#Relationships/friendships

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arctic cove
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There’s an ex I can’t get over named Noah he just keeps coming back every week on discord I get the same notification over and over and it’s always “giraffe friend request” it’s genuinely making me upset and when I accept it he just yells at me and calls me a stupid b**** and then he tried to get me to send nudes and I didn’t want to at all but then I did and yk what he said? “Great now let’s just stay friends” after I showed him my body and I felt so uncomfortable with how my body looked and I told him that and he just went ahead and crossed my boundaries which made me upset but now that he’s blocked I’m glad he’s gone but apart of me misses the good things abt him but I also know if I stay he’ll take that as a invite to invalidate my feelings and manipulate me again but I’m okay that the toxic cycle is over it just makes me sad that I won’t be able to talk to someone who I trusted the most.

woeful jetty
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I get what you mean. Makes you wonder if you can ever trust somebody like that again. It feels like it’ll be impossible to do so.

arctic cove
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Yeah, it’s nice for people to understand that. Thanks huddleshibaheart

woeful jetty
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Yeah no problem

sonic lark
# arctic cove There’s an ex I can’t get over named Noah he just keeps coming back every week o...

hi star, as someone who's been in a very similar situation i feel i can make a decent comment on this

if he ever adds you back, please don't. even if he just 'wants to be friends' it's not a good idea. i'm really sorry you were forced into showing your body for someone but doing so does not build some new foundation of trust that was lost from a breakup. I can tell you now that he just wants a lover to feed his sexual lust and i'm very confident on that.

if you're able to, please try your best to forget him as you'll feel so much better once he's off your mind and don't think twice about moving on, i promise you deserve way better, specifically someone who wants your heart and not your body. also for my perspective i had a really hard and toxic relationship but went back twice before i realised that the relationship isn't doing me any good. i hope you can take something from that and i'll end on a short quote

the hardest part about moving on is letting go of the hope that things could have been different catpraying

arctic cove
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Aw thank you, sorry if I didn’t respond in time I was so sleepy but that actually really helped a lot thank you, and I’m sorry you also went thru a toxic relationship. It’s nice to be surrounded by people that understand what I also went thru, and hearing stories abt it from others it helps me understand that I’m not alone. Thank you truly.🫶🏼

arctic cove
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I confessed to someone today who I thought really liked me and was giving me signs he liked me but he didn’t and now I feel very stupid about all of it. It wasn’t even a big deal but it was at the same time I genuinely went and sat down on my bed and cried and was very very confused and spiraling one of my main thoughts was that in every situation there is always the same outcome just in a different person and if you don’t understand what I mean I’m saying that, no matter how many good things truly happen in a relationship/crush situation, something always goes wrong but it’s the same thing with different people. I just wanna like someone without having to put up with negative thoughts and then somehow all of those thoughts becoming true, I might take a break from dating I do not know for how long though, but definitely for awhile I was truly starting to get happy around this guy he was very sweet and we would hang out every day for hours and hours smiling, laughing together he was very kind but I guess I took that the wrong way and it costed our friendship. I feel very dumb but also this is gonna be a lesson from now on.

sonic lark
arctic cove
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Relationships/friendships

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Lately, I’ve noticed a pattern with how I feel like I feel like everyday I wake up, feeling the same feeling which like Yk it’s normal but also its like the same feeling of emptiness replaying in my heart and head, I tried to cope like doing things that I really love doing like watching anime or playing video games or listening to music doing my make up cleaning my room just normal stuff like that, but nothing has been helping that much, it’s like this weird that doesn’t really go away it just kinda stays there waiting around for something good to happen but nothing ever does happen, I don’t wanna be dramatic about it but I truly hate this feeling and the worst part it’s gotten so bad to the point I can’t even describe this feeling because it’s never gotten this bad before like it has been now, I’m trying my best to talk more abt it with my friends or try to talk to my family abt it or write down how I feel but like I said before it’s just a weird feeling that’s been staying inside of me for at least 2 n half months. I just really hope this feeling goes away if any of you know what this feeling is called or if you guys can describe it
That would be helpful because it’s stressing me out trying to figure it out. The thing is everyday I just spiral for hours and it’s like time flies by so fast like I’ll look at my phone and it’s like 10:30am and then I’ll set it down and then scroll on my phone for hours go on my vr for hours listen to music for hours and it’ll only feel like 5 mins to me but then I’ll check my phone again and it’s like 5pm. I don’t know what to do anymore I keep trying to look for answers now because I genuinely don’t understand what “taking a break” truly means I use to think it was so stupid, but now I truly want to take a break without getting an urge to go back to the things I’m trying to take a break from if you guys have any tips or suggestions I’d love to know I just want this feeling gone.

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Also I have adhd, and I was telling my dad one day that sometimes I get waves of sadness for long periods of times and it’s tough on me, but I take meds for my adhd so I can focus on school, he said that people with ADHD tend to have depression episodes sometimes without even realizing it, so that’s something I learned.

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I also just now found out that adhd people can’t hold a job or a relationship I didn’t even think that was possible

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“Many can't hold a job or stick with a relationship. They're chronically late or forgetful. They jump into jobs and purchases and relationships without thinking them through, only to regret their impulsive actions later. They get stuck in self-destructive patterns, fall prey to addiction and depression.”

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Maybe I need to learn more about relationships before getting into them

sonic lark
arctic cove
arctic cove
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Noah, my ex he keeps coming back but he finally left he sorta changed but not really I wanted him to stay I really did I keep thinking it’s gonna be different every single time he comes back but his only goal every time is too hurt me or maybe he’s trying to prove something? He said I always leave when things get tough and he’s right he was always right about that I do leave when there’s conflict because I don’t want to fight anymore I don’t want to yell I don’t wanna have to explain myself for stupid shit. There is something about Noah I don’t know what it is and I don’t think I wanna figure out what it is but I can never leave him without having at least 10 million thoughts racing about how I’m in the wrong. I know he’s a manipulator that’s all he is he’s treated me like shit he’s never gonna change and he’s narcissistic and he’s immature and doesn’t know how to handle his emotions and still blames me for it he never takes responsibility for himself I always had to I’m glad he’s gone but apart kind of wishes he could just change and be a better person but I know that’ll never happened probably

sonic lark
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if you run into the same tree in a forest then you are lost, i don't think its worth raising your expectations for someone who manipulated you WAH

arctic cove
arctic cove
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My boyfriend broke up with me yesterday

sonic lark
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why sadness

arctic cove
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And he’s giving me the silent treatment

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And I miss him

sonic lark
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im really sorry you didnt deserve that WAH WAH

arctic cove
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Could somebody explain “all roads lead to Rome” it’s been stuck in my head and it’s been driving me nuts because it’s just some silly meme people made up but it’s really making me think like in every bad situation that ended up happening so far somebody has told me “all roads lead to Rome” which means no matter what type of relationship you have with somebody or how good you have it there will always be a bad outcome of things like no matter how good life gets it all ends up dying out like this one thing I say abt “all roads lead to Rome” it said “You may think you’re choosing where to go, left this, right that, but in reality the big decisions were already made for you, and you will have the same fate”

woeful jetty
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Pretty sure it dates back to ancient trading routes

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As in all roads literally lead to rome at the time

sonic lark
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like if you said it in the context of a relationship it usually means like it's foreshadowing a breakup

arctic cove
arctic cove
sonic lark
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sorry WAH

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like i know exactly what it means but its just hard to word

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one of those type of things

arctic cove
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I wonder why it’s getting to my head sm tho

sonic lark
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because its telling you something you dont want to believe maybe?

arctic cove
sonic lark
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idk WAH

arctic cove
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I feel like I am slowly starting to get that same feeling again the kind where I can’t get out of bed my phone is just dry no texting or calling video games aren’t fun anymore school is getting more stressful barely eating or sleeping good. I genuinely have no clue what to do if I can’t enjoy the things that make me the most happiness then what am I even supposed to do i still haven’t given up because I learned the hard way that if you fail many times at something it means your trying and we all have fall outs sometimes but I still keep going, I haven’t even figured out my goals in my life rn maybe that’s why everything is so numb and boring prob bc I’m not focusing on things more I have no clue, it just kinda feels like the whole world is turning grey like nothing matters anymore ykwim