How do i wear fem clothes around my family and in public

[plucky vale]

Pants, hoodies and shit like that i dont have a problem with but its mainly shirts that get me scared

[prime marsh]

Can you clarify what kinds of shirts you're referring to? I know crop tops can be pretty daunting

[plucky vale]

Regular shirts

I sadly dont got any crops

[prime marsh]

The way I've worn normal shirts, is the exact same way as when I wear my masc shirts. Think of it as "just another shirt" if that helps.

[plucky vale]

Oh did i say shirts?

I meant skirts

Sorry

[prime marsh]

all good!

honestly, I've only got one skirt and i don't really like it that much unfortunately so i barely wear it...
Are your fam all good with you being transfem?

[plucky vale]

Yeah my fam doesn't care

[prime marsh]

When i first wore my skirt, I had done it in my room alone to get comfortable wearing & moving in it for a while, before I tried wearing it infront of fam

I'm also assuming you've likely gotten used to wearing skirts?
If you have, you could try wearing it once infront of say, siblings (or parents/other if you're more comfortable with them) just to help work through the nervousness.
Also, wearing tights/stockings/e.t.c. under can help so much esp if it's cold out :3

[plucky vale]

I always wear thigh highs, my legs are hairy

Also im not completely used to wearing skirts

[prime marsh]

Well, choose your most comfy skirt & get used to wearing it :3

[prime marsh]

If you want, you can shave them (its super hard to start, but gets easier with time)

[plucky vale]

How

[prime marsh]

Do you shave facial hair?

It'd be the same way

[plucky vale]

I actually learned how to today

[prime marsh]

thats good :3
the way i've shaved my legs (I haven't been able to for months unfortunately) was by soaking in the shower for a min or two, then starting to shave (going from my feet up) in small sections (looked more like clusters first time haha)
For when your legs are hairy, you gotta go slower, which also means you're more likely than not, gonna be doing this over multiple showers.

[plucky vale]

I was just gonna do it in the shower

[prime marsh]

Also- unclog the blades as often as possible (so it actually shaves) & never unclog it using your hands by going the opposite direction to the blades cuz it HURTS

best description for the pain is a papercut but with more skin flapping

I gotta go, sorry, but good luck!

[plucky vale]

Ok

[plucky vale]

Idk if your there but i shaved

Idk how my mom is gonna feel since she told me not to do it rn but its kinda for my own happiness

[prime marsh]

Hi, yea i'm here. good job!!

[plucky vale]

I feel way better wearing a skirt without socks on, i can probs just tell her that

[prime marsh]

you don't have to tell her, but you can if you want. maybe you could ask your mother why she thinks you shouldn't have shaved?

[plucky vale]

Shes gonna know, i have the most hairy ass legs in the planet

Or had the most hairy legs

[prime marsh]

thats really good that you feel better!!

[plucky vale]

I actually put on my skirt after i got done

[prime marsh]

yea well, you can choose to tell her on your own terms :3

[prime marsh]

felt good?

[plucky vale]

Yeah it feels better

Like

Way better

While im at it, you got any tips on clothes i should get in the future

[prime marsh]

thats amazing <33

[prime marsh]

any clothes you feel comfortable in (aka, go try out different things!)

[plucky vale]

I mean like, idk what to buy, ive only gotten skirts and hoodiez

[prime marsh]

most clothing stores will have a changeroom which you can use to test certain clothes out without actually buying them & with privacy

[plucky vale]

I havent actually gotten my stuff at a clothes store

I should do that

[prime marsh]

yea (there is soooo much to choose from when you go)

2 things with buying clothing though- confidence + giving yourself a budget for that day :3

don't wanna spend too much that you can't get anything next time

[plucky vale]

Im still just scared imma be laughed at by my siblings

[prime marsh]

hey Onside, sorry about the very late reply-
in my experience with wearing the clothing infront of family, no one said anything (the one dress was an exception but thats from my parents)
so, maybe you could try start off by putting together an outfit (i recommend comfy-but thats just how i like clothes) that is something like- shirt, oversized jumper, a little skirt that peeks out from under the jumper, and some thights/thigh highs/stockings
and see how that goes? You don't have to make it obvious that you're wearing a skirt, and being able to put together different outfits & have it look nice is something thats really good both for lifting your mood, and for passing (if thats something you want to do)

i'll shorten it down a bit (saw your message in my thread)
basically- put together some outfit that makes you feel safe & comfy (try to add a skirt but it doesn't have to be very visible if at all)
and try wearing that around fam, maybe just siblings if thats what you feel most comfortable doing.
remember, just do what is comfortable to you (to a point)

[plucky vale]

My siblings dont know so

[plucky vale]

I have this hoodie coming in, so i was gonna wear that hoodie + one of my skirts and thigh highs

[prime marsh]

sounds amazing :3

[plucky vale]

Dude i cant build up the currage to wear my skirt outside my room while my parents are out

[prime marsh]

try opening the door, don't have to step out or anything, just open your room door :3

[plucky vale]

I cant

I have a old cat that hates other cats

[prime marsh]

Is it possible to keep your cat in another room or somewhere in your room it can't get out? Just for a short while as you get used to wearing skirts :3

[plucky vale]

I cant

[prime marsh]

Maybe you could try stepping outside your room for however long you feel like (could just be: open the door, take one step out, and come back in) and come back in? Or even when you're confident enough, you could close the door behind you before coming back into your room.

[plucky vale]

Its more of the fact i dont want my family to laugh

They arent transphobes

Im just scared it will happen

[prime marsh]

Hey, they won't laugh okay? Why do you think they would?

Sorry for the late replies

[prime marsh]

If you want @plucky vale, you can always DM me anytime & I'll respond when I get the chance

[plucky vale]

Because its not usual for them to see me in fem clothes

I did it like once

Which was a year ago

[prime marsh]

Okay