transdome

[spice sphinx]

THESE

Fuck the watermelon sour patch mids, if you wanna feed the trans girls you get these

[misty harness]

Plume also does $40/month with insurance now too

[spice sphinx]

I used to know a friend group online that was just this over and over again and I would genuinely get confused by which one is which because they might as well have all been the same person

All of the white appropriation of aave you could ever ask for

[grand hearth]

I use them!

[civic ibex]

YAAAAAAAAAAYYY

[grand hearth]

[civic ibex]

idk which one to try first..

[grand hearth]

oh yeah the situation surrounding my first batch of HRT is really funny. I scheduled a consult with them right as they overhauled their system entirely—somehow when they sent me my prescription they forgot to send me an invoice for it first 😭

[civic ibex]

😭😭😭

so you didnt have to pay for it? :o

[grand hearth]

Nope!

Free T heheeheehehe

[sturdy trail]

yes exactly

[real meadow]

my siblings are epic

[sturdy trail]

what is it with white moms and being passive in demanding situations all the time

i know what it is it's just infuriating

[misty harness]

my parents were the opposite. my dad was quiet and my mom asked a bunch of invasive questions

[real meadow]

i knowww it sucka

like i wanna have a conversation with both of them. but shes just silent until its over or until we point out that shes being quiet

[misty harness]

maybe have a conversation with her 1 on 1? or see if your siblings can back you up

[austere jay]

same here

funny enough tho my mom opposed me being trans more and now she is like the more accepting of the two??

weird

my parents are in a grey area of accepting me or not

[misty harness]

yeah same

it's just weird

they're ""trying""

[austere jay]

for me it’s almost like they won’t want me to know they’re trying? like they’re dipping their toes in, super huge grey area thing

i’ve become kid and child but not son yet

[balmy pond]

Dear lord god almighty our father who art in heaven arent they 💀💀💀

[misty harness]

mhm. any time they say my name its with hesitation, unless it's deadnaming thats what i mean by "trying" aka not really at all

[spice sphinx]

Mfs have to “try” to give common courtesy it’s so funny

My favorite is the dumbass cis people thing of like looking up and waving your hands around like they’re fucking bbc sherlock whenever they deadname you

Like they’re sorting it out in their brain in front of you and putting on this show so that you know they’re doing their best

[timid grail]

i feel pretty lucky that my parents and grandparents are all accepting

[balmy pond]

Mhmmhm
Mines when they explain they need time to mourn the loss of the "son" they raised for 25 years and that's why I cant get mad at them for deadnaming me after being out for almost two years :3

[spice sphinx]

Jfc

When they pretend like they’ve “lost” something from you transitioning that’s one of the worst things for me

[grand hearth]

I’m a lil dumb! so when they sent me the HRT kit I didn’t realize it came with both 25 AND 20 gauge. 😭 I was using 25 to draw and inject so now I’m short of 25s to inject. I tried a 20 to see if I could handle IM and I could tell it was not going to go well immediately as I poked myself lol so I stopped

[misty harness]

ya I snapped fucking hard at my mom when she tried to pull the grieving/loss thing

that pisses me off like little else

[valid sun]

me asf

my mom was super against it until like half a year after i came out bc then my doctors talked to her about it and gave her documentaries which clicked somehow

my dad didnt care at all but he didnt necessarily like me being a gay guy for awhile but now hes 100% supportive and said he would marry me and my husband if i asked since hes able to ordain

my mom is cool too now but the beginning was insane with hwr

her

[valid sun]

i also got this a lot when i first transitioned i had to explain it to my parents that im the same person

with like "hey its like a gift, u dont know whats inside but when u open it youll know that its always been that just with a different appearance. also now its better when its open"

its all compromises though 😞 until its not

[austere jay]

you can find back ups on amazon!

i get my needles thefe

do research on good ones tho cuz mine are a little dull and not the best

definitely better brands

[outer meteor]

that's so stupid i'm sorry
idk how they don't realize there's nothing to "mourn", no one died you just look different now

[unborn atlas]

just remembered this

[valid sun]

its so fucking funny that transhetfems original thing was "oh god this straight guy is a closeted homosexual" and now its "oh god this straight guy is a closeted transgender woman"

time is a flat circle

[bronze ocean]

it keeps happening

[inland schooner]

guys

good news

my first endocrinologist i saw got back to me! she said telehealth and whatnot is fine and i can get an appointment on the 7th of september (i will check to see if i have exams or anything on that day) meaning i can start testosterone legally!!

[inland schooner]

was the same with my dad! hes come around now after i started testosterone and saw how happy i was getting so he became supportive

[inland schooner]

EASY solution. trans men 🤝 you wont have that problem

[grand hearth]

I went ahead and ordered some!

they should be coming tomorrow or so

[austere jay]

yipppeeee!!!

[austere jay]

happened to me my partner went from cis man to gender ambiguous silly gal

[vapid dune]

So TRUE trans men fucking rule

[bronze ocean]

trans men 🫶

[proper igloo]

i 💚 transmascs

[outer meteor]

https://tenor.com/view/ziggy-head-scratches-gif-21583202

^ how i feel

[vapid dune]

so true

estrogen got me like MtBW male to bbnuy-wolf

[hollow thunder]

just got estrogen and spiro prescribed today!!

I feel a bit nervous but very excited

[misty harness]

oh nice!!!

congrats!

[fickle cypress]

taken one year apart, very proud of myself so i decided to share

[outer meteor]

awww :3

you got glasses /j

[fickle cypress]

💀💀💀 if you weren’t /j i would’ve been so confused

[timid grail]

i like how u can tell what shoes are my bfs and what shoes are mine (im goth)

it’s very fun dating someone who has a very different style from you

im very goth and he wears colorful pastels and stuff

[austere jay]

agree

i like being the strange looking one in the relationship it’s fun

[last pilot]

I always thought Ruby was pretty gender-neutral name. Why are people misgendering me

[unborn atlas]

commonly, it's not

[sturdy trail]

max and ruby goated

maybe it's language barrier

[spice sphinx]

People are weird about names

[unborn atlas]

I mean people think I'm a guy and I introduce myself as Zenobia whenever I can

[spice sphinx]

Like they hear Jen and it’s like “oh okay yeah, an obviously MALE name JEN”

[sturdy trail]

ya it feels like transphobic people deliberately ignore it

oskar always seemed explicitly masculine and never feminine and people still misgender after i introduce

[unborn atlas]

yeah now Oskar is decidedly masculine

[bronze ocean]

:3

[unborn atlas]

unfortunately you gotta like

recognize that average people aren't as lost in the sauce as us when it comes to gender theory

[bronze ocean]

ppl will also just misgender u on purpose

or they just do not care

[sturdy trail]

yeas

[spice sphinx]

I have a transmasc coworker who misgenders me

It’s great

[sturdy trail]

transmisogynie

[whole monolith]

oof ow owie

[spice sphinx]

It’s okay I’m cuter and cooler and more awesomer than him

My self esteem is unbreakable

[frozen breach]

trans ppl who misgender each other are a different breed dude 💀

[frozen breach]

so real

the cringe transmisogyny vs the based high self esteem

coughing baby vs hydrogen bomb

[unborn atlas]

therapeutic narcisissm

[unborn atlas]

pickme behaviour

[sturdy trail]

self love good

[austere jay]

amen

[real meadow]

it happens so often its like . wtf

like a lot of my friends are trans dudes and taking t. and like they always get each others pronouns right but then theres me who like. still gets she/her from em

which is quite bonkers

[wintry marten]

no fr its the worst

ppl always misgender me and are like "ohh i thought u were transmasc i was lowkey jealous of how well u passed"

like

😒 just correct urself and move on bro its not neccessary

[last pilot]

https://www.tumblr.com/vilebite/726180910564769792/q-watership-down

[last pilot]

The add something to the whole name thing.
I named myself after my bunny. The thing about bunnies is that if you get them early, you can’t tell what gender they are. So me and my fam always picked gender neutral name just to be safe. Nobody seemed to misgender the bun but people misgender me.

Also the fact people will apologize when they misgender a dog or a cat when it comes to you it’s such a problem

[digital geyser]

oh fr

like as if animals have a human sense of gender, they don't cuz it's a social construct. my cat doesn't care if someone calls her a boy. she's too busy sleeping all day because cats are living their best lives always

i think my dog thinks one of his names is Food i dont think pets care if u misgender them. but trans people do because we exist in the human system of gender. its as if people who do that view animals as more human than trans people tbh

[frozen breach]

that last sentence ^^^^^^

100% some ppl think that way and it's fucked up

middle aged white ladies who call me a girl and then get mad when I do the same to their ugly ass dog <<<<<<

[digital geyser]

literally

unless the person getting upset is a literal child there's no excuse

[zinc oriole]

It's really not hard to get pronouns right. Even if I've known somebody a long time and their pronouns change, it's not a hard adjustment. Skill issue

I get occasional mess ups at first if somebody's known someone for a long time but if somebody is introduced to me as he/him and that's what he uses, I don't mess it up. Like I never understood misgendering amongst trans people

[digital geyser]

yeah from going to an all girls school its hard to get out of the mindset everyone you know is a she/her, so its often an automatic assumption

also unrelated but i dug out some cargo shorts i was yet to wear that are pretty oversized and i wore them to the shop with my favourite jacket that hides my hips and i have not felt so much validation of my gender from my presentation in a LONG time. kinda got wrecked by the fact my main purpose was to go pick up some packages n therefore i had to get IDed but still i felt so good

top tip: invest in oversized cargo shorts

[austere jay]

this is incredibly fucked actually

why would anyone think that’s okay to say

i’m sorry that shit blows

[digital geyser]

do any transmascs here have tips for making hips less prominent?

[zinc oriole]

Wearing pants lower on your waist helps

It also helps if they're a bit baggy

[outer meteor]

yea i only wear super baggy pants

i used to wear tights all the time and i don't know how i ever did that

[vapid dune]

Reminds me of a previous place I worked at. Had a customer. I knew she was trans. She knew I was trans. I fucked up a small thing in her plate and asked her to pardon me I’d go fix it and she’s like “alright thanks sir”

I wanted to murder her so bad

[austere jay]

big win for me today

auto parts stores have always been a closed off area to me since i associate them with a high level of masculinity and i’ve always felt not man enough to go in, but i did it today, got everything i need and even had the courage to ask for help

[last pilot]

Dude let’s go!! Proud of ya!!

[vapid dune]

I’m so happy for you but this is for sure an interesting thing to read dang

I still refuse to go into the women’s underwear section of any store out of this same fear it’s interesting to see that trans men have that equivalent for a car parts store

But fuck yea Vinny!!! Let’s go

[austere jay]

any place full of men who are a) confident in themselves and b) look down on people who don’t know what they know is scary for me

i don’t like situations where i can be pinned as a lesser man

[timid grail]

the trans experience was before i passed introducing myself as bruno got a lot of ‘wow that’s an interesting name’

now that i pass i do not get that response anymore lol

[civic ibex]

another day another excruciating trial of trying to appeal to my cis dude friends and simultaneously make them realize i don’t owe them masculinity HAHAHAHA

screams

[frozen breach]

tbh part of why I picked Ollie is because it's pretty gender neutral and I didn't want to have the experience of going "hi I'm Oliver" while not passing at all

[bright bane]

Was talking to a girl for a few weeks but then she told me she was cis. Can't believe she led me on like that... I'm not cisphobic but i need to be with a real, trans woman /s

[vapid dune]

I fucking hate my job I fucking hate my job I fucking hate my job. I’ve mentioned how I’ve gone by my chosen name at my job for about 4 months now since my 1 year HRT anniversary. And after all this fuckjng time. The hostess who made today’s server list wrote me on by my deadname. This bitch hates me cus her bf hates me for being trans btw. Told the managers. Managers didn’t give a shit saying it’s not a big deal

Yea not a big deal to out me as trans and deadname me to the newer coworkers who have only known me as Agatha. No big deal

[frozen breach]

tgis is so real

[last pilot]

I have been thinking about if me being trans played any role in my childhood or if it’s just a recent thing. Going deeper into my memories tell that I was trans coded af as a kid.
I liked to hang out with boys more than girls, and when I did, I felt guilty for calling myself a she. I wanted to be one of them so much- another thing would be how my growing chest made me uncomfortable even at the very beginning of puberty. I was told I will have a big chest (like that’s not weird thing to say to a fucking child) and I just denied it, I have hated my chest from the very start.

Plz don’t tell me I’m the only one with this “early trans thoughts”

[unborn atlas]

many such cases

of looking back at your past and going "oh that makes sense"

[last pilot]

FOR REAL

[misty harness]

yep

not me sitting at mass in kindergarten watching all the girls in dresses trying to decide which one i want to wear the most

[unborn atlas]

I remember being in drama class and seeing all the other boys flock to dresses and wigs to dress up and mock girls and feeling weird about it

and not knowing why

[austere jay]

same here

funny enough my first hint was realizing i liked guys in the way guys like guys and not how girls like guys

i couldn’t fully understand it tho and didn’t come out until a bit after that

[unborn atlas]

that's an interesting way to put it

Vinny, you engage with gender in a really interesting way that I've not seen before or since

you point out things I've never seen or thought of

[austere jay]

i’m gender crazy like that

i’ve taken a lot of time to analyze myself

[unborn atlas]

gender science

[austere jay]

also growing up i didn’t know what being transgender was, but i did know about gay people so the first thing i questioned was my sexuality

i thought maybe i was a lesbian or asexual because i didn’t like how i was interacting with guys as a girl but the realization that i liked them in the way a man would presented itself pretty early

[unborn atlas]

ye

[austere jay]

i had zero clue what this meant cuz i didn’t know i was a boy so i ignored ir

[vapid dune]

I’m always reminded of the day when I was like 7 or 8. And my mom took me and my brother to get a toy each. And my brother of course picked an action figure or some shit like that. And I wanted a stuffed animal and my mom told me “no no put that back, get something for boys” and I remember pleading that I wanted the stuffed animal so badly and she was like no. You’re not a girl. Get something for boys like a car or action figure

And she refused to give in and I cried and so I got nothing cus she was mad at me

[unborn atlas]

I don't think parents understand the systems they are agents to

[timid grail]

i knew i was bisexual my entire life and i didn’t even know it wasn’t ‘normal’ lol but i definitely was always trans and had no idea what that even was until middle school

but i wanted to be literally Anything but a girl

i wanted to be a dog when i grew up and was majorly attached to the ‘tomboy’ label

and i remember like. daydreaming that i would cut my hair and get boy clothes and go by a boy name and go to a new school and nobody would know i was a girl

lol

[unborn atlas]

lotta egg nostalgia tonite

[vapid dune]

I swear I had no clue what transitioning was until I was like 16 back in like 2013 and even then since I was like 9 or 10 I’d use the name Agatha sometimes online cus I was like damn if I had been born a girl that would so be my name

Yet people still ask me if I named myself after the Weatherday song (I do however love the Weatherday song a lot)

[timid grail]

trans experience is being obsessed with your boy or girl name

anyone else ask your parents a lot what they would have named u if you had been born a boy

i was so fixated on that as a kid LOL

[unborn atlas]

that's actually how I got this name

[spice sphinx]

My first ever partner came out as a trans man and that’s what led me to start questioning my own gender n sexuality n stuff as a kid

[spice sphinx]

My parents swear my deadname is gender neutral but it’s not at all

[timid grail]

smh

my parents finally let go of being attached to my deadname a few years ago

though i kept the first letter as my middle name since my dad requested it

so my middle name is a single letter which is kinda awesome

[spice sphinx]

I still have all 3 of my initials

My middle name is Pink :3

[timid grail]

whattt that’s awesome

im glad my parents finally came around on me being trans a few years ago bc they were so bad when i first came out but i think once i was out long enough they realized it wasn’t a phase

[spice sphinx]

That’s so stupid

[timid grail]

it’s funny my grandparents on my moms side were the most supportive from the start which i didn’t expect bc they’re christian and grew up in the midwest. my grandma was always supportive. also my little brother too

[spice sphinx]

Like they don’t trust you enough to believe that you’re genuine

[timid grail]

yeah ikr

they were so obsessed w ‘losing their daughter’ but they do understand now i didnt change as a person, im just truly myself now

there was no loss just gain of me being happier and myself

i found out that my grandpa on my dads side doesn’t know that i’m trans and my grandma (they’re divorced) said i shouldn’t tell him bc he’s… not going to be accepting which is too bad but i think it’s also probably for the best if i want to inherit stuff from him whenever he dies

i think he’s my only family member who doesn’t know but i haven’t seen him in 11 years so whatever

[spice sphinx]

My shitty racist transphobic family has tried to guilt me into “the family” by holding inheritance and stuff over my head

I cut that whole part off completely and stopped accepting their weird gifts and shit

I wish people were normal about family structures

Like

Your mother is just another human being

[timid grail]

literally. chosen family is so important

your family isn’t owed anything just because they’re family

real family that truly loves you doesnt hold the bare minimum above your head

[misty harness]

the concept of a family is ingrained so deeply into basically every culture with all these incredibly strict rules and meanings behind shit, no wonder people develop such warped interpretations of it

[timid grail]

i honestly out of all my family biological wise love and care for my siblings the most bc i’ve had a parental role for them. both of my sibs have lived with me this year and id do anything for them

parents are a pretty … complicated relationship lol

[misty harness]

yeah parent/child relationships are so weird, especially as you become older

[timid grail]

ngl finding out that my dad had a secret relationship with a man when he was in highschool explains a lot

im not supposed to know that tho lol

[misty harness]

theres like a religious gravity to the expectations around respect and authority on both ends that just are complete bullshit

[timid grail]

yeah. i definitely think it’s better now that i’m moved out but it’s very complicated

[misty harness]

oof yeah i can't imagine what processing that was like lol

[timid grail]

my parents rely more on me than i do on them (they are currently homeless but even when they weren’t it was always like that)

YEAH

i seriously think so many cishet men are less cis and less het than they can admit

and would probably be happier if they realized that

[misty harness]

ive essentially been my mom's therapist since i was 12 and financial safety net since i finished college so like i get that too, sigh

and definitely, traditional masculinity is so...prescriptive and conformist that if you're bought in on that concept it's so hard to break out of it even a tiny bit

[timid grail]

it’s definitely hard to be the more responsible one. especially when it feels like you’re supposed to be able to rely on your parents not the other way around

yeah literally

[spice sphinx]

Parents are just as confused and dumb as their children

Like it’s just difficult and no one knows how to do it

I’m at least glad I have a normal relationship with my mother

(Uncommon trans woman W)

My father on the other hand

:(

[timid grail]

yeah the older i get the more i realize… many ppl older than me do not have it any more figured out

dads if they were normal (almost impossible challenge)

[misty harness]

my dad is pretty chill, he just kind of ignores the gender stuff mostly. my mom is weird about it. she'll deadname me and ask invasive questions but then if i imply that someone said transphobic to me she'll be like "tell me who it is i'll talk to them no one can treat you like that"

[timid grail]

????

that is so fucking strange

[misty harness]

yeah

it's weird

my mom is.... a person

ugh i have to spend a whole weekend with her this weekend, sigh

[spice sphinx]

That just feels like she has weird internal feelings about it but she still wants to protect her child from other people regardless of her feelings I guess

[timid grail]

i hope it goes okay :< praying she is a little more normal

[misty harness]

Yeah i mean it's definitely that, she's struggling to understand any of it but gets really performative about "protecting her kids", it has always been like that well before i came out

she was the "i'll talk to the teacher, i'll talk to the principal" mom

lmao

[spice sphinx]

Oh boy

The best

[misty harness]

i've seen her for a total of four days in the past six years, this is intentional

[spice sphinx]

Bless

[misty harness]

it'll be fine

[timid grail]

also i am at orientation (just transferred to a new college) and there are so many trans ppl here lol

[misty harness]

my siblings will be there and they're genuinely supportive and will shut her down if she gets weird lol

[misty harness]

hell yeah

[timid grail]

siblings W

i love my siblings my younger sibling is nonbinary transmasc and my little brother is questioning but he is literally the best ally ever

[misty harness]

love to hear that

mine are both younger and cishet but i drilled anti racist anti homophobic shit into them hard when we were high school/college age and i guess they actually listened

i will take credit for at least some of them being cool because they certainly didn't get it from our parents

but the moral of the story is: your parents are not special and only deserve the respect that they give you like any other person

[austere jay]

interestingly enough i only figured out i was queer and not a gay man after t

i kind of always knew but t helped

also my brothers are chill as hell, little brother accepts me in a “i really don’t give a fuck, you’re my brother obviously” kinda way and we never talk about me being trans, it was like i was born a guy with him. my older brother was a little strange but he’s take this mentor approach where its really important that he ushers me into manhood yknow

[digital geyser]

im so happy yall have siblings that are chill with it cuz im not out but my stepbrother definitely would not be which im ok with cuz i dont like him at all anyway

my stepbrother is an edgy 15 year old gamer dude who got trapped in a 23 year old man’s body except he somehow is even worse than that these days

[frozen breach]

my little brother is honestly more chill about me being trans than anyone else in my family, he got my name and pronouns down right away and he was also the best at switching back to she/her before I was out to my extended family

[frozen breach]

ugh I hate those types

[digital geyser]

i always wanted a sister so bad😔

my whole family is transphobic to different extents but i think he would be the most dangerous person to have find it out

[digital geyser]

also slay brother

one of my cousins is genderfluid and i wish i could get in contact with them but theres a lot of family stuff preventing that. but hey its cool to know im not the only lgbt in the family

[frozen breach]

no fr hes actually the best

hes only 10 but hes verbally fought my grandpa about trans stuff before which im too scared to do

[digital geyser]

kids are such allies my god

[frozen breach]

yeah fr!!

[misty harness]

kids don't give a shit until someone tells them to

[whole monolith]

extremely late to the conversation but being in the closet and liking the opposing agab like a queer is a very common mood I was definitely the assigned "male lesbian" in my high school group

one time I was hanging out with my girlfriends friends like without her and they were talking about period shits and like wanting to do things to guys that girls wouldn't admit to in front of other guys

and I was literally like "why am I always part of these conversations" as an ostensibly "straight" "male" and one of my long time besties just looked at me and went "oh you're not a real boy duh"

[inland schooner]

I remember when I was younger, like grade 5 I had a trans friend. His name was Toby. I didn't really know what "transgender" meant I just knew he used to be a girl and was now a boy and I was like oh cool and didn't give a fuck. My first trans exposure . Was friends with him till like last year because now he's not that great a person but oh well

As well as an NCIS episode(? There's alot of crime shows I used to watch idek) that had a transgender woman as the target and the unit was confused why she bothered to draw blood to put it into a tampon. I just remember that interaction alot

[supple quarry]

Girl Breakfast

[timid grail]

baller

[last pilot]

good meal

[unborn atlas]

https://vxtwitter.com/vvangore/status/1696594741578584469

[sturdy trail]

reminds me of this

i think about it daily

"no one can be queer for you"

[unborn atlas]

that's pretty cool

[spice sphinx]

I don't even understand what this one is saying the satire was too much for me Idk what the genuine meaning of it is

[unborn atlas]

I dunno it seems pretty cut and dry

[spice sphinx]

It’s like anti representation in mainstream media by like

Big studios and stuff?

Because I didn’t know if it was that or if it’s making fun of the idea of taking issue with that or something

The use of the word toxic is what makes me feel it’s taking the piss in like the opposite direction

Like it’s parody or something

[sturdy trail]

yeas

[sturdy trail]

this was like 2008-2014 or something so before the word toxic was overused to death i guess

it feels like there was an uptick of anti assimilationist queer radicalism around that financial crisis and occupy and now it's just dead

[spice sphinx]

Unfortunate

[austere jay]

this is really cool where did you find this

[sturdy trail]

https://web.archive.org/web/20140105014838/http://radicalhomosexualagenda.org/

found thru this https://web.archive.org/web/20150219114858/http://gayshamesf.org/links.html

[austere jay]

awesome thank you

[sturdy trail]

😼

[real meadow]

gender envy

[unborn atlas]

oh hey Dorian

new song comes out tomorrow

[unborn atlas]

and if it is of any comfort, I 100% think you could pull off a look like this

you got the face for it

[real meadow]

THNAK U

[umbral flame]

WAIT FR??

[vapid dune]

dorian 🥺

[unborn atlas]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IHhxeJMokVU

fr fr

[umbral flame]

OMG WTF I HAD NO IDEA, THANK YOU SO MUCH OMG 😭

[misty harness]

@real meadow seconding

[real meadow]

[misty harness]

call em ginger electra

[real meadow]

oh my god

😭

[unborn atlas]

in australia we call gingers

get this

RANGAZ

[real meadow]

fukin WHAT

[unborn atlas]

like orangutang

fukkennnnnn rangaz

[real meadow]

OHHH

[real meadow]

i am a ranga for climate action

[unborn atlas]

godspeed you funky little bloodnut

(oh man that one hasn't aged well)

[real meadow]

ALSO THIS PIC

i need to look like this immediately

[supple quarry]

so i started using hair removal cream tonight because ive been wanting to for awhile and holy shit

its probably gonna take a couple more applications to get where i want to be but just wow

only downside is it is the worst smell imaginable

burning hair x10

[real meadow]

nair?

[supple quarry]

Huh?

[real meadow]

the hair shit

[supple quarry]

oh uh it was called "nads"

[real meadow]

nads

sounds like a candy

like. a mix of dots and nerds

[proper igloo]

IS THAT RALSEI SMOKING A BLUNT??!

[grand hearth]

they wore this shirt at the first show I saw them at!

[real meadow]

yah lol

[grand hearth]

heheheeheeeee yea!!!

[real meadow]

good

the whole fit in the pic goes so fuckinf crazy

[umbral flame]

your so cool

[timid grail]

i work at a school and one of the teachers im working with this year is nonbinary

very awesome

also a lot of my students are trans and nonbinary and it’s very normalized for everyone to share their name and pronouns in introductions which is really nice. im glad it’s become a very common and normal thing

[digital geyser]

how open are they about it?

but also that’s awesome omg

[timid grail]

theyre fully open about it! when they introduced themself to the class they said their pronouns are they/them and asked that ppl use mx instead of mr or ms!

[sturdy trail]

next time i'm forced to be in one i will cause problems

[digital geyser]

omgg thats awesome for them

[austere jay]

i love testosterone i have eaten 4 burgers!’

discovered that i can indeed cook burger pattys at home and they taste the same as mcdonald’s i am so happy

[austere jay]

too fucking real

cant use my actual pronouns irl because people do not understand nor respect it

frustrating

[chrome snow]

Nothing is better than making your own homemade burger.

Especially when you grill the patty with cheezzzz

[austere jay]

ngl i just used the premade patties cuz i don’t want to mush my hands around in ground beef

also can’t have melted cheese because of my autism But! lettuce and onion and ketchup is my favorite

[chrome snow]

I love burgers loaded with vegetables

Pickles and tomatoes are always a must for me

:>

[sturdy trail]

i still think this should be at least deleted

[last pilot]

Sorry folks, I was just a meme I had saved on my phone without really knowing the context. It wouldn’t happen again, promise

[unborn atlas]

hasn't this happened twice already

[sturdy trail]

i don't think anyone including me wanted the blahaj one to be deleted if that's what you're referring to

too many short form video memes to look through

[umbral flame]

yup, shit sucks sm

[bronze ocean]

me fr

[zinc oriole]

One job I applied to for next year gave the option to enter any pronouns you wanted and even listed some neopronouns

It's a California remote job so it makes sense

But it was nice to see

I thought abt using it/its but idk I prefer using them for myself and not others using that for me

[final heart]

This is a bit like when environmentalists or something say "I loved trees from a young age" and how that naturally affects other aspects of life.

[supple quarry]

damn i kinda want to dye my hair

[misty harness]

do it

[balmy pond]

DO IT

[real meadow]

blue hair pronoun

[supple quarry]

yeah exactly

[unborn atlas]

I want green hair (cybergrind)

[supple quarry]

oooh, like a light green or something darker?

[unborn atlas]

well my hair is dark brown

but I have a lot of white hairs

so I figure it'd look cool to have little green steaks all through it

while the brown would get darker, I imagine

[spice sphinx]

I used to wanna dye my hair red or something but then I saw how pimpin I look bleached blond and I can never go back

[balmy pond]

so tru

I was talking to tibi last night abt doing an autumn foliage thing, like all yellows and coppers and reds

Something like this ^_^

[spice sphinx]

Thing I was talking about in another server

[balmy pond]

For sure

I think for me being a vampire is something I can more easily embrace

[misty harness]

Real

[misty harness]

Repeatedly deadnamed by my mom and then she wonders why I'm being moody

[chrome snow]

:((

[vapid dune]

I love how my mom knows I’m working on changing my name and gender and she’s just like lol ok. No intent on learning my chosen name (literally everyone in my life but my immediate family knows me by my chosen name) so I know they also intend to deadname me and treat me as a man for life

Can’t treat me masc for life if they disappear from my life soon enough

https://tenor.com/view/think-about-it-use-your-brain-use-the-brain-think-brain-gif-7914082

[spice sphinx]

Hey transdome hope you’re all having a good day/night tonight. Live long and live happily my goobsters.

[last pilot]

Hey y’all, does anyone here know if the gym testosterone boosters have any effect? I have been brainstorming about for the past week.

[unborn atlas]

gym?

[last pilot]

Stuff like this

[unborn atlas]

oh yeah I don't trust that

cis dudes treat testosterone like magic

trans people approach it more objectively

it's as if gym bros see "testosterone" as some linear sliding scale that's synonymous with masculinity and not a hormone with specific function

[unborn atlas]

not to mention this shit probably doesn't do fucking anything as advertised

they claw desperately at ways to "increase" their testoerone with a logic that's part superstition and part willing obfuscation by capitalists who want to exploit insecure men for money

I've fallen for the superstition in the past, hearing soy boosts estrogen and getting into soy milk as a half-joke

[last pilot]

Oh. Alright! Thank you tho.

I guess the best way for me now is to work out and have a diet to boost testosterone levels naturally

[unborn atlas]

I mean really the best way would be to get in touch with an endocrinologist but I get that's not an option for everybody

[last pilot]

Not at his very moment or anytime soon I’m afraid

[sturdy trail]

i endorse minoxidil

[sturdy trail]

don't ever buy no weed from the gas station bro

[bronze ocean]

that shits fake as hell

[austere jay]

slight change if any

i agree with feesh minoxidil is good but that other stuff doesn’t really do anything for you

made for cis male peace of mind

[chrome snow]

The only gym products that actually work are pre-workouts, protein powder and creatine.

Anything advertising to boost your testosterone is absolutely BS.

Avoid it at all costs.

[misty harness]

On the bright side, it costs nothing to avoid it 🙂

[real meadow]

oh u wanna be a ginger…

[balmy pond]

Something like that

[real meadow]

oh…

[balmy pond]

Or whatever asukas supposed to be lol

[real meadow]

oh.

[unborn atlas]

caleb about to play ginger appropriation card

[real meadow]

nah

im gonna be anti ginger on main tho

[unborn atlas]

internalized gingerphobia 😔

[real meadow]

why would you choose to be like that. it makes me SICK seeing the lifestyle choices… i cant support gingers

[unborn atlas]

to ginger pickmes talk about how they hate gingers? 🤔

[real meadow]

no

just people who have common sense

[umbral flame]

graa

[unborn atlas]

gwagwagwagwagwa

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FYFTATXSKEA

[supple quarry]

German?

[chrome snow]

gwagwagwagwagwagwagwaga

[small sand]

Gwa gwa 😰

[supple quarry]

damn crazy that every trans person is super hot and funny and smart and sweet

[unborn atlas]

gwa gwa

[spice sphinx]

Gwag

[real meadow]

gwa…

[umbral flame]

gwa

[chrome snow]

gwa

[vapid dune]

gwa

[zinc oriole]

Gw

[civic ibex]

gwa

[balmy pond]

gwa

[inland schooner]

gwa

[real meadow]

new binder baybee

its been a year

[unborn atlas]

gwagwas in chat for caleb's new binder

[real meadow]

this is so epic can we hit 20 gwa gwas

[frozen breach]

gwa gwa‼️

I probably need a new binder but also I'm getting top surgery in under a year (and possibly even under six months) so idk if it's rlly worth it

[real meadow]

i need top surgery

i need i need … i need boyly boy chest

theres a kid at my old school

eho got top surgery

hes 14

i was like.

i got so jealous i had to block his social media cause i was so dysphoric

[frozen breach]

yeah I knew a guy who got it at 13

like what

how

[frozen breach]

this is so real

[supple quarry]

this is me when my friends bands get cool shows

[frozen breach]

me when all of my transmasc friends except for me qualify for keyhole top surgery instead of double incision

[real meadow]

what makes them qualify?

is it like. chest size

[frozen breach]

yeah that and body type

like a lot of them are very very thin w very small chests and I am. None of that lmao

[digital geyser]

mum, dad, i’m transginger (i dye my hair ginger)

[real meadow]

ok ywah so like

i had this on for like uhhhh

6 hours

painful as fuck for the last 10 mins

gc2b

[inland schooner]

Small chest for keyhole. Virtually nothing for peri
They both have the same name though so its hard to tell the difference

Just one of them half cuts the nipple and the other full cut around

[umbral flame]

gwa

[real meadow]

i put him in my media assignment

[supple quarry]

Just found out Elon has a 19 year old trans daughter who hates him and doesn’t want to be related to him

She’s so fucking cool

[spice sphinx]

Yeah it’s great

[chrome snow]

b-worded

[real meadow]

cutting my nips off and launching them at people

popsocket nips

[frozen breach]

chat is this real

that's so fucking funny

bro has been so owned by trans women, like his trans daughter disowned him and grimes left him for a trans woman 😭

common trans woman W

common elon L

[unborn atlas]

I still think that thing about grimes was tabloid muckraking

I didn't see anything that concretely supported it

[frozen breach]

very possible

I didn't look into it too much, I just ran with it because I thought it was funny

[spice sphinx]

Grimes is such a chud it’s unreal

I feel like I remember her being at least okay at some point

[unborn atlas]

boxxy juilliard etc

[proper igloo]

“woke mind virus”

if true, elon musk is just a living tony zaret bit

[unborn atlas]

lol

[spice sphinx]

Dog are you fucking kidding me

People told me folx accepts insurance and this is it?

What a fucking joke

[misty harness]

fucking hate insurance in this country, they have to negotiate with each company separately in each state, it's so incredibly complicated and takes years and years to navigate

[chrome snow]

It wouldn't be an issue if we had single payer insurance, but we have to all deal with this bullshit.

Fuck major insurance corporations.

[austere jay]

could be lying could not be but i think what this whole situation with his daughter and his behavior in the past few years illustrates is that he is absolutely losing it and spiraling down a mid life crisis cycle

major skill issue

[grand hearth]

yeah p much why I’m trying to get into a local clinic

they don’t even send just needles anymore if you need them

[supple quarry]

She’s so real

The trans urge to build furniture

[austere jay]

no i understand

carpentry is something i’ve always wanted to learn as well as my partner

trans people love wood working

[strong heath]

oh em eff gee i love this what interview is this from

[frozen breach]

so fucking real

tbh as cool as building furniture sounds I also just like putting together. like. ikea furniture or whatever

I remember overhearing that my parents were buying my little brother a new dresser and I made them wait to assemble it until I was free so that I could do it

[supple quarry]

new interview from rolling stone japan https://rollingstonejapan.com/articles/detail/39836/1/1/

[strong heath]

you’re the beeeeest tysm

[real meadow]

traced a cat onto blahaj

[supple quarry]

:3

[last pilot]

I thought cis people were over the “attack helicopter” joke

[unborn atlas]

there are always laggards

[chrome snow]

Literally the most outdated transphobia.

[umbral flame]

[supple quarry]

its just so stupid like no one is offended because "hur durrr attack helicopter" you just sound like a band kid cirka 2017

[chrome snow]

I heard it from time to time in my band class.

It was corny as hell.

[misty harness]

chatgpt is transphobic

I'm curious tho, how do Spanish speakers express nonbinary-ness?

[unborn atlas]

I spoke to aggy about this actually

instead of -a or -o at the end of words they use -e apparently

-x is nonsense tho

[bronze ocean]

-x is real

it has both an academically documented use and is still in use in anarchist and feminist circles all throughout spanish speaking countries

[unborn atlas]

@vapid dune blow up this person's kneecaps

[bronze ocean]

fuck off

[unborn atlas]

it's what they told me!

[bronze ocean]

there's a big misrepresentation going on online

mostly spearheaded by white supremacist latam people online

to discredit this usage

it was never supposed to be pronounced, it's something in writing

[unborn atlas]

hey I'm just going on what a Spanish speaker told me

[bronze ocean]

that's fair and measured but i am telling you that it does have actual usage in spanish writing

generally speaking it's only used in writing in anarchist and feminist circles as i've said before

@ is an earlier form of this that's still sometimes used (for combining both a/o in writing)

but if you're pronouncing it people will say -e ofc

[unborn atlas]

I am

gringe

but I am free

[vapid dune]

I’m late but call me a white supremacist Latin American if you so please but even LGBTQ+ friendly Latin American communities HATE -x. And I’m saying this as someone born, and raised, in Mexico. Fluent in the language and who uses it day to day. It’s not just “white supremacist circles” but anyone with common sense and a brain who knows latinx is a term invented not by Hispanic people, but by white Americans for latine use. Which we hate as it is to your average Latin American a form of language imperialism or white liberal “savior complex” as in white Americans, unaware of our already existing solutions to gender neutral terms (of which the chatGPT Sarah showed is also wrong, we generally say no binario but in a neutral sense because binario on its own is not gendered) and trying to impose onto an extremely ancient language awkward rules which make the language cumbersome when calling someone latine, or replacing any o- or -a with -e, as actual Hispanics do, does the job and IS what is used in queer friendly Latin American spaces. Less than 3% of Hispanic people use the -x according to surveys and most of them are American raised Latin people who have not set foot in Mexico and don’t have a very big grasp on Spanish who have only known the American way of going about social progress. I am not bothered by the people who want to use it, but me nor the majority of actual Hispanic queer people want to use it because we know the truth of the nature of the term and that’s what Zenoby was obviously getting at. Also those who do use -x pronounce it as let’s say latin-equis in Spanish they don’t pronounce it as -e in that instance. I’m free to answer any further questions on this subject or idk I can be labeled whatever I’m just protecting the integrity of our language

[umbral flame]

gah damn

what happened

😭

[unborn atlas]

told ya

[bronze ocean]

first and foremost i want you to know that i do not think that you are a white supremacist in any way, i was merely trying to provide another view of this phenomenon in the way that i have personally seen it, as a non-spanish speaking european, of course, the opinions on the usage of -x as a gender neutral suffix in spanish is of course something that spanish speaking communities have their own say in and i am not trying to impose my worldview on anyone else especially not with my limited scope of understanding (namely having some knowledge about anarchist/feminist scenes) it irks me that there are other non-spanish speaking peoiple who so quickly dismiss it as being simply an anglo influence on the language and that's why i responded with a completely opposite view of the usage of that suffix

[vapid dune]

Because it IS a white people attempt at influencing the language that actual Spanish speakers refuse to use. That actual latin Americans who are very much queer friendly, refuse to use. I’m very opinionated on this subject not because I want to impose my world view onto others, but because as a native Spanish speaker, queer and very much politically involved in POC issues, this is something I see brought up time and time again and while you’re not pushing it onto us Spanish speakers, there’s people who do attempt that without realizing how hypocritical it is for a white person who doesn’t speak the language to attempt to create an awkward solution for a problem we as Spanish speakers already had a solution to

[chrome snow]

I never usually hear people use the term latinx.

Most of the people that I know refer to everybody as latino.

[spice sphinx]

90% of the time I have seen "latinx" used it's been from like

corporate powers

[misty harness]

same, which is why I asked

the only time I've seen it used by people I like, personally know of is for the latine group at work that puts on like diversity events or whatever lol

[digital geyser]

wholesome news but started university and already found a big group of trans people

i think the trans neurodivergent people have magnets or smth bc it was insanely quick

[last pilot]

hell yeah

[chrome snow]

B-worded as fuck.

[last pilot]

One of my professors is complaining and joking about younger students using other pronouns/neopronouns and names- I love it here fr. Thank fuck it’s my last year here.

[chrome snow]

Wait, you're telling me they're a professor and they don't know that they have pronouns themselves?

It comes automatically with just being born.

[last pilot]

They seem like the person to say this tbh

[past saffron]

accidentally made my gf trans lads . t4t on top

[bronze ocean]

[past saffron]

my transness rubbed off on her . I should’ve seen this coming . /lh

[balmy pond]

many such cases lol, congrats 2 u 2 :3

[chrome snow]

BWORD

AS

FUCK

[umbral flame]

my friend drew the trans flag and put "fury" on there, just to frame it and give it to me

best thing ever

[vapid dune]

Trans woman running for state representative for my district

It’s one of the very few blue counties in Alabama so she has a very real chance

To be Alabama’s first trans politician

And I’m rooting for the girl

[unborn atlas]

what're her policies

[vapid dune]

It’s Alabama state house rep, not like. House rep for the big congress in DC

So not quite to the same level

[unborn atlas]

oah

[clever badge]

Thats still so important though. Alabama is shit politically and having her voice there would be so great

[chrome snow]

Rooting for her sm

[civic ibex]

starting my folx subscription and subsequent T consultation on tuesday🎉

hopefully i dont get fucked again!

[final heart]

found this while looking for a pfp for a tupperbox bot. I may actually use

[real meadow]

i been kinda dysphoric lately like. it was INSANE last few nights. im gonna get a haircut tomorrow so i hope itll help

[austere jay]

it’s so great that i pass now cuz interviews are so easy im so good at the “hardworking young man” character

every single interview i’ve ever had i’ve been offered the job on the spot i got this shit DOWN

[balmy pond]

So fucking wild how it just like happens

Just like one day the universe just decides "ok we should probably switch over" like on a whim

I dont pass perfectly but the past month I've gotten tons of ma'ams and huns and beautifuls and misses from strangers, even like lil old ladies striking up convos abt my purse it's so sweet

[austere jay]

genuinely best feeling ever feels like you’ve earned it yknow

like finally after all this time there’s peace, even if it’s just a little

[balmy pond]

Yeah c:

I know we shouldnt be looking for the validation of cissies, but it genuinely feels so nice to get the sense that other ladies see me as one of them. Just like women striking up conversation at the cash register or talking very openly abt "girl stuff" around me, but not in a way where it feels like they're deliberately including me to be nice but just that they're comfy enough around me to do so, feels good man :3

[frozen breach]

tbh for me the craziest thing even more than passing to cissies is when I pass to other trans ppl

like I'm in my first semester of college and I've made a bunch of friends who r also trans guys, and pretty much all of them were apprehensive around me at first because they thought I was a cis guy

blew my fuckin mind

[balmy pond]

This af omg

[frozen breach]

like I don't want ppl to be apprehensive or uncomfy around me but also. they thought I was a c*s man

[balmy pond]

Not that I've ever been able to pass to another trans person I dont think but if I do whoo boy

[frozen breach]

it's so insane

one of the best and also weirdest feelings imo

[balmy pond]

I could imagine

Cuz like out in the wild I stick to other queers I find as in a nucleus, strength in numbers right? I'd imagine not being recognized would be scary af

[frozen breach]

yeah it's a weird mix of validating and alienating

and like as a straight trans person I already feel kinda alienated from the queer community so it's weird to me that some fellow trans ppl will just see me as cishet

[balmy pond]

Or like, this has never happened to me but I've heard of folks who pass perfectly finding transphobes being far too open abt their "feelings" on the "gender question" to them, I can imagine that being terrifying

[frozen breach]

oh God yeah

I haven't had that happen luckily because the ppl in my area are generally either very accepting or very good at keeping quiet about their transphobia

[balmy pond]

Yeah same, people seem to not notice, not care or not be able to express their bullshit which like good

[real meadow]

hair has been cut. feelin fresh

[austere jay]

too real

kind of sucks a little because sometimes people think i’m cis

asked someone at a show once if they were trans and i had to clarify that i wasn’t cis which is the first time i’ve had to do that in that context

kinda scary

[misty harness]

energy I am trying to manifest (I still hate my voice but ughhh vocal training is so daunting

[unborn atlas]

I love emamouse

[vapid dune]

Voice training is tedious and time consuming and vocal feminization surgery costs like 15,000 dollars

What a world we live in

[vapid dune]

Yea I don’t care much in my case

My fem voice is decent enough to pass and I’m able to make my voice relatively deep on a whim so I like that dichotomy

[unborn atlas]

I have a lovely deep voice

I tried voice training but the idea of talking in a high pitched register for several years sounds like dysphoria hell

[vapid dune]

Yea. Id hate to present fem constantly

[unborn atlas]

I hate how old people react to my lack of committment with "ugh you just want the best of both worlds!" and it's like

🚬

yeah bitch

get with it

[vapid dune]

Damn right Gertrude I love being able to pass fem when I so feel like it and look like a gremlin of a man when I so feel like it

[unborn atlas]

Gertrude

that's a good enbyname

[spice sphinx]

Fuck voice training dawg

I don’t wanna spend years on something just for it to not be my voice

I’d always feel like it was an imitation

[clever badge]

Wym

[spice sphinx]

It’s an extended performance trying to force myself to use a different register

[unborn atlas]

yea

"oh but you sound normal after a year" how about you die

[spice sphinx]

“Normal”

I think I’d rather did than fail to recognize my own voice

I could care less about pandering to a chud’s perceptions of femininity

[vapid dune]

Damn right

I don’t care if I don’t consistently pass I love being of indecipherable gender

[unborn atlas]

anybody who only respects trans people who look like cis people doesn't respect trans people

[austere jay]

absolute banger

agree

[unborn atlas]

hi Vinny

[spice sphinx]

I’m a woman on my own goddamn terms dammit!!

[vapid dune]

Speaking of being a woman Jen have u been told yet that with ur current haircut u look like the girl who sings sweet dreams

Like to an uncanny degree

[unborn atlas]

Annie Lennox?

[vapid dune]

YEH

[spice sphinx]

Wait really?

Holy shit it does

Gonna internalize this thank you aggy

[unborn atlas]

wear a suit to complete it

[spice sphinx]

I love formal wear I think it’s the cuntiest thing ever

[misty harness]

id be totally fine doing voice training without raising the pitch at all, like just improve some of the ~flatness~ of my speech

also from what I've heard voice feminization surgery doesn't even work for most people, like it's as likely to fuck your voice up as improve it

I already don't feel like my voice is my voice though, so I got nothing to lose giving some training a shot

hearing an echo on voice chat or work meetings is an instant mood killer for me lol

but I also haven't made an effort to start because it's more about how I feel about my voice than giving a shit what others think (though it would be very nice to not get sirred over the phone anymore)

so like, I'll do it when I'm ready not because I feel pressured to

[austere jay]

hello zenoby

i just need to correct my “customer service” voice

i tend to speak from my head and throat and the pitch change sounds weird with my voice so lowered now

[bronze ocean]

vfs also only changes one aspect of your voice and you still need to relearn how to speak afterwards

because you like

just had surgery done

[misty harness]

mhmm

[spice sphinx]

I have been so paranoid about hrt recently like I feel like a hypochondriac

Like I accidentally went without it for a few days and ever since then my facial hair started growing in quicker again and other stuff has changed too

Scared I fucked it up and reset myself

[bronze ocean]

you cant really "reset" it in a few days

[spice sphinx]

Rationally I know that it’s just a paranoid delusion

[civic ibex]

any folx users noticing the mobile app being fucky

[real meadow]

🫡

[zinc oriole]

I use the site and it's been glitchy in general

[bright bane]

tfw you pass a little too well in front of cis guys and all of a sudden theyre throwing the t slur around like a ball and wanna compare dick sizes

[unborn atlas]

eesh

[zinc oriole]

I've had that experience with men being extremely misogynistic or lesbophobic

[austere jay]

god i know

i try to use my standing as a “cis” man to argue against them

just a simple “are you sure about that man” or whatever i can muster to protest sometimes shuts them up

challenging the idea gets some of them im like 85% sure some of them are just born into it and don’t think to believe otherwise

[spice sphinx]

If you put your hand through their chest you’d pull out wires I’m just sayin

[zinc oriole]

Smth that works in my experience and also pisses them off has been saying "idk that's never been an issue for me" or to say I could never even imagine a reason to do or act in the way that they're saying

Because they almost never defend it and kind of realize they said smth really dumb

[unborn atlas]

https://vxtwitter.com/kushbreth/status/1709077379505705091

thoughts?

[austere jay]

yeah good technique

[austere jay]

like sort of

i think this is for a different caliber of trans men than me some of these only like half apply

[vapid dune]

Where’s the obligatory transfem bingo

[unborn atlas]

iunno it's not like there's any shortage of them

[vapid dune]

Tru

[bright bane]

I wasn't fully sure if the house was like that "the lights are on but no one's home" metaphor, if not ignore that

[spice sphinx]

I live in the pod I eat the bugs etc

[frozen breach]

answers are 99% vibes based

[last pilot]

Just ordered a binder

[unborn atlas]

weehaa

[vapid dune]

Me slowly recreating a mini version of the saw 2 heroin needle pit within this container

I’ll chain someone up and drop the key to unlock themselves at the bottom of this needle container

Every E injection is getting me closer to it

[unborn atlas]

SO UH

I got my second letter

telling me I'm due for a cervical cancer screening

[bright bane]

i would rather die

nothing on this earth will ever convince me to have that metal thing shoved up there

[clever badge]

Everything i read and hear about gender meds make me angrier at my parents

People have been transitioning since before they were 10 years old and it’s still “experimental”

Wendy carlos was a fucking queen in the 70s and 80s but trying to transition in 2023? Dangerous evil and bad

Sorry im so mad at them rn

[valid sun]

today

4 years of HRT

and they said theyll grant my name change within 8 days since i dont need to go to court as i proved im not a criminal

🎉

[chrome snow]

WWWWWWWW

[digital geyser]

w!!

also i have positive news to pop in here with: a) i've been openly trans here at uni!! all my friends know me by my chosen name and most of them are also trans of various flavours and it's really awesome and i'm so happy to be able to be myself and b) i got some gender affirming stuff today including mens deodorent getting to socially transition here is really doing wonders for my mental health and happiness who knew

[spice sphinx]

If there is anyone here who has also dealt with quitting smoking on feminizing hrt would one of yall be able to dm? I’ve got some stuff that’s been bugging me for a while that I can’t really find answers to online

[austere jay]

haven’t dealt with it in that regard but i did recently quit smoking if you need any advice in regards to just that

at my 1 year t appointment today, my one year is on halloween but it feels like a pretty big milestone to have been coming to this clinic for a year

[vapid dune]

I quit cold turkey day of starting HRT. Idk if I can answer your questions but I can try

[real meadow]

i have had so many lesbiphobic comments made towards me. a gay man. its INSANE.

[zinc oriole]

Thankfully it isn't directed at me, but they're incredibly comfortable saying things like that in front of me :/

[austere jay]

god i hate the idea that “all trans people have good music taste” because some of the mother fuckers out here have absolutely dogshit taste

[unborn atlas]

any kind of essentialist "trans people are X" statements should only be regarded as an absurdist joke

at best

[clever badge]

Same with videogame taste

Theres a trans woman in my grade who plays genshin. They cant all be winners

[unborn atlas]

are you a fallout new vegas trans woman or a cruelty squad trans woman?

[austere jay]

crazy it’s almost as if trans people are actually their own individual people with unique identities instead of a hive mind

seeing trans men talk about how cavetown makes the best music for trans mascs is so evil like there is so much more to music and sound than this

[unborn atlas]

we have subsumed the rhetoric of advertisers and marketing people and have tricked ourselves into thinking that self identifying as a demographic is "affirming"

[austere jay]

banger

i’m transgender in my own unique evil way

[spice sphinx]

Hearing these words makes me want to swing blunt objects as hard as possible at the nearest conscious human

[austere jay]

not one of you is doing it like me i can promise you that

[spice sphinx]

Cause dawg shit like this even gets under my skin

[clever badge]

Elden ring 😍

[austere jay]

i am a video game free transgender i forge my own path

[spice sphinx]

Like “HOW MUCH OF A STEREOTYPE ARE YOU”

I don’t get it why entertain it

[unborn atlas]

forreal Vinny your vibes are immaculate

[unborn atlas]

then I succeeded

[austere jay]

i feel like i’ve been in the game long enough to shake free from lots of those stereotypes that are comforting to conform to when you first come out

i’m independent enough now

[unborn atlas]

honestly I showed this to my other trans man friend circle and they were all "nah this ain't it"

[spice sphinx]

REAL

[unborn atlas]

in fact somebody else made a trans man bingo in response to this and OP did it too

but like

I dunno maybe it was a mistake to post

[austere jay]

that chart is like a vague idea of what the internet perceives as a trans man real vinny chart would should no approximation to that

[unborn atlas]

I'm cutting the recursive cycle of petty oneupmanship

[austere jay]

at the end of the day i think it is fun tho to do a little self classification

same way people love personality type tests

[spice sphinx]

You posted it and just said “thoughts?” Like I automatically assumed the implication was to talk about it not do it

[unborn atlas]

I know very little about online transmasculine vibes! I just thought it was like

the wave

[austere jay]

i think it’s largely no harm no foul tho

[unborn atlas]

I don't know shit about fuck I'm a big bug under a rock

I'm a goat

[spice sphinx]

Real

[austere jay]

yes, illustrates an annoying constant in the trans community but what evil does this actually bring into the world

[unborn atlas]

yeah!

[austere jay]

generally those smaller scale things don’t bug me, once it starts getting bigger and encompassing bigger groups of people it gets under my skin

my confession as a trans man is i actually do not like sour gummy worms that much

[unborn atlas]

looking at the bingo made in response to it, it's much more uh, surreal

[austere jay]

i’m going to be excommunicated

[unborn atlas]

you are the king of this space

[austere jay]

do you have the link i’d like to take a look

[unborn atlas]

fuck it

https://vxtwitter.com/meatsleepsart/status/1709088459246444740

[spice sphinx]

I think it’s harmful to adhere to stereotypes and especially like self advertise with them because it’s just corporate slop

[austere jay]

my job as op is to passively oversee conversation and like maybe step in here or there when people start tussling

i’m one of you guys

[clever badge]

when i saw those bingo things i wanted to explode

so stupid

[unborn atlas]

YES actually the corporatism of it all

[clever badge]

no i do not want a blahaj shark to ride and moan on i literally just want to get on estrogen

[austere jay]

sure, maybe in the grand scheme of things, but i thjnk for the most part, especially in this situation, it’s people having fun

[unborn atlas]

bloodsad did a real good video about trans taste

silly and
haveing fun :)

[austere jay]

every now and then there’s a few trans men stereotypes that are specific enough that i get to have my little “hey that’s me” moment and move on with my day

[austere jay]

this is just one specific persons personality traits me thinks

[unborn atlas]

AH FUCK she deleted the video!!!!!!!!!!

[spice sphinx]

But what happens to the people who don’t adhere to these stereotypes that are being paraded around by TRANS PEOPLE THEMSELVES as like “so true” and “accurate”

I think that really sucks

[austere jay]

i like the duke nukem image tho that guy rules

[unborn atlas]

I think it's more of an irony poisoned accelerationist reaction to the original

[unborn atlas]

ngl the executioner hood is very you, dunno about the paw socks tho

[austere jay]

i think maybe the solution here is to make it known that being trans doesn’t look one specific way, but i don’t see any issue in people having fun comparing shared traits

[unborn atlas]

my bf absolutely has knife autism tho

[clever badge]

when i was figuring out gender stuff for myself i really struggled cause i didnt adhere to stereotypes. it was awful

[unborn atlas]

but I don't think he's a trans man

[austere jay]

community!

[unborn atlas]

I'm gonna be real

the trans flag looks like shitass

https://tenor.com/view/eric-andre-oh-i'm-saying-it-parental-advisory-explicit-content-explosion-gif-14707931321504110743

[austere jay]

at the end of the day we as a species cannot escape stereotypes, we’re wired to think that way. maybe there’s something to be said for how we address them and what not but i’m too busy having fun experiencing my own reality to care that much over something that on this scale is meaningless really

[austere jay]

like come on there’s no way this actually harms anyone in any serious way besides a tension headache

[unborn atlas]

will you adhere to the stereotype or will you react against it like a dog

[austere jay]

thank you zenoby i do not like it that much either

[austere jay]

secret third option: thug it out and have fun being myself

[unborn atlas]

honestly always take the third option

[austere jay]

yeah no paw socks just the hood i am executioner man

[spice sphinx]

Idk I generally dislike the approaches of just “I don’t care” but it’s not like I can tell you you’re wrong at all

[unborn atlas]

be real I do think a lot of the "so true me irl"-ing is made by recently hatched babby transes who are still looking for community and belonging

[spice sphinx]

It is what it is you fight battles that you care about

[unborn atlas]

and like, at the end of the day, after all the rigmarole surrounding blahaj, I'm sort of reacting to the reaction and have bent back around in on myself and sorta want one anyway?

big shark....cute

on some real "defender of the basic" shit when it comes to blahaj

[austere jay]

it’s less that i don’t care and more that i’m concerned with more of the bigger issues right now, id love to come back to stereotypes and what not later but as a whole i am less focused on infighting when there’s like real and true evil happening right now against us as a whole yknow

bigger battles unfortunately

[unborn atlas]

man I'm still kicking myself over Ivy's video going away, she made some real good points

[austere jay]

yeah i’d agree

with age you drift away i’ve found

[unborn atlas]

railing against the "blahaj and demonias" brand of trans expression while also going "AND YOU KNOW WHAT??? I HAVE A BLAHAJ! IT'S CUTE!!!!"

[austere jay]

that’s also just part of the physical maturation of the brain yknow

so many moving parts

the human being is so complex

[unborn atlas]

in my age I have also found the value of being a lil immature also

[austere jay]

trying to think of a trans man stereotype i’ve come around to liking

idk i’m drawing a blank all i can think of is cavetown and sour gummy worm

[spice sphinx]

Yeah that’s fair

[unborn atlas]

trans men are so cruelly underrepresented

[clever badge]

i think the blahaj is cute but i dont think that means every trans woman needs to own one. also i dont like spending money that much so i wont be getting one lmao

[unborn atlas]

I have no idea what your culture is

[austere jay]

it’s nice tho

[unborn atlas]

we are both burdened with creating the culture that expresses ourselves

[austere jay]

not super bothered with having a specific culture to my brand of gender expression i just like relating to all trans people as a whole

[unborn atlas]

me and my bf semi-jokingly refer to a specific kind of noisy maximalist electronic music as "transfemme music"

[spice sphinx]

I have the spite and dedication I refuse to mellow with age

[austere jay]

i envy you i can feel myself rapidly chilling out

i think the testosterone shriveled my brain a bit all i care about it cars, when the next show is and what i’m going to have to dinner

[spice sphinx]

It’s the ultimate ultimatum yknow

[austere jay]

i will say tho when it comes to trans people in music, most of them are doing that shit better than most cis people

[spice sphinx]

Mellow out or burn up on the steps of the capitol

[austere jay]

trans people dominate genres in unique ways and it inspires me

[clever badge]

i think dysphoria depression has made me forget how to be funny or weird or interesting on the internet because i dont have the motivation to try anymore lmfao

i used to be raunchy like. 2 years ago

that has ceased D:

[austere jay]

i used to brand myself as like silly goofy guy, like scout tf2 type character early into my transition but i’ve kind just let it give way to just vinny

i’m me and i don’t feel particularly motivated to express or explain myself to those who don’t get it

[clever badge]

that's so real

im still in hell (high school) so i constantly get weird looks from literal babied (freshmen) but like. ok. im gone in a few months anyway who gives a shit

[austere jay]

god speed

[clever badge]

tbh im not even thinking about how long it's gonna be for school. rather how long it takes for me to get on E and also save for a fursuit

not related but they could happen around the same time

[austere jay]

best advice i have for you (not trans related) get a good savings account set up like asap and regularly deposit a set amount in there

has saved me many a time

[clever badge]

i already got that :3

[austere jay]

fucking awesome look at you go

[clever badge]

currently my total balance (spending and saving) is 1k but i want to get to around 2k before i put in an initial payment

since my work hours arent very consistent

[austere jay]

i see i see

sounds like you’re on a good path tho keep it up

[clever badge]

yass.. ty

[austere jay]

high school is the trial run get all those positive finical habits locked down

[clever badge]

MHM i know so many people who are kinda stupid with money

like, very stupid

[austere jay]

everytime i meet someone younger than me i start the money talk but it’s so crucial it’s not even funny

my poor little brother i’ve given him way too many lectures on it

[clever badge]

whyd you buy that 40 dollar plushie. youre unemployed and covering your own college tuition

tbh i could have saved the 40 dollars on the evangelion soundtrack vinyl.. but.. evangelion soundtrack vinyl...

[austere jay]

i feel like now a days i spend most of my money on groceries and bills and gas and etc, i usually try to save my money to either spend on my partner or buy merch from local bands at shows, feels a lot more fulfilling than just blowing it on whatever

[clever badge]

honestly i might see how much i could sell my xbox one for

only problem is that that's where i have elden ring but also. im going to be in a dorm room soon i literally wont have it for a year+

[clever badge]

extremely smart

esp the buying stuff for your partner.. that's honestly so cool

[austere jay]

i find a lot more joy in providing for others and they make me so happy so it’s natural course of action to buy them food and whatnot

[clever badge]

real.

[proper igloo]

https://tenor.com/view/cruelty-squad-gif-27552860

[unborn atlas]

erebrberberbebrebrebrebrebrebreb

[proper igloo]

OUUGH

mm

[valid sun]

omg the cavetown stereotype gets on my nerves

a ton

i guess it's cause i really do not see tmasc musicians

i know of like, 3 in the speedcore/gabber/breakcore/jungle scene

me, my friend rico (gynx/pipe dream soundsystems) and rumbleragga

like where is the trans male electronic

all stereotypes get on my nerves actually transgender people are as diverse as the rocks ground up into sand in the beach

[misty harness]

its almost like stereotypes are bad and shouldn't be promoted

I understand the desire to create a culture around our shared experiences, but stereotypes end up alienating anyone who falls outside that from people they otherwise would like to connect with. tbh I didn't interact with trans spaces for a while after coming out because I felt I didn't belong

and most of that came down to stereotypes, superficial stuff that took a bit of time to look past

[real meadow]

(spoiler cause transphobia)
is this a valid response

[strong heath]

is there an image very faintly overlaid in the background of this

[chrome snow]

You could have told them a less appropriate response.

https://tenor.com/view/ltg-low-tier-god-yskysn-ltg-thunder-thunder-gif-23523876

Transphobes know what they can do.

[misty harness]

what's with horror games fumbling any use of gender as a theme. there's a part of observer that sucked, specifically ||using common anti-trans language to refer to gene splicers once you track down the killer. it's not like hostile to trans people as part of the text said that trans people in their world were accepted, but the way they went about it was eugh. especially in the context of a murderous gene splicer that is depicted as being "crazyyy" specifically because of the gene modifications||

[frozen breach]

this message kinda old but a lot of my transfem friends joke with me about how I'm a trans man but I make "trans woman music"

people at my school think I'm a transfem egg because I make noise music, like computers, and have a gender neutral name, which is. so stupid it's literally just stereotypes

[strong heath]

:/

[last pilot]

Some positive news for today, I just got my binders

[chrome snow]

WWWWWWWWW

[timid grail]

i just realized i’ve been on t for 2 years now!

i forgot on the actual anniversary bc i’ve been kinda bad about putting my gel on every day recently but yeah. awesome

[balmy pond]

Machinecord stays winning today, love to fuckin see it ❤️‍🔥

[vapid dune]

You and I are approaching a year and a half sis!!! It’s fucking wild

[balmy pond]

I know!!!! Absolutely insane

[misty harness]

it'll be two for me next month, can hardly believe it

on top of turning 30 in like 4 days 😭

[austere jay]

i feel so similar to you yet so different, im almost a year on t and i’m a few months out from 20

different milestones 😢

also meant to ask you guys, i did my first t shot to athoth (which i posted here somewhere) but i’m not sure what to do my 1 year t shot to if anyone has suggestions

i want to pick something meaningful like i did for my first shot so i’m thinking beware by death grips

[zinc oriole]

I will be (around, since I took breaks) 4 years in January it does not feel like that long

[zinc oriole]

Beware would go so hard

[austere jay]

i’m planning on getting a beware tattoo soon so it seems fitting

[zinc oriole]

👁 omg sick

[supple quarry]

my fav dg song! what would you get? lyrics? which ones?

[austere jay]

“i am the beast i worship”, pretty cliche but genuinely those lyrics have changed how i view myself now

[unborn atlas]

it's pretty solid

I'm partial to

[supple quarry]

good choice

[supple quarry]

also good choice

[supple quarry]

Ride looks like he stubbed his toe as this photo was being taken

[vapid dune]

he looks like hes about to let out a fart hes been holding in for 2 hours

[strong heath]

I AM BELOW SO FAR BELOW

PAST THE POINT OF NO RETURN 🙏🙏🙏