#Rough patch with my mother

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spring flint
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There isn't much need for a TW because what I mean by touching isn't THAT type of touching, just physical contact like poking and prodding for reactions.

Background info: My mom and I have had issues for years and she is the type to be like "I am the adult and you are the child so I can do whatever I want to you and you aren't going to complain" type and I will admit she has done a good job as my mom financially and everything but sometimes the emotional isn't always there.item

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I'm pissed off, God forbid I try to tell my father what my mom is doing. Whether I'm being overdramatic- probably

Since I can't send the screenshots, I'll have to send through via messages

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Me: If you asked somebody to not touch you and they keep touching, you'd get angry and lash out

Me: I will assume your answer is yes? Why can't my mother not understand that if I don't want her touching me, no mean no and no matter how much I back away and push her hands away she KEEPS DOING IT and God forbid I get angry because my physical boundaries are being violated then she acts petty

My dad; How is she able to do all of this stuff if you are not around her?

Me: ...what

My dad: Are you saying that she just touched you or are you talking about something that happened earlier?

I'm talking about "joking touches" Where she'll ask for hugs and stuff and sometimes I'm so physically overstimulated that I physically can't or I have a headache yet she never listens when I plead and BEG her to get away from and tell her what is going on

Dad: My advice to you is that if you do not want to be bothered with someone you simply tell them that it’s not a good time and you will talk to them later and you remove yourself from the situation. At least that way you are not disrespecting that person and you are allowing yourself the opportunity to step away and take a moment to yourself

Me: ...You aren't even listening to me

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He says tell her, I HAVE more times than I can court and it always turns into disaster

north moatBOT
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oh dear. that is entirely not your fault, your mother is being disrespectful and lowkey abusive

spring siren
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yeh your mom seems really bad and your dad is not really helping in this situation is there maybe a way you can reach to relatives or to cps for help cause it feels like this is a tough situation and it wont get much better if you dont act on it

spring flint
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As for relatives they most would be on her side due to "They don't know what's good for them, [you as the child don't know so apparently it's ok??] So it must be ok!"

spring siren
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hm ok maybe you can stay over at a friends or relatives house for the time that you need like privacy or smt is that a possibilty

spring flint
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Defo doing that once I graduate CarWat cause imma need it fr

spring siren
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well yeh but maybe you can just go to a friends house for most of the day to take privacy (my parents just let me stay at friends houses almost all day aslong as i sleep at home)

spring flint
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Mainly cause she would assume I'm going to say something (going from experience)

spring siren
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what would happen if you just stayed over at a friends house or were to be like out most of the day just somewhere walking around with friends would she like get really mad or beat you or?

spring flint