transdome

[winter comet]

what does she know about being a woman as a 10 y/o girl

[inland schooner]

No I mean once every 3 months! It's really handy

[elder saffron]

Oh what that's sick

Aaaaaa stupid autocorrect

xD I meant to say that's sick not that sucks omfg

[inland schooner]

It is very handy 😎

[winter comet]

transsexual transplant

[magic verge]

dale gribble

[runic fable]

The video they show about puberty that age i guess

She always brings up how she has to have periods every month in conjunction with the “you don’t know what it’s like” comments

[winter comet]

wait til she finds out men have them too

[runic fable]

The dihriod 😰

[winter comet]

true

manopause

[glossy dagger]

🏳️‍⚧️

[elder saffron]

Chat, do I give myself a wolf cut?

[runic fable]

Can you not afford for someone else to give you one

[elder saffron]

I could butttttt I'm feeling crazy

[runic fable]

Well be careful

Don’t give yourself a messed up haircut

[winter comet]

hair always grows back

you can also go into a salon and get it corrected so i say fuck it we ball

[elder saffron]

Hell yeah we ball

[elder saffron]

Update I cut my hair and it's honestly doesnt look to bad at all! I did have my gf help with sectioning so I guess it's more of a we did it sort of thing xD

I do wanna go back over and make the first set of layers an inch shorter so it stands out more

[next harbor]

that's awesome, though! also consider that each time you do it, you gain more experience doing it and technically will get better at it

that doesn't mean you won't mess up but idk the people who I knew 10 years ago were learning how to cut their own hair save so much money now that they stuck with it

[elder saffron]

Selfie after letting my hair air dry but yeah it doesn't look too bad at all gotta redo the bottom layer for sure

[magic verge]

it looks great!!

[elder saffron]

Thank you!

Even though I gotta do some adjustments Im really glad it didn't turn out looking like ass, it's a big step from cutting my bangs when needed to full on cutting my own hair using TikTok tutorials XD

[runic fable]

Wait a second drop the tutorial i might steal your hair

[frosty ice]

yoinking the whole thing clean off

[elder saffron]

https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8BEwwKX/

I used both of these videos

[runic fable]

Thanks

[elder saffron]

Mhm

[runic fable]

i now feel a bit less inclined to steal your hair

[elder saffron]

XD damn

[runic fable]

i might still steal it

watch your scalp

[elder saffron]

[mossy thicket]

Hello testosterone consumers of the Machinegirl official discord server

When I go on T, will I have to worry about growing out of clothes

Most my clothes are from the men's section and baggy enough but I'm worried if I have too drastic of a body changd I'll grow out of them

[grand hearth]

not rly

I could be insane but I feel like me feet grew a lil tho. had (have) to get bigger shoes

[magic verge]

not insane, it's an effect of T that's not super uncommon. it happened to my best friend, i think he went up a half a size? (conversely estrogen has a chance to make your feet smaller)

[grand hearth]

Yaaaa I had to get bigger tennis shoes. I need new snow boots because of it

[mossy thicket]

[grand hearth]

Damn, I think my 2 year anniversary of being on T is coming up. Swag

[next harbor]

Are you doing anything fun or special to celebrate?

[grand hearth]

Not shore

I might be so deep in the gauntlet (school) that sleeping is celebration to me around that time

[elder saffron]

This kinda makes me wanna do something to celebrate my 6th anniversary on E

I have like, zero idea what Id even do to make it special though

[misty harness]

four years in november for me damn

[elder saffron]

December for me

Also I believe Ive found my surgeon for my breast augmentation! Sadly the surgeon here was difficult to get ahold of even with my insurance care team and it turns out they do not accept my insurance for that anymore so I do have to go a little bit out of the way for the one I did find

[winter comet]

hope the wait isn't too long, the insurance gives you no hell and the healing is easy and you love your results

[runic fable]

guys should i celebrate my -4 years on estrogen? 🥹✌️

[elder saffron]

Absolutely!

[inland schooner]

Yea!!!

I had a consultation for electrolysis 😎 the girl doing it is also trans its so cool

[true elm]

@squareshover no I think we should wait until the number becomes positive

It’s unfortunate that you’ve still got 4 years to go before starting E

[left rivet]

Pfffft

[runic fable]

Gotta love Tennessee

[scenic falcon]

where did the ukulele transman stereotype come from? cuz sometimes I see it around the internet and it confuses me

sorry if it's an offensive question, I just dont know why it's a small meme

[elder saffron]

Omg am I just now realizing you said negative 4 years???? I'm so sorry if I came off as a dick I genuinely didn't notice that at all

[candid ore]

cavetown or someone similar probably

[grand hearth]

i think it's literally only cavetown tbh

[scenic falcon]

bruh, basing off a whole community on one creator is insane

[candid ore]

i feel like a decent amount of the old ukulele covers were also done by transmascs? or am i mistaken

[grand hearth]

¯_(ツ)_/¯

honestly feel like transmascs are underrepresented in music in general

to make an actual judgment of where it came from

[scenic falcon]

I also saw the reverse where ppl make trans girls out to be mentally unstable, when that's not true at all

[scenic falcon]

truuuuuuuue, I never heard of any other transmasc artists other than cavetown or elyotto 😔

[runic fable]

GOD, Luma, use your eyes

/j.

[grand hearth]

https://allmenuntome.bandcamp.com/album/requiem
however this is very good (transmasc doom metal)

[elder saffron]

https://tenor.com/view/cat-catcry-gif-19131995

[true elm]

I can’t believe I used to listen to cavetown every time I hear one of those god forsaken songs now i gain more reasons why

[scenic falcon]

I wonder if most transmascs are stealth...

idk just wondering

[winter comet]

i was in high school but i wouldn't say most
especially now that people are coming out younger and younger
i do think there is still a fairly big stealth population of us but not Most

[true elm]

I also think the people you wanna be stealth from are a lot more “we can tell” vocalists even though they can’t tell and are just trying to scare people

[inland schooner]

I am irl

[digital geyser]

i think it might also be bc of the tumblr girl ukelele stereotype, and so ppl think oh you used to be a girl you must play ukelele (and bc trans ppl + tumblr is a big association) but thats entirely a theory on my end (a game theory). but i do think cavetown is the main reason bc he's like the only trans man musician people know (and ironically he wasn't even out as trans until like 2020, when he was already stereotype music, when he had to out himself due to tweeting the t slur in the past)

[mossy thicket]

I'm trans and have never touched a ukulele ever

[elder saffron]

I have lmao

It was a cheap piece of crap but then I shortly got a 7 string guitar and never touched a ukulele again

[winter comet]

i think ukuleles are (unjustly) associated w white 2010s hipsters as a whole and not really just girls
a lot of trans stereotypes skew very white

[grand hearth]

yeah this abouts

[misty harness]

banger alert

he's closely associated with the band Ashenspire which, while not a trans thing specifically, released one of the best metal albums of the decade so far. chamber black metal about communism ft a scottish guy who writes like he's a disco elysium character https://ashenspire.bandcamp.com/album/hostile-architecture

[magic verge]

oh hell yes this fucking rules

gonna have to listen to hostile architecture as well, i've been listening to a lot of metal lately and my fave subgenres are black/doom/sludge

perhaps i will become a transmasc metal musician one day

[grand hearth]

Do it

We need more

[magic verge]

my partner and i are going to teach ourselves guitar once we have a space of our own :) i have some knowledge but i've always had a hard time pressing the strings on the acoustic i got as a kid, my fingers don't really callus over (pretty sure i have eds)

i also want to learn the drums lol

i'm trying to push past the whole "learning things is harder when you're not a small child" thing. neuroplasticity and all that

[inland schooner]

ok im dumb as fuck (reading) but

[elder saffron]

Im so glad I wasnt the only one 😭

[inland schooner]

I THOUGHT IT WAS -4 like A ROUNDING OR SOMETHINGGGG

[left rivet]

Oh wair

Same

Now i feel dumb

[elder saffron]

Chat do we need to go back to school to learn to read again?

[misty harness]

machine girl discord reading education program

[grand hearth]

yes

[grand hearth]

i just had a grandpa moment and misread the - as a tilde 😔

literally what i look like using discord

[runic fable]

Hmm 🤔

[elder saffron]

Real

[inland schooner]

It's surprisingly easy! Even I did it ^_^ if u want any resources, I'd be happy to dm you

[grand hearth]

also mtf HRT is a lot easier to access for DIY than ftM since T is a controlled substance compared to E

[inland schooner]

Exactly 💯

[runic fable]

Very interesting

[elder saffron]

Yeah I can vouch for it. I DIYd for the first few years of my transition

[sudden zephyr]

You can DIY ur transitionn?

I had no idea about this..

low-key mighttt..

[digital geyser]

i know some ppl who do it yeah

be safe abt it, particularly try to find a way to get regular bloods done

[digital geyser]

yeah, ik a few ppl who DIY E but i think only one who does T

i personally won’t DIY as its not safe for me to medically transition rn anyway and also i’m a tboy so that whole T is harder thing

and i think its rlyl ass that we as a community have been let down sm by our countries’ medical systems so we have to do this

but i think its punk as hell and all the best to anyone who diys

[bronze ocean]

its rlly not much different than buying drugs for other reasons tbh

only difference is its lowkey harder to get hormones lmfao

[hallow bronze]

jesse, we need to cook

[elder saffron]

Before I was able to go through legit means it got really hard towards the end of my DIYing days cause of Russia decided to invade Ukraine which caused a lot of postal services to refuse to handle any mail from there

A lot of sources came from Russia but hopefully that's changed in the past 2/3 years

[digital geyser]

yeah i mean diying is still going strong so must be

[frosty ice]

t is not a controlled substance in many places in europe, and tends to be far more widely available than e due to the existence of roiders

MtM transsexuals, so to speak

[digital geyser]

that makes sense

i’m in the uk so

[frosty ice]

if you'd like dm me, i can point u towards some places

[digital geyser]

i’m not planning on it as i said, more for other reasons than availability. but ty

[runic fable]

does she know

[left rivet]

Lol

It reminds myself of past me

I had camera off on zoom meetings sometimes cause i didnt brush my hair or something, then someone referred to me as they and i was so surprised i kept having my camera off so people wouldnt know my gender and keep calling me they

Whole time hardly knowing what being trans was

[runic fable]

I remember my times of wanting to be called a they

Interesting times those were

[bronze ocean]

does she (you) know

[winter comet]

estradiol is the main form of estrogen tfems take lol

it is estrogen

[bronze ocean]

its even the same molecule lol

that you posted

[runic fable]

Not like i’d know

[winter comet]

now you know

[grand hearth]

the fact ur friend already knew the hormone form used for feminizing hrt tells me everything i need to know lmfao

[elder saffron]

Right?

[solid oasis]

i want my testosterone back

Ive been off insurance for 2 months

anyways hi transdome

[runic fable]

She swears she’s only thinking about it though

[final heart]

Ouhhh the creature

[elder saffron]

A creature feature

[final heart]

Featuring the creature

[runic fable]

https://tenor.com/view/the-creature-ai-voice-creature-cow-gif-2415709143944330891

[left rivet]

I was home alone and just impulsively gave myself a haircut which probably is objectively badly done but i feel really good

[final heart]

Epicsauce

[carmine cobalt]

im being tempted by the diy hair cut demons too rn

[elder saffron]

Give it a shot! It didn't go to bad for me

[winter comet]

i like a lot of female characters but having them as my pfp makes me slightly worried people who don't know me will think i'm a woman because in a weird way it feels like wearing a woman suit

obviously i know a lot of people have icons of characters that aren't the same gender as them but does anyone else feel that way
like you worry your abstracted internet presence reads as a gender that isn't yours or overestimate people's assumptions

[mossy thicket]

I've been going through a lot of voice masculinisation videos, and they're all kind of hard to memorise and keep track of. If anyone knows a lot aboit voice training and stuff; does singing in the pitch and tone you want also work with voice masculinisation? Or just reading out loud in pitches you want?

[winter comet]

i used to pull up random wiki pages and read them in the voice i wanted to practice

wikipedia has a randomize button so i would just hit that and read

[elder saffron]

Good news: I found a therapist Im comfortable getting a letter of support from. Bad news: the surgeon that takes my insurance isnt taking any new patients now

Kinda feel like crying ngl lol

[jagged quiver]

u go girl!!!!!!! hopefully u can get that last bit sorted out

[elder saffron]

I hope so too, I wasnt given an exact time frame of when they are available again, but I guess I can at least get the letter faxed over anyways

[scenic falcon]

You know what...I think I may be actually trans. Cuz despite looking like one gender, I've always seen myself as another. And what doesnt help is how people call me by my og gender's pronouns, it just reminds me that I am not seen as whoever I see myself as...is that trans behavior or is that regular body dysmorphia?

Feel like you guys would know

[left rivet]

Your kinda experience sounds really familiar to me

Even way before realizing i was trans i always felt weird being called my birth gender

Whether youre trans or not i dont think it hurts to try out some stuff

[scenic falcon]

Would be nice if I could, although ngl I would go into society as everyone assuming i'm a cisgender person instead of transgender. Not cuz of transphobia or anything, cuz I feel like ppl would like you because you're trans, like tokenism type shi

I mean, some people did that to sophie 😔

Like, I just wanna be seen as that gender, not an attempt of that gender

[left rivet]

Thats pretty real

I dont really have any advice since im also not really passing either

At least for a while i was omly out to friends, not to everyone

[scenic falcon]

You and me both 😔 but... What's weird is I also dont want to transition, cuz of personal issues and the last time I tried to. Man, the dysphoria went nuts there

Actually it was more like crossdressing

[elder saffron]

It sounds to me like gender dysphoria.

What I can say is youre not really gonna run into people who treat you like a token at most youll run into a small few who watch to much RuPaul and think they can talk to trans people (mainly trans women) like theyre drag queens. Those people dont stick around especially if you make it obvious theyre treating you very strangely lol

And I can get the wanting to pass a cis thing, I wanted that for so many years and I do admit I pass more than I realize (its hard to see yourself how others see you ya know?) but with a bit of therapy I learned to love me for me and stop caring about passing which helped me so much after years of suffering about passing hard core

And it can be hard to transition what you mention about dysphoria going crazy is pretty common I feel like, its just your brain beating you down before you get your foot in the door

[magic verge]

dysphoria usually flares up when you're in the beginning of transition, especially medical transition, because you're in kind of an "in-between" phase and once you start presenting as your actual gender then you end up noticing all of the things that make you dysphoric and even things you didn't realize made you dysphoric

it's pretty easy to start transitioning and immediately give up because of that

[elder saffron]

^

[left rivet]

I agree 100% cause in my experience transitioning at the beginning feels like a trustfall

[magic verge]

i also understand valuing passing especially as someone with pretty severe dysphoria and also considering the current political climate. if you do decide to go through transition again i would encourage you to try and not analyze your appearance every second and to try and surround yourself with people who affirm you regardless of what you look like. easier said than done but it will help keep you sane

and i also want to reiterate that it's totally fine to have complicated feelings about transitioning, lots of us never transition or have atypical transitions; i was on T for a while on and off, stopped for a long time because of dysphoria surrounding certain changes that came with T, and then went back on T a month ago

[pallid bridge]

passing isnt real people see what they want to see

most people dont even look at you anymore

the people who are trying to be assholes will always be assholes

do not heed them do what you need to do

it gets easier the more you live it

[ripe burrow]

passing is real when you feel as you see yourself as what you want to be perceived as for sure

once self confidence rises in yourself then passing definitely becomes easier to achieve

[winter comet]

who else tired of being transgender bc of the ordeal of being known smash like

[magic verge]

liked and subscribed and rang that bell

[winter comet]

but did u comment

[magic verge]

sorry i'll leave a comment......

[winter comet]

[misty harness]

yeahhhh ive been feeling quite uh negative about things lately

[elder saffron]

Ive just been trying to keep my head in the sand as much as I can

Politics this year has been killing me so Ive just been trying to limit what I see

[winter comet]

i like being trans but i fucking hate being trans

[magic verge]

i would enjoy being trans more if we didn't live in a transphobic world where the cultural zeitgeist wants us to detransition and/or die

[magic verge]

i think surrounding myself with other trans people helps a lot though. so does knowing that the trans folks before us have endured and lived their lives under similar if not more dire circumstances

[frosty ice]

being trans is nice, being a person on the other hand ...

[magic verge]

i'm only a person/human nominally speaking

when i go to work i put my person suit on

[topaz rapids]

my version would be; being trans is nice, be a trans person on the other hand…

but also the person thing

[candid ore]

this is one of my worries for college, i plan to go to college in a large city so i'm sure there'll be trans people but i just dont know how i'd find them :'P

[magic verge]

usually colleges have queer-focused organizations (i used to be on the board for one when i was going to uni)! or you can try a club for a hobby/interest that has a substantial queer population (i met my partner at the tabletop rpg club lol). alternatively you might have a queer community center and/or trans support group in the city where you'll be attending college

it's really easy to make friends in college imo (and all of my friends were some flavor of queer) so i'm sure you'll be fine, i understand not knowing where to look though :)

[candid ore]

i plan to go to college in chicago so it'll probably be easy to find people as woke as me but i just struggle talking to new people tbh 😔

[magic verge]

yeah i totally get that, i've never been the most sociable person but one day i was just like "I WANNA MAKE FRIENDS" so i joined the previously mentioned organizations on-campus. clubs are nice because they facilitate events and conversation and stuff so you can go from there

[winter comet]

my bad for looking at social media my greatest sin but why is there disk horse by tdudes on whether or not trans women can use the term ladyboy on themselves or not
get out of trans women's business bro

like. why are we always so comfortable talking down to trans women like they don't know their own feminist theory and history and personal boundaries. transmascs need to work on uncoupling our experiences with misogyny from the live and active transmisogyny transfems face every day from all corners of society and shut the hell up bc we don't always know what the fuck we're talking about. we don't get to use any kind of proximity to womanhood as some kind of gotcha against WOMEN! especially women who face an extra layer and nuance of discrimination for being trans

[mossy thicket]

This is based. I'm gonna do that while reading manga LOL

[magic verge]

well you see understanding womanhood is just something you're born with and the people actively living their lives as women surely don't know anything about that (HEAVY SARCASM)

serious answer i think there are a lot of tmascs have unresolved feelings and trauma surrounding misogyny (which is understandable) but don't engage with trans women or transfeminism in any sort of meaningful way, and also haven't unpacked the transphobic idea that you can't escape your assigned sex at birth. they think they have a monopoly on suffering and are somehow unable to also occupy a role of privilege within the trans community. the children yearn for intersectionality

not the same obviously but it feels kind of similar to how some white queers will police qtpoc regarding the language they use to describe themselves

[winter comet]

its crazy bc one of the dudes was yelling about how (trans women) need to read up on transmisogyny and transfeminism

SIR I THINK YOU NEED TO

[winter comet]

right. notice how tmascs love to speak in agab terms

i also think the western cultural attitude around the term ladyboy needs to be examined bc like. its not for everyone, but that's not unique in relation to any other trans or gendered term

it's not some Evil Foreign Word borne of the Backwards Ideologies of Foreigners

some people in its original cultural context love the word some people hate it

it's not much different from the fact that some trans people hate the terms "ftm/mtf" and some people feel that its authentic and accurate to their lives

[ripe burrow]

i wish everyone could just live in harmony and we all make flower crowns

sigh

[magic verge]

right. i've personally also noticed a weird (dare i say transmisogynistic) double standard where it's not terribly uncommon for transmascs to feel connected to girlhood and to make reference to it often or to have it be a large part of their identity (which is fine and cool), but when transfems do the same with boyhood, they suddenly feel threatened by it and rush to "correct" them because they're "misgendering themselves"

and i think that's probably also a part of what's going on here

[winter comet]

REAL

its the same energy as "women are too stupid and illiterate to be reading dark fiction they are simply grooming themselves to be abused" but worse

some trans people want to be fully integrated into manhood/womanhood and it is simply a fact of life that they happen to be trans. some of us want our transness to be an acknowledged difference
neither are wrong unless we start policing the other
can we shut the fuck uppppp

[magic verge]

shouts out to all my genderweird trans people, especially the transfems who feel pressured to flatten their identity in order for their womanhood to be seen as legitimate. ily

[winter comet]

real

bitches love to say let trans men be feminine but the inverse topples all their principles

[fervent grove]

My principal is ‘I don’t like being told what to do so I’ll do whatever I want forever’ and it’s going pretty well

[paper totem]

type shit im on lately

shoutout to the vial supplier who distributes een for free forever grateful

[scenic falcon]

when I describe a trans person in the past tense, like before transition past tense, do I say their old pronouns or their new ones? cuz I think it makes sense to call them in their pre-transition state pronouns, but it could also be offensive.

[left rivet]

I think id ask the person if you're unsure, though for me personally id use new pronouns since trans people werent ever cis so their old pronouns wouldnt really be accurate to describe them i feel like

At least before asking id stick to using new pronouns

[scenic falcon]

ah, well for the trans person I was talking about, they were an oc I made. But I still wanted to ask for future reference. You know, in case I run into a trans person irl

speaking of, do wolf fangs sound cool for top surgery scar tattoos?

[digital geyser]

generally new pronouns irl unless they say otherwise. it can out them and its kinda misgendering bc that was still them

when possible ask an individual but i’d default to new pronouns

[scenic falcon]

thanks, I just thought of that question late at night when I was chatting with a homie about my oc and his past

[left rivet]

How come i always get gender envy from male characters, i imagine myself being a boy and it seems so cool, he him pronouns yeah sounds neat, but then when i imagine myself using he him pronouns it feels so odd

Like im wearing a costume when i try to do that

[misty harness]

common feeling early on

hell i still feel it sometimes even though ive been out for four years and am certain about my gender

[left rivet]

Thats comforting to hear

I might try it online first

[balmy pond]

It's like anything new yknow, like even the most exciting changes are still changes and change is scary

You'll figure it out in time tho! Nows the time to go with the flow and try stuff out

[winter comet]

i always default to gender neutral terms for myself instead of masculine despite me being out as transmasc and not liking gender neutral pronouns/terms for 12-ish years

it happens

i think its often apprehension to change
sometimes its internalized transphobia
sometimes it's just how it be

[bronze ocean]

also ur imagining using he/him pronouns but thats kinda similar to imagining yourself wearing clothes u don't own (so like you've only seen it on other people) but ideally you'll wanna be able to imagine like "owning" he/him pronouns and if ur like oh yeah that feels awesome i think thats very good for your mental

but also like don't let yourself be held back by feeling like you wouldn't be able to ever be seen as a guy or like it's way too odd, not everything happens all at once and just doing somethings can already make you feel better and help you figure out your path

[left rivet]

I think youre right, my mindsets still kinda stuck at admiring the gender from a distance

Your words help a lot

[bronze ocean]

its understandable!! youre literally trying to imagine a completely different perspective it can be difficult

[grand hearth]

mom bought men’s 2in1 shampoo for me while she was out shopping 💔💔💔💔💔 this is not going to help my sweaty and oily problem

[bronze ocean]

make sure to wash your entire body with it too

[runic fable]

Y’all ever get hand dysphoria

[misty harness]

yea

[candid ore]

oh my god yes it's so prevalent for me

aside from my height and chest it's one of my worst sources of dysphoria 😭

[runic fable]

https://tenor.com/view/hands-funny-looking-wondering-what-gif-13643049

Me for the past hour

[fervent grove]

Tiny man hands :(, tiny man hands for tiny tasks :)

[misty harness]

broke: wanting smaller hands bc gender dysphora

woke: wanting smaller hands bc it would be easier to assemble gundam model kits

[final heart]

Mmmm model kits

[winter comet]

i have very average sized hands but i size up in shoes to look like i have more business to stand on

[grand hearth]

I feel like ever since being on T my hands have seemingly had more pronounced veins but idk

[runic fable]

I see i’ve been looking at it the wrong way this whole time

[elder saffron]

E helped soften my hands a lot thankfully

But then later on after being exposed to a lot of women in the lesbian community you realize that theres actually a lot of women with "manly" hands and a lot of people like that lol

Idk it just helps to know what can be dysphoric is sometimes something often shared with cis individuals more often than not and the more youre exposed to that, dysphoria starts to lessen (at least for me anyways)

[loud ridge]

Hello

[elder saffron]

https://tenor.com/view/halo-halo2-elite-sangheili-greetings-gif-25839730

[winter comet]

real. the expanded sexual dimorphism we as a society perpetuate is a performance and a lie tbh

[loud ridge]

Hru?

[winter comet]

also i am hairy as fuck for someone who is not on t and otherwise has an estrogen dominant system so to all my tgirls who don't have access to laser or e i am probably hairier than some of yall lol
it doesn't make you less feminine

[elder saffron]

It really is crazy how a lot of what we trans women get dysphoric about is things we hyperfixate about because we had to be involved in a gender role that put those standards onto cis women.

Like you said its a performance and a lie

[elder saffron]

Am gooooood, wbu?

[loud ridge]

Sorry for the late reply, I was at sewing class. I could be better today

[scenic falcon]

I heard if you consistently shave, your hairs will grow slower

idk whats the max slowness of hair growth tho, if it's even true. But doesn't hurt to try

[loud ridge]

I think hair growth is controlled by genetics and hormones

My goodness it autocorrects i to I’m

[candid ore]

broke: wanting bigger hands bc gender dysphoria

woke: wanting bigger hands for good old yaoi's sake

[winter comet]

i prefer to be hairy so i havent shaved in like 10 years

[scenic falcon]

oh lul, it just sounded like you wanted to not be hairy. my bad

[winter comet]

i was saying that as an afab person who isnt on hrt i'm hairier than some cis men i know so transfems who might be insecure about their body hair might like to know that the myth that "man" = hairy "woman" = not hairy is false
especially when you take stuff like ethnicity into account bc sometimes higher amounts of body hair is more common in some communities
a lot of expected sexual dichotomy is also enforced as an agent of white supremacy

[digital geyser]

my gf met one of my friends who is transmasc and was shocked that he hadn't been on T at all

(in that he looked like he had been, not that he had to be on it to transition. she's a pre medical transition trans girl and i'm pre T as well)

[winter comet]

i think pcos is also fairly common in transmascs ive known a couple pre t/no t guys that have had beards due to it

i haven't been looked at for it but it wouldn't shock me if i had it

[digital geyser]

yeah i know a guy with some facial hair from it

[digital geyser]

and also its also obviously common in cis women, and can similarly cause things like facial hair growth, deeper voices etc

it can also be a reason for infertility and irregular periods insert dunk on terfs here

also also can cause weight issues, basically reminder that like cis women can have the traits of trans women (ik weight issues isnt one but societal standards around weight obviously also impact trans ppl) so while ik that wont destroy someone’s dysphoria its reassurance

[digital geyser]

showed up on my fyp just now good timing

love her content

[elder saffron]

Saaammeee

[loud ridge]

my family chose my pronouns for me

As in I mean Iv talked to them about it and I’m still being called she/her

[loud ridge]

my dad yelled at me too..

[placid zephyr]

i may not be trans

but trans people are fucking awesome

[final heart]

Yayyyy :D

[loud ridge]

Hi sleepy

[dull raft]

hello my evil twin /silly

[fervent grove]

i called my dad a dickhead and threw a plate at him, hes still transphobic but hasn't argued about it in years. I win i suppose.

[loud ridge]

if I did something like that I’d probably be sent to my grandparents

coughs and dies

[fervent grove]

wow

fucked up

over text is a cowards game

[loud ridge]

I’m not against god , but I’m being forced to go to a bible studies class and a therapist to fix me

[dull raft]

"its a developmental stage now" what could this even mean 💔

also yes we have always been a thing its just that they dont lock us in asylums and hang us by our toes anymore 💔✌️

[loud ridge]

Like I’m going to age out of it

[dull raft]

well thats stupid

even if you do who cares

identity is fleeting

being true to yourself is absolute

[loud ridge]

I want to be myself

I want to go fishing and skydiving

[dull raft]

hell yeah

i never understood why parents dont support their kids even if things are "phases"/they think theyre phases

it doesnt matter. its important to your child

[loud ridge]

But I have to put on dresses when I go out to fancy places

[dull raft]

im so sorry :(

[elder saffron]

Anyone that says transitioning is a recent thing are actually fucking stupid, so stupid infact they can't even come to that conclusion themselves and rather repeat what some jackass conservative said.

[winter comet]

even if it WAS a developmental stage what is so wrong about letting your kids experiment

that's how people figure things out

[elder saffron]

They're gonna learn that it doesn't do anything. I went through something kinda similar with my parents when my mom went through my stuff

And what happened? I had to lie even harder to them and everyone I knew and had to play pretend even harder lol then when I was on my own and transitioned everyone wanted to be shocked over it

[magic verge]

honestly i'm still trying to get over the paranoia that comes with that. like my parents are (somewhat) accepting now but growing up without any privacy and a lack of open communication probably changed my brain chemistry for the worse

"protecting children" somehow takes precedence over "being kind to children" or "honoring the personhood of children" and that's how you know that shit is reactionary drivel

[elder saffron]

It was horrible and I wouldn't wish it on anyone. Like imagine not being able to trust your own parents, them making sure you didn't have a door so you couldnt have any privacy and then having your own siblings inform them if you do anything they might find out of line

Then they wanted to Pikachu surprise face when I called them abusive when I openly came out on social media

[winter comet]

the no bedroom door thing is so fucking vile

and punishing your child for what YOU looked for in their belongings is a gross misuse of parental power and selfish as hell
if you came across something that concerned you that's one thing but being carceral about it instead of talking it out or anything else is another

[runic fable]

Just came out to my dad 🔥

And I didn’t get disowned or devalidated

[golden plover]

puts down pitchfork

[runic fable]

Dw he literally said “i think karl marx was right” at the dinner table i have the wokest dad in Tennessee

[magic verge]

based dad

on a serious note i'm glad that everything went well :)

[placid zephyr]

can i be here?

stupid question i know

[magic verge]

no (serious answer i'm not a cop, i heavily doubt that it would be a problem, just understand that this is a space for trans people to discuss trans things)

[placid zephyr]

yeah dw I'm cool :)

i have been accepted into a society of awesome people.

[placid zephyr]

I came out to my dad about being gay, and he just said "no youre not" and walked off.

[runic fable]

Damn i guess you’re not gay

[placid zephyr]

hey wait I just reread that and realized, you have the wokest dad in tennessee, I have the most bigoted dad in tennessee.

[magic verge]

your dads should fight

[placid zephyr]

the equivalent of Hank Hill fighting Bardock.

im sure you know who is who

anyways gang im gonna go drink some genderfluid

ill be back later

[golden plover]

[GAY PRIVLEGES REMOVED]

[placid zephyr]

https://tenor.com/view/incrediboy-incredibles-poster-throw-syndrome-gif-17947237037189380740

[candid ore]

wait this EXACT same thing happened to me when i came out

[placid zephyr]

twin

[candid ore]

i told my parents i was trans and my dad said "no you're not" and left the room 😭

cant believe that was 5 years ago lowkey

feels simultaneously much longer ago and way more recent

[dull raft]

my mom still thinks that rapid onset gender dysphoria is real even though i sent her a video detailing why its not 💔

but hey at least she calls me basil

and uses they/them even though i havent gone by they/them pronouns since 2022 😭

[elder saffron]

My mom's excuse was something to the tune of I got a feeling you had something you shouldn't of had thats giving off a demonic presence in your room blah blah blah

Then hit me with "it's a fetish" and "if you wanna do that stuff do it in your own home"

[candid ore]

so does my mom but it's they/them and k or she/her and my full deadname so i'll take something over nothing

[elder saffron]

Then of course made sure anytime there was anything LGBTQ on TV that she saw to loudly say how it's disgusting and evil so I could hear it

[candid ore]

i fear that it will never be he/him, robert, and my son but that's something for me to deal with later 💞

[candid ore]

my gramma fid this to me once in like 2020 and i still dont understand why

maybe my dad told her but i think it was before i came out to him

[scenic falcon]

Damn, reading how unaccepting your guys parents are made me feel stupid for not appreciating my mom's cringy acceptance

She has a good idea of what trans is and she's fine with it, but sometimes she'll be confused with the terms and stuff and I gotta explain what they are

My dad tho... I hadn't talked to him in years 💀

[solid oasis]

I have to pretend I’m detransitioning in my place of living rn or I risk being kicked out UURGGH
she’s not a parent just a old, my parents aren’t supportive either but as to why I’m not in contact with them is a loooong story
Anyways
she’s a roommate who was helping me out and found out I was on testosterone later; she watches newsmax and shit (if you think fox news is bad they’re much worse)

The day I can live independently is when I will then be loud abt my stance here and such but I rly cannot risk those arguments rn while I’m on the financial grind atm to actually be on my own

NOT TO VENT THOUGH I’m fine and I avoid her a lot

[solid oasis]

Nah this is sweet though cringey acceptance can be cultivated more than an intense hater could lol

Unrelated good image

[candid ore]

a teacher that i have never had a class with (except a study hall this year) called me he and i dont know where she heard i go by that but. yahoo!

[runic fable]

Chat how do i come out to my mom

[misty harness]

we cant answer that for you, because it depends on a lot of things

the big one being, do you have any reason to believe itll go negatively? if you know shes chill then just bring up relatively casually. if not, its more complicated

[runic fable]

You took too long i already decided what i’m going to do

I’ll text her “remind me to come out as trans to you later, okay” while she’s at work tomorrow and it’ll be funny

[dull raft]

LMAO

[misty harness]

lmaoooo

[elder saffron]

Lmao

Just don't do anything that would put your safety at risk, I think that's the most important thing

[left rivet]

I feel a mix of anxiety and joy from when some random kid in my class is helping to take the attendance for the sub, they see my deadname and is like "who is that???" Cause for one it sucks everyone now knows my deadname, but on the other hand wow its only been like 1 month and this class has enough people i dont know in it that they dont even know me as evil name at all weirdly encouraging for me

My schools such a mix of cool people and transphobic people but i think my art class is safe

This was in art class btw lol

[scenic falcon]

There's alotta gay ppl in art classes, idk why tho

[next harbor]

This is the funniest shit I've ever seen and I'm stealing it

[runic fable]

Ok so i said it and she’s more upset that she’s not picking my name than she is that i’m a girl

[elder saffron]

Well hey that's better than expected yeah?

[hallow bronze]

I don't have the full context for your relationship and personality, but it seems more like a jokey response in the same vein as your coming out statement

Nvm, the censoring, uhhhh wait and see, hope everything goes well

[elder saffron]

This country is stressing me out so much lately

[magic verge]

felt that

besides being trans i am also an immigrant and multiply disabled (insert joke about soly poly hijabi amputee here) and i live in a swing state that seems to be going more right every minute

i'm probably going to eventually move to somewhere more blue but after that depending on what happens i think my partner and i are gonna flee the country

[elder saffron]

I've put thought into fleeing but I genuinely don't think it's going to be possible for me

[magic verge]

that's fair, it's incredibly difficult from multiple standpoints. i'm sorry that it isn't an option and i hope you can find safety where you are

[elder saffron]

I hope so too

I'm just so tired of seeing articles like "maga voters are regretting their votes" etc when there's nothing to actually prove it other than 2 angry people on Twitter lmao.

I just don't see any proof that things are getting better, only things getting worse and worse, even more so now that Trump isn't lying about being associated with P25

[magic verge]

yeah the worst part of this is that even when trump eventually leaves office the aftereffects of everything he's done are going to be the strongest years after

i do think that there will be a better time eventually, how long from now i have no clue

[elder saffron]

All of the hopecore from 2024 that I fell for honestly left me feeling bitter towards the left and I've resigned myself to just no longer believing in anything. Like I do hope it'll get better but I have zero faith in our leaders to save us.

[magic verge]

yeah the mainstream american left has pretty much abandoned us trans people

like rn dems are still trying their hardest to appeal to the centrist conservative leaning people by saying that trump is a communist which would be hilarious if it weren't so profoundly enraging and incorrect

[elder saffron]

Yeah sadly they are just slowly becoming the right

[magic verge]

overton window my behated

[elder saffron]

Thankfully I'm seeing more and more people call it out but I can't see them caring to be called out

[magic verge]

it's really fucking scary and i know it isn't much but i do want to offer you my support and a listening ear for you to vent

[elder saffron]

Sorry to be all doomer it's just been getting harder and harder to deal with this stuff on a near daily basis

[magic verge]

nah i get it completely

there are avenues for change but they're long and dangerous

the only thing that brings me comfort is just being around other trans people and maybe i'm a coward for not being willing or able to protest or organize but i really don't want to get deported or worse

i'll never say it'll never get better but shit sucks and will suck in the USA for some unforeseen amount of time

[elder saffron]

I just wish I knew other trans people where I live now, I feel like that would help a lot when it comes to my job.

Before moving it was me and 2 other trans individuals plus others queer people. Here it's literally just me in a sea of cishets 💀

[magic verge]

not being able to interact with or even see people who are like you is really demoralizing

[elder saffron]

It honestly is

[magic verge]

i have some friends that moved to WA and i'll probably follow but right now i'm just trying to focus on surviving and saving money

[elder saffron]

And like I admit I do have a bit of passing privilege but I know others at work know and it scares me that if Trump gives the green light I'm gonna get abducted or worse because of someone I work with

And I'll have like zero people to defend me

[magic verge]

that's a very real and legitimate fear to have

[elder saffron]

I just wish we could live our lives in peace lol

[runic fable]

I don’t feel like she’d joke about her dead mother

[magic verge]

right like the constant stress feels like it's taking off minutes of my lifespan

[hallow bronze]

Fair

[elder saffron]

I guess to try and lighten the mood a bit I am happy that I can at least talk to other trans individuals here. I've always had a hard time including myself in online spaces but y'all do make me feel at home here.

[magic verge]

real at this point i honestly only stay in here for the transdome

[runic fable]

Real, this little forum has done more for me than servers actually dedicated to trans people

[magic verge]

i appreciate that amongst the general chaos of the server that we have this lil corner to ourselves

i do my t-shot today so i'm looking forward to that ^_^

[left rivet]

I only read this forum and neurodivergent dome lol

[magic verge]

so true

there used to be a disableddome but it kinda died out

[elder saffron]

See like I would usually browse trans focused subreddits but it's usually all the same posts and while this might sound goofy coming from a trans woman they're predominantly trans women focused lmao

Like it's been really nice seeing the amount of trans men and others that post here. I get to see the rest of my community

[magic verge]

yeah that makes sense! it's really cool to talk to other people who share experiences with you but also navigate themselves and the world in different ways

[runic fable]

I agree with this but for a while i saw more trans men than trans women

Online atleast

Actually no irl too

[elder saffron]

I've only met 1 trans man irl so far out of the 5 trans women

[runic fable]

I’ve met two trans women and three trans men

[elder saffron]

But like who knows I may have crossed paths with others but never knew

I'm gonna throw my phone XD holy hell

[runic fable]

Idk why you’re crossing panthers but yeah

[elder saffron]

I'm so used to using an iPhone that the android layout and autocorrect are kicking my ass today

Autocorrect correcting what I'm literally trying to type

[loud ridge]

Man, Florida sucks

[magic verge]

any trans folks in red states you are stronger than the us marines

[next harbor]

yeah idk my roommate's "ally" mom was apparently head of a university diversity & inclusion group for years and missed no opportunity to "humble"brag about it. Why was it so different when it was her "son" ?

remember friends, they want us at a distance.

they r no-contact now, also forgot to mention that she's moving to florida

[magic verge]

i hate that it's become social capital to have proximity to oppressed people without having to do anything to, you know, materially support them

[next harbor]

"I have an X friend" ugh
why have i heard this so many times

[loud ridge]

I basically have to hide from my parents and teachers

[magic verge]

sounds scary and exhausting to have to worry about all the time. i'm sorry to hear that

[loud ridge]

I have some supportive friends though

One supportive friend

[magic verge]

i'm glad you have that at least 🫂

[elder saffron]

One is better than none

[golden plover]

From my perspective the US "left" as in the democrats are just slightly less right-wing but still right-wing.

A Swedish right-wing politician would be considered left-wing or centrist in the US.

[solid oasis]

because its a form of escapism id say

[solid oasis]

two sides of the same coin

this shit gets scary esp with what relates to* epstien bcs you find out its a billionare circle jerk of suspicious shit no matter what side theyre on or how much they berate eachother

err not to go on abt that its a lot to explain, ive looked into a lot lately and it gets really bad

[magic verge]

the overton window here is shoved so far to the right that the popular left is basically also the right yeah

[golden plover]

The fact that you don't have a popular socialist party is kinda sad tbh.

Many will never know what a state that works for the people and not themselves is like.

[magic verge]

be vaguely liberal and you will be called a communist

[loud ridge]

I gave that said friend money to buy me a suit for homecoming

[magic verge]

i blame mccarthyism

[elder saffron]

It's cause the education and political parties push really hard to say that stuff is bad

[loud ridge]

since my parents would throw out my phone if they saw me like that

[golden plover]

People that claim to be socialist simply for the votes don't count, you have to go through with your promises.

[magic verge]

yeah a lot of people here don't really understand what socialism and communism are, they just know that it's bad. if you rephrase socialist ideas without mentioning the word a lot of conservatives will agree with them

sorry, "bad"

as always it's billionaire fascists fighting to keep people uneducated and unaware of better options so that they blindly follow them

[solid oasis]

Yeppp

[magic verge]

meanwhile the dems are pretty much impotent and their only talking point is "we're not like THOSE guys" in reference to the right

[solid oasis]

It kinda reminds me it feels as if we're intentionally divided as to not organize against the top

i hope more people realize this

[magic verge]

i think we're getting to that point

not that it's going to be pretty but a lot of people are getting restless regardless of party affiliation. if you're working class you're getting screwed

[solid oasis]

yup

case in point I make way above minimum wage yet I still cant afford housing and the wage gap is fucking awful. everyone else i know is struggling with minimum wage. **especially my extended family

[magic verge]

ugh god the economy is fucked

[solid oasis]

u have wealthier ignorant people flaunting everything and then ppl like us that work our asses off/are the backbone

[magic verge]

we're nearing a recession so that's gonna be fun!!!

[solid oasis]

that said my plan is to like, get trusted friends to all live together but that itself takes a lot of coordination/dedication/assurance/money, and there is even the uncertainty that theyll even have a viable job to work that wont crush them when theyre here

[magic verge]

tangential but that reminds me of the fact that in the philippines there's pretty much a revolution going on because it's become explicitly clear that the money that is supposed to go towards flood relief is being put in the pockets of development moguls and their kids, who are flaunting their shit that they bought with that money on social media

and a bunch of these nepo babies have fled the country

[solid oasis]

ahh had to fix my yap

[solid oasis]

YEP

[golden plover]

That's kind of what caused the Russian revolution.

People got together over wanting to not be treated like shit and not be given a chance.

-# But then people like Stalin came along

[magic verge]

deeply sighs thinking about the downfall and dissolution of the USSR

yeah people here just have a really really strong kneejerk reaction to communism and socialism

[solid oasis]

My moms side comes from assimilated Lakota lineage, my dads side is hard-working woodsy people that can barely afford anything, I have this weird standard placed on me of "cmon you gotta be the breadwinner" and its crushing that despite how far ive gotten I still cant live comfortably or support those that I wish to

My familys a fucking messss tbh but they are very poor

[magic verge]

talking to rich people is so weird

they really live in a different reality

[solid oasis]

Ive been majoritily bullied most my life by "rich mean girls" and ooh mygod the more i realize how its semi rooted in them being handed everything and thriving off of others; the hatred builds lmao

that said funny enough i gotta take off and get back to work but I had a coworker lately who'd left that fit that description, i felt so miserable around her and she treated me like assss for being "weird"

BUT YEAH good yap I go now

[magic verge]

bye bye good yap!

i'm at work rn lmaooo i have nothing to do so i'm in transdome on da clock

[winter comet]

its the only part i frequent bc otherwise i no longer click w the majority of the server bc it skews so young lol

[magic verge]

shaking my cane at thunderdome

[elder saffron]

Ill comment and interact with Thunder and Psychodome, but yeah I was shocked at how many younger people are in this server.

[magic verge]

a lot of the people around our age range that used to be active in the server have left and the people who join are usually kids

which is a little jarring

i'm glad that they like machine girl too but damn who let all these babies in

[winter comet]

i can only stomach so much Im Not Like Other Teens /lh

sorry to teens

[elder saffron]

💀 I remember one of my first interactions being with someone who was really cool then they mentioned their age to someone an Im instantly like "ah hell nah"

[winter comet]

the summer i turned unc and chopped or whatever

[elder saffron]

Someone here said I was unc an I had zero idea what that even meant lmao

[magic verge]

i don't mind interacting with youngins especially if i can help them from a trans standpoint (being a trans kid is fucking rough) but sometimes it becomes clear that you just can't fully communicate with some of em

[elder saffron]

💀 like yall Im getting to old to keep up to date with all these words

[winter comet]

exactly

i gotta get back to work

farewell transgenders

[magic verge]

bye danny don't die

[elder saffron]

https://tenor.com/view/peace-out-gif-3584473422170938815

[winter comet]

i won't but someone else might

[elder saffron]

Real

[magic verge]

it's really important to me to not become one of those asshole adults who thinks children are like. stupid and you can't talk to them at all but god. every day i'm like "my parents were right when they said i'd understand when i got older"

[elder saffron]

It just bothers me as someone that works in retail just how many young adults and teenagers act in public now

And it 100% changed back in 2020

[magic verge]

yep

quarantine and also uhhh i think. recurrent covid infections have done something to their brains. long covid has overtaken asthma as the most common chronic illness in children

which is great and good

(SARCASM)

unrestricted access to social media and the current state of the internet also prolly doesn't help

[elder saffron]

I had gotten covid and I seriously wouldnt wish it on anyone

Ive had really bad cases of the flu before, but that was something else

[magic verge]

yeah it's fucked

i'm one of those people that still masks every day cuz i'm high risk and already disabled enough

[solid oasis]

Oh yeah for sure, im a big pusher of this. the most concerning thing recently was that I think a 12 y/o joined into "darkship" content and oh my goddd that is pretty bad with younger kids online now; as someone else put it its framed the new "edgy" which now makes a lot of sense to me

Whats sad tho is mostly ppl were mocking/making fun of the kid uhhh

that just pushes people deeper into that kinda ideology imo

esp kids

[magic verge]

i find that it's usually indicative of something else going on so it's not great to react in that way lol

[solid oasis]

Yeahhh

Could be a lot of things

[magic verge]

i don't really care about ship discourse etc i'm too old for that but i think a good chunk of people who are into that are usually victims themselves so it's even more worrying when it's a kid

and regardless of trauma it's not... great to be exposed to that stuff as a child

speaking from experience

[solid oasis]

Yeah I navigate these things with a lot more intricacy than most and I think its better to focus on helping an individual rather than to Attack Everyone, but usually even tho its silly shipping stuff from afar it can be indicative of something more pressing, usually

ive had a lot of bad exp relating to this growing up online and wheeew it rly messed me up socially

another long thing to get into

but yeah i Used to Be there

[magic verge]

the trenches

insert war flashbacks here

[solid oasis]

the terrorrr

[magic verge]

as someone who grew up on tumblr and later twitter jesus christ there is no room for nuance or anything your ideology has to boil down to one very binary position or another

and if you go against your friend group they'll like socially crucify you

it also sucks that social media is sometimes the only avenue that kids have to get social interaction

idk. lil grubs deserve better

like definitely in my want for social validation and to have more trans friends i've gotten entangled with people who just do not fucking go outside

[solid oasis]

yeah

another point to be made iirc is that the algorithm (with twitter especially) and short-form content that can warrent a high response, and people have been rewarded with their harsher style of approaching things. It has something to do with engagement overall and this long cycle of being rewarded for the wrong things and idolizing the wrong figures

gahhh i dont have the eggs to explain this very well today but yea its just one of the many issues we deal with that im fascinated in

[magic verge]

no yeah i get what you're saying

kneejerk reactions are rewarded over like, long thoughtful conversations

[solid oasis]

yepp

[magic verge]

social media is a prison

the only thing i have is like IG which i only have because i communicate with some friends on there, but fuck meta i need to get off of that

one day i will become a hermit

i like it here in transdome though it's comfy

[golden plover]

That's why I appreciate people who make good long-form content and keep a similar style in the short ones, like miniminuteman, vsauce, etc.

[solid oasis]

miniminuteman my goattt

and vsauce but milo yay

[magic verge]

there are some gems of genuinely thoughtful and well-produced media amongst the slop

[solid oasis]

I havent seen someone so shamelessly progressive as he with such a big platform/reach, its so refreshing

I need more recs though

[magic verge]

i like etymologynerd

umm who else lemme think

foreign man in a foreign land, shanspeare, kat blaque, taipeiqueen are all great

[hallow bronze]

(jacob geller my GOAT)

[dull raft]

very late to this but in my state socialists are treated like the devil

theres legit someone in my city with a flag on their lawn that has smokey the bear saying "only you can prevent socialism"

[dull raft]

I LOVE MILO!!!!

[golden plover]

"I fucking love being abused!"

[dull raft]

LMFAOAOO

i genuinely dont get why people are so against socialism

like arent minecraft villages socialist

ouu so evil right guys

[golden plover]

I don't doubt you, but I wanna hear your reasons, I am interested.

[dull raft]

from my understanding socialism is helping each other as a community (hence socialism)

they trade with each other when they need food and take care of each others kids

they tend to each others farms

like theres no hierarchy that we can understand, theyre just there for each other

[golden plover]

Damn, socialist code

[dull raft]

minecraft is woke

(to be fair minecraft has been woke.... (insert blm splash text))

[solid oasis]

I le retain in my mind

[elder saffron]

Debating on trying to retrain my.voice to be a little lower

[inland schooner]

Okay but this is good (?) Maybe compromise on middle name?

My mum did the same thing when picking my middle name, despite it already being changed, she said, "if you change it again, can yoy make your middle name John?"(after my grandpa)

Or you could do a hyphenated name if she's that bad about it (i.e., my friends name is ethan-lee)

[scenic falcon]

what do you guys think counts as "woke"? I'll go first: companies that act like they care by commodifying the symbols of stuff, like when target sold rainbow pride clothes. Or when they change their logos to pride stuff but remove it the SECOND it's july 😭

[digital geyser]

agreed. in the uk currently i’d say the conservatives are right-far right adjacent, reform are the far right, lib dems are the centre but i think are moving left, greens are proper left (esp with their current leader), labour were once left but are now centre-leaning right

the tories (conservatives) are sometimes not as far right as they have been, but they are definitely on that path

and reform is just one in a long line of far right parties, last one being UKIP

they usually hold the zeitgeist for 5-10 years and then fall and a new one pops up

reform do scare me given the recent rise of racism though. currently all around my area someone has hung british and english flags on streetlights. given whats going on recently thats a message

esp given i live in a very diverse part of the country and a student area so there’s a lot of international students here

[digital geyser]

i have recently done smth, not as a compromise but. my deadname has a rlly cool initial i wanted to keep but i rlly like my new name which isn’t that initial, so i made one of my middle names have that initial and when when i sign my chosen name on official things i put Name Initial Surname

it also helps with the fact my initials are otherwise BS lmao

i have two other middle nmaes which serve as replacements for my two birth ones, while this first one is there for this purpose. the other two also keep my origianl initials, so i end up with my original initials but with a B on the front for my chosen name. my middle names were chosen by my late mum so i wanted to honour her through them, and while my deadname was chosen by my dad who is still alive they both were very fond of it and having such a rare initial does become a bit of a personality imo

[mossy thicket]

I have a middle name that give me the innitials MVP, and I really wanna keep a name that starts with M but I have yet to come up with one

[west anchor]

I bought a Cardigan

[digital geyser]

yoooo good cardigan

[loud ridge]

How do I stop my mom from being transphobic

Iv tried to talk to her about it and she keeps saying the world is twisted

[golden plover]

Well it is, but that doesn't give her a excuse to be twisted too.

And likely twisted in a way she doesn't see it as

[runic fable]

Lobotomy

[loud ridge]

Yes please

[magic verge]

i think the word you're looking for here is performative activism/rainbow capitalism, this doesn't really count as "woke". i know that conservatives use it as a pejorative term but they use it to refer to anything that isn't explicitly christian white and cisheteropatriarchal. "woke" originally was a term used among black people to refer to being aware of how racial injustice and antiblackness are involved in everything

it's AAVE that was appropriated by the right and now it's become pretty much alienated from its original meaning in the mainstream

[misty harness]

many such cases

[grand hearth]

I have a feeling she meant it in the Christian sense of the word

[digital geyser]

again if u wanna keep cool initials but a different name vibes more, i’d recommend doing the stick another name there that allows the original initials to stick

so you get the name you want that doesnt begin with the letter you want but also the initial you want, you just end up with anotehr one at the front

imagine signing your name like Sam MVP

and that is just bc its ur name and not bc ur an MVP

sam is just an example name

[mossy thicket]

I want to get rid of that name tho

[inland schooner]

2 names I was thinking of are Marshal and Marcus/Markus but I have a friend named Malakai (assuming you want a masc name)

[mossy thicket]

Yes

Definitely want either a Dutch or a French name though, since that's where I'm from

I wanna ask my dad but I'll have to have... the talk... with him

[candid ore]

if you want a really Interesting™ dutch or french name i'd recommend surfing behind the name

that's what ive always used for oc names lol

[left rivet]

I want this gender

[candid ore]

i want both of these genders simultaneously

i will be the world's greatest emo bear

[digital geyser]

kinda real

[solid oasis]

https://tenor.com/view/death-stranding2-higgs-death-stranding-sam-porter-gif-27217699

Meanwhile gender envy from this mf

He was cool alr but then got much cooler im way too obsessed w this guy. He’s terrible

https://tenor.com/view/death-stranding-2-hey-brother-sup-hello-hideo-kojima-gif-12529428470403609914

Brah

ANYWAYS

Shit like this mainly hits

Idk. Like this type of shit but if it was a living being / beastly??

Yes shoutout to that shit in the bg of the upcoming album

I’m largely nonbinary or agender I guess. “None gender w left beef” but my feelings usually resonate more with transhumanism or escaping the feeling of being human entirely

I ain’t like yall 🥀 type shit

[winter comet]

i would be happy looking like a square enix man but not uber twink

[magic verge]

no you ARE like me. im bigender but one of the genders is agender. so i too am none gender with left beef. my gender is undeniably tied to my weird nonhuman feelings and one of my points of reference is fucking AM from ihnmaims

i'm a boy mostly in shape and general spirit like how you would call a boy doll a boy but technically it doesn't have a gender cuz it's a thing. is this anything

i have this gender matryoshka doll thing going on where depending on how close you are to me or the given setting my gender becomes more convoluted

[solid oasis]

Oh hell yeah

[solid oasis]

Yes this makes sense

Kinda reminds me about how people around me will refer to any random animal as “he” right off the bat lol (mostly a southern thing)

[magic verge]

yeah it's like a similar sentiment to how some people are like "i'm a girl like how you call boats 'she'"

i am none gender left boy

[magic verge]

my partner going from anger issues to sad wet kitty

[fervent grove]

Transdome

[loud ridge]

Is awesome

[inland schooner]

How to comfort newly realised trans-fem friend? She is feeling sad about her appearance and I'm just trying to comfort her in saying she's very pretty

[loud ridge]

Does she have makeup that she can wear?

For many people makeup is a confidence booster

[magic verge]

honestly it would probably be best to ask her yourself and see what she thinks would be most helpful, when it comes to dysphoria everybody has different ways of coping with it. my transfem partner does like to be called pretty and have affirming language used on her but i personally find it patronizing when people call me handsome. depending on how safe it would be for her, suggesting experimenting with her wardrobe or makeup wouldn't be a bad idea, or you could talk out what steps she wants to take towards transition

ultimately though she's probably overwhelmed so i would say just being there for her is the most important thing

[misty harness]

yeah trying to affirm someone when they dont want it can cause dysphoria to intensify. if i compliment my wife when she is in the wrong headspace, it upsets her. im not a huge fan of it either tbh

[winter comet]

yeah personally i hate appearance based compliments overall unless it's something specific and controllable like my hair, clothes or accessories so it's kind of a case by case basis
also i think because she's newly realized it's good to remind her that transition is not all or nothing, not a race, and not something with an expiration date

just to pull from an anecdote
i've been out for 11-12ish years and i still am not on hrt. i've known some people more financially privileged than i am that transitioned months after realizing they're trans
both of us are just people trying to get by
i'm not "past" my expiration date for transition and i'm not less trans than other people just bc im not able to medically transition rn

tldr i think affirming stuff that is based less around appearance and more around idk, providing solidarity and presence is more tangible and solid since people can have such individual experiences with body image but that's just my onion

[solid oasis]

yas

[inland schooner]

Thank you everyone!

[runic fable]

Gender euphoria is so silly cuz like
Wdym putting on eyeliner crappily made me the happiest i’ve been in months

[mossy thicket]

I heavy fw the last two images where are they from

[scenic falcon]

Transgenders of Transdome, I ask of assistance for something very important. For you see, I was in a lobby in a server with a mic on. And despite the pronouns I put on my profile, people in that lobby knew of my original gender...because of my voice. How do I get a more masculine voice? I dont want to be seen as girl online and now I think its time that I learn how to be a little more dude than I am now. So, how do I do that in the vocal way?

(sorry I was watching the vvitch yesterday, but still, I need help)

[golden plover]

There a speech therapists that do that full-time, I visit one.

[solid oasis]

The first of the two is from “virus 1999” an old sci fi horror movie, I haven’t seen it but the screenshots revolving around the mech creature are really cool looking

Second one is an art belonging to https://x.com/erreyriz?s=21 they make a lot of surreal stuff and it’s worth a long scroll, here are some more favs ok apparently they’re also an ai artist now

erre–yriz (@erreyriz) on X

A mere glitch in the system of life. 🜹
⌜ai-explorer⌝
https://t.co/cKZyo1LhZI

X

WAIT

AI

https://cdn.discordapp.com/attachments/1365130262035562671/1422209072387719249/crying-tumblr.gif

I did NOT see that way before when I scrolled their stuff 💔

[golden plover]

The best I can say is what I avoid that makes me sound masculine.

Larger jaw opening when you speak, use the tounge further back in the mouth

Tighter lips, lighter voice

[mossy thicket]

Putting that movie on my watchlist. Also saddening that they're an ai clanker

[solid oasis]

Yeah I gotta see it when I have the time

[scenic falcon]

You know, I made an og species that look somewhat similar to these things...except I used my brain and hands to draw them

Just gimme a sec to find them

I have more but idk where they are

I thought I had way more wtf

[solid oasis]

Oh fuck yeah

They look cool I like the second from he first pic specifically

[left rivet]

Woah these are sick

I really like the orb ones

They seem like little flies thatd swarm you in a game

[magic verge]

this zine is helpful and includes other resources at the end, i also suggest looking up voice masculinization exercises on youtube https://transreads.org/wp-content/uploads/2023/12/2023-12-01_65696a0cf197e_DIYVOICE.pdf

i do voice masculinization exercises myself (when i remember to. sorry to my partner who studied speech pathology and keeps telling me to do them). webbop is on the right track with her tips: keep the space in your mouth wide, tongue further back in the mouth, try to speak from your chest rather than your head. easiest way to do that is to yawn and notice how your voice descends and resonates in your chest. yawn and then continue to try and speak without changing the position of your voice following the yawn

before doing any of this make sure you're hydrated, keep your posture straight and upright (no hunching!) as it allows for the most airflow throughout your chest. if you're sitting down make sure you're actually sitting on your sit bones and NOT your tail bone. take deep breaths from the diaphragm and do some vocal warmups to familiarize yourself with how you can change the position/resonance/pitch of your voice

if there are any people/singers/actors/whatever whose voice you enjoy and think of when you envision a more masculine voice, try to listen to audio of them and emulate their manner of speaking

consistency with vocal exercises is key, so try and reserve some time in the day to actively do the exercises (my partner had me do them for like 20-30 minutes a day)

with practice it will eventually come to you more naturally

[winter comet]

i used to have my voice trained down in high school and then i had to work and be a woman so i could get jobs so my voice is high again lol

[scenic falcon]

20-30 mins is all it takes per day? Huh, I'm gonna have to figure out when I could do that. Could I consistently talk with these voice changes all the time or would that damage my throat or something?

[magic verge]

yeah you could! 20-30 mins is more of like a minimum amount from what i understand but incorporating it into your speech throughout the day is totally fine, as long as you don't feel any pain or significant discomfort and stay hydrated etc etc

[scenic falcon]

Awesom 🔥 cant wait to start doing voice training on my own. I'm not able to do voice therapy but I'll start on my own, thanks!

[loud ridge]

I got my hands on some men’s clothes and longer shorts

[mossy thicket]

I wanna make one now....

Can I?

These look like little patapon characters but a lot more detailed

[scenic falcon]

I mean sure, I wanna see how other ppl make their own line demons in their own way. Maybe theirs would look better than mine

[mossy thicket]

Made a few. This is do fun to do

[scenic falcon]

YOOOO THATS AWESOME 🔥🔥🔥

[solid oasis]

2nd one cutesit

[next harbor]

They're all so gender

[digital geyser]

these are rlly cool!! what are they exactly?

[scenic falcon]

they're originally my creation, they're Line Demons, like, literal demons that make up the strings or "lines" of the universe or anything that exists in any way. they're the embodiment of chaos, but aren't particularly evil. Although their actions would make someone think otherwise.

Their forms literally look like strings or lines that intersect randomly and imperfectly, so they'd be hard to comprehend irl.

[digital geyser]

that's so cool

woah

[next harbor]

steals ur gender

[broken prism]

Why not, I made some creatures too

[topaz rapids]

pretty...

[solid oasis]

Soooo beautiful

[runic fable]

hey i have a creature too

[tight hatch]

thinking about when I put on a suit coat thingy a bit ago and it gave me gender euphoria
legit wanna try and look for places near by where I can get suits
tho Ik they tend to be pretty expensive guh

[tight hatch]

genuinely love and adore these Line Demons, such a cool way to design characters holy moly

[topaz rapids]

true and real

[digital geyser]

i recently reconnected with a maternal aunt and oh gosh one of my cousins is a trans girl and like yay trans family but my parents are terfs

i also have a trans cousin on both sides which is fun

[feral wind]

all my family are cis

i only have a couple of gay/lesbian family members

im most fruity/alt family member

that i know if

[loud ridge]

All of my family members are cis and het

I’m the oddball

I’m in a long line of trump supporters

[scenic falcon]

break the cycle, be gay!

[candid ore]

all my of my family is cishet except my sister (bi) and my cousin (trans)

[feral wind]

same

and aunt is same as me

[digital geyser]

my immediate family is my terf parents and my stepbrother who is a gamer who thinks saying the n word as a white guy is peak comedy

but yeah things get fun outside of that

[loud ridge]

I’m basically a copy paste of my dad but more sporty nerdy and accepting

[scenic falcon]

for some reason the men in my family are either gay or bi, like, uncles or cousins, not in laws

and except my grandpa, idk why but for some reason it's like a family...trait? curse?

idk. it's a weird thing

[winter comet]

my sister and i are bi and they're nonbinary and i'm (also technically nonbinary) transmasc

both of us are the gay sibling
my half sister idk about i think she's cishet but like Chill about it

my uncle is gay but he got on my shitlist for outing me to my grandpa bc he's too scared to come out as gay to him himself

[topaz rapids]

muehehheheeheh

I was at my climbing gym and some trans group was there at they where really cool and some super pretty person showed me how to slackline

BUT I DEADNAMED MYSELF BECAUSE I WAS NERVOUS

fml

[elder saffron]

Fumbled

[carmine cobalt]

that's so real sometimes i just forget

[topaz rapids]

[solid oasis]

scag

i think its funny i commented on a lot of MG ultra vids with a scag pfp and somehow im at the top of a lot of the videos

hail scag

[topaz rapids]

scag!!!!!!!

she is canonically trans

[solid oasis]

https://tenor.com/view/scag-regretevator-computer-stat-gif-12611882114698006608

she is quite the gender!

[topaz rapids]

https://tenor.com/view/robert-helpmann-true-feel-that-thats-true-morgan-freeman-true-gif-15273165990450333551

https://tenor.com/view/regretevator-regretvatorscag-regretevatorprototype-scag-prototype-gif-13599234732986062249

[elder saffron]

All these years later into my transition and I'm finally getting hit with the "you should smile" comments

[candid ore]

the classic gender affirming misogyny

[elder saffron]

Fr lmao

[past saffron]

hello its been a minute but i am finally about 8 months on t . life is wonderful . wife is supportive. all my homies ride for me. life is good.

[left rivet]

Was it really necessary for my math teacher to write my deadname in parenthesis under our new assigned seats chart

[elder saffron]

Thats.....weird

[candid ore]

my school did this in the YEARBOOK

[left rivet]

Bruh thats crazy

All im thinking is just… why

[scenic falcon]

You should probably ask your teacher why tf they did that cuz that is not ok

[digital tiger]

I hate it so much when schools try so hard to make your deadname known to literally everyone 🫩🫩 I’m so sorry bro

[grand hearth]

Yall fw the sinister potion

[winter comet]

my husband's t vials were like tiny compared to this one

[magic verge]

yes i also love my sinister potion #mysinisterpotion

[grand hearth]

hell yeah 🤝

[grand hearth]

This has never happened to me before mmfaooo

I was like why the fuck is this singular vial suddenly expensive

[magic verge]

i'm using the teeny tiny ones i'm so jealous

i got drawing needles that are too big because i was hoping to get the big vial 💔

i make do it's just a lot of time spent getting rid of air bubbles

[west anchor]

That's what buff peter took when he got into fortnite

https://tenor.com/view/peter-griffin-peter-griffin-fortnite-groovy-server-slurp-juice-buff-peter-griffin-buff-gif-14014267686721042595

[grand hearth]

https://tenor.com/view/spiderman-spiderman1-spiderman2002-green-goblin-green-goblin-transformation-gif-22219192

Me after I take the giant bottle of T

[elder saffron]

If T is sinister potion, then what would E be?

[winter comet]

malevolent elixir

[dull raft]

no existing label exactly fits me so i made my own flag. i dont really feel gender in the expected sense anymore, even though i do still like masculine terms. also i really really really really really like puppies and feel like one sometimes (not lycanthropy/transpeciesm)

[mossy thicket]

Your gender is puppyboy/j

[dull raft]

i actually did use that term to describe myself for a while!! but people always think im into petplay when 1) im a kid and 2) im not 💔💔💔

[solid oasis]

bro...........

hopefully it was more of a mock towards like, "having" to refer to u by ur deadname in the system?? idk

i know things are changing in the US this year with that stuff, ppl being forced to use deadnames but hey thats just me trying to think positively i hope he's not an ass

bruhhh I need to get back on t i went off it for half a year bcs of Shit and im like Fuck

(im sure ive said that here)

[loud ridge]

4 more years until I can start t

[loud ridge]

hi

[quartz parrot]

the transdome.. hi guy s we're collectively enby

[topaz rapids]

[left rivet]

Hi

https://cdn.discordapp.com/attachments/1329902682533658767/1429742863994064926/caption-10.gif

[solid oasis]

oh my

[candid ore]

i smell based alert

[jagged quiver]

systems, it is forbidden...

j realized that message is from three days ago and my discord was way up

[next harbor]

It's only an issue if u make it one shhhh

There is never a bad time for trans

Okay wait maybe like historically but I'm speaking in a simple way lol

[jagged quiver]

truke

[winter comet]

tansgener

[grand hearth]

the sinister potion!

[mossy thicket]

Hi

I've been training to get my voice deeper

But now my throat like, hurts quiet a bit

It like stings a little and hurts when I swallow

I hope I didn't like fuck up my voice

[winter comet]

take it easy

it's a marathon not a sprint
so you dont have to do it constantly and to the point where it hurts
you also shouldnt push it too much further than your natural range

[mossy thicket]

Yeah I'm aware

I couldn't tell what my limit was, cuz I couldn't feel any strain or pain while practicing

[grand hearth]

Ime it shouldn’t hurt so much 😬 a lot of it is practicing using a “chest voice” vs a “head voice”

[mossy thicket]

Aha

[winter comet]

yeah i dont know that ive ever had pain while doing it except when i was relying too hard on vocal fry

(and no one asked but yes men do vocal fry it's not a feminine vocal trait)

[mossy thicket]

Guys I lied it's my fucking tonsils

I was wondering why the pain was only on one side

[magic verge]

uh oh

[mossy thicket]

Glad I didn't strain my voice, but instead my tonsils are being weird again

[quartz parrot]

what leads you to that conclusion.. :3c

lemon dip ↩️

[Reply to:](#1025645033325608970 message) i smell based alert

also lowk been thinking abt doing voice training even tho our voice is pretty deep as is

[inland schooner]

diy trust

[runic fable]

Speed architect says “do diy it’s so silly”

[topaz rapids]

thanks speed

[solid oasis]

how do diy T does anyone have a guide

[topaz rapids]

hmm I’ll find one resource I’ve found that has a little info abt t

[inland schooner]

I'm not a guide but if you'd like you can DM me

[true elm]

Being transgender

[solid oasis]

Me when I’m not my assigned gender # transed gender

[digital tiger]

Who up transing they gender rn

hashtag I know I am

[glass thunder]

https://cdn.discordapp.com/attachments/1292343423382061098/1376072263857864846/tumblr_7c8dffff594bb2ec5e1c8005dd747bac_f3ee2cc4_250.webp

[karmic pier]

[subtle oracle]

Any tips for makeup? I never got The chance to learn

[elder saffron]

Depends on what you wanna learn to do

[frosty sky]

uoooaaaaa

[loud ridge]

Gulp

[mossy thicket]

It's been 100 days since I last applied for gender affirming care

800 days to go

[quartz parrot]

keep your hands steady as you can, use the right brushes for the job, and find a good balance between cost and quality. Thats all I can really think of

Julie's deceased ↩️

[Reply to:](#1025645033325608970 message) Any tips for makeup? I never got The chance to learn

[subtle oracle]

Aww thanks!!

[subtle oracle]

Id love to know how to put on lipstick better, i like black lipstick for concert

[winter comet]

lip liner + lip brush is easier for lipsticks

[elder saffron]

Pretty much what @winter comet said, but pro tip about black lipsticks, you'll wanna over line because black can give the illusion of making something look smaller which black lipsticks tend to do

[final heart]

Me asf

[loud ridge]

Memememe

[frosty sky]

Damn rite

https://tenor.com/view/anime-mha-my-hero-academia-its-me-me-gif-209860612097463596

[digital tiger]

TRUE TRUE TRUE

https://tenor.com/view/ulate-moth-trans-moth-moth-light-lamp-gif-1241474945407470801

[grand hearth]

real

[frosty sky]

https://tenor.com/view/suwako-touhou-transgender-trans-frogs-gif-12816498668722653715

[topaz rapids]

mememe….

is that a reference

[sudden zephyr]

does any1 have any good examples for curly hair

I want mine like medium length but frames my face pretty good 😭

I was thinking smth like this but I want my forehead to be covered cuz like.. its big lol

[sudden zephyr]

But that's more effort to take care

I want smth where I don't maintain alot

tired as fuck MB if I have horrible wording

dude I don't like Oklahoma at times cuz my hair is so puffy just cause of it

[mossy thicket]

Who up gendering their trans

[digital tiger]

ME ME MME ME I AM

straight up transing it if you will

[mossy thicket]

Me too

[digital tiger]

Hell yeah ‼️ transgender for everybody

[mossy thicket]

I figured out how the cheap trans tapes from my local store work

No more peeling after 1 day

It now actually holds up for a week

[digital tiger]

WHAT that’s actually so cool holy shit

I hate it so much whenever it peels 😭 especially like after a day

[winter comet]

i wish my skin wasnt allergic to trans/kt tape

my chest is kind of too big for it anyway but

[mossy thicket]

Yeah my more expensive trans tape ran out and my mom bought this cheap version from the store. I had to figure it out for a while though

[frosty sky]

https://tenor.com/view/kaname-madoka-madoka-magica-madoka-kaname-puella-magi-madoka-magica-gif-7067295093115698075

iiiiiits meeee

[runic fable]

Me if i was in a gif

[final heart]

hello

this isnt formatting righr

[frosty sky]

being meguca is suffering

[quartz parrot]

idk who asked but heres my binding tips as someone whos been binding for over a year now

1- if youre thinking about getting a binder dont just buy a binder from amazon (binders from cheap companies may have issues that can cause pain). buy from a trusted brand like spectrum (preferably not GC2B, their binders used to be good but i think they started using cheap materials and their binders arent as safe), ive had a spectrum binder for a year and a half, ive had to patch holes maybe once or twice but it still binds like new, i think it was abt 40-50 dollars

2- most brands say not to put them in the wash because itll degrade the nylon (the thing thats actually binds), but rlly its fine as long as you make sure you wash it on cold and dry it on low heat. I usually wash mine only once a week

3- remember to move your boobs up and to the side, gives you a flatter bind and distributes pressure in my experience lessening the chances of pain

4- id wear a sports bra underneath it, it keeps your boobs in place longer and also just makes it feel less weird. Also good if you need to take it off on sudden notice due to pain ir someting

5- dont wear it more than 8 hours, if you go slightly over youll probably be fine but wearing it for like 12 hours will probably cause chest pain

6- for choosing the correct size, measure your bust (around the center of your breast) and waist (just under your boobs) and use the sizing chat THE BRAND provides (not one you find online!!! it could be incorrect!!), if youre between sizes like i am then go for the in-between size.

yeah

hoooly text wall

[runic fable]

thank you (i am a transfem)

imagine injecting yourself with estrogen with this

[digital geyser]

goes hard

[frosty sky]

this stuff needs a holy plug

[wooden echo]

Woah hello

Sorry I literally just joined this server a few hours ago like a loser

[left rivet]

Welcome

[quartz parrot]

welcome to the coolest place in the server B)

[digital tiger]

Hi transgender machine girl fans happy late Halloween

[wooden echo]

If I was a beautiful transgender woman I would name myself Rarity

[true elm]

Holy flip that’s the name of the flipping my little pony

[winter comet]

transgenderization nation

informed consent feminization nation

to whom it may apply

[frosty sky]

https://tenor.com/view/transgender-pride-love-red-heart-opening-trans-flag-gif-25836673

[loud ridge]

Hi luma

[elder saffron]

I was about to respond when I seen things get deleted, but if you do read this I understand being scared living in a red state, but take it from me someone who lived in a red state and then moved into probably a even redder state in comparison that its not as bad out there as it seems. Ive been openly out for close to 7 years and during that time I wanna say Ive only ever been harassed for being trans a single time, the vast majority of people either dont care, or realistically will just be shitty from a distance. Obviously I speak only for my experience and who knows maybe someone here can vouch for it, or has gone through worse.

I wanna also add that I work in retail so I deal with people A LOT lol and that is the majority of my public experience

I remember when I was 16 realizing I was trans I was terrified to come out and I feared that if I had I would be beaten up or worse, but if I had a time machine Id love to go back and tell myself its going to be ok.

[wooden echo]

I love you

You are so awesome

Thank you for living

[frosty sky]

I am in a deep blue blue state, yet this helps me a lot

[quartz parrot]

yeah, the reality is that being openly an asshole to someone for any reason looks absolutely horrible and can loee someone their job, so most people just steer clear of it

Luma (HRT-Void Synthesizer) ↩️

[Reply to:](#1025645033325608970 message) I was about to respond when I seen things get deleted, but if you do read this I understand being s…

[elder saffron]

The most I deal with is young teens and adults that act like life is TikTok now and will try to do stupid stuff to get my attention or good ol cat calling/misogyny

Which some of that probably isn't helped by me being goth and we all know how the Internet (mainly TikTok and reddit) has fetishized that

[quartz parrot]

oh dearie

[digital tiger]

The fetishization of goth/alternative people in general genuinely kills me 🫩🫩 a little part of me dies every time I hear the phrase “goth dommy mommy”

[mossy thicket]

My country is close to having a right leaning party winning the election, which has a lot of fans that despise anyone that's not straight or white. This reassures me a lot

It reminds me that not everyone is out to get me, and even if someone does there's always 10 more people that stand behind me

[elder saffron]

The world seems to be heading towards the right and its horrifying for sure, but its important to note that a lot of these politicians are nearing the death rattle of their parties, the world has been leaving them behind for a long time and they have to cling to whatever they can to hold any power. Youre always gonna have people that are blind and follow whatever theyre told, but in all honesty theyre not the majority no matter what they say or how it looks online...you gotta also recognize that some hate groups use bots to spread bigoty too which can really make it look like there is a fuck ton of hate

Also kinda off topic, but goddamn Im over here trying not to cry lol I didnt expect what I said to give others hope in the way that it seems to have

[wooden echo]

Where I live there aren't a lot of trans people and most of them are teenagers, so knowing that you're ten years older than me and still doing well is honestly so reassuring to me

Everything seems so discouraging these days

[scenic falcon]

Im pretty sure this whole right leaning ideology that's happening is only temporarily, since the world's political views shifted from left to right to left a lot in the past. And a lot of ppl back then believed that it was the end, so why would it be any different now?

[elder saffron]

America hasnt dealt with something this bad in a very long time, I believe thats the big contributor.

[wooden echo]

1940s Germany

[frosty sky]

realshit

[quartz parrot]

this isnt even an exaggeration is the sad part

A Person Dead to Shame ↩️

[Reply to:](#1025645033325608970 message) 1940s Germany

but still even that didnt succeed

[elder saffron]

Didn't succeed but costed the lives of millions of minorities, gays, Jews, and the disabled

[wooden echo]

I think regardless of what happens, we'll triumph

We have always existed and we always will

[elder saffron]

Yup, existence is resistance

[wooden echo]

And even if they bury us we're prone to crawling up from the dirt like maggots anyway 😛😛

[elder saffron]

https://tenor.com/view/pvz-plants-vs-zombies-zcorp-basic-dancing-gif-12000616676940190692

[magic verge]

wise words as always tibi

[elder saffron]

Hey @magic verge hope youre doing well

[elder saffron]

It is! Theres 2 from the server Im in

[frosty sky]

blahaj emotes go hard

[elder saffron]

[magic verge]

hi i'm doin alright thank you for asking!! i hope you've been well

[frosty sky]

Lock in evrynyan