#hey, some help please? (pretty please)

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slim horizon
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Can you tell what joke he make?

arctic lynx
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Same as the two aboth, but might wanna censor it if its bad, bc some ppl ay get triggered by it

twilit dome
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Ok, first of all: Unfortunately, it is not really possible to make someone feel for you. While there are things that make someone likelier to crush on someone, they are not really reliable. And in either case, love should not be so calculated. You're 13, embrace the youth you still have!

With this out of the way, especially noting since you are Turkish, a risk analysis would be beneficial. How likely are your family to hear about your orientation if things go wrong?(Assuming they do not know) Would things be alright if they heard of this? What about your school in general? While your friends may be supportive, would there be people who'd go out of their way to mess with you? I assume you are relatively comfortable on these aspects since you are mostly concerned with your feelings, but just to make sure.

Him making "gay jokes" seems interesting to me. While many straight boys do this to establish their masculinity, some of those "straight" boys are not so straight after all. Others are doing this because it is easy to get accustomed to, and they are not yet sensitive enough to realize it sends a variety of signals to those around them.

For crushes, the most reliable way is to try and increase the amount of time you can spend with him. Focus on common classes, try to take an interest in his activities, find reasons to be around him; basically. This will both allow you to know him better and make him notice you, if he is inclined to do so. Be careful, this would be a slowburn and will certainly deepen your feelings if they do not fade away(which they might, crushes come and go).

The alternative approach is to simply be upfront. Find him at a quiet time and tell that you like him more than a friend to his face. If he does not seem all that negative to this idea, suggest getting something to drink(non-alcoholic, certainly!). This approach can also be done over text, if you are concerned you cannot make a good impression or if you fear things may get awkward.

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Whatever the case, stay safe and good luck!

willow gyro