#questioning sexuality, i need some help

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north pawn
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im a teenager currently and im struggling with identity alot. i have a lot of inner turmoil about my queerness, whether if im bisexual or lesbian. i already know i have plentiful attraction to girls, because my first and biggest irl crush was on one, and well its already definite atp.

however im confused if i also like men or not, ive dated a few guys but they were all short term relationships where i didnt find any of them attractive and was only doing it just so i could experience a glimpse into what dating felt like (i mean i cried over one guy but i dont think i felt any connection with him it was just pure performative) i sometimes make up scenarios in my head of what i would look like in relationships with different male peers, or i would have admiration for my male peers tho idrk if that was an actual small crush or just an admiration. the only true male crushes i had were on two anime characters when i was in middle school, but i dont think that counts. i dunno very insane turmoil. someone help please

covert helm
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a superrr simplified way of starting to work out whether or not you’re attracted to someone / a specific gender entirely is a asking yourself a couple simple questions.
“would i be comfortable and happy holding hands with a man?”
“would i enjoy hugging a man non platonically?”
“would i enjoy cuddling with a man?”
“would i enjoy kissing a man?”
etc.

you don’t have to know all the answers immediately, if you’re still confused after asking yourself those types of questions please don’t stress too much. working out your sexuality is very hard and can take time, even though it’s frustrating and you might feel like you just need to pick a label to be comfortable with your identity. you don’t have to do anything immediately, you can take your time and keep it private (or be as open as you want about questioning and experimenting! no shame in either)

north pawn
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but getting intimate sounds scary😭