The usage of the honorific “oppa” by foreigners

[past pebble]

Not going to lie, I’ve always found odd and quite cringey the fact that foreigners, especially when it comes to kpop, refer to male idols as “oppa”. I understand if its finality is to have respect of the idol and show appreciation to the culture, but I just know for a fact that most of them go and use that specific honorific because it’s “cute”. Perhaps it’s just me who isn’t really into aegyo or such things (it also depends), but I am not able for my life to digest it.
I wanted to know tho, what Koreans think about this. Is it somehow disrespectful, cute, indifferent…?

PS: this is my personal opinion, you do you in the end

[faint kayak]

as a fellow forigner anyone who calls someone who they've never met and never will meet 오빠/언니/형/누나 is super cringe

imo at best its ignorant at worst disrespectful but again im just a 외국인

[past pebble]

It’s totally fine, feel free to share your opinion anyways :D I asked Koreans because perhaps it’s different how they see it but I appreciate anyone who answers

[faint kayak]

😂 other than racist koreans kpop fans are the most disrespectful and annoying people ive met so I may be biased

[past pebble]

Facts, I hate telling someone I like kpop because I might seem one of those people lmao

[faint kayak]

you should be fine, most of the fans ive met online have been pretty nice

its the ones that actually end up in korea that are the trouble 😂

[neat cliff]

But also the case is kind of different when it comes to idols vs normal people. Like I’ve seen even Koreans call their idols oppa even sometimes if they are older than them

You can decide whether or not you wish to treat them like a parasocial boyfriend but you cannot deny the fact that that is part of what they are selling

Obviously don’t call a real person who you just met oppa, that’s weird

[faint kayak]

I LOVE PARASOCIAL RELATIONSHIPS I WANT TO BE SOLD ON THE IDEA OF PEOPLE AS A PRODUCT AS OPPOSED TO WHAT THOSE PEOPLE CREATE INSPIRING DEEP LOYALTY TO A BRAND USING HUMANS AS MARKETING ENGINES

obvious /s

but yeah irl if you're younger its polite to ask and if you're older you can give permission

[radiant rune]

if i were to talk abt my brother to someone in korean i couldnt bring myself to use 오빠, this is how bad it's gotten imo 😭 and ive heard lots of koreans say things like that but i think theres probably also a lot of people that are fine with it, i figure its an individual thing kinda, depends on the person
but lets wait for a native to reply bc foreigners may not be reliable sources lol

[faint kayak]

wdym?

why wouldn’t you call your brother that

is he younger?

[radiant rune]

no older

[faint kayak]

why wouldn’t you call him 오빠

[radiant rune]

in the context that its often used its been sexualized a lot too from what ive seen so it just kinda feels rly weird to me

[past pebble]

FACTS

[smoky ermine]

GG @past pebble, you just reached level 10! Congrats!

[past pebble]

Ayyy

[faint kayak]

😳ummm maybe look at different context

[radiant rune]

LMAO

[faint kayak]

y’all worry me sometimes 😂

[radiant rune]

listen i dont SEARCH for this type of stuff

[faint kayak]

i don’t either but ive never seen it

maybe it’s exclusive to kpop stuff

[radiant rune]

probably theres so many weird ass kpop stans

||im glad idk any weird ones irl tbh i would shove tissues in their mouths with all the weird things they say||

/hj

[faint kayak]

the ones so that actually make it to korea are downright insufferable

the amount of times i’ve heard “if you don’t like kpop why are you in korea” is honestly disheartening

[radiant rune]

they make other fans look so bad

[faint kayak]

from other foreigners

[radiant rune]

as if its korea's only trait

omg makes me so angry

[faint kayak]

exactly

and to them it is

[past pebble]

This

[faint kayak]

honestly i find even the normal fans a bit odd

like idk the names of most of my favorite bands

much less their shoe size blood type or other weird stuff

[past pebble]

HAHAHAHAHA

[faint kayak]

😂😂😂