transdome

[spice sphinx]

no instead the owner is mark zuckerburg who we all know to be a bastion of all that is good and holy

[misty harness]

the difference is instagram's fundamental design doesn't encourage pseudo-real time back and forths that lead to the really toxic debates that happen all the time on twitter. meta's moderation is terrible too, it's more about the structure of the platform rewarding it much more heavily on twitter.

i'll be clear i don't use insta for any sort of keeping up with important stuff, and if I see something there i usually go searching about that topic elsewhere

[astral gull]

Sarcasm?

[spice sphinx]

yes

[astral gull]

I don't think milo was saying that if that's what u were implying

[spice sphinx]

no

[valid sun]

no lol not saying tjat just saying mark zuckerberg isnt on Facebook and instagram itself saying cis is a slur

[sturdy trail]

idk i feel like reels encourage the same stuff

[astral gull]

Lesser of two evils if u will

[spice sphinx]

I was making a joke

[astral gull]

Oh ok

[valid sun]

sorry im bad with sarcasm

[spice sphinx]

I don't think there's any point playing this game with billionaires

[astral gull]

Me 2

[spice sphinx]

both ontologically evil

[astral gull]

I meant the platform itself???

[spice sphinx]

oh

[astral gull]

Both ig and twt are dookie but ig is slightly less dookie

[spice sphinx]

thought we were talking musk vs zuck

[astral gull]

I wish musks mom didn't call off the cage battle

I'd like to see them writhe trying to fight

[valid sun]

yeah sorry im not trying to say zuckerberg is any better im just saying elon musk is actively makinf the platform anti trans because he is actively anti trans on his own platform

[spice sphinx]

instagram is an incredibly anti trans platform

[valid sun]

compared to insta being anti trans but Zuckerberg isnt fueling ot in his own platofrm

[misty harness]

to a degree yeah. i don't personally use reels at all so idk what the culture is around it. i'd put tiktok in a similar camp as twitter of algorithmically feeding off hate and reels are probably the same too

[sturdy trail]

ya like look through like more than 2 reels

instagram also recommends fascist accounts for u to follow like twitter does

[valid sun]

arguably worse because of visual feedback and everyone showing their face

[sturdy trail]

ya i feel like microblogging is slightly less bad because everyone is a little bit more anonymous

[spice sphinx]

gotta love it when basedracism1388 shows up in your explore feed

[valid sun]

yes i know i was discussing that instagram has a very tiny margin in better moderation because elon musk is actively trying to tear down trans accounts outspokenly and excluding them from the tos and Zuckerberg is doing that but you can still report transphobia and MAYBE itll be taken down

[spice sphinx]

I'm just saying if you want trans friendly social media there's plenty of fediverse projects instead of grubby shit like instagram

[valid sun]

oh yeah fedi is cool i just havent been drawn to it completely uet

theres also bluesky which is just leftist mastodon isnt it

..."leftist"

[spice sphinx]

implying mastodon isn't gay software engineers and leftists

[digital geyser]

i cant speak on any other social media sincei barely use instagram and twitter but tiktok actively promotes content to users who are going to see it and bully it (alongside the radicalisation pipeline), i know this because i get shown a lot of the same content because i interact with it positively and so i see those comment sections a lot

content involving trans, visibly queer, fat people etc anyone wo goes agains the norm it will promote to the bigots

[valid sun]

no sorry bluesky is "leftist" bc breadtube is on there lol

i dislike mastodon's UI

[spice sphinx]

I see

[valid sun]

yup lol in fact the only nuanced conversation in the court case with tiktok against the US was when the only black woman brought up how black individuals have less visbility on the platform

[sturdy trail]

breadtube isn't really leftist either

[valid sun]

hence quotations

i agree with you

[spice sphinx]

hey you're dissing these brave warriors who are out here on the frontlines making hour long videos about video games and marvel movies, this is what REAL LEFTISM looks like

that was sarcasm

again

[valid sun]

honestly though i wish i could sit and watch a video essay (not by breadtubers)

leftism is when i say rich bad (i am also a millionaire)

[digital geyser]

oh yeah it came out a while ago they used to not push minorities out into the fyp at all to “protect them from bullying” which is a dumbass excuse

[valid sun]

lol thats an even worse excuse than just saying "yeah our algo is racist" tbh

basically insinuates "most of our platform is filled with racists lol"

so much for advertiser friendly

though advertisers dont care what tiktoks demographic is bc its too big of a platform not to use

but you get what i mean

[digital geyser]

yeah

[digital geyser]

like "oh instead of actually mitigating the bigotry towards creators, we're just gonna shadowban them for being minorities"

idk how much of a problem it is nowadays, but certainly the tiktok algorithm is ass

[misty harness]

its just a fundamental flaw of algorithmically delivered content

some shitty bias will always exist because the people who write and tune the algorithm put their own biases into it

[digital geyser]

its funny when the algorithm gives me 50 david tennant videos in a row or something until you remember that its the same algorithm leading people to be radicalised

[valid sun]

the way that "not interested" only works on instagram in my experience and also takes like 5 or 6 posts to do it before it stops showing you that content

and if you interact with a video similar to it even by watching it for more than 5 seconds your feed is just that again

i had that issue with podcast men vids coming up

[misty harness]

youtubes algorithm terrifies me in particular

[digital geyser]

god yeah i need to start doing that with radfems they keep coming up on my fyp thanks for reminding me of that

[digital geyser]

OH 100%

i could rant for days about that algorithm

[misty harness]

interested in both horror movies and cute animals? leave autoplay on overnight and you'll get actual animal abuse videos popping up

its so fucked

[valid sun]

oh my god yeah that too

[valid sun]

this is happening to me on Twitter i cant get them off so i just cut my twt usage

[digital geyser]

literally it started showing 12 year old me transphobic videos because i was interacting with creators like ash hardell

[valid sun]

also my friends wont stop qrting just to dunk

[digital geyser]

my friend sent me a radfem tiktok the other day without realising what it was and i was like oh shit because like thats how much they've been spreading recently on tiktok. this friend isnt particularly political or anything either

[valid sun]

thats unfortunate

the fact their tweets look "harmless" at first doesnt help that im already very paranoid about people being transphobic/racist/ableist and i just dont know about it yet

[digital geyser]

god yeah, like you'll see one video you agree with as a feminist, go on the page of the person and bam some bioessentialist shit

[sturdy trail]

this is why i only go for like very explicitly trans feminism

and not just the vague kind

[spice sphinx]

Yknow it’s the funniest shit in the world but this is how channels like spirit science get followings

Because one video will be about like, a good meditation technique and then bam the next one is trying to tell you that jewish people are aliens or some shit

Granted the spirit science guy is just an insane cult leader but there’s a billion malicious examples

Youtube is disgusting

[valid sun]

yeah youtube conspiracy theories get on my front page when im not logged on its crazy

[misty harness]

I get a lot of right wing bullshit in my YouTube shorts bc I have an engineering interest and there's an overlap between that and aviation videos I guess. (even though I don't watch shorts at all)

[digital geyser]

every so often ill see the wildest shit pop up because ive been watching trans videos that has like 5 views

[stable cradle]

yt algo fuckin suuucks, when I was very young it threw me down that right wing pipeline and I had to unlearn a lot of harmful shit once I realized I wasn’t cishet

certainly didn’t help that I was living in a conservative area so what I was believing wasn’t ever challenged

[misty harness]

many such cases

[digital geyser]

i got down quite qa bit of it as well, never super far but it was not good still

i had a "centrist" phase

[misty harness]

i probably would have been the same if i didn't reject gender stuff internally at a young age (even though i couldn't articulate what i felt until my 20s)

[stable cradle]

tbh I did too!! I never felt like a girl yet I was still believing transphobic shit

[misty harness]

i knew something was off and being told to be masculine felt wrong, i guess the things that exposed me to those pipelines were very focused on masculinity? idk, i don't remember exactly

[digital geyser]

i was less into full on bigotry and more like kinda sjw owned and transmedicalism

[stable cradle]

I didn’t get all the way down into like prageru bs but i was in the leafy sphere (I was like 12 I was an idiot)

[stable cradle]

yeah this!!

[digital geyser]

with the odd more extreme thing popping up and usuallly scaring me

[misty harness]

i def had some of that "comedians should be able to say and joke about whatever" in my high school days but thankfully that was the worst of it

but I was in college before a lot of the youtube radicalization pipeline stuff solidified

[stable cradle]

I was out of it by like mid/end of middle school thankfully

[digital geyser]

like one channel i first watched bc of a transphobic video i was shown at 12 where i didnt know shit i ended up immediately dropping bc then they uploaded a VERY islamophobic video and i realised quite quickly oh shit that person sucks ass

(the video i originally saw was some like random reaction to a literal child (who was trans) who was making a response to blair white, these people are such actual losers)

[digital geyser]

yeah i got out of it around 2019-2020. i sorta had this realisation relating to transmedicalism where i was like holy shit this kinda thing makes you an asshole and people are free to do what they want

[stable cradle]

goddd i’m so glad I never discovered blair until I was already out of that sphere

[chrome snow]

I nearly fell into the anti-sjw pipeline until I fell into a lot of edgy popular YouTube channel of the mid 2010s like filthyfrank and idubbbz.

[digital geyser]

i did 😔 thankfully i never watched her, i did watch kalvin garragh though

watching his fall after unpacking the amount of damage his bs did to me in my early days of realising i was trans was great

[chrome snow]

I'm rather thankful that I was able to move on.

[digital geyser]

i cant believe he went to law school ???

[misty harness]

i had to guide my brother away from all that shit, it got me real worried for a while

[digital geyser]

same, i think maturing from that has helped me so much

my stepbrother is full in it 😔 really funny when he called me a feminist as an insult for dyeing my hair blue and i had to point out that a few years earlier he had also dyed his hair blue jlfkjl

[misty harness]

laughing at the second part not the first

[chrome snow]

Maturing does that to you.

[astral gull]

Yeah I had to deal with that too especially with his rlly hostile nb content

I don't know if storm Ryan was ever as bad as Kalvin the last time I watched either of them was like 2020

[stable cradle]

omfg this reminds me one of my cousins (adult man btw) became a tate fanboy😭

last I heard abt him my sister went to a family party thing where he was at and he was just being a dickhead misogynist but that’s par for the course with a tateboy

[chrome snow]

They are legitimately the worst.

[stable cradle]

it’s bad enough when it’s a teenage boy but an employed, adult ass man becomes one it’s wild

[digital geyser]

my stepbrother is 23, has been spewing this kinda bs since he was like 15 alongside holding a grudge that started when i was literally 11 years old against me. he also says numerous slurs of varying severity and has called me some :D

he hasnt become a full incel guy i think only bc he has somehow had girlfriends

[misty harness]

ugh. my brother had a breakthrough when we were discussing politics drunk on my birthday several years ago lol

he eventually asked something about how it was weird that there were so many jewish people in the media and i started screaming at him and told him that if he kept that up i would disown him

i guess it worked lol

[misty harness]

he's a good boy now but yeah that night was rough haha

[inland schooner]

Used to watch them alot and other problematic YouTube's such as Soviet womble when I was like. 9-12 because my sister put then on. I just thought they were funny and that was it because I was a kid who didn't think into it at all honestly

[frozen breach]

I was a huuuuge pewdiepie and idubbbz fan when I was like 11 or 12 it was very embarassing

kinda like you cale I just thought they were funny and didn't think about the implications

[zinc oriole]

I'm pleasantly surprised by idubbz' apology

I'm not sure how I feel about it bc kids in my school directly took influence from the slur shit, including my stepbrother

So it affected me pretty directly

[valid sun]

i think that since he's being genuine it shows growth though it's fine for people not to accept it because the damage he did was pretty extreme especially for black and queer people online during that time period

though he seems to realize he shouldnt overstep and is trying to learn how to better support communities he hurt

which is good honestly

i watched uh... "anti-sjw" furry youtubers and also pewdiepie but that was like the extent of it

^ embarrassing to admit but it was when i was 11-12 so i got out of it pretty easily

[misty harness]

I don't think y'all have anything to worry about watching those people at 12 as long as you've moved on since lol

[astral gull]

Facts

[zinc oriole]

I agree that the apology was genuine, I did appreciate that he really wants to do better and be better. It's a rare occurrence for sure and especially from somebody as huge as he was

[inland schooner]

i think hes trying to learn alot and it makes me happy

i know its a little silly but the "today i learnt what 'sapphic'" is tweet made me genuinely a bit happy

[austere jay]

i love people with weird pronouns and weird genders they’re awesome

thumbs up

[chrome snow]

Neo-pronouns are based as hell.

[austere jay]

amen!! i dabbled in them but they’re not for me anymore

crazy fucking respect for people that use them they’re so awesome

i like thon/thonself i wish people used those for me

[unborn atlas]

hits different coming from cuno

reactionaries always exist

[frozen breach]

exactly neopronouns and xenogenders go crazy

I wanna use it/its pronouns kinda but I've had too many experiences of people using those pronouns to objectify/disrespect me ;-;

[vapid dune]

It’s interesting considering often our it/its pronouns are considered neopronouns despite being of course pre-established pronouns

[valid sun]

same i lowk envy people with like weird or ethereal explanations for their genders

[vapid dune]

Since maybe they’re just seen as something rather uncommon and personalized to use

[valid sun]

yeah it's because theyre traditionally for inanimate objects

[austere jay]

my ir pronouns actually come from being called that for being trans. i actually enjoyed them

*it

[valid sun]

since "they" was a "humanized" gender neutral

i use ne/nim cause it's he/him but with an n and it goes hard

[austere jay]

i’m just sometimes not feeling fully human yknow i like the otherness of them

they’re freeing

[frozen breach]

shout-out the letter n best letter fr

used to use ne/nem but nobody fucking called me that

[unborn atlas]

anyway getting through all that was a slog, but I have no patience for inflammatory commenters saying overblown or incendiary rhetoric for engagement. I'm just not gonna engage with that

fuckin

Blair white adjacent "pick me, I'm a good tran because I'm sensible" shit

[vapid dune]

I felt that. I feel like idk. Experiences in life. Just. A lot of shit has made me feel like I’m not quite a person or just cannot completely fit in and so they/them is cool but there’s a lot of like euphoria I get from the it/its pronouns. From making it clear I define myself in a dehumanizing way

[austere jay]

for me it’s also a little related to just how i feel as a person, not always human

not a negative thing! just different

think of it like how i explained my gender

[unborn atlas]

I don't pass because it's not worth it in a small country town, I'm not doing it to be "difficult"

[valid sun]

not a lot of people use my neos but my partner has used them like 3 or 4 times IRL which is like the best thing probably

[unborn atlas]

"it/it's is dehumanising!"
"yeah that's the point"

[vapid dune]

Deadass once had a guy on hinge go like “but I can’t use it/its pronouns on you it feels like I’m treating you less than human” and I’m like my brother in Christ that’s the whole fucking point

Hang out with me and you’ll see why

[frozen breach]

I think if I started using it/its of my own volition instead of my ex just deciding to call me that then I think it would feel really cool and based

[valid sun]

in like 5 years ill look like this my transformation will be complete and gender will no longer exist

[valid sun]

like a reclaimation kind of thing

?

[vapid dune]

Anything4views is gender as fuck

[valid sun]

no but seriously

hes peak male performance

[vapid dune]

P close to pre transition me

Large, hairy and bearded

Now I’m large, hairy and not bearded

So not much has changed

[valid sun]

i look like him without the beard and slightly less fat

[valid sun]

win then

[frozen breach]

I guess what I mean is that I wish I could have made that choice on my own instead of my ex using those pronouns as a form of abuse (i.e. calling me an it so he could avoid thinking of me as a living being with feelings)

cuz like

I like being called it/its I just now have trauma associated with it

idrk

[valid sun]

right

i get what you mean it sucks that he had to take that chance away from you :/

[vapid dune]

I remember when I first entered my job and of course we had the trans discussion with a few of the coworkers. And at work. Well. For the sake of simplicity I just say I’m a trans girl that goes by she/her. And one woman in her 50s goes “hey I can do that. You look like a girl. So I can treat you like one. What weirds me out is I’ve heard some people prefer to be called an it. Like that’s weird as hell”

And in my mind I’m like haha… about that….

[valid sun]

unfortunate but not much u can do in that situation

sometimes being able to teach people about it in the simplest terms can work though

[vapid dune]

A COUPLE coworkers have a rough idea what it means to be nonbiney. Just I’d rather not bother with most of them

[valid sun]

my co-workers respect me and i have the privilege of being a binary guy and passing as one so i tend to try to help them understand transgender identities/terms that arent exactly their cup of tea

i get that sometimes it's just not worth the battle

[vapid dune]

Doesn’t bother me for cis people to refer to me as a girl

Perfectly fine keeping my true self to queer spaces

[final heart]

not at pride but ive met an accessible van driver who was a middle aged trans woman w a very cool name

[final heart]

one of my supervisors asked me his FIRST shift with me the meaning of "gender neutral"

like thats not even

thats simple ass shit dude

[vapid dune]

????? Has he ever seen gender neutral bathrooms?

[final heart]

literally

he thought "gender neutral" and nonbinary was the same thing

[zinc oriole]

what's her name!

[final heart]

i think it was cassandra? and me being persephone i was like ayyyyy

[zinc oriole]

im nervous to explain to the supervisor of my new job why my legal name is different than the name I applied under aurghhhg work struggles

[valid sun]

lol

[zinc oriole]

I love the name cassandra

[valid sun]

this is the reason why i cant switch jobs cause everyone here dont care and i got a few queer co workers here

and i also like my job so

[final heart]

i always apply with my name name. and then only explain to them if i get the job

[zinc oriole]

same here

its just always embarassing a little

[final heart]

ohh i misread my bad

[zinc oriole]

people havent cared but the anxiety still is there

[valid sun]

same

i apply with my legal name and put (milo) in parentheses

im gonna file for name change in my county when im 18

not sex marker tho idk how my county is w that

i knew someone who got both done in 2021(?)

[frozen breach]

I remember at my job last summer my old conservative supervisors were all super confused about my gender it was so funny

[zinc oriole]

My gender marker is changed but not my legal name and its made people CONFUSED when looking at my ID after looking at me
a bit funny but also I wanna get my name changed lol

[final heart]

tbh valid bc i have had some WEIRD job interviews that were weird only because i had to bring up the name difference

[valid sun]

omg how

[final heart]

like unhinged out of pocket shit has been said

[valid sun]

its harder for a sex marker change here if u do it in harris county because they have 6 judges here and theyre all transphobic

though im in galveston county

[final heart]

i apply with my legal name and put a lil disclaimer on my resume that im "undergoing a legal name change"

[zinc oriole]

In my state you can just get it changed at the DMV on your ID you just put in the gender u want on it its pretty cool
with social security youd need a new card though to do that

[valid sun]

oh thats cool

i wish texas could let us self ID 👎

[valid sun]

I WAS THINKING ABT THIS FOR COLLEGE

i should say this

[zinc oriole]

I only tell them after I get the job LOL its kinda risky but its never been an issue

[zinc oriole]

BOOO maybe someday :[ i hope

[final heart]

the problem was they hired me on the spot

or tried to

i declined after the fact bc of the shit they said to me

lol

[frozen breach]

one of my supervisors at my old job got fired for harassing visibly queer customers and when I found out I was so fucking scared

cis people are so weird and cringe most of the time actually

[final heart]

yea

tbh ive had some super sus weird shit said to me at old jobs that in retrospect i should have reported ppl for and i just didn't for some reason

[zinc oriole]

its scary working in any environment when you're visibly queer bc you never know what could happen. it sucks so bad

[final heart]

especially since at the time i was either pre-hrt or like had just started but was still out

[frozen breach]

yeah like this lady gendered me correctly until she saw my deadname on the sign in sheet and then she started aggressively misgendering me

it was so fucking weird

[final heart]

noooo

[frozen breach]

she was calling me he for like two days and then I came in the next day and she goes "hey girl! hi miss ollie!"

like girl calm down

[final heart]

one of my coworkers/friends at one of my old jobs was also trans and we had this super awkward moment where this person was just like "hey guys i'm always scheduled with this person but have never seen her, who the fuck is [my friends DEADNAME]"

[frozen breach]

augh

so so grateful that my name is changed now

[final heart]

yea i literally submitted the paperwork like a week or two ago

[frozen breach]

my deadname is so excessively feminine it's almost comical

[final heart]

someone close to me has a deadname thats just like. a fairly common word

my deadname is unforch a name very commonly used by transmascs 😭

[frozen breach]

mine is the opposite wtf

as in it's a vvv common transfem name

[final heart]

omg

twinning

[frozen breach]

I like to think that there's a trans girl out there who's deadname is my chosen name and who's chosen name is my deadname

[final heart]

lmfaooo

[frozen breach]

doing a little switcheroo

[final heart]

i have a friend who's transfem but kept her given name (which is my deadname)

which is kinda cool

led to an awkward scenario where i hadnt talked to her for a while, had a deadname remover google extension turned on, and checked my twitter dms and was like "who tf is this bitch copying my name" (persephone)

[austere jay]

for real

vinny as a concept not a person

[chrome snow]

This is what a God looks like.

[misty harness]

ya girl is starting progesterone soon.....

[astral gull]

Wooo

[feral wind]

nice

[unborn atlas]

envious

[valid sun]

transdome win

[bronze ocean]

hell yea!!

i need to buy some more prog

[spice sphinx]

I need more prog (rock) (made by trans people)

Not enough of it

[sturdy trail]

all i know is rhododendron

[spice sphinx]

Are they good

[sturdy trail]

yeas

[astral gull]

Hello dome

[zinc oriole]

Helloooo transdome

[supple quarry]

it hurts so much seeing people you liked and were fans of turn into these transphobic idiots. dude i knew used to make great videos about retro games, now hes a "political commentator" who cries about the "woke agenda". it fucking sucks, it sucks theres so much information and it sucks theres so many idiots willing to believe it

[unborn atlas]

talentless

[supple quarry]

Exactly

[sturdy trail]

moral panic grifting

[chrome snow]

People will do anything for attention, even if it hurts innocent people.

It's disgusting.

[feral wind]

yea

[balmy pond]

Might be abt to witness third impact but I got called she at work today so yay c:

[zinc oriole]

YAYYEEE

[supple quarry]

Please go watch nimona if you havent, trans as fuck movie and just genuinely fun if you like silly kids movies or animation

(if you dont have netflix it should be on your fav alternative site)

[frozen breach]

I watched it yesterday it was great

doesn't really do the graphic novel justice imo but it's good for what it is

and it's a lot more overtly gay and trans than the comic even if it's watered down in other ways

[slender palm]

got a much more andro haircut recently so happy :))

[astral gull]

Is it in ur pfp? Bc it looks rad

[slender palm]

yes it is thank you :))

i had a wolf cut that had grown out a lot

[astral gull]

I had a short one and they cut the bangs super far back

Had to even it out but ur hair looks amazing

[pure flame]

hello transdome

[unborn atlas]

hi

[bronze ocean]

haiii

[zinc oriole]

Helooo

[supple quarry]

https://tenor.com/view/manul-hi-cat-pallas-cat-gif-20652693

[pure flame]

getting ready for work. did not sleep at all. please send me your powers

just to borrow I’ll give them back promise

[zinc oriole]

Beaming over the strongest of my evil powers

[unborn atlas]

bewwww (sound of powers transfer)

[pure flame]

thank you all

[feral wind]

haiiii :3

[austere jay]

hi gang

feeling good and awesome today

need to reach out about where to get top surgery but idk where to go for that

[zinc oriole]

Are you going through insurance?

Some insurance websites allow you to search certain procedures

Or you could look up top surgeons by state

[austere jay]

ideally yes, i have washington state insurance which covers some portion of gender reassignment surgeries but i’m not sure

i’m going to try to ask the people at planned parenthood to see if they know how to point me in the right direction cuz my insurances website is so confusing

[zinc oriole]

Good idea! I wish you lucj

You could always search (insurance) covered top surgery

[frozen breach]

ough I've been doing a ton of research on this but I'm not in Washington state so I can't help

[zinc oriole]

Part of me wants to move to WA for this reason

Amongst the many others

[austere jay]

you should really think about it!! my hrt and other medical accommodations i’ve needed because of it have been completely covered

i’m talking like 200+ dollar progesterone products completely free

and that’s just base state insurance which you don’t have to pay for

[zinc oriole]

Omg really?? Ahh that sounds amazing! I just gotta coordinate where specifically I'd live tbh bc I have 2 people on board for moving out of state with me

[austere jay]

i would seriously encourage you too, this state isn’t perfect by any means but i believe they passed some sort of trans safe haven bill so at the very least this place is safe for trans people

[zinc oriole]

Ohh this is great, considering what's going on in my state rn that'll be good

[austere jay]

if you move close to tacoma let me know! in dire need of more irl friends

[zinc oriole]

I will definitely :] I was looking around that area

[austere jay]

i live very close to tacoma and i enjoy it, some parts are a little shady but overall i’ve enjoyed my time here

[zinc oriole]

I've heard it's pretty nice
Tbh I think the entire state I'd find nice comparatively to where I am

[pure flame]

hello fello pnw

[pure flame]

I live in oly which is 30 mins south of tacoma, can’t promise a ton of help but if u do decide to move I can let you know of the resources I took advantage of after moving here in 2016

[zinc oriole]

:D tysm!! It helps to even have people familiar with the area so I'm not totally lost abt what to do

[austere jay]

hello

i think i’ve hit the dad part of my transition

in that i look like a father and also likemy father

[pure flame]

swag dad

[austere jay]

like there’s little discernible here from me and my dad at age 19

except i’m like a half foot shorter

[zinc oriole]

SWAG DAD

[astral gull]

Get that exact pic on a polaroid

[austere jay]

got me reconsidering not wanting to have kids and shit

[unborn atlas]

I just wanna grill god damn it

[cobalt meteor]

gender

i live in the middle of nowhere in the countryside in england

so yeah

its not very accepted her

e

[unborn atlas]

https://tenor.com/view/uncle-phil-the-letter-e-ytp-fresh-prince-of-belair-eee-gif-18452483

[zinc oriole]

I've learned that isopropyl alcohol is very good at removing leftover adhesive from transtape

[slender palm]

it dissolves adhesives

👁️🔍🧪

science

[bronze ocean]

very tasty as well 😋

[misty harness]

do NOT drink the medical grade isopropyl alcohol

[chrome snow]

It's a very quick way to get yourself transported to a hospital.

[balmy pond]

yall remember the dude from the hunger games that was so severely alcoholic he'd regularly drink rubbing alcohol?

[misty harness]

that's just eastern europe tbh (not a joke, it's sad)

[chrome snow]

What the fuck.

I have seen people who would straight-up drink Listerine due to their alcohol dependency but never nothing like that.

[balmy pond]

district 13 is either supposed to be romania or minnesota i cant tell which

[misty harness]

romanian rubbing alcohol

sold next to the liquor section at low end convenience stores

[balmy pond]

oh i remember

[misty harness]

😭

yeah i've probably mentioned this several times, its wild tho

[balmy pond]

yea thats so ott

i always thought that sort of thing was so cartoonishly desperate that it could ONLY exist in late oughts YA

[misty harness]

mhmm nope that's just life outside the first world!

[balmy pond]

Ok so this is a new one

Uber eats cant verify my I'd because the pfp I took for them looks nothing like my drivers license photo 😵‍💫

Most bizarre, stressful W of my life, I got Bill's to pay ffs

[supple quarry]

Person I may or may not have a crush on is having their last facial hair removal session today and I may or may not be jealous

[cobalt meteor]

i want

[stable cradle]

you can have this yummy drink but only once

[austere jay]

here’s the official transdome op’s guide to trans tape adhesive removal:
1: use baby oil, i haven’t gotten a single blister since using baby oil over the stuff they give you. also, let it soak for a little bit. doesn’t have to be 5+ minutes but just an extra few minutes of pause will help it fully saturate the tape, especially important if you use multiple layers
2: after removing the tape, use the oil to rub into the big spots of gross adhesive and lightly scratch it to remove and loosen it before your shower
3: in the shower try to remove as much of the loose adhesive as possible and clean thoroughly with body wash
4: after the shower use a cotton pad heavily saturated with rubbing alcohol and do two passes: first to get the big stuff and second to get the smaller bits and whatever remaining adhesive is on your chest
final optional step: i apply lotion just to keep the skin nice and moisturized and healthy in between uses, doesn’t do a lot but it’s definitely not harmful

[zinc oriole]

Tysm! I am gonna screenshot this

[austere jay]

if mod could pin this that would be wonderful

it’s all trail and error, this is just my experience but so far it’s been great

used to take two days to get that shit off but using the oil to remove extra bits is key

if anyone needs help with methods for using tape on smaller chests i can help as well!

[sturdy trail]

wher do y'all get ur trans tape from

i've always used binders but now i've decided i want to learn to swim because i never learned for some reason

[zinc oriole]

Transtape.life I think is the site

[sturdy trail]

swag

[valid sun]

win then

i would use transtape but big chest and also i have hair there and on my back so its a definite no

win some lose some..

[frozen breach]

yeah binding w big chest is a nightmare for me pwrsonally

transtape doesn't work for me like at all

[austere jay]

i order directly from the site but i believe there’s certain brands of kt tape that also function similar

your average walmart kt tape sucks ass and won’t work

[spice sphinx]

Omg moral orel reference

[inland schooner]

i used kt tape in all honestly it worked for me i just got it at my grocery store

[austere jay]

i just don’t like how you can’t have it on as long

also beware the recent batch of trans tape i ordered must have been made with a different manufacturer cuz it’s shit

just ass quality idk what happened, wondering if it’s a shortage issue

[zinc oriole]

I noticed that it kinda slides off now :[

I have to use two pieces of it

[vapid dune]

Lately I’ve been shaving less and less and become more comfortable in my natural skin I’m reveling in my clockiness/masc energy

[chrome snow]

Shaving is such a hassle.

I wish that I didn't have facial hair

:((

[inland schooner]

Goddamn that's shit sorry to hear that D:!!!

Almost 3 weeks arm! got to see my entire chest today :D bandages are still on but that's np, they will be coming off entirely in 2 weeks or may be decided to stay on for a bit longer by my surgeon. They're looking good so far, bit of dressing and they're uneven but I'm not worried at all by that since I've always had an uneven chest. Chest is very sweaty from being covered but glad that ive seen it!!!

[austere jay]

like it’s even easy to peel off the skin without oil. my last batch was fine?

so weird

and a different color too?

[austere jay]

so happy for you brother

[zinc oriole]

For me it's depended, because sometimes with this roll the adhesive NEEDED oil to come off and worked as it did when I last used it but now that I'm getting further into the roll it literally came off by itself a couple of days ago

Like my sweat made it just come entirely loose and one side just came off of my skin with no resistance

Sorry for my grammar here lol I am a bit tired

I see what you mean though the quality is very strange. The rolls I got recently were from a sale they were doing in May (?)

[austere jay]

huh weird

mine were very recent, they were out of stock and i got them as soon as they restocked which is why i’m suspecting a change in who’s making it or something like that

[zinc oriole]

I hope not :( it seems like binding resources are getting worse and worse

[austere jay]

god i know

[zinc oriole]

And the better quality stuff is more expensive increasingly

[austere jay]

i’ll reorder some soon, hopefully it’s just a desperation thing since they were out of stock

the old tape was so good like perfect

[zinc oriole]

Exactly it lasted so long!
If it continues like this though I'm going to leave feedback if I can

Hopefully it was just old stock or less than perfect samples or somethjng

[austere jay]

yeah hopefully cuz this is majorly disappointing

it was like the best binding option for me and now i have the daily reapply strips

[zinc oriole]

Fingers crossed
Because same here

Wearing tanktops is nice :( I'd hate to already give it up

[valid sun]

yeah gc2b has gone down way bad

i dont use them anymore but i havent bought another binder in years

a year*

i have one from 2020 and two from 2022 and the ones from 2022 are significantly worse in terms of breathability and general restriction

i wear a 2xl

i used underworks before then for their tanktop binders as a size medium and they worked better than my binder from 2020 tbh but they obviously cant fit me anymore

[zinc oriole]

Oh yeah gc2b has been going down for yearrrrrs

The last decent binder I had from gc2b I got in 2019

I hope you'll be able to find something once the time comes, I know of a brand that has better quality binders but is slightly more expensive

Idk the name off the top of my head but I could find it

[valid sun]

if you can thatd be great

[unborn atlas]

hella

[frozen breach]

are you thinking of spectrum outfitters? cuz those ones are pretty pricey but there's a lot of positive reviews of them

unfortunately the one I bought from there is now breaking and threadbare after only wearing a few times, but I'm assuming that's just a fluke since the reviews are mostly so good

also I guess gc2b has released a kinda revamped model that's supposed to fix the problems?? idk I ordered one but my expectations are low

[digital geyser]

ive heard rlly good things about most binders except gc2b, but spectrum are the ones i hear about most especially since they are uk based

[sturdy trail]

i tried underworks and it didn't flatten at all

[zinc oriole]

Yes! @valid sun it was this oneee

[zinc oriole]

They didn't fix the issue of their binders hurting people's bodies though, they improved the fabric but they're still pretty unsafe to wear from what I've heard

[sturdy trail]

they're only really unsafe if u sleep in them or wear them for more than a day

[valid sun]

Thank you both

[valid sun]

yeah the straps on mine suck. i wear them to work and have to position my chest properly but they still dont tighten in my armpits and the area around them and took awhile to break into

[zinc oriole]

Sounds so uncomfortable, I remember having that issue with one of my old gc2b binders too

[valid sun]

yeah underworks was good for awhile but i wore them too long and it made my chest lose elasticity

which is bad if you want a masectomy/top surgery

im pretty sure its also because my nips were pointed down instead of forward so the pressure strained them downward instead of pushing them back

this was maybe when i was 12-13

so safety tip: make sure your chest is facing forward not downward when binding otherwise its bad for you and can complicate surgeries

[frozen breach]

honestly since I'm having top surgery in less than a year and my chest has deflated from being on T I've just been wearing sports bras

all my clothes are very loose fitting so there's not really a visual dofference

I'm just scared of wrecking my chest to the point where surgery isn't an option

[vapid dune]

When you’re made to feel dysphoric by a cis person trying to push cis beauty standards on you, a trans person

So at work like I said I go by she/her cus of course. Can’t exactly explain non-binary and the concept of it/its pronouns to people who aren’t trans friendly

Hostess says she wants to do my hair

Let her

She lets my hair loose and ties it up into a pair of braids at the sides of my head, exposing my forehead and going in too feminine a direction

When I went to see myself in the mirror. Holy shit. I had not been made to feel dysphoric in such a long time in my life I felt so wrong. I felt so disgusted at my own appearance seeing my hair that way

I felt bad cus she tried so hard but I had to undo it. God it felt so damn WRONG and I did my usual ponytail and bangs

She’s of course just a sweetheart just trying to help me do my hair but I wish I could explain to a cis person that I cannot be as feminine as they imagine I want to be. Too much femininity literally just begins to go back into the realm of dysphoria inducing just as too much masculinity does too

[bright bane]

just got a stp device. gonna practice my aim until im godlike compared to the cis

[unborn atlas]

mood

[zinc oriole]

@austere jay sorry to @ you but I have a transtape question. Last night I put it on but really had to take it off this morning because it was hurting like. My shoulders (the back of them)

Do you think it was just me or did I put on the tape a certain way

Because it's been happening when I put it on but less severely than today

And I have chronic pain so idk if it was just that

[austere jay]

i’m not sure if i’ve dealt with like specific shoulder pain that i can track back to t tape tbh

i have back problems in general so idk if i can help with that one : ( sorry wayne

[zinc oriole]

It is ok! It stopped hurting as much once I took it off

Plus I slept very weird so that may be it

[vapid dune]

PSA make sure you choose your “trans allies” carefully. Long story short the coworker who’s always trying to make me be more feminine, the oh so virtuous “trans ally” got pissed at me last night because of trivial bullshit she was being immature about. Now to show me she’s pissed at me she’s resorting to referring to me by my deadname and he/him pronouns like oh no I lost the validation of a cis person what ever will I do like what an immature little gesture and show that some “allies” are just bullshit looking to turn your transness against you

[austere jay]

tbh there days i can’t tell what’s residual, chronic pain or what’s because of t tape and stuff like that i just ache all the time

maybe i should get checked out for chronic pain i thought it was normal for so long 😭

[austere jay]

the second a cis person uses someone’s wrong pronouns just because they “did something wrong” i drop them. transness has nothing to do with whatever bad things one might do and if the first instinct they have is to misgender someone i know it could happen to me too

[zinc oriole]

I'm sure in WA it may be easier but my experience getting diagnosed uhh

It's very hard lol

There's actually no general consensus on what my condition really is?

If you pursue that best of luck! Because doctors can be VERY annoying about chronic pain especially if you're a younger adult

[vapid dune]

Yea. Dropped her. It’s beyond immature to stop being trans supportive the moment she’s mad at a trans person when it had nothing to do with the issue

[astral gull]

I knew another trans person who did that

He did it to my fuckin face too back when I went by exclusively he him bc I thought I was a trans man at the time

[zinc oriole]

It's so shitty that people are so performative in thier acceptance

Even other trans people it's bizarre to me

Acceptance and respect isn't conditional its inherent

[vapid dune]

Yea. I once had a coworker. Back when I still went by she/her he asked me for my pronouns and yea I told him she/her and he said he’s cool with that that he has trans friends. But then said that I better not piss him off or he’s gonna go back to using he/him to me

Never talked to that mfer ever again. Kept my distance.

[austere jay]

at this point i’m wondering if i should just suck it up and push through cuz idk what meds they could possibly give me to help

my biggest piece of advice to young trans people is to be aware of warning signs like what i talked about and not be afraid to walk away from people because of it

[zinc oriole]

For me personally exercise has really benefitted me and alleviated a lot of my pain, along with changing where I sleep (my bed is very bad for my back) and finding out what works for you/what doesn't

Knowing your limits etc

[zinc oriole]

I feel bad for his trans friends

They must feel really stressed around him

[vapid dune]

I think it’s just the typical “I have friends who are x” argument a racist/transphobe/any other group hater would use

And he doesn’t have actual trans friends

[zinc oriole]

That is most likely the case

I tend to take things very literally sometimes even if it's a hypothetical/somebody making it up

[bright bane]

YES this irks me so much and nobody listens when i talk abt it. My mom used to deadname me the second she got pissed off and like ://

[austere jay]

being gendered correctly isn’t something you should have to earn by behaving the way someone wants

[astral gull]

I had an the experience of a trans man calling me she to my face bc he was mad at me mind you he's like 6 and a half years older than me.... pathetic

Like I said back when I didn't want to be called that

"Respect is earned" mindset is bad bc no tf it isn't its the bare minimum

[balmy pond]

This af. Just goes to show how cissies view gender for trans people as a privilege, not a right

[digital geyser]

oh my god i had a fight with a cis person once on twitter over this and in that argument they essentially revealled through how they talked that they dont see trans people as the gender they identify as, which rlly just gives the game away

this person really gave the game away there, even the more "trans friendly" cis people who do this in reality are admitting their view is that trans ppl are not the gender they are

im gonna spoiler this one but i realised after that tweet this person said it even more explicitely

[sturdy trail]

treating a heterogenous group of people as something to be pro- or anti- like a debate subject is so weird

[digital geyser]

fr

[tardy creek]

@digital geyser has leveled up! (12 ➜ 13)

[digital geyser]

this person acted like we could have a civil debate in their dms when like...they admitted they dont see me as who i literally am so like how can i have a debate with someone on those terms? if ur viewpoint is that trans ppl are not really what they identify as, no amount of what i could say would really change that

but everytime i see a discussion about this its often people who pretend they are trans allies or "pro-trans" people being like "i respect trans people but i wont call this person their pronouns because they are a monster" etc etc. i can kinda respect this person for at least outright stating the true fact that on some level these people do not see trans people as the gender they are

[chrome snow]

It's a fucked up and dehumanized way of looking at people suffering in the world today.

[austere jay]

real

if there’s one thing we as a community can agree on it’s that no one trans person’s experiences are the same

that’s why i just don’t talk to cis people about trans topics because they will never understand that we aren’t a monolith and are in fact separate people with separate lives

[supple quarry]

Found this in the attic of a game store and they sold it to me for $10. I will finish what the previous owner started

[zinc oriole]

WOAHH

[digital geyser]

omg

[valid sun]

No way

[supple quarry]

Gonna mod the shit out of it too. RGB video out, region mod, and hopefully put an led behind the n64 badge so it lights up, possibly pink

[supple quarry]

@misty harness @vapid dune trans 64

[chrome snow]

I swear, Lux.

You literally find some of the coolest shit ever.

[supple quarry]

Hehe I try. The key is just knowing where to look.

[frozen breach]

no this is so real

[tardy creek]

@frozen breach has leveled up! (9 ➜ 10)

[frozen breach]

my dream for once I've moved out and am post-transition is to be out only to the trans people in my life

and obviously like my doctor so I can keep getting hrt

[stable cradle]

saw u guys talking abt binding earlier, the only things I have r (newer) gc2b binders and I wear them super often bc my chest dysphoria is probably my worst, but ahh I worry about fucking up my chest too much for tsurg

i was interested in trans tape, I even had a doctor recommend it to me, but if that’s been going down in quality too then idk what to do:[ idk if anyone has advice but if u do i’d appreciate it

[zinc oriole]

KT tape is a good alternative to transtape but doesnt stay on as long, Id need to put on additional tape or layer it for it to stay

but if you arent a sweaty person it may be ok or if you arent being extremely active

[unborn atlas]

minty

like spironolactone

[austere jay]

i wouldn’t say it’s like confirmed going down in quality but the last batch was definitely odd. hopefully it’ll improve soon

anyways went to a hardcore show last night and i’ve never been surrounded with that many dudes that i want to look like

[balmy pond]

Real af, girls at punk shows are the purest source of gender envy for me

[bronze ocean]

hardcore dudes look so cool

[zinc oriole]

I FEEL THIS SO HARD

I'm going to a local hardcore show tomorrow I'm excited

[supple quarry]

||Hello feds, hope you’re having an okay day today :3||

[grand current]

so true

[austere jay]

hardcore dudes i’ve discovered are the friendliest fucking guys around

i made like at like 10 new pals

[vapid dune]

No kidding

I always make the most friends at a hardcore show. Like despite being the people I likely fucking skull bashed against the hardest

There’s such a fucking tight brotherhood that forms at a hardcore show. Whether you’re a newhead or an oldhead for hardcore they don’t gatekeep as hard as other genres. They’re just there to get fucking wild together

[bronze ocean]

especially when u mosh together

i love dudes that like hug everyone who was in the pit

[vapid dune]

I’m always that dude

[bronze ocean]

fuck yeah

[vapid dune]

If I hurt you I will make sure to hug you and ask if you’re good post-pit

Cus I feel bad a lil lmao

Even if there’s those rotund shirtless sweaty dudes in the pit. Fuck it I’m gonna bask in that disgusting bear stench and give them a hug

God knows they deserve it

[austere jay]

it’s so amazing

i’ve been into hardcore for a long time now but i’ve been afraid to go to shows as a trans person. the first band playing was unjust, and the bass player was wearing a “protect trans kids shirt” and it put me at ease

met so many cool guys there as well as trans people, i finally feel like i have an avenue to real life friends after being essentially isolated for a few years

it feels so great

[vapid dune]

Yea. That’s how I feel at my local hardcore scene. Lots of fellow queer people and they make it clear trans friendliness is everyone’s goal

[austere jay]

they’re gods strongest soldiers i was in awe of them last night

now i’m itching for another show i’m scouring every instagram page i find

[vapid dune]

It is mostly a community of outcasts so it would be hypocritical to a hardcore show to hate on trans people as we are our own form of outcasts

[vapid dune]

You can bet your ass your city has its own DIY hardcore scene

Join it and make friends locally that way

Best decision of my life

[austere jay]

i’ve like finally found my niche

i started talking to a lot of people after it was over and was honest about coming out for the first time and everyone was super happy to help me find more shows and a few people said they wanted to see me out there again

just so heartwarming especially as someone that struggles to make friends in my town to just be immediately accepted like that it was amazing

two stepping is so much more fun with other people

[vapid dune]

Deadass

[austere jay]

i’m not good at the like throwing punches version of moshing but i’ll learn

[vapid dune]

Also the first time irl I came out as Agatha was at the stop cop city festival, to the people I met during the grindcore sets. I first came out irl as my chosen name to hardcore fans

[austere jay]

i tried to get out there and attempt it but everytime i would want to go some crazy guy would get in and i would back off

[vapid dune]

Since I felt so welcome with them

[austere jay]

they’re all just so chill

[vapid dune]

Hell. That’s the type of guy I always go for lmao

The harder they go the more likely they are to be super fucking chill post pit

[vapid dune]

Also I think I just earned myself a chaser unfortunately

So I think I’ve mentioned here how at work cus of the transphobia I can’t use the girls bathroom. So I made a deal with the managers here and the manager at the Starbucks next door to use the Starbucks bathroom when I need the bathroom

But to do that. I had to tell the Starbucks manager I’m trans

And I think it flipped a switch in his head cus now he comes over and asks for me

When I’m over he’s always talking to me and giving me free drinks

I’m hoping he’s just being nice but. He wasn’t THIS nice before I had to make it clear to him im trans

[unborn atlas]

hopefully

he's just trying to be supportive

but still, yeah, pretty weird

[balmy pond]

Hmmmmm

I dunno trust ur gut I say

[unborn atlas]

oh also weeg says hi and you should change your name to

eggy

🥚

[austere jay]

shaved head is so affirming

makes me feel scary

[unborn atlas]

my mum had a shaved head

[unborn atlas]

I'm thinking of shaving part of mine

I feel if I did the whole thing it would be too much like her

[balmy pond]

The halfshave thing is such a vibe, my partner rocks that all the time 😎

Thinking I should get a haircut soon, I'm super scare that getting rid of the dead ends is gonna give me short hair tho ;-;

[zinc oriole]

Show update lol
It was actually Not a hardcore show it was rock music lol HOWEVER the last artist was more leaning towards hardcore and there was moshing :]

[bright bane]

i got my hair shaved down to an inch one time and as i was walking out of great clips an old lady shouted "Wow! It looks great!" i should do that more often

[vapid dune]

This has been a consideration of mine too if my hairline wasn’t so fucked up

Even if I’m nonbiney a part of me considers getting FFS mainly to fix my hairline and give me more hairstyle options such as shorter hairstyles

[empty goblet]

im gay

[feral wind]

twins frfr

[vapid dune]

God sweets is so real for this

[bronze ocean]

me too ☝️

[misty harness]

mood

[chrome snow]

W

[digital geyser]

💯

[feral wind]

so anyone here trans?

[bronze ocean]

meeeeeeeeeeee

[feral wind]

omg no way

[bronze ocean]

ya

hate to break it to yua

[feral wind]

wait a minute

im in a place called transdome

and ppl here are

omg everyone is trans

trans ppl are cool and hot

[balmy pond]

Hey any of the girls in here have tips or good tutorials for coverup?

Cuz of my money situation I wont be able to fit a laser appt in until at least july 1 but the shadow is making me go fucking insane rn

Maybe it's all in my head but I cant unsee it no matter what I try ;-;

[bronze ocean]

who /sewergen/

[unborn atlas]

me? I'm a regular sewers[MY LAWYER HAS ADVISED ME TO NOT FINISH THIS JOKE]

[bronze ocean]

yeahhh :)

[astral gull]

https://picrew.me/en/image_maker/1918788

Wake up transdome picrew alert

[bronze ocean]

oh fuck yeha

[astral gull]

Did mine but I wish I went for a different background color

Didn't have my hair color either :/

[sturdy trail]

heart hold character

[bronze ocean]

RAT

[astral gull]

Evil skull nb heart

[tardy creek]

@astral gull has leveled up! (11 ➜ 12)

[unborn atlas]

my gender got bones

[feral wind]

boutta start goin in the woods with shitty flashlight

most trans thing ever

[feral wind]

arent we all/j

[bright bane]

currently hating the universe for giving me a stunning torso, naturally wide shoulders and thin waist, and nice collarbones, just to throw two fatass tits on top of it

[cold whale]

felt

[bronze ocean]

many such cases

[bright bane]

BYE

[digital geyser]

well they know how to target their audience ig

[vapid dune]

That picrew is p great

[frozen breach]

silly guy alert‼️

[chrome snow]

I GOT THE SAME AD

LOL

[zinc oriole]

evil shadow bi

[astral gull]

@inland schooner do one when you're online?

[stable cradle]

dogboy represent

[spice sphinx]

Awoo

[strong heath]

https://cdn.picrew.me/shareImg/org/202307/1918788_9CP33EGR.png

deermaxxing

[inland schooner]

Ok!!

1 sec lemme wake up properly and get outta bed

if this doesnt have facial hair im gonna die

[astral gull]

I didn't check

[inland schooner]

it doesnt have facial hair 😔😔

[astral gull]

NOOO

Wgyyyyy

[inland schooner]

doesnt look like me at all but i had to make do

[astral gull]

🫡

I pledge allegiance to the flag

[slender palm]

they didn’t have a genderqueer heart but that is okay !!

i luv this omg

tysm to the person who sent the link !

[astral gull]

was i

its a cute one but its kind dumb that they didnt add facial hair

[supple quarry]

It’s very stupid. Like idk how you can overlook that. I get it if it’s not your thing but like ????? You still need to have the option lol

[astral gull]

yeah fr

they can have religous headcoverings tho

[inland schooner]

Pretty common dwe

Dww *

[digital geyser]

yeah 😔and some with facial hair implement it horribly

im hoping to come out to one of my irls today. havent told anyone new in trans in a while so bit nervous. i think she’ll react ok though ive never seen any sign she wouldnt but still

[stable cradle]

I wish u so so much luck!!!!!

[unborn atlas]

here's a tip

you can copy any image into ms Paint

and draw facial hair on it

I like giving my picrews stubble but only if it's thin and shitty

if it's dense and handsome I want nothing to do with it

[digital geyser]

thank you!!

i always find it rlly funny when i come out to people while presenting more femininely, like today im gonna be like “hey im a guy…in a skirt✨”

[unborn atlas]

I've noticed trans guys tend to be more at peace with their feminine side than trans girls with their masculine sides

I wonder why that is

if, indeed, there is any reason

[digital geyser]

hm ive never rlly noticed that, maybe its bc femininity is a lot more fun when it comes to how you can express yourself. even most good fashion stuff for men is usually involving an element of more traditionally feminine stuff, at least in my opinion. most men’s fashion is rlly bland in comparison to women’s

also wearing skirts is just objectively fun

(unless they are pencil skirts i hate those so much istg)

[unborn atlas]

🤔

much to think about

[digital geyser]

for me i dress feminine mostly because a) i own lots of rlly nice dresses and b) im in the closet so im usually around people who see me as a girl anyway

[unborn atlas]

ah yes

the Spear Counterpart to boymoding, of course

I should watch that Lily Alexandre video about nonbinary people again

[sturdy trail]

i think mens fashion is only bland now or just in mainstream clothes stores

in the early 2000s and everything before it wasn't bland

i have just as much fun with masc clothes as i do with fem

[digital geyser]

yeah fr, i dress vintage styled anyway but esp when i presnt masc

my fave gender affirming outfit includes the most 1970s jumper i own

[astral gull]

Vintage goes rlly hard

I wouldn't call 90s vintage but most of what I wear is inspired by that time

[valid sun]

period

[sturdy trail]

vintage doesn't really mean anything

[valid sun]

i dress so boring which im 100% fine with but all the styles i would want to try are perceived as feminine which doesnt even make sense to me

[astral gull]

Fuck it you ball

That perception isn't on you 🫡

[valid sun]

i would ball if i wasnt hairy 😭 idk how to pull off 90s european/American rave styles with a beard

[bronze ocean]

nu -metal fashion 💪

[sturdy trail]

yeas

[bronze ocean]

this guy gets it

me af

[digital geyser]

fr. im also a big fan of dark academia fashion

i like dressing like it’s anytime before 1980 fjskg

[sturdy trail]

british

[astral gull]

Simply do not care

It is okay

Its clothes not body hair standards

[sturdy trail]

the only cool time before 1980 was the 70s if u don't count what lolita goes off of

[astral gull]

Apologies if I sound harsh I am trying to prove a point that you should do what u want

[bronze ocean]

european rave style with a beard is just like

european rave style

every other guy has a beard

and usually a shiny bald slappable head

the gabber to binging with babish lookalike pipeline

[sturdy trail]

so real

[sturdy trail]

it should be important to note that dressing very feminine like with a skirt and everything while having body hair and facial hair and stuff subjects you to more surveillance

which i do anyway but the increased possibility of being hatecrimed is there

so you're kinda forced to care

unfortunately we live in a society

[balmy pond]

I dunno some 60s fashion can get it. The Anna Karina proto-girl twink thing goes hard imo

[sturdy trail]

i am biased towards chloë sevigny for girltwinkness

[balmy pond]

I mean fair

[digital geyser]

this went well!!!

she took it amazingly well

[astral gull]

The reason I said that is because you shouldn't care abt ppl being hateful but if it effects your safety in any way its best to refrain which is unfortunate but real

Like my brother asks if he can borrow my dresses and I have to unfortunately say no bc we are in conservative fl and I fear for his safety especially at school bc I've had stuff thrown at me for existing

[sturdy trail]

borrow ur dresses for wha

[astral gull]

Just to wear out to some places

Bc he wants to

I gotta say no tho bc he will literally get hate crimed

[austere jay]

9 month t check up today : ) asking about top surgery. wish me luck!

[bronze ocean]

good luck‼️

[zinc oriole]

BEST OF LUCK VINNY!!

Happy 9 months :]

[balmy pond]

RAAAAAAH LETS GO VINNYYYYY

[frozen breach]

holy shit I just had my 9months checkup on Tuesday

and I also asked abt top surgery

me & Vinny same person confirmed

also GOOD LUCK RAHHHHHH

[vapid dune]

Holy shit do you and Vinny have the transmasc version of what me and @balmy pond have together???? Holy shet

[balmy pond]

:3 moment

[unborn atlas]

what's that?

[vapid dune]

Me and Claire started HRT on the same exact day

[unborn atlas]

oagh

[austere jay]

not quite nine months yet but thanks wayne : D

[frozen breach]

I don't think so sadly because Vinny isn't quite at 9 months and I'm closer to 9 and a half months by now

but still an entertaining coincidence

[zinc oriole]

Happy soon :]

Idk where I'm at with T I think 3 and a half years since I started (not taking the small gaps into account

[vapid dune]

Interesting how when I joined a lot of us weren’t even on HRT and I get to share this journey with y’all it’s always pretty endearing tbh tbh

When I first joined I was at 5 months HRT now I’m at 14 months. P insane to think about and how far I’ve come in that time

And this server did help a lot with self discovery

Maybe I’d still be lying to myself about what I should be instead of accepting my weird blend of masculine and feminine traits

[bronze ocean]

ill be on 4 years this year

👵

[zinc oriole]

Hrt rat 🐀

[austere jay]

unfortunately my transition is in a realm all of its own and i like to think of myself as individual in it so we can’t really compare ours but it’s fucking epic that you’re past 9 months congrats

[zinc oriole]

Congrats to everybody :] I'm really happy and fortunate to hear everybody's journeys

[vapid dune]

This is what I think of mine

[austere jay]

mostly because of my gender tbh it’s too individualistic to be comparable fully to anything else

if that makes sense?

[vapid dune]

Some people have said that I pass so fucking hard when I dress and present more feminine, and yea when I do I basically never get clocked. But I don’t give a shit lmao @proper igloo can tell you I go out loose hair and without shaving and dressed like a dude fuck it

So I can’t really compare my own HRT process to anyone else I feel

I like what HRT has done to me but I don’t want to be defined by it

[misty harness]

i'm more than a year and a half in and i still get sirred all the time, sigh

[austere jay]

autism LOSS i go to an in person clinic because talking face to face with a person and following a clear routine for check ups makes the doctors office less scary for me, but today they completely switched me up, have me in a room but had my intake done over the phone and are having me meet with a clinician on telehealth?

this change of routine is freaking me out

i also had to remind them i needed blood work done which is standard for my check ups so i’m lost

wish me luck gang i hate this

[zinc oriole]

Strange they made u go in to call somebody?? Best of luck!

[stable cradle]

hey yall I just wanna shoutout the transfems in here bc before joining this dc I never really knew any?? like the only trans ppl I knew were transmasc and it’s cool to here abt it from the other side :]

I hope I didnt phrase rhat weird big apologies if I did

[vapid dune]

You didn’t come off weird. Tbh I feel the same way here with transmascs. Like. Y’all honestly inspired me immensely in my own gender expression. So I love my transmasc brothers I’ve made here immensely, it’s been a great experience

[austere jay]

hands down the worst planned parenthood experience i’ve ever had but what can you do

gave me little to no info on top surgery : (

that being said, if anyone knows any good wa top surgeons lmk

[astral gull]

Looks cool!

[unborn atlas]

trans men are my brothers and my comrades tbh

[astral gull]

Fr

[austere jay]

sent an email to my insurance about surgeons in the network : D

[austere jay]

got an email back, just need a surgeon letter, a letter from a therapist and a letter from a primary care provider

how i’m gonna get the primary care provider letter may be an issue

does anyone know if planned parenthood does these?

[misty harness]

this is my gender

[valid sun]

this is why i'm very cautious about it

if not because of harassment then just standard ridicule; i have (diagnosed) avoidant personality disorder and so any kind of judgement or notice of looking "out of place" will send me into a pretty terrible isolation episode

this is also why im very good at talking in servers or small talk to strangers but cannot make a close friendship whatsoever

[inland schooner]

Isn't primary care provider just your endocrinologist?

Im not sure

[bright bane]

anyone else been used as a search engine for lgbtq related questions after coming out

"so if this guy is trans, and married to a woman, does that make them lesbians?" why would I know bru

[spice sphinx]

My mom did that to me until I set up boundaries

Like yeah if you have questions about me in particular sure

[unborn atlas]

that's such a straight person question

once my sister's partner (at the time) asked me how I had sex

bewildering

I can't imagine what kind of answer he was expecting

[vapid dune]

I always make it clear I’ll answer respectful LGBT questions but when they start asking about my genitals or anyone else’s genitals or stuff that is clearly very nuanced I won’t respond and then they get mad at me

Like asking about my genitals isn’t very respectful.

You don’t need to know what’s in my pants or what I do with what’s in my pants that’s not a respectful question

[unborn atlas]

turn it on em

dude backed the fuck down when I asked him the same thing

[vapid dune]

Idk if it would work in my case cus cis people are very interested in peoples genitals. They’re the ones that care about that so they wouldn’t care to answer

Without understanding a decent percentage of trans people are very insecure about their own genitals

[unborn atlas]

Americans got those crazy straight people

[vapid dune]

Yea. Americans talk about genitals so casually

So maybe it’s just a cultural difference

[unborn atlas]

yeah I dunno

Australians aren't exactly a picture of culture

[vapid dune]

Insert Australian stereotypes to show proof of culture

[unborn atlas]

we have none

suck my dick white Australia

[bright bane]

i used to get stopped in the middle school lunch line by people asking if i had a dick or a pussy

[vapid dune]

I’m 25 and I still have this happen. Often by people in their 40s.

Well I guess that’s to be expected since people over 40 are so fucking obsessed with the contents of everyone’s pants

[bright bane]

one time my uncle came over and somehow the topic was transgenderism and he deadass asked me "do you want a penis?"
i was barely 13

he was like 32 btw (⁠◕⁠ᴗ⁠◕⁠✿⁠)

[vapid dune]

Gross.

[digital geyser]

wtf

[astral gull]

I've been called a thing in the hallways bc they can't tell what I am

Ppl assume I'm a trans woman bc of transphobic reasons since I don't really look feminine no matter what I do to myself

[digital geyser]

not rlly in my case, but tbf my parents act like i never came out as queer and as if they know everything about the lgbtq+ identity, when they 100% do not considering they are terfs

sometimes cishet friends will ask me stuff but its usually when queerness is relevant in like a school topic or something

[digital geyser]

god im so sorry about that

[astral gull]

Ig the androdygy is working but it's derogatory asf

[digital geyser]

people have almost always perceived me as a lesbian because of stereotypes around femininity and gender presentation ever since i started presenting more androgynous, so ive never really experienced transphobia irl, mostly lesbiphobia instead which is awkward bc ive never identified as a lesbian even when i thought i was a cis queer

[astral gull]

As long as their polite

[astral gull]

That's shitty at least be an asshole about the right thing

[digital geyser]

they are normally, one of them sometimes is all like “oh but i’m not going to get cancelled right” and im just like girl no ur fine

[unborn atlas]

I'm not about to wait for cis people to respect me

[digital geyser]

she doesnt know im trans tbf, im mostly only out to otjer queer people

mostly mostly other trans people

[unborn atlas]

do people even know what words are anymore?

"yes let me register this with the board of cancellations"

[digital geyser]

she was really concerned over using the word queer in academia and i was like bestie it’s been used in academia for decades just dont go yelling it at random lgbtq+ people

[unborn atlas]

over cautious allies are a headache

[sturdy trail]

idc if cishet people call me queer

[digital geyser]

she’s doing a lot better than the cishet teacher in that class who full on said the f slur because it was an “academic context”

fun times

[sturdy trail]

what was the class

[digital geyser]

me neither i use it as a label, but i also wouldnt go around chnating it at people

[digital geyser]

english language (linguistics), we were all 16-17 at the time

not the only slur she said either

[sturdy trail]

english teacher moment

[digital geyser]

ive finished school now so i never have to see her again thamk god

[sturdy trail]

queer is more than a label imo

[unborn atlas]

we can't waste time lamenting the fact that our pasts weren't great

we'd never get anything done

I think a lot of queer people also tend to over correct when it comes to

I don't wanna say political correctness because I'm not a 60 year old conservative man

[digital geyser]

i use queer as an umbrella term, label for myself to describe my own experience with romantic and sexual attraction and in an academic context but i would still ask most people before specifically calling them it not as an unbrella

im completely fine wijt it but ive known people that werent

and ive also experienced having a trans friend call me a reclaimed slur that i wasnt ok with without checking first so

[unborn atlas]

me and my friends call each other slurs all the time but it's with the knowledge that were not gonna do that to just anybody

[digital geyser]

yeah

[sturdy trail]

"queer is a slur" people r almost always assimilationists and the only people i've seen say it now r radfems/terfs

[unborn atlas]

people getting weird about queer is ahistorical tho

[sturdy trail]

ya

[digital geyser]

tbf the one person i did know who was uncomfy with it was trying to gatekeep me from using it as a label for myself

[unborn atlas]

I don't think people realize just how nasty queer history can be in comparison to this vapid inclusive neoliberal "everybody valid" non-scene

[unborn atlas]

authority is a heady tonic

look at the endless parade of "Disney's first gay/queer/nonbinary character!" and compare it to aids activists sewing their lips shut and dying on the stairs of Congress

I hate this toothless shmaltz

[digital geyser]

they also were very big into the whole bi pan debate n all that stuff, discourse is so stupid and i wish it wasnt so inevitable

[unborn atlas]

I hate neoliberal non-ideology

[digital geyser]

the bi pan discourse has been going on for literally like a decade now are people not bored yet

[unborn atlas]

love to die over semantics when our enemies policy is genocide

but what if we say the wrong words

[digital geyser]

god and then they go and censor actual queer creators they have working for them when they make explicitely queer content. it all has to be jkr style subtext

so they can still sell it to religious people and homophobic countries

[sturdy trail]

everything is "content" now

[proper igloo]

amen

[unborn atlas]

I advocate being nasty and rude and unmarketable and aggressive and abrasive and actively hostile to cishet homogeny

the extent of my resolve is not age appropriate for an all ages server however

[digital geyser]

im also so sick of seeing cishets take all the credit for queer activism or playing the victim when they’ve been transphobic. i especially hate those “oh i used to be transphobic but now im an ally because my friend came out” or whatever where they end up centering themselves performatively instead of actually helping the people they’ve previously harmed

people can change for sure but i wish people could stop playing the victim. you were transphobic and you probably will hold elements of those views for the rest of your life and you need to actually put in effort to undo some of the harm you’ve caused instead of just sitting down and apologising youtuber style

there’s this certain genre of cis person i see on tiktok especially, but also sometimes on youtube, and they talk about trans people in a way that reads as somewhat of an attempt at allyship but also as if they’ve never spoken to a trans person in their life because of the way it’s detached from us. i cant really describe it but it’s just that kinda performative tone

[unborn atlas]

this is partially why I care so much about trans characters being played by trans actors

because otherwise you get a bunch of cis people making a simulacra of us

and those sanitised, digestible images get propagated in place of reality

and suddenly everybody thinks being trans is a tearful coming out scene where everybody accepts you and not doing so much ketamine that you think you're the next Wendy Carlos

[zinc oriole]

I think they may accept it if they're giving you your hrt and I believe (at least at the one I went to) they can provide the letter or give resources to get one! It's worth asking

Sorry for the kind of late answer lol

[unborn atlas]

while we're at it and while I'm in a mood

fuck "beauty" as a metric

[digital geyser]

(i realised that although i have a pretty good grasp on what i was gonna talk about i didnt fully watch the video bc i just couldnt get past the way the creator was talking about it. essentially a tiktoker i liked and who positioned themself as an ally made a video which parroted the right wing talking point of queer people doing it for attention/oppression points only)

[unborn atlas]

whenever I come out to somebody and they waffle on about how beautiful I am

it's worse than "brave"

[digital geyser]

oh my god so true

[unborn atlas]

I think a lot of cis women just have a vapid understanding of their gender

drank the koolaid etc

[digital geyser]

or the people who tell trans people not to transition because they're attractive as their assigned sex

[unborn atlas]

gross

vacuous

[digital geyser]

im not gonna go into my rant about attractiveness in society in general i'd be here all day fkldsfjsdl

its all bs and based on abritrary standards set by cishet men that will change in 5 years

[unborn atlas]

I am full of contradictions

I'm alienated by beauty standards but I think vanity is sacred

[vapid dune]

Tbh I love receiving transphobia from people whose insecurities are very evident like cis manlets who act with such toxic masculinity as if they’re the one with the biggest dick in the room

Cus you just KNOW how easily their masculinity crumbles. Despite my body flowing with estrogen I know I’m far more a man than they could ever be while also far more a woman than their girl could ever be

So I often know exactly where it hurts most for them

[unborn atlas]

big dicks don't count if you are one 🚬

[vapid dune]

Amen, sister

[unborn atlas]

[vapid dune]

I also love how part of the transphobia I get from my coworkers is them acting like it’s so damn easy to clock me that I look like a man so on so on. Like they’d know I’m trans even had I not made it clear. When during my 4 months working here I have not been clocked by a customer ONCE and the bartenders still assume I’m a cis girl lmao

Like cope harder chud, you know I’m not clocky yet you try to poke me there as if I had an issue with being clocky even if I was

[unborn atlas]

they live in a fantasy

where their opponents are simultaneously overpowered and undercompetent

[inland schooner]

Yeppp

[spice sphinx]

He has something to say about that

🦞

[unborn atlas]

FUKKENNNNNNNN YABBIEEEEEEEZ AAAAAGHGGHHGHHHGGHHH

[supple quarry]

Getting real fucking tired of all the transphobic shit on YouTube shirts and Instagram reels

[chrome snow]

No fucking joke.

Every single time that I use YouTube shorts, it's sometimes feeds me right wing shit and stuff with Andrew Tate.

I absolutely despise it and I have to consistently block it.

[feral wind]

same

[sturdy trail]

comes with the algorithm framework i think

[bronze ocean]

real

that shits a right wing pipeline

[valid sun]

its crazy bad

[inland schooner]

im not gonna lie i kinda like the MLD phallo scar it looks sick as fuck

[inland schooner]

on another note, i just checked my messages on reddit (my trans account, have posted a full accounting of my top surgery) and some right wing fucker has messaged me asking for info on my surgery

this is the shit he posts, so im inclined to not respond

[unborn atlas]

ya not slick, bern!!!!

[spice sphinx]

Made a bead bracelet yesterday that’s just the trans flag colors n the f word I think this is a powerful new artifact

[unborn atlas]

the sex word or the sexuality word?

[feral wind]

yea

the slur or the hehe

[unborn atlas]

are you a rude queer or a slur queer?

[spice sphinx]

[feral wind]

hes got some shit to say just for the fuck of it

some animals just look homophobic

[unborn atlas]

just to clear up any ambiguity

the queers can say as many slurs as they want!!!!

but be careful

watch out!!!!!!!!!

[spice sphinx]

The queers can say a little slurs as a treat

[unborn atlas]

slurs-as-applicable

don't say the n word if you're not black!!!!!!!!!! AAAAAAA

[feral wind]

yea

[strong heath]

SOME THINGS SOME THINGS DONT EVEN ASK ME

[chrome snow]

COMING FOR YOURS LOCK YOUR DOORS IDENTIFIER DESTROYERRRRR

[strong heath]

🫡🫡🫡🫡🫡