#Kinda in a pickle

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inner cloak
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So, I'm bisexual and I've already recently come out to my online friends, subscribers, and other social media. My parents are getting suspicious, and I'm kinda scared. My family is Christian, and my dad seems supportive of the idea that I might be bi, although I haven't come out to him yet. My mom, on the other hand, has been passive-aggressively teasing me about the idea of me being LGBT. On top of that, she has been emotionally abusive for most, if not all of my life, which has caused me mental health issues. (Ask what issues if you want ig) Me and my friends think it's a good idea to come out when I have my own place to stay because I will have somewhere to go if things get heated between me and my family. I'm really stressed, scared and shaky about this, so I need some reassurance that this is a good decision, other possible ways to handle this, and support because of my mental health.

Thanks y'all, I'll do my best to answer your comments and whatnot.

UPDATE 1: My mom is starting to find out. I'm really scared. We had a looong conversation about what she would think if I was bi. She said the same thing my dad said, but only when I mentioned what he said. It felt fake. Maybe it's just me, and I don't trust her because of what she's done in the past, but what she said and how she said it just felt wrong, like it was forced or faked.

UPDATE 2: Short update but my mom said that Bisexual people (especially black bi men) are rapists. She still doesn't know I'm bi, but that comment discouraged me more about coming out to her. Thank God I made the choice to wait about coming out!!

gilded kiln
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I agree with ur friends

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Wait till you have a place of ur own so that they can't kick u out or anything

inner cloak
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Ye

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Btw I forgot to add that it was originally my idea

gilded kiln
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Okay good idea then

inner cloak
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Thanks

gilded kiln
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Hope it works out

inner cloak
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I do too

split pumice
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I agree with your friends as well. But I’d also say if you think your dad is a supportive person, you should tell him

inner cloak
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Yeah, I just don't want to take chances right now just in case

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But thanks for responding

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I appreciate it

split pumice
inner cloak
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Thanks, I do too

inner cloak
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Edited it, so please check it out guys.

split pumice
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I’m here,
So I don’t think it’s a good idea to tell her then. Your mom sounds manipulative and if you tell her it’s likely she’ll put it back on you as shame.

I still agree with your friends and I would wait until you have a place to stay

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When that time comes when you have enough stability to move out, I wouldn’t tell them immediately because they might try to convince you to stay

inner cloak
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Yeah. My only question is, what if they find out before I tell them? Because she's getting really suspicious of me, and one Google search is basically all it'll take for her to find out

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(I have a mask with the bi flag on it in plain view. Only reason why I don't hide it is because they don't know what the bi flag looks like unless they search it up)

split pumice
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I would hide the mask then if it’s so risky that they’ll find out.
If they find out then it’s your decision if you wanna deny it or be honest with them. I can’t tell you what decision to make on that, sorry :|

inner cloak
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It's fine lol

inner cloak
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Updated again 😐

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This one's a good one for sure...

split pumice
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Thank god you played it safe then, that’s horrific

inner cloak
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Yeah

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I'm not black but just her saying that about bi people is crazy

split pumice
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Yeah it is

swift grotto
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Given the contents of Update 2, I personally don't think you should ever tell her. And only tell your dad if he can keep it from her

inner cloak
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True ngl

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But I won't be telling her any time soon