transdome

[astral gull]

But that makes a lot of sense

[timid grail]

yeah i think trans solidarity is ofc really good and trans people are demonized a lot but i think allies are valuable

[astral gull]

Yeah they don't deserve praise just for being nice to us, but are pretty important and shouldn't be taken for granted

[timid grail]

and i definitely understand trans people who dislike cis and straight ppl but also i think people who do have good supports from allies can really . idk wording lol but it can be life changing in a positive way

[astral gull]

Exactly there's also statistics on that

[timid grail]

basic respect shouldn’t be praised and should be expected but the cis allies im friends with genuinely go above and beyond and i appreciate it

[astral gull]

So true honestly

My best friend is literally a cishet dude lol

[timid grail]

and go above and beyond without expecting an award or recognition or acting like im different, it’s just who they are as people and i wish that was more common

[astral gull]

Rlly great u have that tho

[timid grail]

ya!!

[astral gull]

My best friend is such a sweet dude and I'm so glad he's become a good ally. He learned (and unfortunately the hard way) that you're just as bad as the homophobe or transphobe for letting their behavior and harmful ideals slide

Like silence is complicit

I feel like a lot of allies don't understand that

[timid grail]

my boyfriend is cis but is actually more respectful about my identity than any person i dated before him and i exclusively dated trans men before him. i definitely think internalized transphobia can come out and be difficult in some t4t relationships, but im sure being a teenager for those relationships factored into that being something i had to deal with. def not saying my experiences are universal but i definitely think for me i had a misconception that dating a trans person meant my identity would automatically be respected and that if i dated a cis person i’d just be seen as the gender i was assigned at birth

which in my case the opposite was true for me

[timid grail]

yeah for sure, it’s really nice to see when allies are actually calling that shit out and doing everything they can

[astral gull]

No that makes total sense I'm rlly happy for u

Since I don't have a set of pronouns I use besides whatever u wanna say my friend doesn't have to correct ppl for me but is rlly nice and oddly rlly understanding abt the nonbinary experience

[timid grail]

that’s so great to hear

[astral gull]

I feel like some trans ppl want the upper hand over other trans ppl or one up on who had the worse experience

Like there's hostility from trans ppl when someone said they had supportive parents

And that is me trying to extend to what you were saying tho idk abt your parental situation so that doesn't apply

[inland schooner]

I've had other trans people treat me in a hostile way because my parents support me and its very upsetting for everyone

How do you even get an upper hand around a totally unique experience it's wild to me people try to do that

[vapid dune]

I’m real sorry to hear. They’ll always be upset because they wish they were in your position unfortunately.

I’ll never understand that “I want you to suffer because I suffer” mentality but. What can we do

[inland schooner]

yeah i know that for sure, its just sad for them and me :( ive lost a few good friends like that

[inland schooner]

its so common its crazy and i do not understand why, i would never wish pain upon other people, especially some of the thigns ive gone through. nobody deserves to be in pain

[supple quarry]

The soy “you must suffer as I have” vs the chad
“I suffered so I can make sure others don’t”

[inland schooner]

real as fuck

one bad apple doesnt spoil the bunch but if you dont remove it it will

[vapid dune]

Yea. It is very unfortunate because it’s easy to sympathize with their pain. But not their actions. I hate that feeling.

My extremely strict Christian family will never accept who I am and actively tries to make me detransition but I would never wish that upon anyone. It is a miserable way to live and I’m glad some of you have wonderful supportive parents

[inland schooner]

thats terrible aggy, if you dont mind me asking why bother keeping in contact?

ive had someone start tweeting that they were suicidal after i told them that my family supported me after i came out as trans with other things hinting towards that and i felt so guilty

[frozen breach]

just wanna say thank you sososo much for sharing abt ur experience with this because I've had a couple very similar experiences and I don't always know how to talk abt them

like my only "real" relationship was with another trans guy and he actively tried to convince me not to transition (we both figured out we were trans after we started dating, but he came out first and I think he thought I was copying him)

but yeah definitely some of the most accepted I've ever felt has been with cishet dudes and some of the most not accepted I've ever felt has been with other trans people (and cis queer ppl), so there's no accounting for anything

[vapid dune]

Cus I still have my insurance and several bills under them. And idk. I guess just since I’m Mexican we have like a stronger kind of dependence on family as part of our culture so a part of me does feel that like horrible feeling of cutting them off

[inland schooner]

i see, i hope one day you can find it to cut them off or they finally accept you :((

[sturdy trail]

all my friends are chill cis guys that Get It but i don't like consider anyone an ally

[final heart]

yea my coworker is agender and they literally called me a slur at work today so yea not all trans people are nice

[spice sphinx]

head chef at the last restaurant I worked at was a gay dude who like firmly explained trans stuff to confused coworkers but I was still too scared to ever come out to him idk why

[sturdy trail]

gay dudes >>>

[spice sphinx]

even one of the older guys in the back of house I worked with had a lesbian granddaughter but trans stuff is complicated and I didn't wanna risk having the revolving door of new hires bringing in someone gross

[supple quarry]

I’ve known about my sexuality for years, and my identity for months. I’ve told neither to my parents

Literally only my best friend knows

That’s it

[spice sphinx]

It's not easy

I'm lucky I've got a good mom

[supple quarry]

Not easy at all

Idk it’s easier when you don’t know someone as well

But when you’ve lived with them your whole life, it’s different

My younger sister, unfortunately, is one of those “tiktok” gays. Yknow, people who wear pride flags, and run a gay club at her school, but who have no idea what it actually means. There’s no problem with being proud of who you are. But I know she does it for the sole purpose of attention. She’s made it her only personality.

She actually came out to our grandparents during an argument with the sole purpose of making them more angry

Not to come out, just to piss them off

It’s hard because I think my parents know she’s doing it for attention, but I don’t want them to think I’m the same way

Maybe once she moves out I’ll be more open with them

[austere jay]

same here

i find a lot of comfort hanging around with cis guys that like vaguely know what’s going on but don’t really care

there’s a sense of brotherhood there that i value

unfortunately i don’t know any trans men in my area; if i do they’re all horrible people that i don’t want to associate with

kind of sad to me as i feel like i’m missing out on community in that regard

[sturdy trail]

same wavelenght

[austere jay]

i will say tho nothing better than hanging out with a bunch of guys that do not give a fuck what you are and only care about how much you know about cars

[frozen breach]

truly, hanging out with people who don't give a shit that I'm trans and just think I'm cool is so so refreshing

I came out last summer to some new friends who were cis guys and the only thing they said about it was a joke about me taking steroids since I'm on T. but like otherwise they just didn't care and treated me like a dude still and it was so wonderful

[zinc oriole]

I've met a lot of transmascs who weren't great. It's hard for me to find community with anybody who isn't nonbinary or transfem in person tbh

[proper igloo]

the transmasc transfem symbiotic relationship

[bronze ocean]

fr

i need more transmasc friends

[balmy pond]

Genuinely super weird to me hear abt other tgirls not knowing any guys. One of my best friends and prob my first open irl trans friend is a tdude

So like for the longest time all my knowledge of the trans experience came from a masc perspective, kinda cool ngl

[vapid dune]

After many months, I finally got clocked by a customer. The other time it was by a drive thru guy but this time was by a customer. This generic info warrior type dude who gave me a “thank you SIR” with a shit eating grin. And when I bring him the bill and he sees the name “Agatha” he fucking apologizes to me and tips me 25 dollars lmaooooooo get fucked bozo you now think you clocked a cis girl

[grand current]

most of my trans friends hate the binary so i dont know anyone who is straight up a trans guy or girl. most of them are non binary afabs. im the only non binary amab i know

[grand current]

lmao

[chrome snow]

GOTTEM

[unborn atlas]

me 2

[frozen breach]

see that's crazy y'all say that cuz I need more transfem friends

[unborn atlas]

wanna try to be friends then?

[frozen breach]

I need more friends I general actually so for sure

everyone in mgcord is my friends I don't make he rules

[unborn atlas]

oh, well

nice to meet you, friend I've already had?

[frozen breach]

same

it's so crazy cu where I live there's only one trans girl I know and she's my ex

similarly I only know two trans guys and one of them is my ex

[unborn atlas]

yeah living in a small country town means hooking up with the one other queer person around you

in my case at least

[frozen breach]

yeah that's what I've heard from other small town queers

funny thing is I'm in a decent sized city it's just people are fucking assholes here for some reason

like I'm not even in a red state but most of the queer people I know either aren't out or get astronomical amounts of shit for being put

[inland schooner]

zenoby can i be ur friend too :3 (even tho i consider us friends already but its nice to hear from both sides)

[vapid dune]

Z-zenoby I’m ur friend right? 🥺

[chrome snow]

I can't make friends in my area.

:((

[unborn atlas]

yeah you're chill

[unborn atlas]

yeah but you're also a friendly rival

[inland schooner]

YIPPIE

[misty harness]

I tried to find transfemme friends irl but it was always weird

[unborn atlas]

transfemme friend circles can suck real bad tbh

[unborn atlas]

and I mean rival like in the pokemon sense of

<gets beat up> haha you got really strong :D

[vapid dune]

Well I suppose I’m off to mosh elsewhere. Smell ya later!

[unborn atlas]

what song plays when you walk off?

[vapid dune]

The SpongeBob walk song and I’ll be doing the goofy walk away from u too

[misty harness]

in my experience even the ppl who say they just wanna make friends are looking to fuck around and if you're not down they drop you

[unborn atlas]

me, left in the dirt after getting my ass handed to me a second time:

[unborn atlas]

oh nah in my case it was just a bunch of really emotionally immature people developing issues with each other until everything imploded

[misty harness]

yeah I don't mean that's how it always is, just a certain circle of Dallas transfemmes that I later found out are known to be horny and weird

[unborn atlas]

hornyweird transfemmes are a subset, absolutely

[vapid dune]

Hornyweird transfemmes is something I can perfectly imagine in my head

[misty harness]

avg transgirl shit poster on Twitter tbhtbh

[frozen breach]

that's the only variety I've met tbh

like irl

[astral gull]

I know one who's like that who acts rlly down bad for both my friend and I and flipped out when she was asked if she liked either of us

She wasn't against it with me which I'd never wanna date someone who makes my friend feel uncomfortable and makes me uncomfortable

[spice sphinx]

Getting told by “allies” why my views on representation and solidarity being worthless are wrong :3

This is truly the trans experience

[frozen breach]

cis people when being an ally means supporting and amplifying trans voices and not being a virtue signaling clout chaser

so sick of people telling minorities why they're wrong about their own issues

[spice sphinx]

It's great

I'm sure spiderverse is actually praxis dude this is doing so much for us, totally not just corporate slop meant to appeal to the lowest common denominator

It's not even a good trans rep!!

WHY DO YOU DEFEND IT SO BAD

It's like vaguely not even implied by an ally flag in her room and the whole like coming out metaphor and that's it

REALLY?

THAT'S ALL IT TAKES FOR YOU?

We are surely doomed if this is what people think is gonna really help trans people

I stg sugarcoating things to liberals really gimps us hard

[frozen breach]

i mean with the spiderverse stuff i kinda want her to be trans just because i like the movie and it would be cool to have good trans rep in a thing i like, but realistically yeah it definitely reads like corporate pandering

and it absolutely does nothing to further trans causes either way

guys the cartoon character is trans this totally negates all of the very real and not-cartoon anti-trans legislature happening in the real world!!!

[spice sphinx]

I had to make it

@sturdy trail

Some things need to be fuckin broadcasted to allies

Idr who else it was in here

Had a good bit about allyship I think it was zenoby idr

On an actual good note I finally, FINALLY for real this time got my meds, they told me they’d have em last week but I didn’t get em until today. Which makes 3 weeks off prog for me, scary

Jen W though

[austere jay]

the only trans people i know irl who are actually cool are either non binary or transfem

shout out to non binary and transfem people you guys are great

[supple quarry]

picrews that give me gender affirmation >>>

[supple quarry]

its hard to be positive about your body when everyone around you brings you down for it. but the little gay people in my phone (you guys) always seem to help with that. love yall.

[valid sun]

yeah

i know this is old but i understand that

[valid sun]

i'm glad others can help you with that

when all else fails there are gay people on the internet

[sturdy trail]

going to be pedantic and say u can still hate the binary and be boy/girl (example me)

if that were the case then all trans girls and trans boys would be assimilationists which they not

[sturdy trail]

😼

[cerulean topaz]

I think I'm over voice training to be honest. It was sold early transition to me by other femmes as being as important as hormones but I just find it more and more pointless for me to keep doing it. I don't even hate my voice, it literally doesn't bother me except for the fact it gets me clocked immediately. But I think I prefer that than the weird "in training" voice that comes out when I try VT. Just feels wrong idk.

[spice sphinx]

Real asf

Never had an interest in voice training, I think I’m much the same where the only thing I dislike about it is getting clocked by people because of it but it’s more important to be true to yourself and what you want than put up a show for others just to “pass” n all

[cerulean topaz]

Yeah, I find it easier and healthier for me to just vibe then to try to pass nowdays, cause I don't think the term passing really means much to me anymore

I'm just some femme creature vibing

[unborn atlas]

transfemme voices are nice when they're just

relaxed

[bronze ocean]

i hate my voice so much lmao

[unborn atlas]

my voice is nice

[spice sphinx]

I get to be in the gals with baritone voices club

[cerulean topaz]

My voice is super inconsistent. Sometimes i just slip in and out of "fem voice" at random completely unintentionally

[unborn atlas]

sometimes I take a step back and hear my voice and think 😳

[spice sphinx]

Real

[vapid dune]

I will forever live by this image

I like speaking in a way society deems masculine!!! I don’t give a shit ill own up to it and I love it

I hate trying to pretend I’m more feminine than I really am

[zinc oriole]

I'm so stuck talking in gay voice that my voice has been cracking again lol

I've forgotten how to talk deeper

[vapid dune]

Idk if we ever discussed this but like. I was seeing a Reddit post (yea I am cringe) of people discussing some of the more common chosen names. And it made me wonder how some of y’all got your chosen names? If anyone wants to talk about it or has a story about it :3

For me it was like. As a kid when I’d hear the name Agatha I was like idk. It sounded like it resonated to me? Like the only Agatha’s I knew in media were like. The one from pokemon. Or Agatha Christie. Can’t say they were inspirations. Just the name really. Sounded right to kid me. It felt like the name of a strong dependable person. Someone who despite their femininity can still be imposing yet caring. And so when I was in like middle school I’d begin to like. Use it in MMOs when I would play as a female character. Id say I’m a teen girl named Agatha. And well. I suppose it just stuck with me most of my life and it STILL to this day feels right even as I chose that being enby is what suits me most

[sturdy trail]

oskar from oskar kokoschka and oscar wilde and wesley from wes anderson and wes craven

[vapid dune]

Of course it helped that Agatha is the name of the protagonist’s partner in Weatherday’s Come In. And that’s like my favorite album ever. But that’s a coincidence and not what I named myself after

[valid cloud]

I chose skippy because I used to be really obsessed with an album called damn skippy when i was like 15. I started using the name online because I thought it was silly, like a year later I realized I was trans (thought I was nby at the time) and just decided to go with it and I never rlly looked back LOL. I eventually realized I wasn’t nby and just a Guy but I liked the name too much to change it. It’s silly and unique and I think it fits me, plus it’s lead to me getting a million different funny nicknames.

[vapid dune]

It is silly and very prone to nicknames! I like it

[valid cloud]

My music taste has changed since then and I don’t like that album nearly as much as I used to but it holds a special place in my heart and music means a lot to me in general so I like it :]

[spice sphinx]

.

[cerulean topaz]

I literally just liked the sound of mine lol. I was gonna do Jill or Suzy, but they didn't fit so June felt like a nice middle ground

[vapid dune]

If you had gone with Jill girl you wouldn’t have heard the end of it

From me at least idk why that name just never made sense to me

[cerulean topaz]

I uh, really like resident evil 1 so thats why i almoat picked it lmao

But it doesnt fit at all yeah

[zinc oriole]

Middle name is Wayne for hylics reasons and my first name is bc I have an oc with that name. I kept feeling I wanted to use that name bc it felt like me but was hesitant bc I've changed my chosen name a lot
One night I was on a walk and I felt I needed to just go with what felt like me

I go by Wayne online along with my other aliases bc I like having multiple aliases/names it's fun

[vapid dune]

And hog because you’re immensely hogpilled

[zinc oriole]

YES yes hog is because I really love pigs a lot and they resonate with me. I intend making it part of my musical alias too

Hogpilled 🐗

[proper igloo]

so true king

[bronze ocean]

hog

im max

[balmy pond]

RESI FEMME GANGGANG
got mine from Claire redfield >:3

[cerulean topaz]

HAHA YES

You're so real for this

[balmy pond]

I think mine was vry similar cuz I wasn't intending to be explicitly named for her, i just remember that being the first girl name that really resonated with me. Like I'd think "omg if i was a girl I'd wanna be named claire!" Guess it just stuck lol

theres also like Claire De Lune

[balmy pond]

NO U JILL IS SO COOL AMSKJDBDJ

[cerulean topaz]

Speaking of names, I think I'm gonna switch it up and start going by "Bea". I'm still attached to "June", but eh, I feel like I want a change. Maybe I can just have two interchanagble names?

[vapid dune]

I’m gonna pronounce it like bee or some shit irl cus I don’t want people to think I’m calling vomit girl my bae like omg I don’t want YOUR COOTIES fking nerd

[cerulean topaz]

I should start collecting names maybe, have like 30 of them. Make every conversation a nightmare

[valid cloud]

I have some friends with like 7 names lol

[cerulean topaz]

Yeah thats the one i prefer anyway

[vapid dune]

I’ve always been of the mindset that if anyone felt like calling me anything that isn’t Agatha/Aggy I’d be perfectly okay with it. Early in my transition id go into social groups saying I don’t go by my chosen name yet so they could assign me a name from experience with me

[valid cloud]

THAY REMINDS ME. When I was an egg I literally went by the name egg online and even irl sometimes for like YEARS

[cerulean topaz]

Egg kinda rocks as a name

[final heart]

i have 3 names

my actual name, my deadname, and my grindr name

[stable cradle]

irl I mostly go by my birth name bc its more masc than fem anyways and it’s been fine up until lately, I have some friends who call me kay irl and i’ve been preferring that wayyy more

[chrome snow]

I have to be honest with everybody here, the main reason why I used to be called Joey is due to me making up a character on the spot for a Harry Potter roleplay server.

Throughout the years, the name has really stuck with me and it was based on the lead singer of The Ramones.

[vapid dune]

I do remember u mentioning this and it’s still hilarious to me

[stable cradle]

that’s so real kay came from my first fursona

[chrome snow]

💀

I don't mind being called by my actual name, but I prefer variations of it instead.

[vapid dune]

Ok Josefina

[chrome snow]

:3

Josefina is a legitimately beautiful name and I think I might go with it in the future.

[vapid dune]

Josie/Josefina is a rad little duo

[zinc oriole]

I've always loved the name Josie tbh

[balmy pond]

Same, its such a sweet name c:

[final heart]

i was considering josie for myself but i already knew two trans girls named josie lol

[spice sphinx]

Kinda wild I have never met a single other trans person with my name

I mean trans fems with my mom’s name tho and that’s strange

[austere jay]

all the vinnys i know of suck

i’m the only good one

[spice sphinx]

There’s uhh

Nvm the only vinny I knew ended up being a bit of a chud

[astral gull]

RESI GANGGGGG

[astral gull]

That is so baller

[astral gull]

Except vinesauce vinny

[vapid dune]

We have the definitive Vinny in here

[balmy pond]

My fucking girl ong 😍😍😍 shes the coolest I

BRING CLAIRE REDFIELD BACK TO FUCKING RESIDENR EVIL

(REmake 2 notwithstanding)

[astral gull]

CLAIRE IS SUCH A QUEEN

[balmy pond]

Claire should've been the one bullying ethan through village because I wouldve liked it

[cerulean topaz]

RESI GANNGGGGG RAAAAAAAAAAAHHHH

[balmy pond]

Yes she is.>;3

RESI GANGGANG

[astral gull]

I MAY SEEM INSANE BUT LIKE

I KIN BELA

SHE HAD ALL OF LIKE 6 LINES BUT I ADORE HER

[balmy pond]

Gotta shout out my fellow vamp sisters let's go 🧛‍♀️

I dont think that's insane! Like ngl I cant even remember their names but the whole dimitrescu crew is sick

[vapid dune]

We talking about RE Claire or this server’s Claire? In both cases it’s true Claire is such a queen and my beloved sister

[balmy pond]

Im.biased tho kinda have a thing for vampires lmao

[astral gull]

Sure both

[balmy pond]

I fucking love u 2 aggy 🫂 <3333

[astral gull]

Daniela, Bela and Cassandra

Rest in peace to Cassandra's VA she died of colon cancer during the finalization of the game

[balmy pond]

Oh my god

[astral gull]

Belas VA is such a sweetheart

The entire re8 va team is amazing I love them sm

[balmy pond]

They sound like they were having a blast doing that game haha

Esp Karl's va

Dante post divorce?

[astral gull]

Dante if he was more vocal about hating his family

The fact karl would call out and be aggressive to everyone but Donna and moreau😭😭

[balmy pond]

Hes such a good big brother

[austere jay]

anyone of you fools going to seattle pride

[inland schooner]

cale henituse from trash of the counts family (i know im cringe i named myself after a webnovel protag)

i was super obsessed with it when i was a big younger (2020-2021) so i decided to name myself after him (even dyed my hair red lol). i always figured id change my name cuz i knew my obsession would end at some point but i just havent. lol, my legal name is just a variation of it because i didnt want to be called cale forever/always

https://tenor.com/view/tcf-cale-cale-henituse-trash-of-the-counts-family-lout-of-the-counts-family-gif-25585816

i named myself after this guy EFORE it became a manhwa. promise

[vapid dune]

Holy SHIT you were alive in the year 202? Damn you’re ancient

[final heart]

i have never known them personally but i know of like 3 other persephones irl

[astral gull]

Persephone is a fire name

[vapid dune]

If y’all ever meet another trans Agatha direct them my way and we will right to the death over ownership of the name

[astral gull]

Personally I've only met one person with the same name as me and a letter is different

[vapid dune]

I WILL be the only trans Agatha on earth

[final heart]

1 of them was the high school bestie of my ex coworker, 1 of them used to live in a gender inclusive dorm with my fiancé, and 1 of them was a bus driver

dot try for the overstate im very drunks

[final heart]

thank you 😁

[vapid dune]

There’s a song named Persephone by Oklahoma transfem rap trio Rural Internet. Their music fucks hard

[final heart]

there’s also that prog metal band

[inland schooner]

yeah i know right 😊

[vapid dune]

Someone find this persons location for me

I will fight them for their name

Only one trans Agatha can exist

[unborn atlas]

I'm named after the last Northern Bald Ibis who remembers the migratory routes for her species

[chrome snow]

You need to track them down and throw them into the pit.

Please don't throw me into the pit though, I'm too weak.

:((

[vapid dune]

I WILL FUCKING MURDER THE OTHER TRANS AGATHA WITH MY BARE HANDS. I CANNOT SHARE MY NAME WITH ANOTHER TRANS CREATURE. THIS IS MY NAME

[chrome snow]

IT IS UR NAME

[vapid dune]

Only I can have the name

[chrome snow]

HAHAHAHAH

[unborn atlas]

it's mutual!

[final heart]

mechagrapefruits

[austere jay]

technically my name is vincent but no one ever calls me that

i also enjoy vince on occasion

[vapid dune]

ive known you as vinny too long to have thought about that possibility

[austere jay]

vinny is actually just a nickname everyone seems to prefer

which i don’t mind but sometimes i miss being vincent

[austere vale]

Picture of me and my gf in front of the gay train

[valid sun]

i had a fursona with the same name lol

[cold whale]

the grain?!?!?!

🍞

[inland schooner]

I am inbetween the middle I think

[valid sluice]

just found out the gender binary is a system of control wow

[valid sluice]

they should just give every one of us like 9000 dollars maybe even like 1 milion dollars even

[spice sphinx]

This but actually

[valid sluice]

im not joking

we should get paid for all the blood magic we do to help society

[spice sphinx]

No I wasn’t trying to imply that you were disingenuous sorry

[valid sluice]

lol it's okay

wd

dw

haha im about to INJECT myeslf with ESTROGEN

transgender mom,ent!!

thank you ❤️

but yeah have u seen any differences with prog

[spice sphinx]

Np <3

Yeah prog has helped a lot

Mainly with mood n stuff

[valid sluice]

what kind of mood issues were you experiencing

[spice sphinx]

Feels less turbulent

[valid sluice]

rly

i have severely turbulent emotions

[spice sphinx]

Mood swings, somewhat common with hrt

[valid sluice]

maybe i should consider it

[spice sphinx]

Ye talk to your clinic if you have one because prog works for some and not for others

[valid sluice]

oke!

would b funny if all of my [redacted] symptoms were just hrt

woman disease

[spice sphinx]

woman disease

[valid sluice]

😭

[unborn atlas]

ye

[valid sluice]

ye

[bronze ocean]

ya

[chrome snow]

yo

[austere jay]

seattle pride today but i’m very afraid to be visibly trans

recent violence at pride parades has me a little scared

[astral gull]

I turned down going to pride bc of that...

Stay safe vinny!

[austere jay]

i don’t have my knife today so i’m also a little alarmed

but i have enough on me for self defense that i’ll be fine

i really need to purchase a new knife soon

[astral gull]

That'd be a good idea

[balmy pond]

I've had similar trepidations. I mean I couldn't go to philly pride anyway cuz of work but just doing anything like that

It wasnt a parade or anything, but I DID manage to get to a lil pride party thing at a salon in the city. Very proud of myself for that c:

[astral gull]

Genderfreakcore

[chrome snow]

I want to go, but I don't want to raise any suspicions with my family.

I feel like I'm not ready to have that talk.

[astral gull]

Yeah its okay

[valid sun]

https://picrew.me/en/image_maker/431179

hello transdome

[vapid dune]

I was gonna say “why don’t we make a picrew thread” but. Picrews are as trans as it gets

[digital geyser]

so true

[spice sphinx]

Wasn’t a big fan of this one

I think it’s the eyes

Wasn’t enough variety with em

[digital geyser]

i like this one but i dont like how the image is for some reason not the full size, it's always been weird to me when ive seen it

[vapid dune]

https://picrew.me/en/image_maker/1936010

Here. Y’all make a goofy goober

[final heart]

idk why but this one reminds me of that one pfp maker app EVERYONE was using in like. 2016 or something

i can’t remember the name

[vapid dune]

Doesn’t ring a bell

[sturdy trail]

bad hair options

[final heart]

iirc it was like bitmoji before bitmoji existed

[frozen breach]

silly guy alert‼️

hair is nowhere near this long irl but I'm trying

to grow it

[vapid dune]

Rad!!!

I think from early in my transition having hair a bit beneath my shoulders now I have hair that barely goes below my chin

Going shorter and shorter with the hair and I’m p happy with roughly this length. Maybe I’d go for a bit less later into my transition

[astral gull]

Ruh

[astral gull]

I feel as tho these help me highlight my individuality ngl

[vapid dune]

They indeed do a good job at that like I’ve said. A good picrew is very expressive and has a lot of ways for people to show their personality and particular gender expression

Maybe that’s why they’re so loved by us trans people

They’re different from traditional character creators in lets say video games because rather than picking gender and traits specific to it. You mix and match however you want without such a dumb and simple definition such as gender and you pick what suits your particular expression

That or idk they’re fucking silly ahhhh

[astral gull]

No ur so right

Picrews are so easy to mix and match

[vapid dune]

Yea. Ur not tied down by traditional definitions of gender that most games have

It’s kinda why I have kinda been so tied to maplestory for the better part of 15 years. It is the ONE MMO that lets characters of one gender look basically almost entirely like the opposite or look andro and such. It’s p rad you’re not tied down to limiting your expression to your character’s chosen gender

I like having male characters that look more feminine and girl characters that look more masc etc etc some really blur the lines

[astral gull]

Yeah I wish more games with characters editors were completely customizable

I had a game that'd auto change my character to a certain gender based on what I put on it

[vapid dune]

Gross.

Yea maplestory has the advantage of making almost every new hair, face and clothing available to both genders

With the only issue that girl characters have less masculine options than male characters have feminine/andro options

[astral gull]

I'm p sure that can be fixed with an update

I wish pokemon would do that it took them forever to add race variation

[vapid dune]

Something interesting just happened at work. So by now everyone calls me Agatha. No more deadname. And generally people treat me like a girl cus of course I can’t explain to cis people what non-binary is. And there’s this busser who occasionally treats me fem occasionally masc. and he was talking to me and I’m like “hey I’m wondering. Sometimes you treat me like a man and sometimes like a girl. What am I to you then?” And he’s like “well. Judging from how you act you’re like. Neither right? Or both. I don’t know. Kinda like one of those Chinese symbols. The yin Yang? You’re like the black and white and you’re both so idk I just call you whatever comes to mind in a moment”

I uh. Had never had a cis person describe me like that. Specially since he has zero clue how transitioning even works but I suppose I’m glad he sees me that way

[astral gull]

Its impressive he understood to a degree

That's rlly cool tbh

[vapid dune]

Yea he’s like. Idk I wouldn’t say a cis ally cus he’s not really aware of anything LGBTQ whatsoever but I suppose he kinda cracked the code on his own?

[astral gull]

Seems like if he were aware he totally would be

Ngl I saw the first sentence and thought it'd be negative but that's rlly cool

[chrome snow]

A solid open-minded approach to gender identity.

That's a w for that dude.

[unborn atlas]

they're not always completely clueless

[digital geyser]

i wish i could grow out my hair sob

bad

😭 as soon as im on T im never cutting it again

[frozen breach]

that was exactly my thing

chopped it off, started T, started letting it grow again

[supple quarry]

the one on the right i just went stupid with

[unborn atlas]

I should get up and make these

[supple quarry]

get up and make these

https://picrew.me/en/image_maker/86774 this is prob my fav

[unborn atlas]

I feel weird using that one because I'm not a chubby girl

[astral gull]

Same I couldn't even make my oc on it but that's OK bc her hair type is rlly strange

[vapid dune]

Can confirm zenoby is so thin that she’s a 2-dimensional jpeg of a goat

[astral gull]

Messy sorta chubby vampire girl oc my beloved

(I think I'll name her melia)

[vapid dune]

Love already knowing what to expect from a zenoby picrew

[chrome snow]

I need to find a boys love my autism pullover.

[unborn atlas]

just say I'm basic, GAWD

[chrome snow]

NO UR NOT

:((

[vapid dune]

No it’s just you have your aesthetic perfectly locked

[unborn atlas]

uwu

[final heart]

my friend is trying to get that shirt shipped to him irl off temu

[unborn atlas]

I know what I'm about

[astral gull]

Added pins to mine

[astral gull]

Cute!!

[spice sphinx]

hey transdome

give me all of your honest to god definitions of what gender is

I'm doin somethin

[digital geyser]

that will 100% be me

i like to think of my current appearance as a temporary state where i look as cool as i can without giving myself too much dysphoria from not having the ability to pass if i want before i take T and actually have male characteristics to help

[unborn atlas]

🚬

I feel like gender is an essence that marbles through the individual elements of a person's vibe

[chrome snow]

Oh god, I can't even begin to describe the definition of gender.

[unborn atlas]

and you only really notice it when it interacts with those elements

[chrome snow]

The only thing that I can personally say is, gender is a spectrum.

[digital geyser]

simultaneously something i feel intrinsically and also like a static noise im fighting to decipher

[spice sphinx]

essence that's a dangerous word

[digital geyser]

especially because my gender is fluid

[unborn atlas]

I don't mean essence in an essentialist way

[chrome snow]

Everybody is able to express themselves in any way that they want.

[spice sphinx]

not essentialist

hegelian

ontology

[unborn atlas]

I mean like a wisp, a ghost, a whiff of a thing

[chrome snow]

I'm not really sure if that's a good way to describe it.

[spice sphinx]

phenomenology

[unborn atlas]

whatever guy that came from you I'm not bringing that to the table

you asked me what I think

[digital geyser]

i cant really describe how gender feels i just know what it is and how i feel it

[unborn atlas]

I didn't wanna have my vague ass vibes based system to be put under scrutiny

[chrome snow]

Literally this.

Everybody has their own form of gender expression.

It comes from the heart and soul.

[unborn atlas]

I think there shouldn't be a, like, measurable, tangible way to measure gender

it's down to the individual

[digital geyser]

and as it changes it has different feelings, almost like frequencies. i think i perceive it like frequencies almost

[unborn atlas]

Lily Alexandre did a good video on this concept very recently

[astral gull]

Moldable like slime but never stays in a single shape, it's also an option

[unborn atlas]

gender is a goo

[digital geyser]

gender is

[unborn atlas]

I don't think everybody actively thinks about their gender tho

[chrome snow]

Gender is a sludge of reality.

[astral gull]

Between fiction and fact

[spice sphinx]

what I was talking about has nothing to do with that

[astral gull]

[unborn atlas]

I'm sort of jumping around to multiple points because it's a very dense concept

I also just woke up

[astral gull]

She was just saying a thought

[digital geyser]

this is how i was. i didnt consider my gender until i encountered the concept that i could be trans (not the concept of transness itself). bedore that point it wasnt something i really perceived because i kinda just assumed i was a girl bc of my assigned sex at birth

[unborn atlas]

I don't know enough about Hegel to know why "essence" is a bad word

[spice sphinx]

it's not a bad word

hegel can just be annoying

essence in the sense I alluded to is like uhhh

[supple quarry]

oh yeah i was just saying cause we were talking about crews of pic

[spice sphinx]

the essence of something is that which separates it from what it is and what it appears to be

[astral gull]

Picrew is so iffy imo but there's some rlly good ones and they're all the ones I've seen here actually

[digital geyser]

picrews with diverse body, hair and skintone options >>>>

[frozen breach]

FRRR

[astral gull]

FACTS

[unborn atlas]

I am running more on the contemporary concept of "vibes"

[astral gull]

Chat I can't pick a pfp

I've become officially recognized as power

[misty harness]

mood

[astral gull]

SO I must stick to that

[unborn atlas]

picrews are trans culture because they're a tool for self actualization

[spice sphinx]

vibes fit with that yeah

[supple quarry]

zenoby be like
⬛ 🐐

[spice sphinx]

can't exactly use vibes in a psych paper unfortunately

[astral gull]

I feel like gender is easier to understand at least for myself when you relate it to vibes

And its unique to each person

[digital geyser]

yeah

[frozen breach]

while my school was online and I was in zoom classes I would just have chrome open and be making picrews xonstantly

[astral gull]

You could use that phrasing instead of the word vibe in a paper

[frozen breach]

all the homies love picrew

[supple quarry]

its like the size of a daschund

[unborn atlas]

personally

my gender is only two elements

my pronouns and my name

[digital geyser]

picrew literally is how i figured out my exact transition goal

[unborn atlas]

and I guess my official gender marker but that's more for beuracracy

[digital geyser]

the only flaw is that there often isn’t plus size respresentation which givesu. unrealistic expectations

[unborn atlas]

I seen a couple plus size picrews

a handful tho

[digital geyser]

also often the facial hair options suck

[unborn atlas]

giving the option for a bigger body

[astral gull]

Ok ok hear me out.... characters help me with my gender for example, Power who I love very much. She's like in her body but she's a beast beyond said body and is just kinda chillin in it , despite no true body fitting her bc she's a devil

[digital geyser]

they’re getting more common now thank god

[astral gull]

I feel like to a lesser and not as literal sense as this Is how I feel

[unborn atlas]

a picrew is good if I can have half lidded eyes with bags, pointy teeth, straight bangs and shitty scruffy non-stubble

[supple quarry]

picrews help a lot because due to my living situration, i cant dress or live like the way i portray myself in picrews

so it helps a lot with finding out who i am

[digital geyser]

i also like using picrews to make all my ocs alongside myself. they are all much cooler people than me

and also over half of them are also transgender kfkdg

[unborn atlas]

I think these are my favourites

that I've ever don

that third one is by smooshkin? I think

they recently updated the picrew to have a watermark

[digital geyser]

oh yes i love that picrew

[unborn atlas]

that last one is giving G-woman

[grand current]

guys i have new pronouns on my account what do ya think

[unborn atlas]

woke up, mxster freethem.......

[unborn atlas]

pronoun jokes:

[astral gull]

SOOO facts

[vapid dune]

Please don’t.

[astral gull]

I'm surprised when they have my haircut tho bc it's kinda unique to a degree like rlly layer-y short ish hair

[unborn atlas]

listen, you can joke about trans stuff but first and foremost ya gotta be funny

[astral gull]

Those r cool I like ur vibe

[grand current]

its funny to me

[astral gull]

I can't see the pronouns

I don't have the update

[unborn atlas]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DTsdKycVZZ4

[vapid dune]

It isn’t funny to anyone else.

[digital geyser]

same

[astral gull]

Imma set mine to that/guy when I get them bc idc abt my pronouns

[vapid dune]

At that point you should have just put them on and not pointed them out

[grand current]

well I didnt know you guys didnt like it

[astral gull]

Idk what's going on

[unborn atlas]

I think I'm equalizing to any/all but that's mostly because I don't pass very well and maybe it's like a cope for getting sir'd

[tardy creek]

@unborn atlas has leveled up! (56 ➜ 57)

[grand current]

that was my thought process

mine are ball/sex

[astral gull]

Original!!!!!!

I'm not gonna clown on you but if ur gonna do that be funny and not 12 yrs old... just ok and???

[astral gull]

Same I'm any but it's bc my gender is mystery slime and it's whatever you think it is

[unborn atlas]

mine is like

[digital geyser]

mine change so im just like as long as u dont use she im cool with it

[astral gull]

Good to onow

Know*

[digital geyser]

i just cant handle being called she

[digital geyser]

at least online, irl im used to it

[astral gull]

Black and white core

[frozen breach]

same honestly

[unborn atlas]

don't -core me!!!!

[astral gull]

Srry

Was joking

[chrome snow]

Josie-core

[vapid dune]

God you’re so fucking goatcore

[unborn atlas]

it's okay, I was trying to keep to lighthearted ngl

[digital geyser]

i once got a friend to intentionally misgender me as she to test it

[astral gull]

I prob won't fuck with the pronouns option bc idc anyways

[digital geyser]

was horrible

[frozen breach]

I don't mind they but I stopped using he/they because I was sick of people using it as a cop-out to not see me as male

[unborn atlas]

where is the hardcore influences in goatcore??

where is the punk element in steampunk?????

[astral gull]

That's like licking a battery, you know it's gonna suck but u do it just to try it

[frozen breach]

cis people when a trans man uses he/they: they they they they they they they

[unborn atlas]

a scientist

[digital geyser]

i get that, i had a long period using just he but then i realised i couldnt ignore how sometimes im just more comfortable with they

[vapid dune]

Idk you’re a hardcore goat that’s all I know

[digital geyser]

i was still questioning kinda at the time cuz i spent a long time in denial fjksg

[astral gull]

Yeah it takes ages

[digital geyser]

thanks transmeds for all that doubt i had :D /s

[frozen breach]

I repressed so hard for a long time it was really funny

[digital geyser]

i literally spent two years questioning

officially

even though i was out

to all my close friends

[frozen breach]

I have a bunch of pics on my phone of me in dresses with awful makeup looking miserable

[digital geyser]

and online

entirely

[astral gull]

I went demigirl ▶️ nonbinary ▶️ trans man ▶️ cis girl ▶️ nonbinary

I basically went thru a whole circle back to nonbinary bc I had my own internalized hate towards it unfortunately

[unborn atlas]

I'm more Industrial

[digital geyser]

i went genderfluid back to cis for like a year, then questioned for a while before identifying as binary trans for like 2 years, then ever since ive identified as nonbinary transmasculine after realising i am genderfluid but only between masculine and neutral genders

[vapid dune]

I spent the better part of half my life wanting to be a girl just to this past year realize I don’t want to be a girl but I kept my feminine ass name. So I’m a bulky ass feminine dude thing named Agatha

[astral gull]

A beast amongst us

[unborn atlas]

I love machine girl and people started saying it was digital hardcore and I'm like "sure?"

[digital geyser]

honestly slay, agatha is a good name

[astral gull]

Agatha is a fucking baller name tho

[chrome snow]

Agatha is a goated name.

[unborn atlas]

default male > agender > nonbinary transfemme > whatever the fuck I am now???

[digital geyser]

sometimes i wonder if i should just keep my deadname bc its very rare and so no one actually know it and its gender

[unborn atlas]

I like Agatha

as a name

[vapid dune]

It can’t be cus Zenobia is a goated name

[digital geyser]

but i just cant not associate it with being female

[astral gull]

So facts everyone goes thru a ton of genders

[supple quarry]

stupid idiot dumbass https://picrew.me/en/image_maker/230257/complete?cd=4VG1eAmNjm

[unborn atlas]

I've only had 3 names

[chrome snow]

Literally.

[astral gull]

I typed names instead of gender

Had to edit

[astral gull]

Ty for link!

[frozen breach]

I feel like I'm on a gender hamster wheel a lot of the time

[digital geyser]

the best tihng about not having officially changed ur name is u can change it if needed. i went by one name for like 2 years but the only person who really called me it frequently was my awful ex so i changed it bc i couldnt not associate it with him

[supple quarry]

🫡 post when ur done

[unborn atlas]

there's a comic I wanted to make to illustrate what I've been

but it'll be a lot of work

[chrome snow]

At this point, I feel like I'm a slowly transitioning from male to non-binary.

[vapid dune]

It’s funny when I get to talk to people after a moshpit and they got to see me acting like a fucking animal and screaming like a whole ass dude and I introduce myself as Agatha lmao I’ve had a fair share of ????? Kinda looks for it

[unborn atlas]

I thought you were she/her?

I am famously bad at grokking genders at a glance tho

even for cis people tbh

[vapid dune]

Josie has, as far as I’ve known Josie, gone by he/him

[unborn atlas]

I never thought to ask

you know, like

[unborn atlas]

flatly asking for gender stuff makes me feel rude

actually!!!!!!

[digital geyser]

this is how genderfluidity sometimes feels

[chrome snow]

I prefer to go by he/him, but I think in the future I might go by any pronouns.

[unborn atlas]

I recently redrew my persona from when I was a boy

[chrome snow]

I try my best to keep up with people's pronouns and sometimes I slip up.

It's kind of difficult for me sometimes.

[unborn atlas]

happens to the best of us and the rest of us

[unborn atlas]

he transitioned too btw

[frozen breach]

tbh it's more important to me when people are genuinely trying their best even if they mess up

pronouns wise I mean

[unborn atlas]

ya

I don't like when cis people self flagellate and make it about them when they fuck up

we gotta teach them efficiency

[digital geyser]

and not to start acting like they murdered someone by slipping up once

[unborn atlas]

with infographics and relatable comics

[frozen breach]

yeah that shit is the worst omg

and when they say shit like "ohhh but it's so hard" and then I feel like I have to apologize

[digital geyser]

i laso love showing solidarity with trans ppl in scenarios where im not out by really respecting pronouns

[unborn atlas]

people have been using the term "the coward's they" recently

but like

I default to they if I'm not certain

[inland schooner]

Got my drains out today and first look at my nips (they r covered by bandads)

[supple quarry]

my bain hurts

[unborn atlas]

for like, everybody

[unborn atlas]

that's just The Process™️

[frozen breach]

"gassy male" just like me fr

[unborn atlas]

my ex got his nips removed when he got top surgery

[digital geyser]

i used to run the school magazine with a team of studnets all from a couple year groups below me and two of tjem identify as trans and i remember the solidarity when i asked them both what their pronouns are and then they asked me back “what are your pronouns” and i said “any” (my safety answer for irl bci. have to use she/her)

[inland schooner]

Kept mine cuz am stealth

[digital geyser]

im also really happy for them bc one of them has come out and uses his actual name on official school things and im so happy for him

[inland schooner]

Probz woulda made the healing process way easier

[digital geyser]

like my school have been pretty good with trans students in that way

[frozen breach]

trynna decide rn if I wanna get them removed and then tattooed on later or just keep

[frozen breach]

cu I wanna go stealth but also the healing process for nipple grafts seems like just an extra step of potential complications

[unborn atlas]

my sister's class is full of trans ppl apparently

[digital geyser]

i think i wanna keep mine

[unborn atlas]

a lot of her friends are queer in some way

[supple quarry]

siiick

[astral gull]

I wish the pants had white stitch on them bc that'd be like my actual tripps

[supple quarry]

at my music tech class at nyu, i hope its a bunch of cool queer kids and not just a bunch of fuckboys

[digital geyser]

most of my highschool friend group were lgbt in some way

we were the gay friend group

[frozen breach]

my high school has kids from all over the city and 95% of the queer people there are from either my school or a school really close by

there's smth in the water fr

[digital geyser]

and then they all left and suddenly my year group became a lot straighter

[astral gull]

Fr like as long as it's not intended no one's mad...

[frozen breach]

this is the gamble with music tech shit

[digital geyser]

someone genuinely put the best thing about my school was “all the lesbian women” WHERE ARE THEY i think i know two lesbians in the entire year group

[astral gull]

I don't miss my gay friend group at school bc they were all rly bad ppl

[supple quarry]

yup. at my school we got the latter

[frozen breach]

same

[digital geyser]

i did have an openly gay english teacher at one point though that was great

[astral gull]

My school is chronically straight unfortunately

[digital geyser]

when she mentioned her wife i just sat there like WAIT A MINUTE DID I MISHEAR THAT

[frozen breach]

it's either misogynist assholes or the coolest fucking people you've ever met no in between

[astral gull]

Lots of barking and meowing coming my way, got hate crimed too along with other ppl . It was in the news

[supple quarry]

good news is i think this music tech class has like a big focus on synthesizers and electronic music, not just recording

[frozen breach]

fire

is this just one class or a whole program at nyu?

[digital geyser]

i got some stupid comments when i was younger in my school, but i think mostly everyone matured by ages 16-17

[frozen breach]

cuz that's the kinda shit I wanna go to school for eventually

[supple quarry]

two week program

[digital geyser]

also im sorry about that

[valid sun]

took like 2 years until freshmen year highschool to go somewhat stealth and sophomore to go completely stealth

[digital geyser]

i know ding an english degree i will meet loads of gay people

[valid sun]

like nonstop physical/etc harassment and assault until then i think covid stopped most of it

[digital geyser]

my english lit class at school was like 50% queer

[digital geyser]

god thats awful

[valid sun]

it's alright it's like over with now

[valid sun]

this and art class apparently

[misty harness]

it's the most awkward shit when you're at a bar or whatever and your server does this

[valid sun]

not really interested in either classes just bc i never got much out of them despite doing illustration for 8 years lol but lots of queer people in liberal studies like that

and it gets dangerous in some situations ^

legit just "sorry, (correction)" works

[digital geyser]

lit class is either the gayest mffers (often dark academia gays), or colleen hoover booktok loving straight girls who are usually really nice

and then theres like randomly some cishet dude who doesnt really read much and you have no idea why he’s there

[valid sun]

credits maybe? lol idk

[astral gull]

Was a time

[digital geyser]

we dont do credits/gpa in the uk

[astral gull]

I'm glad I'm doing my forensic science course online bc I'm lowkey scared of who I'd meet

[valid sun]

as in no required courses?

[digital geyser]

not after ur 16

you can do what u want

[valid sun]

this is why i enjoyed the first year of hs tbh because of covid making it online

[valid sun]

i see

[digital geyser]

i have only studied english literature, linguistics and history these past 2 years

then u take exams on those which the grades of are what get you into university

[valid sun]

i really like linguistics but only translation pays well

[digital geyser]

also i havent studed proper linguistics

its just english language

[astral gull]

My last yr of middle school was online and the digital art class sucked bc she taught photoshop stuff as if it'd apply to fuckin firealpaca

[valid sun]

LMFAO

[digital geyser]

but i felt calling it linguistcis makes it easier to explain

[valid sun]

Nah i get what u mean

[digital geyser]

cuz its basically linguistics

[valid sun]

i used firealpaca when i was like 11

[digital geyser]

and now im going to uni all i need to do is englaih lit classes

i still use firealpaca jgkdgk

although im also probably gonna take some creative writing stuff

[valid sun]

i switched to csp like 3 yrs ago now theyre doing a subscription service :/ so i pirate it now lel

i like creative writing

[astral gull]

She knew I was on firealpaca too as if the same stuff for photoshop applied to freeware

[valid sun]

lmfao

dude

[digital geyser]

i stopped taking art after i was 13 cuz no art teacher ever liked me :(

[valid sun]

photoshop is expansive as fuck when u leaen it

[valid sun]

wtf this was my experience

just like the meanest teachers ever

lol

[digital geyser]

so they all gave me terrible grades

and so my parents convinced me to do another subject

[vapid dune]

Me except I stopped drawing and painting when my AP art “teacher” was being fucking insufferable trying to control the direction of my portfolio than to let me do what I wanted to do. It is MY portfolio after all where I showcase MY strengths

[digital geyser]

my food teacher hated me the most though literally hated me so much she gave me a grade too low to actually exist on the grading system at that school

[valid sun]

ricidulous

thats just stupid

[digital geyser]

it was on my last report at the school before i moved sxhools too

[astral gull]

My art teacher last and the previous year loved me bc I always worked rlly hard and made good work with minimal influence from him

[valid sun]

i had a really good graphic design teacuer

[astral gull]

Which Is crazy bc all I did was play league of legends in his class

[digital geyser]

i think all my teachers recently did like me, ik my history teachers both adored me

[valid sun]

i had good teachers this year and last bc i graduated a year and a half early from hs

[astral gull]

My history teacher taught lgbt and black history

I'm interning for him next yr

Such a legend

[valid sun]

i showed my econ teacher hella lol

and the brave little abacus

[digital geyser]

my teacher had me helping her on a powerpoint on lgbt history for the younger years because of her struggles with technology

[valid sun]

he was hipster af

[valid sun]

win then

[final heart]

gender??? i barely know her

that's my contribution

[digital geyser]

my curriculum was tsarist and communist russia and modern british history though 😔 had to stick to that

[digital geyser]

as i mentioned i also had an openly gay english lit teacher. she was doing her training experience at our school for like a term and she was amazing. soent a whole lesson teaching us about feminist lit theoryy

and she would talk about her wife openly and make jokes about being gay and i was like how did this hapoen because id never had an openly queer teacher before her

she also dissed freud which is always a win

[valid sun]

i think my last year english teacher was bisexual but never disclosed it (frankly none of my business but she had always kept track of anti trans legislation and was very nice with helping me go stealth while doing all the yearbook shit)

[digital geyser]

omgg

my school seem to be getting better with lgbt stuff even thoigh they lost the religious studies teacher that was a very massive ally a few years ago, and im happy for them!!!

[final heart]

i went to 3 different high schools and 2/3 of my english teachers were good, the last one ran the gsa but she was like ableist and such a lib

[digital geyser]

ive officially left now so i hope it continues being good

and improving

[digital geyser]

man

[valid sun]

unfortunate but not the majority which is good

my history teacher was a nihilistic lib lol

[digital geyser]

i also had a lit professor at a university taster that used they/them openly

which was awesome

[final heart]

🐴

[digital geyser]

so true

with the recent teacher strikes its been interesting seeing who striked

4/6 of my teachers did, with 1 of the other two not doing it bc she wasnt in that union

[valid sun]

i hope it inspires more people to unionize or strike across the globe

[digital geyser]

i had so many strike days with not a single lesson

which like yeah impacted my learning, but the learning of everyone will be disrupted if they keep mistreatinf teachers

[inland schooner]

Honestly if ur chest is (larger) id go for tats because there's the possibility of the nips just falling off anyways

I'm p sure u can get 3d tattood ones if I'm not mistaken but it's a personal choice

[digital geyser]

as someone who wants to work in education im being driven away by the current conditions and im sure im not the only one

support workers

[digital geyser]

yes

i hope so too

there have been so many strikes recently here

railstrikes, nhs workers, teachers, etc

[valid sun]

UPS is about to strike if they dont get their contract deal

question has anyone gotten the T-scar method of top surgery or know anyone who has

i dont wanna get top surgery cause of losing sensations in my nipples to be as vague as possible (lol) but t-anchor masectomies seem to keep some of it

though im not sure how effective that would be on someone with a bigger chest and whos fat (me)

[digital geyser]

whats that

[valid sun]

united postal service

[digital geyser]

no i mean the deal

[valid sun]

oh i think essentially higher wages and then more routine checkups on the trucks, more breaks and air conditioning

[digital geyser]

ohhh

i hope they do get it

[chrome snow]

I really hope that they're able to break through.

[valid sun]

since people are dying in the delivery trucks from heat exhaustion/stroke

me too

[chrome snow]

Those vans become literal microwaves in the summer.

[digital geyser]

uk strikes are mostly over pay since we’re in a cost of living crisis rn

god thats awful

[chrome snow]

Their drivers need to be treated better.

[valid sun]

its terrible i try to give the delivery people water when i can

especially here? its like 98-100+ every day ontop of 100% humidity

since its an island

[digital geyser]

yikes that slunds like hell

i hope they get everything

[valid sun]

i was out for like 5 mins today and started sweating buckets so i hope so too

[digital geyser]

i hope all the uk strikes are successful too, some people are struggling so much rn bc of ghis crisis

and its highlighted so many issues, especially the underfunding of the health service by the conservative party

the only thing i like to have come out of this crisis is the fact people started calling it a “cozzy livs” which is just funny hdjg

[austere jay]

seattle pride was a success!! no violence, had a great time with my partner and was even confident enough to go shirtless and show my trans tape off

i got a little overstimulated from noise and light but other than that it was great

was really awesome seeing all the leather people out too, they seem like such authentic happy people

[astral gull]

That's awesome !

Does anyone have more picrews 😭

[zinc oriole]

One day I will go to pride 😭 I've been too nervous

Hello transdome

[astral gull]

Hello waynee

[zinc oriole]

Hello:]

I have no picrews to report yet

[austere jay]

hi wayne

so many old guys complimented me on my operation ivy shirt it was awesome

also all the people i saw with septum’s as big as mine were like 50+ year old metal dudes i felt like i was part of the cool kids club

[zinc oriole]

Hello Vinny :]
I WANNA SEE OLDER PPL AT PRIDE

My friend Carter saw a bear with a twisty mustache and big circle glasses with a bear flag skirt

He was amazing

[austere jay]

there were so many in seattle

gives me so much hope

cant wait to be grandpa queer

[zinc oriole]

GRANDPA QUEER TIME!!

I seriously am excited to be an older person it seems awesome

[austere jay]

me too i’m more than ready for my petercaindogtraining1 arc

i feel like being 45 and all settled down and calm is going to be rewarding for me

[inland schooner]

i know wishing to be older is a always like "noo dont" but yeah i cant wait to be older

i cant wait to be past my medically transitioning phase and at a place in life where i am content and dont need to get anything else done and just with hopefully a partner

[sturdy trail]

tbf freud is more useful as a metaphor

a lot of the very early psychoanalysts were really baded

based

[sturdy trail]

I HATE BULLSHIT CATEGORIZATION I HATE BULLSHIT CATEGORIZATION I HATE BULLSHIT CATEGORIZATION I HATE BULLSHIT CATEGORIZATION

there was a meme with that caption on top of one of those but i can't find it

[sturdy trail]

i have strong opinion that most queer analysis can't be good if u don't have at least a smidgen of influence from the freudo marxists

hence post structuralism

[spice sphinx]

I fucking loathe carl jung

[sturdy trail]

ya jung isn't one if those

of

jung suz

sux

[spice sphinx]

He gets lumped in with freud a lot but at least freud was coherent in his writing, and at least sometimes on the mark

[sturdy trail]

yesyesyesy

[spice sphinx]

Being in undergrad psych courses is hell

[bronze ocean]

that first one is a chart someone made to make fun of ones people made in complete seriousness lmao

[sturdy trail]

ohhhhh

i am a soldier in the war against actual bullshit categorization charts

[bronze ocean]

🫡

[astral gull]

Yeah couldn't hurt to have read them a little first

Bc that charts funny lmao

[sturdy trail]

regardless it is still a big problem

[astral gull]

Yeah I know

[sturdy trail]

and also like actively promotes exclusionism or whatever

[astral gull]

I hope u mean that joke aside

[sturdy trail]

wdym

[astral gull]

Like satirical chart aside, ur right is what I'm trying to say

And I hope thats what's going on

Idk I just woke up

[inland schooner]

go back to bed draven

[astral gull]

No cale

I am the beast

[unborn atlas]

that's an Omnicron Enby mindset

[bronze ocean]

in my heart im a bi lesbian who doesnt own plaid

[unborn atlas]

haha I'm goat 🐐

[astral gull]

Zenoby I had an old username that may fit u better than It would for me

It was Spectral_Goat

[astral gull]

I am the BEAST

Thought this belonged here to help convey what I was trying to say a few weeks ago

Mb if any of these users may be iffy ppl

[valid sun]

no its okay its true

[valid sun]

idk if hes going to pride but my boss is a jewish gay guy whos 53

he showed me pics of him in drag in 2003 lol

[zinc oriole]

!!! That makes me so happy

[sturdy trail]

i feel like most trans people get the memo now and it's incredibly hard to find trans people who don't like neopronouns or aspec people

like saying this stuff is like saying "nonbinary people don't owe you androgyny" like it's been in mainstream circulation since like 2017

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DoZFZto6Wqg&ab_channel=LilyAlexandre

this is a good video on it although i don't watch lily's other stuff

[valid sun]

theres a pretty (surprisingly) large amount of transmedicalists still sadly though now it's more even between transfeminine and transmasculine people when before it was mostly transmasculine people

[astral gull]

Yeah

[valid sun]

though it's very much a dying concept

[astral gull]

I just knew someone for so long who was rly shitty abt it and was an nb skeptic

[valid sun]

that one popular trans art account (girlofswords) is a huge transmed

[sturdy trail]

how so

[astral gull]

I posted that mainly for the 1st portion

[sturdy trail]

she is like pretty unnecessarily mean a lot but i will go to bat for her

[valid sun]

idk how thats not transmedicalism

especially the reply to the first tweet on the first screenshot is absolutely horrendous

and lol

[sturdy trail]

i mean demi lovato was a thing and imo transness has a lot to do with changing ur mindset on a lot of things

considering this is in the context of detrans grifters being extremely popular i think it is justified although possibly flawed reaction

cuz a lot of em will treat hormones the same way conservatives do (mutilating permanent etc)

[valid sun]

demi lovato stopped identifying as transgender because no one took her seriously and started sending threats her way

because of this mindset

lol

[sturdy trail]

i feel like that's not random trans women's fault

[valid sun]

she talked about this before

[sturdy trail]

that's more a being a worldwide celebrity problem

[valid sun]

no ones saying it is its transmedicalist mindsets that enables this though

[sturdy trail]

"wanting to claim labels that clearly exclude them" is like a more common thing than people realize with like "gynosexual" and stuff

at the end of the day i think people should stop acting like transmedicalism is an intracommunity problem rather than a medical institution problem

it is more than just people being mean

[valid sun]

i mean she did literally insinuate "letting celebrities identify as trans and do crimes is why people think all of us are criminals" in that first tweet

and you cant really say that the second tweet is just "being mean" shes just trying to call him a woman

im not saying shes like THE transmed account but its very much a big thing in transgender spaces online and lots of popular transgender accounts are also transmed

in present day like some of those were from 2 days ago

[sturdy trail]

i don't think she is talking about criminals or crimes at all

[sturdy trail]

i'm a feminine transmasc who wears skirts and stuff and i don't really like see a problem with it but like i can see why people don't like it

[valid sun]

it doesnt matter if they dont like it though you cant deny someones transsexuality for that

[valid sun]

shes directly talking about chris chan

and yet none of these accounts are giving resources for people in states struggling with HRT its just discoursey tweets like this

like just nothing its all discourse

[sturdy trail]

where'd she refer to chris chan i don rember

[valid sun]

in that thread shes talking about chris chan and ezra miller its not in that screen shot but the thread is still up

[valid sun]

and i take a huge issue with that because i lost my HRT in march and had a legal battle and had to do DIY for a month because im 17 and live in texas

[sturdy trail]

i don see

the "famous men getting accusations" part i just assumed was about colorado shooter

[valid sun]

lol

[sturdy trail]

and wasn't like ezra miller already nb before they went around doing crayzee stuff

[valid sun]

im not gonna argue about this because theres literally someone in the thread who said || "serial rapist to 'trans girl'" timeline || agreeing with her and the fact this isnt a rebuttal to anything i said i am ending the convo bc this feels in bad faith

[sturdy trail]

okayy

[astral gull]

What in the fresh hell if you don't like how someone's gender works then 1) reevaluate yourself 2) don't engage with them

[sturdy trail]

i generally like forcedmasc better than girlofswords

[spice sphinx]

oh yeah girlofswords is a complete chud

[bronze ocean]

the only correct response to whatever someone on twitter is saying is "i don't care"

[astral gull]

Or the iconic "ok"

[misty harness]

real

you posted on twitter, argument invalid

[frozen breach]

getting off twitter the best decision I ever made fr

I feel myself getting happier and less braindead by the day

[valid sun]

i need to hardcore drop it

ive been getting better at not using it but my autistic brain uses it as like an info processor essentially (tweeting every thought that comes to mind on my circle or priv)

but the past half year its just entrenched with the most rancid transphobic stuff its made me genuinely depressed to like a concerning extreme

not worth it at all

[zinc oriole]

Current events are ofc important but I feel the constant reporting of transphobia by everybody on Twitter, youtube, etc can be an unhealthy spiral. Like hearing somebody say smth transphobic and everybody is talking about

It makes me feel desolate I'd rather focus on the joys we go through if it isn't an event that will immediately affect us

If that makes sense

[misty harness]

that makes total sense and i completely agree

[valid sun]

yeah 100%

especially being directly affected by legislation i already know how it is i just dont wanna hear about it at all sometimes yknow

[astral gull]

Why can't we have trans joys

[valid sun]

its like a constant reminder and its bad for me

[misty harness]

honestly i don't think current events are that important, at least a lot of the ones that are reported on (not just trans related stuff either.) like yes we need to be informed about policy changes and things that affect our safety, but we don't need to obsess over every detail of them unless we're directly involved in fighting them. like i can't do fuck all about the laws in florida so i don't really need the doom and gloom that comes with the weekly new bills put forth

[astral gull]

Yeah we can't rlly camp a news feed that's just not realistic

Exactly Sarah like wtf r we supposed to do abt it

[valid sun]

yeah thats how i feel

at least the good news is a lot of judges federally are siding with us

[spice sphinx]

idk some people don't really have the luxury to turn a blind eye to things

[valid sun]

oh no i know i dont either

i just dont want to have to interact with it when i dont have to

though i still have to stay hypervigilent when it comes to my state

it's just hard when you know youre in basically the roughest spot of it and you just want to enjoy yourself but you cant stop thinking about all of it

at that point you just cant stand to have any more beyond what you absolutely need to know or you just break into a million pieces

when you cant do anything about it youre just stuck worrying and it's not healthy to be stuck worrying like that

you just have to recognize it and do all you can and then deal with it little by little

[spice sphinx]

the mental health devil strikes again

I went on a warpath with this a while back

praxis is impossible for a generation of eroded mental health and none of the building blocks to make it better

[misty harness]

it's not turning a blind eye, it's about recognizing whats out of your own control and managing your own mental health responsibly so that you can be effective in the places you do have influence

[valid sun]

it's why community is so important especially IRL but also definitely online

general rule of thumb is that it's totally fine to be worrying about things like legislation but whether or not it's helpful is debatable

it's normal even. very normal

especially trans youth as well

it doesnt make someone cowardly if they dont want to make grand gestures for other transgender people

[misty harness]

the social media death spiral of keeping 110% informed 25/8 and obsessing over the current state of discourse is unhealthy and unproductive. there's better ways to stay informed

[valid sun]

id argue subscribing to certain substacks is better than twitter

or instagram even

though i dont use substack

[sturdy trail]

instagram has the bite sized instagram infographics problem

[valid sun]

yeah especially for nuanced bills and other things

you just cant make a 10 slide infographic for it

[spice sphinx]

going to instagram for news sounds like hell

[misty harness]

twitter has the same thing + all the problems of a platform that encourages real time, intense reaction

[valid sun]

along with wild misinfo spreading even from other transgender people

it's easier to share a tweet and spread it than an insta post imo

[misty harness]

and a disintegrating moderation policy that allows harassment and hate

[spice sphinx]

I generally just go to like, fediverse places for news n stuff if I just want an honest feed of it all

[digital geyser]

i actually got the person in the tiktok they're talking about here on my fyp recently and the comments section on that video was truly horrendous from the brief glance i took

[spice sphinx]

I am of the opinion that it's important to always be informed though

[sturdy trail]

i wouldn't say instagram's moderation is much better

[valid sun]

it's not too great but the owner isnt elon musk so it amounts to something better than twitter if you report it enough