Y'all how do I come out to my family as trans??

[ebon charm]

So I'm 13 I'm ftm I go bye Lucas for two of my friends cuz they're the only ones who know.
My family won't mind ig but it's still hard to tell them and my dad GOD he hates trans people.. I was at the hospital visiting my brother and he said to me and my brother "don't you EVER change to a boy" and to my brother "and don't you ever change to a girl" so... Ya pls helppp

[tired flicker]

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[tranquil wagon]

There is not much to do in this type of situation but I would hold off on telling him or just not tell him at all

Same thing for me my whole family makes jokes about gay and lesbian people and hate trans people so just live your own life and live to like a boss

[mild delta]

be safe and don’t tell him.

[wide ferry]

That got a laugh out of me

[abstract lava]

If you're not gonna be safe after coming out, then your best bet is to just not come out to your dad. If there's anyone else in your family who would be supportive, I'd suggest only telling them. You don't gotta give haters more reason to hate.

Also in regards to presenting masc, bc you're ftm it's technically a bit easier, since girls dressing masc is more widely accepted than vice versa. You can tell whoever is supportive and leave your father in the dark (let him believe your believe you're a girl) and still dress masc, as long as he's under the impression that you're just more comfortable in those clothes or 'tomboy' attire.

[ebon charm]

I have short hair and he doesn't care how I dress or what I look like it's just what he said I feel like I can't ever tell him especially since I'm close to my siblings and him and they might tell him if I ever tell them..