Help me with my gender pls

[tall finch]

ever since last year, I’ve been more confused about my gender!
You see, back then, I always don’t care about my gender, like I just thought it was unnecessary
But ever since I started pretending i was a man online, I’ve been starting to question myself
I grew to love being called a man! But I still love being a woman
I went to search for it, but internet gave me no clear answers
I tried going with non binary, but it doesn’t feel like
My friends told me I might a Demi boy or gender-fluid but I’m afraid I might seem like a fake or something if I use those!

[limpid parrot]

My first thought was bigender, where you identify with two genders at the same time.

Also- you won’t be a “fake” if you use those terms. You can use whatever you feel comfortable with.

[tall finch]

It’s probably just me being paranoid, fearing I might get attacked for it

[brazen bear]

It’s never a fake to use what you want silly

But yeah if you’re identifying with two I’d say bigender

[tall finch]

Y’all are so helpful, I knew I went to the right place

[brazen bear]

but listen

it is just a label so don tbe afraid to go by whatever youre comfortable with

labels do NOT define who you are, they only help to identify you

[limpid parrot]

If anyone attacks you for using a label then they’re not worth it, there’s plenty of people like is here who’ll support you always

[brazen bear]

precisely

[limpid parrot]

This exactlyy

It’s fine even to not use a label at all, just be yourself

[tall finch]

That’s true, but I’m more comfortable with one 😞

[brazen bear]

anyone in the community who would attack you for being "fake" honestly doesnt deserve to be around others of the community, because they
1: make us look terrible
2: put others down and thats never good

[brazen bear]

thats okay!

im not saying its bad to have oen, im just letting you its no biggie and not to worry too much

but if it helps you identify and cope with being human, thats great! Please do!

my best suggestion is to do research on different identities and follow them. Or just go your own route, nobody who matters will judge you for being YOU

anyone that does simply doesnt matter in your life, very simple

[tall finch]

Tysmmmm

[limpid parrot]

Honestly? People who attack like that don’t even deserve to be in the community. If anyone can’t support everyone’s identity then they can say goodbye

[limpid parrot]

definitely

[brazen bear]

agreed, kick out bigots

[limpid parrot]

It doesn’t hurt to do more research if you’re unsure.

[brazen bear]

Nobody is starting civil war lol, its just honestly saying that in a community all about inclusiveness, there is no room for people being bigoted or uninclusive

but yes i do resonate with that so youre right in a way, thats just not what we're saying lol

[tall finch]

I’ve seen people in the community being rude to people who are also in the community for their gender
(Like- it was just someone choosing not to tell their gender then they got hated and other people started blaming the person who chose not to tell)😭

[limpid parrot]

Well that’s precisely why anyone who trys to attack saying they’re “fake” should not be in the community. We all have to love each other and support each other, it’s what we’re about

[limpid parrot]

That’s crazy

We also need to understand not everyone has to tell everyone everything about themselves