#Postmortem visit

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grim relic
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I was in my mid-twenties when my mom passed and was newly divorced with my young son. We had moved in with my parents so I could help care for mom (Nurse who caught Hep-C from a needle stick or transfusion - she was sick over 8 years) & it helped us as my father was a great role model for my son and was cheaper to share costs. More hands make less work. Shortly after she passed, I had a very unusual dream:
We were in a ‘visiting place’ and sitting opposite from each other at what felt like a park bench setup. It seemed like we were in the clouds and everything was white and blurry…I could sense others around also visiting but couldn’t see them. Mom told me, “It’s time to end the visit…you need to go”. It struck me that we hadn’t spoken - only just to “be with” one another and I had so many questions! I kind of panicked and said, “Oh no - I have so many questions! How will I be able to support my son and do it all?!?!?” I didn’t make much money & wasn’t sure how I would manage. Mom kinda smirked and said, “Oh, it will all be ok. Ask your father about my accounts…”. I woke up & grabbed some coffee and sat with Dad in his room (as we did every morning before starting the day). I was very groggy & told him about the dream. He had a pained laugh & said, “OH! That WAS her!!! Your mother was TERRIBLE with finances! The first weekend we were married she bounced 25 checks because she didn’t coordinate with me and balance her accounts!!!”
I’m so grateful to have had that experience - my parents never fought in front of us and never discussed finances around us beyond budget limits for specific occasions (school clothes/supplies/etc) so none of us had any idea.

calm spire
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This is heartwarming!

grim relic
# calm spire This is heartwarming!

It was so good to just be with her. I miss her presence terribly. She was caring love personified. Of all humans I’ve met, she was the most pure.

calm spire
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