without my parents catching on. I also really want to start binding, but again, I'm not in a safe enough environment to express myself through clothing. I feel like I'm being forced to live as a girl, with makeup and pretty clothes. I don't want to be associated with my assigned gender at birth. I also feel like I'm either genderfluid or trans, and I'm unsure what I am anymore. Does anyone have any tips regarding this..?
#Gender Identity and Presenting
paper needle
modern delta
Not really, ive always been a guy. but that feeling of unsafeness and fear or rejection, not just from potential partners, but from already exsisting friends and family can really hurt. but just wait it out, if u hear in a conversation that they hate people like that n stuff wait till ur an adult and tell them, in the mean time keep experimenting and finding yourself, u arent alone ♥️
hoary jay
So, I'm AFAB, and recently, I came out as agender to my friends. I want to start...
I’m pretty sure there are uniforms that are just with trousers
You can do that maybe (wearing trousers)
They can’t really argue with that right..?
It’s just trousers and girls wear jeans and trousers often
Just one suggestion
modern delta
u do u, if ur family doesnt like it? so what what are they gonna do disown you?, and if they do u got something bad out of your life
hoary jay
u do u, if ur family doesnt like it? so what what are they gonna do disown you?,...
I mean
(Sorry no hate)
It does depends on OP’s situation
They can be a minor
They can be struggling with money
Etc etc
paper needle
I’m pretty sure there are uniforms that are just with trousers
You can do that m...
Yeah, I could. The only problem is I have trouble finding bottom wear that fits because of my height (144 cm/4'11). They can't really get mad, as long as the top looks feminine enough, I could possibly get away with it.
hoary jay
Yeah, I could. The only problem is I have trouble finding bottom wear that fits ...
Yeah!
I mean, as long as it fits then it’s fine. If it’s too long you can fold it instead (imo this is better than nothing so..yeah)
paper needle
u do u, if ur family doesnt like it? so what what are they gonna do disown you?,...
They won't disown me, but most likely I would have everything taken away from me, including my privilege to drive and switch schools (which is already happening). They've also said they'd send me to a camp for Christian girls every summer until I get the "lgbt whatever nonsense" out of my head (this happened when they found out most of my friends were part of the lgbtq community). I can't really "do me" because the consequences would just be worse than if I never came out, and it wouldn't be worth it because they would take that all away. /lh /info
paper needle
Yeah!
I mean, as long as it fits then it’s fine. If it’s too long you can fold ...
Yeah, I could probably get away with it, as long as it looks feminine enough, and I could always change at school. Thanks!
hoary jay
They won't disown me, but most likely I would have everything taken away from me...
Oh lord..I really wish the best to you…
hoary jay
Yeah, I could probably get away with it, as long as it looks feminine enough, an...
Yes! And no worries lol
paper needle
Oh lord..I really wish the best to you…
Thanks, I appreciate it