There's this transphobic guy in some of my classes, and he picks on me every day. He excludes me during gym (we haven't had a teacher for the past few days), deadnames me, calls me a delusional girl, and says that I'll never be a boy. I'm too scared to tell my friends since I don't think they'll understand. I've told multiple adults already as well but nothing is changing. What should I do?
#How should I deal with a bully?
teal vault
edgy valve
You might not like these but I have a few suggestions: you’ve probably heard this but you could ignore him (I do this all the time) even today these girls were making fun of me and my brother for being autistic we literally didn’t even look at them. Being silent is a pretty powerful tool if you think about it. But if that doesn’t work you can try and find something about him so you have more leverage :/ you could TRY and talk to a different adult if that would help or you could try and rehearse a conversation with your friends so you feel more confident, but realistically if your friends can’t even listen to you they’re not worth it. :/
teal vault
How would I be able to ignore it? I've tried for so long but it doesn't seem to be working
edgy valve
Like for me unless they’re physically hurting you then you should be capable of ignoring it, like for me I just talk to my brother or start humming a song or draw or write a story. I’m sorry if these are not helping :\
teal vault
It has been physical at times. Shoving me against lockers, hitting me with my headphones, etc
edgy valve
Well I’m sorry all I can is to fight him or do what I said by distracting yourself. I’m really sorry :\
I really don’t think fighting him is a good option though I’m sorry
teal vault
Okay
edgy valve
I’m sorry
teal vault
It's fine
edgy valve
Are you sure, my “advice” isn’t very helpful. But now writing this makes me feel like a douche. I’m sorry
tame wren
Gosh this is such a difficult situation, i'm so sorry. You said you've talked to adults. but have you told your parents/guardians? A student talking to an administrator is more easily ignored than an adult talking to them and might get better results. Or any other trusted adult in your life. a neighbor, a specific teacher, anyone who can go with you to back you up to admins, or to talk to the bully for/with you.
Another thing that might help is sticking in abuddy system. Find a friend or people you can stick with at all times. wether it changes from class to class. but being in a buddy system may at least deter him from physically bullying you, to have even a semblance of backup/support.
Fighting is really not a good option, so i hope it doesn't come to that. But if things get dangerous I encourage you to protect yourself.
I know just ignoring it is so difficult and honestly not really an option. but even just trying to act like it doesn't bother you. like he makes a mean comment, just say "okay" and walk away. Most of the time they want reactions. And if you can deny them reactions it might help. but i know it can be really hard to do that.
I am so so sorry you are in this situation. I send love and support to you, and i sincerely hope things get better.
teal vault
Gosh this is such a difficult situation, i'm so sorry. You said you've talked to...
I told my parents last week and they said they would talk to the school about it.
Nothing has been done yet.
Today, the kid was being transphobic towards me again during our health class. Forgetting past advice, I told my teacher what was happening. Not only did the teacher completely agree with the bully, they also told me that I should've been aware of the consequences of transitioning.
This is the same teacher who doesn't care at all if anyone is visibly upset. So much for a health teacher. :/