transdome

[candid ore]

i see this all the time 26 and 40 r so me

[frosty sky]

i be number 9 (goddesses are always gods)

[golden plover]

-# Cloud Nine, cloud nine- cloud nine- cloud nine-

[dull raft]

-# ee wi! ouou...

[frosty sky]

where is 20 and 21 that are good actually

[jagged quiver]

when the dysphoria lowkey killing u but u got an assignment due at 11:59 so u dont have time to care abt that rn

this spanish aint gonna learn itself

[glacial halo]

Tomorrow I have classes with 2 of only 3 of my teachers who use the correct name for me :D

[scenic falcon]

me llamo monkey

[winter comet]

why is the post tilted ever so

[bronze ocean]

film technique known as a dutch angle

[glacial halo]

Newfound source of gender euphoria: wearing a bunch of rings

I have 4 on each hand rn

[dull raft]

that's so real

[candid ore]

this has been the banner of ky pinterest account for like a yesr and a half

[solid oasis]

r/ftm, oh god

i have a mutual who frequents it and tells me ab a lot of shit they see help

[bronze ocean]

7 weeks post op weevil might be one of the few good things to come out of reddit

[candid ore]

that and like r/sbubby

[glacial halo]

Does anyone else here use a shitton of names or it is just me

I use 8 different names and have little to no preference

I also have two deadnames

[dull raft]

i used to have 13 names 😭

now its just. maybe 2

my third is my fursonas name

and one main one

[candid ore]

i went by all of this at one point in time 😭

[glacial halo]

Here are all of mine

[solid oasis]

Same same but they’re unlisted rip

I share them between friends mostly who are chill with swapping things up and know me

[digital geyser]

love that meme sm

[golden plover]

What did raymond and jerm do to be demoted to 👍?

[candid ore]

idek 😭 nowadays i prefer full names over nicknames so idk why i preferred ray over raymond

[winter comet]

i used to go by a lot of names when i was younger and then i got older and in my personal life only mostly go by my middle name or korean name

online i have a couple but i don't put much stock into them

[glacial halo]

I also very occasionally go by the names of my OCs and when I do it's only with friends

The two I use the names of the most are Aspen and Rex

[candid ore]

most of the old names i went by were various usernames

[winter comet]

late on the name thing but irl i only use the two on bottom and online i really only use the top two but the bottom is my fursona's name so

[frosty sky]

oh ur talkn bout pronoun pages?

i had alt persona names but theyre not on my page anymore; they are independent now

[broken prism]

This is a little outdated (mainly because I don’t go by Zephyr/Zeph anymore) but here’s mine

I also considered going by Sam too but idk if it would feel right

or if it’s too basic for my tastes

[inland schooner]

My former names were from when I id'd as nonbinary which were; Sirin, Kafka(barely tho), and August
I also was gonna use Cecilia but didn't and now im basic and just Cale/Callum

It's fun tho to look at old names tho! How times have changed. I used to want like an androgynous twitter oc and now my dreams are to look like an old man (achieved, but only 18)

[digital geyser]

real

ive gone through so many names

but my current one has stuck for 2 years now and i use it everywhere so i think im good

tbh alder would be my real name but i used it for doing some internet piracy stuff when i was a teen and it's so distinct that i changed it

i have very intense anxiety about the internet

but im very very happy with my current name, it is very me!

i always get "wow that's rad, it suits you" when i tell ppl it, which

i always reply with the classic "thanks, i picked it myself"

[inland schooner]

ive got my name changed and am stealth so cant be assed to change my name, but lowkey people can refer to me as whatever yk?

[next harbor]

chat I only get one

[digital geyser]

damj

[next harbor]

it would be maybe the best/worst thing for me to put "Sir"

and just let them reference my pronouns on my fuckin resume

cuz their dumb site only had "female/male/not specified" and I really like the gender "not specified"

[solid oasis]

top ten things mal has said

[next harbor]

yeah that's really good

[grand hearth]

rude smh

[grand hearth]

Okay does anyone have an idea what to do to adjust a longsleeve shirt so that it doesn’t accentuate the chest so much

It’s a solid lime green aside from the black designs so I’m thinking I could find a material that’s the same shade, cut the sides somewhere and patch the extra fabric in to kinda give that area some slack

My ignorance when it comes to sewing/fabrics is showing lol

[winter comet]

i unfortunately do not have any input for this

i do have something to share as a quick aside tho

my husband dug up this ancient androderm that expired in 2017 while cleaning out his old room

he found out fast that he was allergic to the adhesive so its nearly a full box

[signal salmon]

i just kinda thought about this (im dumb) isnt like saying hey if someone takes like estorgen and they get effects of muscle mass moves to where it would be if you had more estorgen if sex and gender is binary why isnt there no effect or rejections of negative effects.

because the sentiment often times is its clear cut and black and white yet if it was why does hrt even work.

not to mention everyone has both est and t no matter and other things.

[signal salmon]

and of it be clear cut becuase god say so (cuz they cant use science and bio as proof.

wanna hear thoughts.

😭😭 .

[mossy gyro]

I have somewhere around 20 I think 💔

I need to find the list cause I genuinely forget them sometimes

-# it might just be me being a system too again but I use all of them regardless of who's There. they're not individual names i think

[mossy gyro]

One (1) (☝️) pronoun

[misty harness]

funny how being on estrogen at some point just makes you go "its time to get pregnant" (in a like parental way not horny way to be very clear) even though im not physically able to

worst kind of dysphoria tbh

[solid oasis]

aw this makes sense to me tbh

[jagged quiver]

we rlly are just animals arent we LOL

"pleaaase reproduce bro im begging u to reproduce bro PLEAAAASE reproduce"

[misty harness]

yeah

[jagged quiver]

ive been looking to rlly gun at getting on hrt but that shit is so scary

i would consider myself a mild dysphoria haver but expressing femininely makes me quite happy but due to it only being mild dysphoria its so like aaaaaa

hard to feel with 100% certainty that its the right choice even though i think it probably is.

[magic verge]

honestly you can just try it and if you feel like it isn't right for you later on you can stop

that sounds really fucking obvious i know i hope i don't sound patronizing 😭 i just notice that some people frame hrt as a super serious thing with a lot of finality to it and while i don't want to act like it isn't a major life event for people, it isn't inherently super weighty

i spent a long time agonizing over whether i wanted to be on hrt, and then when i moved out from my parents' place i was like "fuck it i think i want to do this" and i started T even though i wasn't too sure about it. changes started to happen a lot quicker than what i expected which made me kind of dysphoric so i took a break for a while. and then eventually after that break i decided that hrt was worth it and i just needed to adjust my regimen and now i'm back on it

if you think it might make you happier it's worth a shot, and worse case scenario you figure out it isn't your thing

[frosty sky]

today i went to a place

which is very related to whats going on here

[jagged quiver]

true

ig i hadnt considered that i could just stop 😭

[frosty sky]

Me and my dad went to a clinic to follow up on me and the staff used my prefeered name and stuff

i havent been used to that irl inna long time

[jagged quiver]

i feel like im also afraid of the reality where its not my thing but if im scared of that i guess thats a sign that it is the right thing for me 😭😭 if what i j said makes any sense at all LOL

[frosty sky]

me and a doctor who has a student shadowing was explaining me estrogen and gave me a pamphlet

[jagged quiver]

fiyurr

[frosty sky]

i kinda knew what was gonna go on but some new things hit me hard

[jagged quiver]

i sometimes find it weird to be called my preferred name

i definitely like it but depending on the person it can also be... strange

[frosty sky]

yeah

[magic verge]

it's def something that you have to get used to

your brain has to actually make the connection that this in fact is your name and people will call you that lol

[frosty sky]

Virtually most of the staff were repping pride lanyards

when i was called and they said my preffered name i got flustered for a split second and then immediately realized it was me

infront of my dad too

[magic verge]

no i get that, the uncertainty of it all makes it hard to actually take the step to figure out whether or not it'll be good for you. but then you never know unless you take the step

[frosty sky]

it was a new kind of pressure. Ngl

[magic verge]

honestly it's still bizarre to me sometimes that my parents call me by my actual name and i've been out for like 6 years 😭

[frosty sky]

names are difficult lol

[jagged quiver]

ive definitely got an uphill battle ahead of me either way

[frosty sky]

alright abt the stuff the doctor was talling me about

[jagged quiver]

i talked to my dad about it recently but i have basically not talked abt it with my mom at all for 3 years and shes j been soaking in the denial so i basically have to come out again 😭😭

and im ACTUALLY TRANSITIONING NOW!!

woopsie!

[frosty sky]

some side effects are ima say somewat scary

[jagged quiver]

absolutely

[frosty sky]

like there are too many variables

some reversible

there is one thing im realy thrilled abt

And yes that one is irriversible

[jagged quiver]

dude i NEED a pair of titties its like not even funny id look so good

[frosty sky]

the E is gonna give me HONKERS!!!! but only if i lock in long enuf

[jagged quiver]

😭😭😭

[frosty sky]

we would absolutely

[jagged quiver]

WE

brb shower...........

[frosty sky]

baibai

if ima start hrt though that means some old habits got to go automatically

Like deleted

[bronze ocean]

which ones o:

like most r easily manageable

[jagged quiver]

scheduled virtual planned parenthood hrt consultation appointment!!! i am scared as fuk!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

i hate taking action i want to stay comfortable forever

[bronze ocean]

its gonna be awesome trust

[jagged quiver]

it is a lot of emotions

[topaz rapids]

mama said I might be able to get eventually

[elder saffron]

I hate this shit so much lol it was more so prog that will cause this for me but it doubly sucks when I do actually wanna be a mother 🫠 😭

[frosty sky]

Like losing some body mass and skin getting thinner

And then the part which I get kinda petty about

is being a freaky ahh freak wont be as easy anymore

Might be a good thing if i ever be an adult anyways

I CHOOSE ACCEPT THE CONSEQUENCES (more like benefits lmao)

so i will see if the HRT really does take away the very urgent need to get in heat almost every day

[bronze ocean]

not really tbh

like it can be a lil jarring at first but u get used to it

all of those things tbh!! body mass loss is also pretty negligible overall and it doesnt happen very quickly so u can like do things to like counteract specifics

[frosty sky]

yeah i dont think i would be scared of a thing like that anyways

because

i dont wanna gain 10 pounds every year i grow anymore

that time is soooo over

[solid oasis]

Awesomee I hope all goes well for u

I hope I can go on T again at some point I’m in a weird middle where random people 70% of the time see me as a guy (esp after I talk) but hmm. I also kind of don’t want to bcs I like the mid range

Ideally I wouldn’t even be telling ppl ‘what I am’ like let’s keep it ambiguous

But what’s weird is despite all the side effects being thrown around (notably regarding reactions/mental stuff) T actually chilled me out a lot

[jagged quiver]

hrt appointment in 3 hours

https://tenor.com/view/yummy-tongue-flight-flight-reacts-excited-gif-17057509

[jagged quiver]

i LIED i was an hour off it is in fact in THIRTY MINUTES!!!

[jagged quiver]

GUESS WHO'S ON ESTROGEN

https://tenor.com/view/yummy-tongue-flight-flight-reacts-excited-gif-17057509

https://tenor.com/view/yummy-tongue-flight-flight-reacts-excited-gif-17057509

https://tenor.com/view/yummy-tongue-flight-flight-reacts-excited-gif-17057509

[next harbor]

Hahahaha that didn't take long at all!!!! There is good in this world

Good shit advocating for urself. Scary stuff

Now u just need 20 million e reminders

[bronze ocean]

LETS GOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO

[jagged quiver]

planned parenthood is goated

[solid oasis]

Omg awesome

[frosty sky]

Major Congratz

https://tenor.com/view/homura-akemi-madoka-kaname-madoka-magica-hug-looping-gif-18706912

Now we lock in for the long time FX

[elder saffron]

Hell yeah!!!!!!

[jagged quiver]

it is both exciting and scary in a way

as is any big thing in life i suppose

[frosty sky]

all we got to think about now is what result the FUTURE will bring.

[mossy gyro]

HELL FUCKING YEAH

[glacial halo]

WOOOOO

[jagged quiver]

hmm

interestingly enough i have decided to take a week before i start taking it

its weird to say exactly but i tried taking it and got really bad anxiety and while it very well could stem from doubt and fear of consequences i think its probably best to take a week just to be sure teehee

not to say i may not actually be a trans woman by any means hell no i am but i do know hrt is not for everybody and i wanna make sure thats me..

gender identity is so strange awawawawawawa

[bronze ocean]

thats fair but how will you know hrt is for your or not if you don't take it

[jagged quiver]

uhh well im gonna take a week to think on it, if im still not sure at the end of the week im gonna start taking it again and just see if i like the effects

i also kinda rushed into it which i think led to a bit of an anxiety attack w everything happening so fast lowkey

like ive been out for years but i think suddenly taking a lot of steps really really quickly freaked out my brain lol

[bronze ocean]

it's a big change i get it!!!

[solid oasis]

thats fair, prob take a week of self debate and research n stuff jic

I sort of was the same way

[frosty sky]

https://tenor.com/view/madoka-blushes-with-her-eyes-close-while-hugging-homakala-happily-gif-2443044664615946173

it is okey

[west anchor]

https://tenor.com/view/fish-spin-sha-gif-26863370

Fishé

[solid oasis]

https://www.tumblr.com/neurosnare/806811815736721408

PSYCHIC DAMAGE WEAPONIZED

🔁 batmanisagatewaydrug

re: that recent post an interesting thing about being an any pronouns user is that most cishet people will hear that and immediately go "oh thank god I can just call you the normal girl pronouns" and many queer people will go "okay got it I'll use they/them and apologize if I ever fuck up and use a different one" and it's like. okay. you're actually both kind of whiffing it in different ways.

Tumblr · Jan 26, 2026, 1:55 PM

Yeah

[loud ridge]

3 years and 11 days until I start t. I remember when it was 4 years away

[winter comet]

i always switch it up w any users

the funny thing about strictly using he/it and not being hypermasculine is that people don't want to use it/its because they prioritize optics and their own comfort over my identity and then they don't wanna use he/him because apparently i haven't earned it by way of not being man enough

so i get they/them despite my pronouns always being easily accessible along with having the auxiliary, bog standard pronoun of he/him

[magic verge]

this happens to me too it grinds my gears like crazy

[magic verge]

post assumes that the any pronouns user is tme my partner is transfem and uses any pronouns so this doesn't quite line up. i notice among our friend group people usually default to "she" for my partner which i think is to compensate for the fact that they're boymoding while early in their medical transition, but i rarely hear other people outside of my best friend use other pronouns for them

i usually try to switch like every sentence or so when referring to someone who uses any pronouns

[solid oasis]

hmm tme meaning?

wait i can just google

[magic verge]

"transmisogyny exempt" aka not transfem

[solid oasis]

ok im still confused ): OH

im still confused idk if im having trouble reading, do you mean "that recent post" as like a prior one that you know about or the post i shared itself :7 ? WAIT OH

ok i missed a singular wod

word*

ok yeah I see i think they might be referring to smth outside of what I know or speaking from their own experience (and i just personally relate hence my own rb) but yrah I still get u

and agree

[magic verge]

yeah i don't mean to say there's anything wrong w you relating in that way and i assume that that was just based on op's experience but they prolly should have said like. "in my experience" or whatever

[solid oasis]

Yea I agree, I think i skimmed it and was just like "ough i relate" share post

[magic verge]

being trans in general is somehow an invitation to other people, queer or not, to just completely misinterpret or box you into some category for their own comfort

not being binary about it does nawt help at all though 💀

[solid oasis]

yeah 💔

I think more people need to practice more awareness or something to break out of the binary shit mindset or prevent assumptions

[magic verge]

i can count on one hand the amount of queer friends i have that don't they/them me when i've explicitly told them that i don't use those pronouns

maybe two

[magic verge]

no yeah i think like. especially with other queer people they assume that because they're queer they somehow were also not raised and conditioned to accept binary gender and misogyny as the default

and then like non binary people they just kind of put into a third box

[solid oasis]

I used to have a bad habit of this tbh but breaking it usually just meant referring to em by name until u ask/check the persons' bio etc

[solid oasis]

Yeerrp

[magic verge]

i like

somehow get they/themed more often by OTHER TRANS PEOPLE than cis people

and for a period of time i would be open about using neopronouns, which obviously aren't the easiest to grasp, but like come on i'm giving you a bunch of other options and somehow you are picking something that's NOT an option

[solid oasis]

Ive always wanted to use neos but I couldnt find any or think of any that i'd identify with loll

I like my 'it

bruh i hit enter

i like my it pronoun the most

[magic verge]

i like my it #myit

[solid oasis]

#myit

[magic verge]

i also like it the most

already exists in the popular lexicon and encapsulates me better than "he"

[solid oasis]

and also same I guess they dont want to assume yet are also too afraid to ask
(whats funniest is when ppl know im obvi queer/genderfucked from a distance and they me with no hesitation but id much rather you ask still)

[solid oasis]

yas

[magic verge]

i usually make it a point to say what my pronouns are upon initially meeting another queer person

so whenever they fuck up i'm like (taps the sign)

when i'm around cis people though i just say he/him lol

[solid oasis]

urgg im around too many cis ppl at this time until i can move to the city, the few parties ive been to by extension thru my queer friends have made that a habit of theirs tho and its awesome. like idk im used to it online but not irl at all, living in a nothingburger bare-bones town mostly full of old conspiracy theorists

i cant wait till i get out of here and i will in the spring i hope!!!! the city im moving to is extremely progressive

[magic verge]

YAYYY it's so nice when you're able to consistently surround yourself with people who will not only refer to you correctly but understand you :)

i hope your move goes well!!

[solid oasis]

YA it should, things r rly gonna go uphill for me if it all goes well 🙏

[magic verge]

i miss college 💔 i was part of the board for our campus' queer student union and that was always fun

er. until the weird interpersonal drama

but never mind that

it was nice to have a consistent place to meet and hang out with other queer ppl. scheduling hangouts with my friends now after graduating hurts my brain

[frosty sky]

chat is it wrong that if i speak japanese i would have the power to deep voice myself into sounding like a jojo character

and at the same time have the capability of sounding like a anime girlfriend

i could never have this power in english ;(((

[winter comet]

real

i personally only use neos as a treat and even then my specific set still uses he

it's like using "her" in a sentence but hare instead

bc i dont like the sound of nounself personally for me

[winter comet]

also i was gonna mention this too earlier when i first read it but i was like
okay it's just this person's experience specifically so i stopped typing lol

[magic verge]

neos are like a rare treat for me too because they're there but nobody really uses them

they're a funny little sticker i put on myself. for decoration. and i'll clap my hands and giggle if someone acknowledges it

[magic verge]

for a lil bit i was doing he/hymn

or like, hy/hymn, pronounced the same as he/him but with a little bit of sauce

[winter comet]

that's fun especially since it's near undetectable verbally so you can just assume everyone is saying that lol

[frosty sky]

nameself pronouns are more based

but my self do not use em commonly

[candid ore]

literally my exact issue and it makes me want to spontaneously explode my head every time i hear they in reference to me

especially from this one tfem i know i literally cut off our friendship in part bc she uses they/them for everyone even if they explicitly dont use that (cough cough me)

i'm a big fan of one/one's as pronouns but nobody uses it 😭

i have maybe a handful of friends who call me it/its and most of the rest call me he/him

and then it's she from strangers and they from people who are kind of trying i guess

[frosty sky]

this is why i rather speak a language where pronouns aint even an issue

english is so far behind :((((

https://tenor.com/view/omori-sad-omori-depressed-omori-sad-omori-miserable-gif-7930646898008581704

[next harbor]

Yeah like why does it matter what gender my bus driver is? Why is it my business

Just fucking get me thereeee lmao

[jagged quiver]

could always be worse, you could be a spanish speaker LOL

taking spanish in college and whle i love the language holy fuck why does every word aknowledge the gender of the thing ur talking about

[left rivet]

Yeah french also has the same thing

Its just annoyingly complicated to remember

At least for me who only learns it in school

[jagged quiver]

WHO decided that a university is a girl and should be referred to as such

"la universidad" - statement of the utterly deranged

oh btw i gave myself like a pep talk and started taking my hrt again and i feel soooo shitty i got a headache i got nausea holy fak i mgonna die

who was gonna tell me hrt gives u morning sickness

[left rivet]

That sounds rough i hope you feel better 😓

Maybe talk to your doctor about it (idk much about what taking hrt feels like)

[jagged quiver]

from what ive heard its pretty normal for the first couple days/week

[left rivet]

Ok thats good

I mean not good you have to suffer but yea

Your body will probably adjust soon

[left rivet]

I always feel depressed when i go get a haircut from a hair salon and it looks like poop but when i give myself a stupid haircut im proud like i own this awful haircut

Oh yea i forgot to make this related to transdome but yea getting an official haircut from a hiar stylist always makes me feel too girl at the end so thats why i mentioned this here

[solid oasis]

I had horrible haircuts for my first few yrs of being trans openly cus i had no idea what to do w/it and now i just grew my hair out again..looks best this way i think

[winter comet]

hormonal changes do all sorts of funky things to mood and overall feeling

hang in there

[left rivet]

I think i prefer longer ish hair but my face isnt masculine enough to compensate, guess i just gotta wait til i can get hrt

[winter comet]

also yeah a lot of hairstylists that aren't queer will give you an overly feminized cut if you're percieved as a girl and want a short cut
it's not always malicious but i think they should ask what vibe instead of just going off of instinct

my mom is the only one i let cut my hair anymore

she's the only one who can layer my thick hair instead of making it look blunt and chunky

[left rivet]

Peak

[solid oasis]

Yeahh i told myself i'd grow my hair out fully once on T again and ngl this is what i want, so wahoo

I wanna pick up T again after stopping for 2 yrs but euurgh that may be awhile. I mostly just want more facial hair growth if thats possible (most grow on the sides/neck) and i am good

[grand hearth]

growing my hair out too 🤝

[solid oasis]

realness 🤝

[frosty sky]

Same thing for German

many european languages are gendered af

English doesnt but still lowkey counts imo

[left rivet]

Me when it comes to finding gender neutral language

[frosty sky]

doesn't "good guy" have the same effect?

https://tenor.com/view/crying-hurt-feelings-sad-kid-gif-17268701

[scenic falcon]

alternatively: "have I been a good bottom/top?" 🥺

[left rivet]

xD

[frosty sky]

https://cdn.discordapp.com/attachments/539934302658494474/1113730171967655967/attachment-3.gif

i wanted to use this gif for a GOOD LONG WHILE

[digital tiger]

hi trans people of machine girl

[left rivet]

Hi

[frosty sky]

im a real girl

of machine girl

https://tenor.com/view/flandre-scarlet-koishi-komeiji-machine-girl-touhou-picmix-gif-11342103289259445262

[west anchor]

Hrt anniversary tommorow

[frosty sky]

GGs mane

^_^

[loud ridge]

About the haircut thing, I’m considering getting my hair cut soon but like I looked really ugly last time

Like Karen cut

[frosty sky]

i hear karens got replaced by jessicas now

[loud ridge]

Does anyone else have certain days where they feel a bit more cis than usual? I feel like I’ll look really ugly if medically I transition and I’ll never be a “real “ man to most cis people and, I also feel as if I’m just meant to be a man from the start .. but like

Like I’m scared to figure out

An eternal state of confusion pretty much

Deep down I feel like I’m a man and I see myself as one in the mirror but I’m scared to accept it

When I think about transitioning , high school boys come to my mind and I don’t want to be like that but I do

[solid oasis]

(sidenote: I mightve misread this and went on a tangent but hope it helps anyway lol)
Tbh i combat this with a sort of thinking that most people are id'ing with a gender binary that hurts them and focusing on "passing" just adheres more to that system, what matters most imo is that you're comfortable in your own skin and respected at a basis. Capitalism feeds on this strict/ridiculous binary too but its a lot to delve into. Some people will never see u as a "real one" no matter how strictly you adhere to all the checkmarks once they "know"

that said though I get the anxiety abt it and being perceived as weirdly a lot; I already am in some places/around some people but those interactions are also hard to take seriously, most dont care and just value you if you're nice as a person. if they really see it as that big of a problem (the "weirdness"/them seeing ppl as "ugly") that is a them issue that they need to dismantle

so I guess my advice is try not to pass based on public perception but rather what you best lean towards yourself ? I think, and then worry about perception next but friends and likeminded queer people (or good people in general) should always respect u regardless and thats the company you should keep or strive for. also if you have brothers in your family or amab figures in general you can kinda reference from them as to "how you'd look on t", genetics and all

and then again on T you can always stop but some things are permanent, like facial hair growth and your voice deepening for example (which are also quick to happen)

buuuut its a big it depends on the person

lots of edits / big yap damn but yeah

that said my words are going to be ass here probably, but I think there's some case to be made with how we live in a patriarchal society/trans guys? like speaking from my own experience here i'd realized that my wish to originally transition was mainly to escape the "stereotyping" of femininity / "benefit" from being masculine in that regard but i realized that kind of isnt what i wanted and I didn't want to partake in that kind of uhhh, perception?

I do want to be visually more "in between" and im glad i achieved that confusion bcs altogether im just I Dont Want to adhere to a gender role now i want to be genderqueer/nonconforming in general. i am just weird/queer in gen. queird. Most characters I write on or attach to now have a form of genderfuckery even if it be some form of "denial" against a binary system bcs i love exploring it i love trans ppl etc everyone is beaitufol

me whenn my relationship with gender is a weird one

[frosty sky]

no waaay

i get those days too

but it's those days when im dormant.

[left rivet]

Stuff you guys are saying is kinda relatable to me maybe cause a lot of originally transitioning was also me hoping to be more masculine/man, even now though im constantly wishing i was a man, like im definitely not a woman but for some reason in my mind its like the end goal is to be more masculine even though logically i dont think thats really me, i realize that a lot of my issues is probably just from how femininity was presented to me growing up that when i cant force myself to be more masculine its like im failing in a way

Anyways depressing stuff aside at least being around other non binary people gives me a bit more confidence when it comes to this stuff

None of this stuff matters in public anyways cause i still get she herd 😭

[loud ridge]

I get really happy when I’m called he/ sir and I don’t know why

[candid ore]

i am a FAKE girl

my gender is polygender (strong man and evil fake girl)

[topaz rapids]

my gender is: “I can’t be bothered”

(but here’s some pronouns if you don’t mind)

[frosty sky]

https://tenor.com/view/boysmell-felix-argyle-gif-26829323

Should I test your strength?

https://tenor.com/view/beat-saber-gif-21099706

im only strong at this (🧢)

[pale umbra]

https://cdn.discordapp.com/attachments/1348009008333717527/1465758192989503590/1310275469509394502.gif

[spring lynx]

real
used to identify more fem but now i just go with any pronouns genderfluid.
androgynous tomboy type shit

[wheat mesa]

i spent months to years trying to figure out what it was so i decided i dont care anymore im just going with "trans"

[scenic falcon]

how did some of you peeps find your new names?

[signal salmon]

i got it from my username 😭 in most games as a kid

and my was victo username was becuase i didnt like my deadname even before i realized i was trans but i liked names beginning with v felt special

shortened from victor real smart am i right?

[left rivet]

I just wanted a water sounding name cause of being obsessed with a character who likes diving

[spring lynx]

i was obsessed with angels, so i found an angel-themed name that fit me

[frosty sky]

my irl name was actually a nickname that was given to me in some homophobic server i nuked years ago

But a lil later i claimed it as my own and modified some aspects to it

But in the internet, kouhai originated even much earlier. I was a weeb back then who likes anime and such, but calling myself "senpai" didnt quite fit me

[solid oasis]

for this current one (snare) it was sort of a take on "ensnared" due to personal stuff that'd be long to explain tbh, also just sounds cool. to rope in or whatever

[spring lynx]

tbh i thought it was about drums

rly cool meaning tho !

[solid oasis]

Yea lol it'd make sense here to assume its music related which i dont mind either

[frosty sky]

Drums my beloved

[glacial halo]

I am having so much transmasc nonbinary euphoria rn

[glacial halo]

I have a lot so uhh
I got Elliot because of all the time I've spent around Forsaken fans no joke
Casey becauss it was a name my parents considered before I was born and unlike my deadname it is not feminine
Castor is a star in my zodiac constellation
All others are just names I saw and liked

[wheat mesa]

stole them from other people or characters

[candid ore]

https://tenor.com/view/creature-bert-mccracken-the-used-gif-5133210930033145456

from my goat

[pale umbra]

https://tenor.com/view/ellen-ripley-sigourney-weaver-gif-9592444949888127032

[umbral trench]

ykw, I am not trans at all, at least for now, but like I literally have imagined that I would look like a huge nerd with nerdy shirts, a plaid shirt, and a full beard if I was a guy

[left rivet]

Peak

You dont need to be a guy though to look like a huge nerd xd

[mossy thicket]

ALIEN MENTIONED

[pale umbra]

https://tenor.com/view/scene-scene-queen-xenomorph-alien-emo-gif-8577357098878507825

[broken prism]

I got Nova because of looking at a list of names and liking the fact it both had something to do with stars (which i loved) but also it meaning "new" which I thought made sense with me freshly discovering that i was (at least at the time) non-binary

[winter comet]

my husband has both binders

[jagged quiver]

yk ive been so irritable and anxious lately and i j attributed it to like big life decisions blah blah then i remembered like

IM ON HRT

I AM FUCKING UP MY HORMONES

I AM CHOOSING TO GO THROUGH PUBERTY AGAIN

why is this the cost of the metamorphosis.

[frosty sky]

Chat ima get serious for a moment

I think i gave myself an unethical euphoria hack

because i was talking with my father about trans stuff and how i could end up regretting it and stuff

and i thought..

shiiiiiiiii....

i could be a femboy

but then

if i become a femboy

i turn into a girl

and for me

girl is good

And in a few months I reach 18

and I start taking hormones and get all the effects

AND THEN

become a femboy

Can this make me the ultimate GIRL?

let me know in the comments down below! ^_<

[spring lynx]

if you transition hard enough you can be transmasc and transfem

ive reached a point with my genderfluidity where im addressed as both sir and maam and, every single time, the person addressing me as such isnt even sure

[golden plover]

Femboy and femgirl so hard you become the ultimate fem

[cobalt hollow]

I just barely came out today :3

[misty harness]

i mean femboy as a term implies non-girlness, like its cool if thats a word someone identifies but its a really loaded term that means different things to different people

its not a step towards becoming transfemme necessarily, its a thing on its own

this is why labels are a fuck

[spring lynx]

conversely you can also just label yourself whatever you want
whatever makes you happy etc etc

thats how i landed on identifying as genderfluid rather than trans

[elder saffron]

Ive decided to redo my voice training so I can have a lower fem sounding voice

A lot of it as to do with my larynx feeling strained too which is a bad habit Ive had for years which is proving difficult to break since I default to a higher pitch

[left rivet]

Ohh gl!

[frosty sky]

https://tenor.com/view/hitomi-shizuki-madoka-magica-pmmm-magia-record-yuri-gif-24397332

yes its very true

i tried that one time and it worked stunningly

This is because I have magigirl powers

it's lowkey true that i dont believe i'm trans or genderfluid

But instead half a girl with the other half being whatever I want (mainly xeno)

[frosty sky]

the only label that i truly need is: my name and future classic >:3

i cant wait till i get on a label

im on one net label so far but i need moooooore

(FEED ME)

[solid oasis]

Tbh Im like errr scratches head because I was always told this was like, a bad term in the online spaces I’ve been but I guess it depends on the person on whether they’d like to claim it or not? Also words change w/the times and whatever but I’m like hmm just stepping back to see how people talk about it here

Like I recall in other discords I’ve been you’d be barked at if you’d say it unironically but this is a bit diff + in recent years people are using it more? Like in an actualized identity sense as opposed to uh well the Other thing. If I make sense

[frosty sky]

Before i thought Femboys kinda had a inappropriate reputation

but then i saw like queer people looking completely different and that corrected me a shit ton

Also i heard Femboys can like girls and even be girls?

One way or the other?

yep, labels are dangerous.

I think my thinking is somwhat clear yet corroded now.

Should I make a contract and sell my soul to become the thing I thought I wanted? or should I keep my body and crave the feeling of LARPing it?

Decisions Decisions

well then i sleep on it and live my life till the time comes.

[misty harness]

my point was that femboy doesnt have one definition, if you like the term embrace it but dont let it define you

[loud ridge]

I feel guilty for being trans

I could have been a beautiful daughter that my mom has always wanted

[winter comet]

parents need to be able to check their expectations when they have children

their children may be disabled either at birth or in future, their children may choose to not observe the same religion as them or lack of, their children may be queer

these are all things parents should resolve with themselves instead of making their children feel wrong for existing in the world authentically

it's not your fault

[frosty sky]

shiiiiiii

Only one thing to do is be myself and let myself define me lol

[loud ridge]

I just want my parents to like me again

[frosty sky]

my dad resolved with my idea of thinking that i am the opposite gender since birth

[loud ridge]

Ever since my sister told my parents about the fact that I’m trans they always blame me for everything that goes wrong

[frosty sky]

Although he did not support it

Which ngl i dont mind either

[loud ridge]

My sister was in a queer friend group so I thought it was safe

[frosty sky]

better than hateful

[frosty sky]

Aint that called outing?

somewhat?

[loud ridge]

Hmm what is outing again?

[frosty sky]

Like the action of leaking to people that someone are queer or trans (or something of that sort) without their permission

[loud ridge]

I think so

I explicitly told her not to tell anyone

[frosty sky]

yep she outed you.

im sorry.

[loud ridge]

The worst thing is that some people say that trans people won’t ever be “real” men/woman like shut the hell up

[frosty sky]

thats like a big crime actually

socially

very big

[loud ridge]

I was scared because my family are maga cishet Christian conservatives

https://tenor.com/view/man-praying-black-man-praying-black-man-praying-and-crying-man-praying-and-crying-gif-23376408540985609

[frosty sky]

If that was actually correct then tv, movie, and video game characters would have gotten the same treatment :/

why dont they huh?

[loud ridge]

It sucks because society makes boxes

And if you don’t fit into the box others essentially act as if they have the “right” to ridicule you (from what Iv seen)

[loud ridge]

I think it’s because they can’t change video game characters,for a lack of a better word

[frosty sky]

its funny how ppl get mad at someone else for just being

[loud ridge]

A lot of people only like what makes THEM comfortable

[frosty sky]

especially if virtually no harm is being done

[loud ridge]

Some of those people act as if acts of violence and hate are jokes btw !! It’s disgusting

[frosty sky]

well my dad did tell me to research the truths and realities of gender stuffs. i wish me luck on the things ima find

[frosty sky]

I guess maybe those people are WAY more confused than even us ourselves

[loud ridge]

mhm

[frosty sky]

What more than to commit crimes that make a concept of God happy?

It aint worth it two years from now

[loud ridge]

I respect almost everyone (a few exceptions)

[frosty sky]

But here we got people who want to plan their OWN personal things for atleast 5+ years to maybe grow or thrive

but instead face worse consequences

[loud ridge]

I made cross ornaments as a gift to my family and they still get mad at me

It’s a way for me to say “I support you, will you support me?”

[frosty sky]

sometimes i feel guilty bout my family life

[loud ridge]

It’s never your fault if your family is mad for being yourself

[frosty sky]

My family deadnames me, but they know about my identity

[loud ridge]

That’s really fucked up

[frosty sky]

Theyre nice to me, my mom buys me cool clothes i ask for

and i think my dad teaches me random things?

[loud ridge]

For my mom it’s kinda like losing the first decision she made for me

I get that but still

it’s not okay to deadname someone

[frosty sky]

Funny thing is it wasnt the first time i had my name changed

when i was little my parents called me by my middle name

then one time in fourth grade someone called me by that and i crashed out

i bit someone and ended up suspended in school for a day

[loud ridge]

All of my real life friends call me by my preferred name so I’m at the stage where I get a bit confused if I get called my deadname

[loud ridge]

Wlfgrl energy HELP

I used to climb trees on the playground

[frosty sky]

my IRL friends did that except one but that one ended up horrifically

he turned maga and shit

[loud ridge]

Eughh

[frosty sky]

after the election we drifted apart

and then another IRL friend, who also went out of reach for a different reason

[loud ridge]

I hate how if one trans person commits a crime, EVERY trans person inherits that reputation for a bit

[frosty sky]

three of us were on a discord vc

i said nothing

for a bit

I wanted to introduce them

but

the maga friend got chewed out a ton

by my other friend

[loud ridge]

thank goodness

[frosty sky]

and i think that broke him for a long time

[loud ridge]

I’m back and forth between chatting here and doing my stupid CHUD math homework

[frosty sky]

fast forward one year later, his mom met with my mom

hours after i got my dreads done

and

his mental health declined horribly

So i might be at the stage if anything bad happens to him I might be the first one the cops or whatever agency looks for

might not matter how many years later

as along with the other friend, they broke up with me and drifted away for many out of control reasons

only thing we did was fuck around on vrchat and stay after school a lot

[dull raft]

the canidae urge to tell the admins at my school (and inadvertently my parents as well) its basil now. ____ got lost in the woods long ago" just so i can walk on the stage at graduation with a name i recognize

i dont even respond to my deadname anymore

and yet my parents still think i go by they/them

when really im just too scared of what will happen to me if i say im trans and i wish i werent even a human

[candid ore]

i'm probably in a lot "better" of a situation but this reminds me i'm going to be starting the process of changing my name legally a month before i graduate and i swear to GAWD if i have to order a new diploma right after graduation because my school didnt bother to reorder one with the right name i'm going to crash out

it's especially worse bc my graduation got pushed FORWARD by TWO WEEKS because they TOOK OUR SPRING BREAK for the shitass construction my school is doing 😍😭😭

im actually so cooked next year im basically exclusively going to be in AP classes (my choice) AND no spring break AND construction in the sTUDENT PARKING LOT

[dull raft]

good luck bro 🥹

[loud ridge]

I’m scared of transitioning socially and medically because I want to be a pilot/engineer and my chance of getting hired goes down a lot of a company sees that I’m trans

but like I don’t think it would be an issue if I look man enough and look cis

[frosty sky]

isnt it weird my music making skills enhance my girl powers

chat if you make any kind of art or music make sure it is euphoric guys it makes life 100 billion times better no matter what level of despair you are in

make sure to fill your algorithm up with healthy propaganda

^_^

start spam liking yaoi/yuri posts or something <3

if i say yaoi i will look like an unc so spam your algorithm with BL and GL guys ^_^

[spring lynx]

unless youre set on being a pilot, just go for it

[loud ridge]

I REALLY want to be a pilot

[spring lynx]

pilot gets risky bc they are fuckin weird abt things

theres a few trans pilots out there
apparently it rly depends on the flight school you go to as well if youre going that route

speaking from experience as a trans engineer with a few friends dealing with shit
if youre trans and wanna transition medically and socially (and its physically safe enough for you to do so), just go for it
youll deal with stupid bullshit either way you go

[loud ridge]

True true..

[misty harness]

no matter how much you want a career, you're probably not going to find work as affirming as being your true self 100% of the time

[frosty sky]

we live at a time when acceptance is incomplete

yall do you think in the future it will be easier to be transgender due to the technology advancements

[next harbor]

yes, absolutely

it's inevitable that it gets better as more people who give a fuck will give a fuck further!

damn I think I assumed that u meant socially but now I realize you may have just meant technologically, which is also yes!

[signal salmon]

i always say do whats most safe, if you need stay closeted so be it. but counter it with a safe place u can 100% be urself

[next harbor]

Maybe even for the same reasons? idk there's so much science and creativity for problem solving that is -not- happening because wonderful, wild freaks like us are being forced to waste away while Jennifer, age 59, shouts at them n shit

[signal salmon]

to quote a friend of mine, we need to wait for the old men to die out

[next harbor]

apparently we can't even do that anymore!!!!

[signal salmon]

ight who showed them the fountain of youth?

[next harbor]

🪷

[spring lynx]

technology wont save anyone in the way you probably mean but it will make it a lot easier
already has in terms of being able to find support structures/mutual aid efforts in non-traditional places

[solid oasis]

Truth truth

If we deconstruct society’s view on gender / the gender binary it’d help sm people tbh

Also after forever I think I’m starting to embrace the “nonbinary” label more than agender but hmm much to thiiink about

Nb sounds more “challenging” in its description vs agender which is like “just none”, idk

[magic verge]

being agender is technically being non binary but semantics aside pick whatever descriptor suits you

like. the black stripe in the nby flag is for agender people

[solid oasis]

Oh oh :y

[magic verge]

if you don't feel like being agender encapsulates your experience as much as the broader non binary label, that's fair

i disagree with the idea that agender as a term is somehow less challenging or compelling than non binary but that's just perspective

[frosty sky]

true true... because mistakes and stuff

[solid oasis]

Yea that’s just my personal take n read I def get other ppl cna have versatile onions

I like to overthink words

[magic verge]

this is fair

[mossy thicket]

I got gender affirmed by annoying teenagers

After coming home from mg concert

Some dude asked for my number and said "hey lady" as a joke, and then his friend was like "that's a dude" 😭

A win is a win I guess

[loud ridge]

Does anyone have suggestions of good binder brands?

[golden plover]

I suspect that values will move left after so many scandals with the right-wing, and that will help too.

[frosty sky]

SPEAKING OF SCANDALS....

[signal salmon]

I misread that as sandals.

it's midnight here would explain alot gn transdome

[frosty sky]

guys did you know being sleepy = drunk?

i know this because i drive long distances in a rural road on a permit and my ass gets sleepy sometimes :c

[solid oasis]

what kinda long distance

but yeah id rather pull over and nap at a weird location rather than uhh risk driving tired, ive made some long distance travels before

[frosty sky]

everywhere i drive is like 6 to 10+ miles

except for school (which i dont anymore because im online)

[solid oasis]

oghh same

well my daily work commute is like

well (one way)

hopefully changes soon when I move

[frosty sky]

my dad works all nighters for a living

many times

which is why i end up driving a lot

[candid ore]

https://spectrumoutfitters.us/ this is where i got mine, theyre swim safe and bind super well!!! im a dd and it still makes me sooo flat :3

[loud ridge]

Ooo tysm

[solid oasis]

I can vouch for them yup

underworks too

I use a combo of trans tape and binding tbh idk how uhhh healthy that is but it feels better and looks better

[loud ridge]

Iv heard of trans tape, but what is it exactly?

[spring lynx]

its essentially body tape
you can use it to shape contours and such

also help keep things in place

[solid oasis]

Yeah I like it because it doesnt compress the ribs as well but its a little trickier to deal with in a few ways

[loud ridge]

Do binders have something to tighten them in the back?

because I’m worried about it getting stretched out

[solid oasis]

they do tend to stretch out overtime and usually they dont come with anything to tighten them (the ones that do that ive looked into usually are harmful but i forgot exactly why)

you just have to be careful about how you wash it

my underworks binder has been alright for about 5 months now

[candid ore]

i like it for other people but in my many attempts to use (name brand) transtape it hasnt done anything except give me rashes 😭 i've heard pretty often that the name brand is ineffective on larger chests though + i have sensitive skin

[solid oasis]

I have larger chest n excema lol (I forgot measurements but uhh I usually have to order 3xl/2xl for everything in regards to this)

it REALLY depends on the person tho and it can be difficult to work with until you figure out ur own method but with this sort of thing you gotta figure out what works for you best anyhow

[digital geyser]

yeah the general rec is to size up i think

[solid oasis]

Yeah I forgot to say I assumed its generally known lol

[jagged quiver]

i wear an xl in mens and switching to an xxl in womens has been humbling

[loud ridge]

I’m a small in everything pretty much

I’m only allowed to buy in the women’s section as of now, and my waist is really small but my legs are pretty long so most of the time I end up having to modify pants so they actually fit me

it’s annoying

[signal salmon]

wait is that why sometimes the clothes i pick dont fit me? cuz i might be getting a womens one?

[loud ridge]

Men’s and women’s sizing are different

[signal salmon]

that would make sense? tho is that everywehre or in the us or eu?

[loud ridge]

Like a medium in women’s could be a small in men’s

it also depends on the brand

[signal salmon]

oh? i thought it was the other way around that a mens small would be a womens medium?

[loud ridge]

OH YEAH SORRY

[signal salmon]

oh okay 😭.

[loud ridge]

I think it’s time for me to start saving up to buy an ACTUAL binder

The swimsuit diy one worked fine for a day but after that it stretched out quite a bit

And so I decided to make the binder a bit smaller

Then it didn’t bind anymore, it was just tight

[loud ridge]

I know for a fact I’m getting money for my birthday

Wait

Do banks track your purchases

and like

Websites

[bronze ocean]

hdym track

they track who's paying who like which accounts and also information about that transfer but generally the actual invoice is not something that's being tracked but like idk maybe its different in other places

[loud ridge]

i meant like, can they tell where / what you purchased?

[spring lynx]

usually yes
there are some companies that are more discreet and usually state so
some also offer it as an option but it depends on the vendor

[loud ridge]

Thats awesone

[golden plover]

Yes, they also usually have a page where you can view all your purchases and details about them

[glacial halo]

I feel really masc today but I'm wearing a skirt and that's pretty cool

[cobalt hollow]

hello guys:3

[pale umbra]

hai

love you transdome

[mossy thicket]

Hello

[digital tiger]

hi hello trans people of machine girl

[frosty sky]

This is a certified [trans] classic

[candid ore]

transdome loves you

[pale umbra]

https://tenor.com/view/steamhappy-bounce-gif-4494413053043569714

[next harbor]

One of the best weapons we have against transphobes is trans joy!!

the other is bricks

[mossy thicket]

https://tenor.com/view/ulate-moth-trans-moth-moth-light-lamp-gif-1241474945407470801

[frosty sky]

ngl i might be an irregularity

before i turned into a girl i didn't think i was in the wrong body

instead my body is in the wrong me

unfortunately it would have stayed that way if i didn't turn ugly (in the bad way). though im kinda thankful i discovered the method after a years worth of denial

[bronze ocean]

the transphobic gnomes:

[grand hearth]

If a trans gender falls in the woods, do they make a sound?
(Yes)
(They say OWIE)

[frosty sky]

Do trans people become duty bound to fight for their wish to be granted like magical girls do? /gen

[winter comet]

not me

[frosty sky]

https://tenor.com/view/kyubey-kyubey-saturday-madoka-magica-gif-12183489370074342192

[candid ore]

actually i dont say owie i say YEEOUCH!

[left rivet]

I got such a bad habit of saying ow to stuff that when something random happens unrelated to being hurt like im writing and made a mispelling i say ow in my head for no reason

Before im like wait… that makes no sense

[solid oasis]

same its also gotten to the point where i have to explain after that "it didnt actually hurt i just say that as a reaction"

[left rivet]

Lol im glad its not just me

[candid ore]

i say ow in response to loud sounds

evebn if they arnet actually that loud

[frosty sky]

if any of yall have that habit, then do not get in VR and touch things.

[left rivet]

Huh why?

[frosty sky]

PHANTOM SENSE

(imagine 3d text)

[digital tiger]

this is how i feel all of the time

[scenic falcon]

White mokona ahh creature 💀

Oh yea does anyone know how to dress in a medieval yet modern guy style? Like renfaire but for everyday life? There arent that many resources for it yet I am SICK of dressing like a metaphorical square. I wanna b whimsy frfr

[winter comet]

i follow a few people who dress in androgynous/masculine historical inspired clothing

they don't have any styling videos, but if you look up kaz rowe on instagram they have a lot of butch outfits ranging from all sorts of periods in western history

marlowe lune draws a lot of history inspired mascs

and incandescent kiki has a playlist about styling, they do both fem and masc looks

https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLrkXm99WpyDEVZe_6X9osT-enOLVvxIwW&si=ydU0xGnhB4nz9Bnk

they're probably your best bet for fantasy medieval stuff

[scenic falcon]

Thank you homie/homit 🙏

[frosty sky]

i read that as Vomit

https://tenor.com/view/anime-death-decay-withering-erosion-gif-25794105

[grand hearth]

when they ask your favorite BIYAAHEYSF song

[scenic falcon]

I didn't realize how that word was 1 letter away from vomit 💀 I was tryna respec its pronouns

[scenic falcon]

Wait a min...if homie is he/him and homit is it/its, then what's homer?

[golden plover]

A homie

[scenic falcon]

https://tenor.com/view/ahoklollmao-of-course-ohhhh-oh-that-makes-sense-gif-11896286840118452668

[golden plover]

https://tenor.com/view/marge-gif-19903610

[frosty sky]

Simp/son

https://tenor.com/view/homura-bonk-madoka-magica-magia-exedra-gif-14344126874081499686

[frosty sky]

https://tenor.com/view/neko-arc-uzumaki-pfp-skirmiz-gif-13634451971233001600

litraly me

https://tenor.com/view/uzumaki-kirie-junji-ito-confused-gif-7670951113886207346

the anime needs a remaster...

an entire re write

[grand hearth]

homie usually ends up being pretty gender neutral from my experience

[timid grail]

does anyone else struggle a lot with being a gnc trans person and all the hatred and weirdness that comes w that. especially bc i honestly don't see clothing as gendered i see it as clothing and i like wearing clothing that looks cool that i like but i get gender assigned to me based on a freaking piece of cloth it sucks!!!!! i just want to wear what i want and i do but its frustrating

i'm honestly a lot happier presenting how i want and expressing myself through clothing i like, and going on hormones made me feel more comfortable doing that. i think i was a lot more unhappy presenting in a way where i was just trying to avoid being misgendered

[solid oasis]

I found it more liberating to identify with being gnc recently outside of the cases where I have to “choose” based on what I’m perceived as in certain settings

But yeah I hate that everything down to clothing/etc is super binary lol it makes shopping so awkward sometimes

I’m sure people here relate tho

[frosty sky]

Me with my clothes is like a roulette

when i pick the right ones i look good

until i look in the mirror at a certain angle

and now i cant unsee it

and now it looks weird

[left rivet]

I relate

But usually i feel really happy with how i look at home but then in public i see so many issues suddenly

[grand hearth]

real

[frosty sky]

this is a certified [transgender] classic

so i clocked someone in a discord server today

I really dont know how to girl voice

[frosty sky]

except when i record

[cobalt hollow]

nah I’m a girl I just look like a guy lol

[cobalt hollow]

and by that I mean I’m a trans girl 😋

[empty goblet]

i recommend to every single trans person in the united states a very get a VPN!

https://www.ivpn.net/en/

Your privacy and security are important! At a time where innocent people are being treated as if they have done harm, it is important to take precautions to protect yourself.

If you have public facing social media, consider making it private!

If there are apps that use your location, consider changing those settings!

I recommend also disabling face ID, and using encrypted messaging applications for private communications such as Signal!
https://signal.org/

[solid oasis]

TY I’ve been slacking on this stuff honestly but I should get on top of it while I have the downtime. Will be looking into these thank u

I might share two vids I saw as well as for app settings and such
(Actually this was one post, the other video sketched me out a bit / seemed like an advertisement so I won’t share that one)

[solid oasis]

Big post but yeah

[frosty sky]

As a magical girl the only thing i got is my soul. Becyz who really got to give af about a body!!!

now that ive been made aware bout privacy i deleted my fitpics

Im a concept now

There is no person behind this screen anymore.

[jagged quiver]

thank you beloved II sky interactive employee

[solid oasis]

yknow I think im going to start relying more on tape because man the Rib Hurt has become real due to binder use

its just more pricey

but way more comfortable if done correctly

[grand hearth]

real

it’s not even rib hurt for me I have chronic pain that concentrates itself around my neck and shoulders and wearing binders/sports bras doesn’t help

[solid oasis]

fuuuc

[grand hearth]

release me from my suffering

[solid oasis]

I really wish I could just be boobed and not get weird looks but its at that point now, sometimes i can just get away with wearing a big coat tho

[grand hearth]

I think at some point I’ll have to get a top surgery for quality of life

I’m a little scared about that though. and what the pain of recovery would be like

[solid oasis]

big sameee, either that or somehow kill off my social anxiety ab it (because tbh my dysphoria around it only comes from perception? like id be fine if people Didnt Care about Guy with Boobs. So even if i really wanted to commit to trying to obtain it (like I have before) it is expensive/complicated to get done (i am very busy despite being online a lot)

recovery really varies by what I hear but if you have chronic pain thats definitley a bigger thing to debate

I hear that its mostly that you cant move your forearms for 2 weeks

wait not forearm what, upper arm

Yeah on second thought I think i'd rather not get surgery altogether just because I only really bind in public/when im around people whod "care too much" otherwise im fine

but thats me

[winter comet]

i have shattered old trans man binder ribs

the binder i use is a quite loose binder and it still fucks me up bc my body just has like
pain memory

[mossy thicket]

God I don't think I could handle a binder, I'm a very active guy and would probably disintegrate the second I move in one of them

A store in my area sells "boob tape", not marketed towards trans people but it works and is made the exact same way as regulaf trans tape

[grand hearth]

I’ve considered getting a men’s compression shirt to see if it could flatten me a bit while not being crazy uncomfortable

[mossy thicket]

I forgot that existed

[inland schooner]

After awhile legit just wearing a binder that barely even fit (too big) gave me acid reflux

[frosty sky]

All this binder talk has gotten me sp00ked….

I wish you best of luck in this because i physically can’t experience it 🙏🙏🙏 /srs

[runic fable]

Have any of you guys thought you were trans only to try it out and realize you don’t really like the concept of gender in the first place and just would rather not

[solid oasis]

yeah me

[frosty sky]

probably why i do not identify as trans at all

I should not have to automatically join the clan just because i do not stick to the traditional roles >_<

[next harbor]

Consider if u will that trans can also just mean someone who doesn't identify with what they were given at birth

[frosty sky]

Would that mean nonbinary and genderfluid and whatever people also got to be trans?

[next harbor]

Ya!

[frosty sky]

https://tenor.com/view/whine-tantrums-anime-gif-14076939

Nooooo Nooooo Noooooooooooooo!!!!

[next harbor]

I have a nonbinary flag above my and my he/they icon and I's bed

we run with this cuz it's more about an umbrella term in a specific way

[frosty sky]

https://tenor.com/view/hmph-hmph-anime-tsundere-gif-25758864

[next harbor]

¯_(ツ)_/¯

[frosty sky]

Well I dont Use it….

[solid oasis]

yeah

it just means not cis

[frosty sky]

I reject it!

RRRAAAAAAH

[solid oasis]

trans gender for everybody .............! (/ref)

[frosty sky]

I am a Magical Girl

I signed up to be a GIRL

Why is it so haaaaard to be a GIRL on EARTH?!

https://tenor.com/view/colors-wit-studio-pairo-colors-gif-comp-sci-transition-boy-to-girl-anime-gif-1324653471667193829

Human bodies are bullshit.

No matter who you are.

[bronze ocean]

i enjoy being agender and trans :)

[pale umbra]

transcend, transdome

[runic fable]

I’m a transgender umbrella ☂️

[frosty sky]

im a waveform

i am girl and i am machine

and i am magic

Transform!!!

[pale umbra]

machine girl

is about a girl

who is also

a machine

[frosty sky]

you will always be a wolf girl to me

[pale umbra]

https://cdn.discordapp.com/attachments/1312993706701492256/1386913185172291666/da6de031-6b13-47e3-b051-ae01b5ad21dc.webp

[candid ore]

thinking ab how rainbow six siege of all games has some of the best trans rep of like any game ive ever played

especially since the 2 trans characters are voiced by trans actors and the nonbinary character is voiced by a nonbinary actor

[elder saffron]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Zq3Ws-Zf26I Pretty interesting video

[signal salmon]

osa and sens?

[candid ore]

them and tubarao

[signal salmon]

wait i thought tubby was a cis guy? 😭 this is news to me

holy shit i looked it up and yeah thats true 😭.

oml

im suprised no one talked abit it?

everyone complained about osa and sens

[candid ore]

mostly bc tubby's identity isnt mentioned directly in the game, it's only been confirmed in the dbd collab, from his va, and there's a scene in a comic where u can see his top scars :3

ive seen a few people in the r6 discord ask how tubby has a beard if hes trans too 😭

[signal salmon]

no way someone asked that 😭.

[winter comet]

i think a lot of younger people are not being taught that trans is not a binary identity and doesn't even have to be a prescribed one
it literally is just a descriptor to mean possibly any gender experience or identity separate from cisgender

nonbinary is not inherently separate from transgender
there are nb people who don't use the word to describe themselves and that's their prerogative but nonbinary identity is still under the umbrella

i see this misconception a lot

it's also interesting why people seem to want to divorce themselves from the umbrella
but nonbinary people and binary trans people still use a lot of the same resources, share the same spaces (we're all in the transdome, for an example) and suffer similar issues

[candid ore]

unfortunately transmed ideology spreads very quickly in a time where we want a reason to believe there is someone causing our oppression aside from our oppressors, whether the scapegoat is lesboys, neopronouns, or just nonbinary people as a whole

slightly different from what you were talking about but i think relevant

[winter comet]

yea i'm having a convo in a separate server where someone said they hesitate to use the label trans just bc they don't plan to medically transition and i added this

[frosty sky]

https://tenor.com/view/danganronpa-kyoko-kirigiri-after-school-lesson-gif-6483675630744807798

Deadass probably the reason why im getting recommended therapy >_<

Yall do what you gotta do, please take ZERO offense from this... but i cant deny i wanna divorce from the umbrella so bad because i cant help but cringe or feel insecure af

[solid oasis]

I'm not exactly offended but moreso curious to what would lead you to feel that way, because it may be indication on something to be dismantled within yourself? Like to embrace "cringe" and all, I know in recent years the rep online with transness has regressed in areas and I certainly don't want it to "work" in a way; as in make people feel uncomfortable or like they're cringe for being trans

Regressed as in, there's still a prominent hostility to be noted and on some brainrotted platforms trans ppl have become the butt of a lot of jokes again

[frosty sky]

ehhh IRL i faced some bullshit when i was starting high school

all i could describe it was a phase of being straight up hateful but also edgy, and confused at the same time

[solid oasis]

It helped me personally to know trans ppl have existed for all of human history, its just that between culture shifts and all within society it can become unappealing as a descriptor (lack of better words agh)

[frosty sky]

and i looked ugly af

[solid oasis]

Oh I see

eh I dont even see "ugliness" in ppl (itd help us all to get over it or "own it") but i totally get that awareness of how others perceive

[frosty sky]

my hatefulness still relapses in huge numbers but its VERY internalized

[solid oasis]

thats understandable

[frosty sky]

if i got in a group that has something to with anything LGBT, part of me, hell even a whole of me gets grossed out

but then i actively try to get in it because what else do i gotta do

right now im literally sweating and stressing over ts so bad i might get smelly

[solid oasis]

It seems it may be a sort of fight inside you of learned stigmatization vs. encountering people who are more mask-off and free about it amongst eachother to create a sort of supportive group. I get where it'd be like, uncanny to kind of see with what sentiments you may have been taught, but no one is truly being hurt, just exploring their identities. Ofc I dont know you enough to conclude how exactly to go about dismantling this, I get where you're coming from bcs I was in a similar place way back.
It helps to kind of take a step back and just understand that these r just people enjoying themselves and feeling more liberated in doing so, so groups of these type can become strong especially as it surrounds a sort of euphoria against a society that largely wants to rip them apart. it'd be weird to perceive as an an outsider who'd be taught to feel disgusted but it takes some exposure and questioning yourself on said sentiments

I think that if you actively seek to differ from your "assigned" gender, it'd do you and others greatly not to lean into those trying to suppress you or make you feel horrible over it. It's all a distortion in their eyes taught down by other distorted people who are convinced it's a problem, despite what has been proven to "come naturally" to some (as in transitioning)
strict gender roles in a society imo only make trans ppl more prevalent lol

major yap, I just ended up thinking deeply on this stuff a bit

[frosty sky]

literally a psychowar!?

[solid oasis]

Y E S

I kept thinking that HELP

[frosty sky]

awwwww shiiiiiiit

[solid oasis]

challenging urself is largely the theme of psychowarrior after all

[frosty sky]

welp fuack

i gotta clean my soul gem after this i cant lie

https://tenor.com/view/bocchi-bocchi-the-rock-hitori-gotoh-ashita-no-joe-husk-gif-13097109864427045880

[next harbor]

@solid oasis it's always really grounding to read your writing. It's easily resonant

[solid oasis]

Awesome thank u I think I sound like ass sometimes (“:

[grand hearth]

yeah snare is eloquent

[solid oasis]

Depends on what the conversation needs

[frosty sky]

Snare saved me from despair today (real)

[scenic falcon]

hey thems...the trans...is gender...

actually no

the gender...is trans

[frosty sky]

https://tenor.com/view/optimus-prime-trucker-transformer-truck-transform-gif-12542854

Wtf!!! Trans!!!

[spring lynx]

watching the passion of joan of arc rn
also highly recommend this for anyone who might not have read it
https://archive.org/details/ArthurEvansWitchcraftAndTheGayCounterculture

[molten kite]

My bra was in the wash today so I decided to tape down my tits and boymode at the store

And who's actually really funny seeing myself in the mirror with the KT tape on since I had a few friends in high school that said I was "tboy coded" and I could honestly see it a lil

[solid oasis]

Oh yeah I forget how accessible KT tape is but sadly iirc it's not produced at a size that I need rip

[molten kite]

But I do have to say it's euphoric knowing my tits are big enough for I have to actually conceal them

[hot carbon]

Can someone give me the courage to ask one of my family members if they could buy me these 😔😔😔 (im transmale but i like to dress feminine)

[frosty sky]

IS THAT

IS THATT REALLY????!!!!!

https://tenor.com/view/madoka-kaname-madoka-magica-madoka-gif-26530771

MADOKAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA

[hot carbon]

YESSSS

[frosty sky]

worlds best superhero

[hot carbon]

I love my grandma

[loud ridge]

Does anyone have any good and cheap binder brand recommendations? The spectrum outfitters one is a lot for me

I mean I have the money , my parents would harshly decline it, even if I pay them

[solid oasis]

Not too sureee, I know you’d also wouldn’t want to risk getting a cheap one and damaging something

[loud ridge]

Damn.

[loud ridge]

What do I do?

[topaz rapids]

transtape maybe? Idk I’m sure thatll be more expensive long term

athletic tape is fairly cheap in semi bulk tho

[loud ridge]

True

[frosty sky]

Grandma: 1
Kyubey: 0

[carmine cobalt]

you could check out Point of Pride, i heard about it recently but no personal experience https://www.pointofpride.org/free-chest-binders

if discretion is the issue, you could try tape or compression tops that aren't explicitly binders

[loud ridge]

My issue is affording one safely

[loud ridge]

Thank ya

[next harbor]

Yeah honestly also this bc a lot of women's clothing is stretchy, u can get really nice compression with sports bras and the like!!
I find I like the compression/reduction and static look I get from my sports bra over my binder, but maybe I just haven't found the right one yet, either! Here, it's not unusual to be able to find new or lightly used compression tops at thrift stores but ur mileage may vary

[hot carbon]

https://cdn.discordapp.com/attachments/1448227714275217428/1472459722962501632/IMG_0467.gif

Hi guys

[elder saffron]

Hey hey

[frosty sky]

https://tenor.com/view/magical-girl-sailor-moon-gif-5478010

Me Logging on the Dome

[solid oasis]

Gender

[pale umbra]

https://tenor.com/view/speed-ishowspeed-speed-stream-ishowspeed-stream-speed-nod-gif-1082323842437565509

[frosty sky]

the super feeling when you got transed (your trans got pulled and you won an epic)

[grand hearth]

I think this, people, is why you should give multiple vials instead of one single giant vial (microplastics from the rubber top)

[solid oasis]

eeeeeshhhh

I didn’t consider that

[frosty sky]

What kind of right wing attempt is this???? /hj

[grand hearth]

What

[grand hearth]

yeah rubber stop vials. should not be punctured nearly as many times as I’ve been doing lol

[frosty sky]

you know,, the inserting microplastic in your system that you didnt sign up for,,, kind of thing,,, and you get the reast idk fuck

https://tenor.com/view/seishun-buta-yarou-wa-bunny-girl-senpai-no-yume-wo-minai-rascal-does-not-dream-of-bunny-girl-senpai-sakuta-azusagawa-cats-cat-gif-14903180706091281767

my brain not working in this dome

[grand hearth]

I really don’t get it tbh

[solid oasis]

I think what you're alluding to is like a result of pollution more than an intended effect ((well capitalism mostly to blame but we know))

like how we all have microplastic in us now just because of the sheer trash being cycled in the planet/ocean but yea

anyways tho I hope to get on T again later in the year or something it'll depend on my financial wiggle room

[frosty sky]

snare saves the day once again

https://tenor.com/view/good-night-sweet-dreams-madoka-madoka-kaname-madoka-magica-gif-13151912280791578771

[hot carbon]

https://tenor.com/view/twerk-gif-25140632

[elder saffron]

God this shit happened to me so many times when I started injections because of how bad the 18g needles for drawing would fuck up that rubber but ever since I started using a smaller size for drawing it's never happened again

[grand hearth]

See usually I would be given a 2 mL vial so I’d only puncture it 4 times max… they gave me a 10 mL this time 😭 😭

[elder saffron]

10mL is what I've always gotten but yeah I switched to using 23g for drawing and its a little bit slower but I've never had that happen to me again since

[winter comet]

it's like when you open a chicken broth carton and the foil gets in the broth

also hi luma hi sam been a while

[elder saffron]

Hope youve been well ^_^

[winter comet]

u too
mentally i'm doing good
physically i have Mystery Problems but we persevere

[grand hearth]

ah yes…also known as The Horrors…….,,,,,

[frosty sky]

i wonder before i go to college if i attempt to lock in to HRT

[spring lynx]

do it
highly recommend

[bronze ocean]

hrt is fucking awesome

[elder saffron]

HRT saved my life 🔥

[frosty sky]

My mom has been wanting to move to NC tho

Unlike MA it's a red state i think

I pray it's ez to get there

[candid ore]

my cousin from nc has had a pretty easy time getting her hrt

[mossy thicket]

666 more days

[frosty sky]

Swag

[next harbor]

If u need any information from someone who lives there, lmk! Apparently if u stick to living somewhat near cities, similar to other swing+red states u should be good. It's a good foothold if ur getting out of a purely red state like I was, too!

The local government is doing a lot for healthcare esp for the half-aging population ! There's a lot in the way of civil organizations and social services , depending on ur needs (I was at a community resources center a few days ago in charlotte)

[solid oasis]

I've been to charlotte a few times, nc is so weird because there are a lot of "red" bubbles but also strong places of community it looks like? like its clashy but you can deffo find the resources you need if you look around

@cold mist (Ive only been bcs u live there lol) so I guess this is also a ping to let you take over if you'd have any suggestions

[cold mist]

helpme i might not the best to ask cuz i haven’t looked into any LGBT programs n whatnot n i gen don’t have any idea how easy it is to get HRT (cuz i dont have any intentions to get HRT)

[solid oasis]

Ah shit 🥀

Misjudged

[cold mist]

but uhh yeah the urban areas / cities are definitely a lot more progressive than the rural areas, but you Will see shit like confederate flags, punisher magnets/stickers on cars, etc

traffic is rlly bad here tho and there are crazy drivers + the prices for new apartments n houses are thru the roof (average is almost 400k for a house i think)

[frosty sky]

My moms looking for a suburb

But im convinced its not gonna be hard for me to find nearby hrt

Me and my family are 100% black so i (along with mom) have fingers crossed i dont get in a shitty person neighborhood

The neighborhood im in rn is super chill despite being a major minority (im in a rural reddish area where community is barely even a thing and there are more older ppl than young)

[golden plover]

Did they visit from hell to congratulate you?

[frosty sky]

Radioactive HRT

https://tenor.com/view/laughing-david-martinez-cyberpunk-edgerunners-hahaha-evil-laugh-gif-26915114

https://tenor.com/view/girlmode-girlmoded-girlmoding-transform-transformer-gif-26013054

[spring lynx]

finally, malicious genderfluid in a vial

[mossy thicket]

Yea

[grand hearth]

hrt-virus

[frosty sky]

Hrt-void synthesizer

[digital tiger]

If my testosterone doesn’t come in a vial like this, I don’t want it

[solid oasis]

We need a “hormone” that turns you into some Gender Euphoric Beast creature I wish to escape this form

[placid zephyr]

A little late on saying this but I finally came out to my friends as gender fluid and only lost one!

[spring lynx]

embrace cleric beast

https://tenor.com/view/bloodborne-cleric-beast-kawaii-gif-8528566146244007415

[solid oasis]

YEAAAH

[candid ore]

true let me be a skyrim werewolf plz

[left rivet]

Yes pls id chug that instantly

[digital tiger]

Okay so for context I’m going to see mg on the 23rd, and I’m like dead set on taping instead of binding because going to concerts with a binder on is a horrid experience for me, but this is the second night in a row I’ve had a dream about me arriving to the venue but forgetting to tape?? It’s so odd because it’s happened twice in a row 😭, this is overall the third dream I’ve had about the concert in the past like week

Tldr; I think there’s a worm in my brain that either WANTS me to forget to tape before I see mg, or really DOESNT want me to forget

[left rivet]

I think in your position id have almost zero chance of forgetting by that point lol

[digital tiger]

RIGHT

its a week away and i remind myself at least once a day to not forget

[grand hearth]

Things I never thought about before starting T: removing bandages from places that used to not be so hairy is incredibly painful. Shit hurted

[solid oasis]

big yeah

It'd literally never crossed my mind until before removing bandage: oh wait, this is going to hurt More. than normal

[frosty sky]

https://tenor.com/view/madoka-period-gif-916368148750456297

pain

[scenic falcon]

indie singers b like: meour :3

[random flax]

YIPPEEEEE

[frosty sky]

as an indie artist i do agree with meowr :3

[winter comet]

i'm already hairy as hell i'm ready

[grand hearth]

oh absolutely

[digital tiger]

REAL BRO already being hairy pre-t is a blessing

https://cdn.discordapp.com/attachments/1273026253607145473/1362449284716433539/tumblr_bdaea4b94543e59b74c350d4add5129d_c544a69d_500.gif

[winter comet]

a blessing and a curse because i can't wear pj pants too long

they discombobulate my leg hairs and it feels weird

[random flax]

thats so fucking real

im 4 months on T :]

i think

i started december 8th

p sure thats 4 months

[scenic falcon]

do u guys think tump is gonna b able to slime out all the transgender healthcare stuff or nah?

and is the drivers license revoking in minnesota real?

actually idk if it was minnesota, but some state with the letter M was doin that I think

[sudden zephyr]

I thought that was Kansas?

[scenic falcon]

nvm u right, idk why I thought it was minnesota

[frosty sky]

its AmericaK until gavin newscum is our leader

[solid oasis]

I’m leaning to no in the overall scheme of things but it doesn’t mean it shouldn’t be taken very seriously and all, as for the license thing uhh I think it has to do with how your license must match your assigned gender at birth
edit: they're trying to pass it off as "identity fraud" I think

For example I had “x” on mine for awhile, instead of f, but recently swapped it back it f on my realid out of paranoia before this even came out

[frosty sky]

Wdgaf if its your 250th anniversary Its AmericaK until our leader is competent

NO ONE GIVES A FUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUU

[spring lynx]

also the diy scene is pretty awesome
seems to have bounced back from some shit awhile ago

[grand hearth]

1. this was in Kansas 2) correct that it invalidates your drivers license if your gender marker does not match your AGAB. I fortunately seem to have evaded this by my procrastination of doing it during the window when it was allowed

Also it seems legislation in Kansas has enabled the suing of anyone who you believe is trans who was in a bathroom with you, for up to $1,000. I don’t know if anyone is fucked up to actually put forth that effort, but it’s definitely not to be taken lightly

[solid oasis]

Yeahh it's fucked up all around

I didnt even know about the bathroom thing wtf