My ex boyfriend mam started lying and made us break up wat do I do
#How do I cope with a break up
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Context please? Cause that says "Mam", were you trying to say "Mom"?
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Yes
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So his mom started lying and forced you both to break up, what was she lying about?
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as in? If it's too personal you don't have to tell me.
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Too personal
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got it. So i'll just try to fill in the blank without actually trying to get into your personal life.
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My ex boyfriend does self harm and im scared he's going to hurt himself
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ooo.. that's an issue for sure.
Do you know why he does it? And if you do, how bad is it?
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He went to kill him self
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okay please blur that next time, we don't wanna set off automod.
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K
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but, he already DID or got CLOSE to doing so?
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Hm.. Do you know the reasoning behind it?
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Have you attempted to talk to him about it?
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Oh my.
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He's in this sever
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okay so he's closed in about his "SH"
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Ye
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His mom lied abt some stuff and forced you both to break up.
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A week before we broke up he cut himself with the end of a bass gutaur
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Holy-
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His mom lied abt some stuff and forced you both to break up.
Ye
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okay okay let's take this a step back.
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K
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let's focus on one thing at a time.
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Thx u
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Don't thank me yet, i haven't helped you yet.
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Okey
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but let's start with one thing at a time, because your thoughts are probably everywhere right now.
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Yes
I broke a brick wall with a kick of a ball with my left foot the foot I don't kick with
Is tha bad
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yes and no, completely depends on the situation
but that's not the topic right now. I want you to take a second to breathe okay?
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I did
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Now i want you to pick one thing to focus on about your issue.
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That's normal for you to cry.
it's your body acting out on the emotions that you feel.
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it's okay, you don't have to apologize.
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That's normal, it's you missing what you had.
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I don't understand
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what don't you understand?
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Its missing wat u had
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what i mean by that is: You're feeling sad, upset, heartbroken, and lost even. Because you miss everything that you had with him.
In some cases you may feel physical pain near your heart, or IN your heart.
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Okay good.
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One night I couldn't fall asleep for an hour or 2
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that's not good for your health if it's repeated nights.
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2 nights
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that's not too serious.
but if it gets to 3 & 4 you should really start doing something to help yourself get some sleep.
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well i can tell you what i did, but i don't know if it'll work for you.
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Can you please.
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Okay as for what i did: Whenever i started missing my Ex or started feeling upset, heartbroken or lost.
It'd grab a pen, and a empty notebook and start writing. I'd write down how i'd feel for that day or that exact moment.
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K
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in a way, it takes the thought out your head and puts it into a page.
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Y am I crying
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in general? or right now?
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Right now
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it could be that we're talking about your ex.
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Ye
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and you aren't prepared to move on.
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Yes.
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Well hey, i suggest writing down how you feel right now into a notebook. it'll help calm you down a little.
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what's your hobby?
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Soccer
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Yes actually- that'll be great.
it'll keep you physically active, so you don't sit around moping and crying all day. You'll be too busy with your hobby to focus ON him, and you'll be able to spend most of your days at soccer with a partially clear head.
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I love Manchester United
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Well i don't know all too much about soccer, so maybe when you're feeling better you could tell me all about it?
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You're really entertaining yourself and keeping yourself distracted pretty well
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Utd were wining 2 nil until the other scored 2 and made it go to extra time where utd were losing 4-2 and 5 mins left utd scored 3 goals in 4 mins to win it 5-4
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actually i might just go look up that match when i can-
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Look up Manchester united V Lyon highlights
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I'll do that when i get the chance, but you feeling okay?
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Ye
Utd are siging a world class striker
One of the best in the world
thx u for helping me ur great at this, I'm simileing again
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Hey i'm just trying my hardest-
But if anymore issues come up, you know where to find me.
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Yes text here
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Well i prefer you make another post, but that works too.
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See ya, have a good day or night now.
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See ya u too