transdome

[astral gull]

If you want to keep your bald head a skull tat would be so cool

[unborn atlas]

waiting for my fringe to grow out first

how are these things connected? I dunno how tattoos work

[austere jay]

hair feels very weird to me and i’ve been struggling with feeling feminine no matter how my hair looks

[astral gull]

Sunscreen preserves tattoos

[austere jay]

sun damage is horrible for tattoos and sunscreen helps keep them from fading

[astral gull]

I wanted one for a while but my hair takes too long to grow out

So if I regret it I'm fucked

Especially if I did on both sides I'd have a mullet which I do not prefer

[astral gull]

Especially black ink ones

[unborn atlas]

oh!

makes sense

[astral gull]

@austere jay do tattoos help you feel more connected with your relationship w gender?

[austere jay]

sort of

depends on the tattoo

big back and chest pieces yes, little ones here and there no

i just like the little ones they don’t affect my gender expression

[astral gull]

That's interesting

I think my first one will be of pochita

If I care enough about csm when the time comes

[astral gull]

How many do u have if you don't mind me asking

[austere jay]

i have one big one and a few small ones with plans to get one in the coming months as well as a few more this year

[zinc oriole]

I want ouroboros as a chest tattoo i think

[unborn atlas]

I want tattoos

[bronze ocean]

chest tattoos are sooo cool

[austere jay]

i have a whole plan for my chest down to my hip bones in terms of tattoos post top surgery

todays gender is irritating zillakami fanboy

[unborn atlas]

WHO THE FUCK NEEDS ME 🎶

[astral gull]

Do you guys have a character that you aggressively think is just like you (fr)?

[unborn atlas]

the skulls parasite unit

[bronze ocean]

saturn hwbm

read heaven will be mine

[astral gull]

Mine is power

[bronze ocean]

:D power

[astral gull]

Imagine how mad someone's gonna be when I get this username

[unborn atlas]

will you get that username?

[astral gull]

I really hope so

Bc I changed it

[digital geyser]

does anyone have tips on how to hide/make wide hips less obvious?

[sturdy trail]

baggy

and layers

[grand current]

anticorset

makes waist bigger

[valid sun]

yeah baggy pants

shorts sometimes

if you use a belt just get a large shirt to cover it

i think i have rectangle hips so beyond that im not very experienced

if youre specifically trying to look masculine and youre transmasc/ftm then practice walking with your legs spread apart a little

idk if you are but throwing that out from experience

[digital geyser]

yeah my body is built so curvy on my hips 🫠they are wider than my shoulders

[astral gull]

Back when I used to hide mine bc I have wider hips and thighs, I'd wear a lot of baggy clothes and nothing that's tight on the thighs, which can be quite difficult to find if you're like me

[valid sun]

i see i see

[tardy creek]

@valid sun has leveled up! (14 ➜ 15)

[valid sun]

hoodies i think help

[astral gull]

I think so too

[valid sun]

but its summer tome

time

[digital geyser]

😔

[valid sun]

i think?

idk where u are

but like yeah a big shirt

[digital geyser]

my style is so unsuited to baggy clothes

[astral gull]

I just buy very oversized shirts if I don't feel like looking too awfully feminine

[digital geyser]

uk

so yeah summer

[valid sun]

okay

[astral gull]

Like some of my best tops are larges

[digital geyser]

worst season 0/10

[astral gull]

So true

[digital geyser]

i do love a good baggy shirt

[valid sun]

my tops are 2xls but i wear a large i think

an xl is a little tight on me but i dont bind usually

unless im at work

my chest is huge but the condition of it rn lets me wear a big shirt and i pass fine

[digital geyser]

isssue is if i dont tuck a shirt in my boobs are usually visible while if i do tuck it in that means big ass hips

[valid sun]

right

so maybe experiment with jackets

[digital geyser]

as soon as i can bind that gets fixed tbf

[astral gull]

I used to be very weird abt visibly having breasts but since I'm not like that anymore I have a baggy shirt collection that is still viable when needed

[valid sun]

and since its summer

[astral gull]

Sweatpants or pajama styled pants

Especially high waist

[valid sun]

for now id say yeah sweatpants or i just use shorts

cargo shorts

[digital geyser]

i dont have any most of my wardrobe is leggings and high waisted tight trousers

man

[astral gull]

Oversized basketball shorts

They're sorta hit or miss tho

[valid sun]

so what do you have in your closet

[valid sun]

lol this is all i wear

a t shirt and basketball shorts

though its like out of habit

being stealth at school means thats all i would wear

[astral gull]

Idk why it looks so fire sometimes

[valid sun]

its just like casual af

[astral gull]

For being incredibly basic

[valid sun]

yeah LMFAO

[digital geyser]

mix of dresses n stuff cuz often i sacrifice passing for looking cool, leggins, a few baggy shirts and then some tight style trousers

[astral gull]

I always pair mine with a suicide silence or anime shirt

[digital geyser]

and some button up shirts

[valid sun]

oh yeah use a button up

[astral gull]

Should be buying this mf soon

[digital geyser]

usually if im wanting to gender it up i’ll wear a jumper-shirt combo witj trousers but then i tuck them in and bam hips

omg

[valid sun]

if you cant bind then it at least makes you look more squareish than curvy

[astral gull]

Yeah

[valid sun]

dope as fuck

[digital geyser]

mmm

[valid sun]

we have a mall here

well like 20 mins off island

[digital geyser]

i wish i could just like shrink my hips

[astral gull]

Plus baggy is not as bad for heat

[digital geyser]

[valid sun]

i havent gone to that hot topic in forever

[valid sun]

do you need a binder?

or is it safety reasons that you cant have one

[digital geyser]

safety

[astral gull]

Bc the sleeves don't hug you as much so less sweat and less stank

I have a reccomendtation

For that

[digital geyser]

cant bind rn bc i cant get ahold of anything

[astral gull]

Sports bras without padding in them

[digital geyser]

so i usually just sports bra my way through it

[astral gull]

Oh ok good

[digital geyser]

but that doesnt do anything for the hips

[astral gull]

Basically just baggy these hoes up especially baggy high waisted to conceal your hips more

[valid sun]

so is it that you cant buy a binder or that you cant keep a binder at the house

[astral gull]

Bc they'd be under your shirt so your waist wouldn't be as prominent

[digital geyser]

in fact having a flat chest makes them more weird bc im plus size with a smaller chest and tgen literally built with most of my fat in hips and thighs

[digital geyser]

i see i see

[digital geyser]

cant buy

i have really bad anxiety about it coming, even in discrete packaging, and then my parents open it by accident or smth

[astral gull]

Idk how I didn't shatter my rib cage bc I used to wear 2 severely undersized sports bras along with a tank top under my shirt

[valid sun]

i see

[digital geyser]

i will be able to start binding soon cuz im moving away for university though

[valid sun]

i had like a similar issue

i used my binder a ton in 7th and 8th grade

so my chest is droopy

[digital geyser]

mmy sports bra doesnt compress much but its better than a normal one

[valid sun]

cause i wore it too long and too often

[digital geyser]

mines droopy bc i stopped wearing a bra in the pandemic if i didnt have to go out

[astral gull]

Since I'm not a trans male or trans masc I don't care anymore abt my chest but I wonder how bad it would be if I kept doing that

[valid sun]

it's probably better to not be completely flat if youre plus sized. from experience

[digital geyser]

mm

[astral gull]

Not wearing a bra doesn't make you droop

[valid sun]

probably not great

[digital geyser]

oh it doesnt?

[valid sun]

nah

[astral gull]

Yeah thats a myth

[digital geyser]

maybe thats just my body rhen lol

[valid sun]

a few things that might cause it

[astral gull]

If you're slightly larger gravity just does its thing

[valid sun]

yeah

[astral gull]

I can't realize bc I'm relatively small

[digital geyser]

ah

[valid sun]

or exercising a ton

[astral gull]

Relate*

[valid sun]

without support

[astral gull]

Oh really ?

[valid sun]

it can damage tissue

yes

[digital geyser]

oh i see

[valid sun]

thats why sports bras are tighter

cause the tissue can tear or be damaged if they move a ton

[digital geyser]

sports bras are so much more comfortable honestly

[valid sun]

having boobs is uncomfortable in general so i agree

physically at least

[digital geyser]

everytime i wear a normal bra its just like

[valid sun]

im not dysphoric about them

[digital geyser]

not only obviously dysphoria

but like they are just uncomfrotavle

like

[valid sun]

its like minimal support

[digital geyser]

its not fun

[valid sun]

and the wires

[digital geyser]

god

[valid sun]

i cant remember much but

i hated the wires

[digital geyser]

they are the worst

[valid sun]

its physically uncomfortable not binding in public too

but its cause my chest is so big lol

[digital geyser]

why do cis women so often put themselves through those super uncomfortable bras

i only wear those when my sports bra needs a wash

[valid sun]

cause theres not much else honestly

[astral gull]

Ok thank God I wear one then

[valid sun]

sports bras make your tits look smaller which a lot of girls are uncomfortable about

[digital geyser]

oh true

[astral gull]

That's sad

[valid sun]

and then bras are just not maximized for comfort

[digital geyser]

i guess i cant imagine that lmao

[valid sun]

bc most womens clothes arent

[astral gull]

Exactly

[valid sun]

it's just sexual socialization tbh

[digital geyser]

imagine not wanting ur chest to be smaller

[valid sun]

if it wasnt like that it wouldnt be much of an issue

[digital geyser]

🏳️‍⚧️

[valid sun]

and a lot of girls would probably get breast reductions

[astral gull]

I haven't been stabbed by one yet

[valid sun]

i wasnt stabbed but i got red marks once

[digital geyser]

god these need to be so much more accessible

[valid sun]

when i was 11

[astral gull]

But sometimes I just find blood in my bra

Idk why

[valid sun]

bro

How

[digital geyser]

ive seen so many women online with massive chests who cant get them for whatever reason despite the back pain

[astral gull]

Prob acne scab coming off

[valid sun]

and where

i see

[valid sun]

yeah this

[astral gull]

Not my ||nipple bleeding bc its way off to the side from it||

[valid sun]

doctors are misogynistic to all hell

[digital geyser]

fr

[astral gull]

If that were the case I would've gone to the doctor already

[valid sun]

yeah i would hope so LOL

[astral gull]

I witnessed a doctor flirting with my mom and it was fucking foul

[valid sun]

all doctors must die

not actually but most of thwm

[digital geyser]

constantly paranoid as a plus size person one day im gonna have a serious illness that wont get diagnosed because of my weight

[valid sun]

not one of my family members have had a majority positive experience with them and all of us are disabled

[astral gull]

I'm weird abt ppl touching me especially men I don't know so I usually try to have a male doctor

[valid sun]

it sucks this happened to me

[digital geyser]

god im sorry

[valid sun]

gained weight on T and then after covid my fibromyalgia got worse

very rapidly

diagnosed me with prediabetes and tested me 3 times

all of them are negative

[astral gull]

Don't try to have *

[valid sun]

its been like 4 yrs and no treatment yet

[digital geyser]

god

[valid sun]

i understand this

im the same way lol

[astral gull]

Had to have one with my knee appointment

[digital geyser]

i have barely seen any doctors in years

i got my migraines diagnosed over the pphone

[valid sun]

no way

sorry but thats insane even if it was a goof thing

[sturdy trail]

nhscore

[valid sun]

good*

[digital geyser]

last medical thhing i had was some eye stuff

[astral gull]

He had to grab my leg and bend it and it was so uncomfortable

[sturdy trail]

cis woman doctors have always been the ones to touch me unnecessarily for some reason

[valid sun]

kill

[zinc oriole]

Men and women doctors hace been both weird to me so I just don't go ♡

(Do not take this as advice)

[valid sun]

ive had a lot of enthusiastic cis woman doctors be this way

[digital geyser]

also love grtting told “it’s all about the hormones ✨” 😔

[astral gull]

Sometimes even ones who aren't such as random old ladies are unnecessarily touchy

[sturdy trail]

what if trans male doctor

[astral gull]

I had to tell some older woman 3 times to stop fucking touching my waist and hips

[valid sun]

oh man having my testosterone be blamed for my issues when it turns out to never be the issue is like probably them trying to blame me for my issues and make me detransition ngl

[astral gull]

That depends bc anyone can be a weirdo

[valid sun]

never my main doctors thougu

[digital geyser]

god

[sturdy trail]

i'm assigned male at birth i'm biologically male sunglasses emoji

[digital geyser]

thats awful

[unborn atlas]

I like a half n half

[digital geyser]

i did have mild gender validation at the eye doctor though lmao

cuz i could barely take my eyestaining drops or whatever because of my blink reflex

and he was like “this is a more common thing in men”

i was like 👀

[zinc oriole]

I've had many drs do this to me. It never has any backing to it they're just being transphobic imo

[valid sun]

unnecessary win then

[valid sun]

its transphobic AND a cop out

[digital geyser]

is it annoying i couldnt get my eyes stained properly? yeah but funny i got validation from it

[valid sun]

my main doctor stopped prescribing HRT due to pressure from the state cause im under 18 but she woulf always use T as a cop out

[zinc oriole]

Doctors will come into work and be like
"We have to do our jobs and treat patients with respect? 😟"

[valid sun]

all the mean girls become doctors i think

[digital geyser]

hypocratic? more like hypocrite oath

[sturdy trail]

i physically can't deal with eye contacts for this reason stuck with twink glasses

[digital geyser]

SAME

but i like them they hide my eyebafs

eyebags

[zinc oriole]

Nurses. Bullies in AP classes become doctors

[valid sun]

im very glad i dont have to use glasses or contacts it would be a sensory issue

[zinc oriole]

More like hyperbolic oath!!!

[sturdy trail]

reminds me of the tweet saying if doctors were instructed by the government to euthanize all trans people they would sigh and do it

[valid sun]

lol its truw

true

[digital geyser]

ive had glasses since i was like 3 they are like second nature to me

[valid sun]

honestly hearing everything being passed and then hearing "theyre coming for adults next" was always just like

[digital geyser]

never been able to see

[astral gull]

I'm moving to contacts

[valid sun]

yes its terrifying but like can you help me out im not an adult lol

[astral gull]

Idk if I want to bc I kinda look cute with glasses

[valid sun]

i had a psychiatrist who was like the worst and would deny me any diagnosis for autism and i went to my new one a month ago and i took a lot of screenings and then tested and they gave me my test scores and my srs male score was a 78 and my female score was over 100 and i just started laughing so hard

[valid sun]

maybe do both

[astral gull]

But contacts may be more efficient

Yeah probably how it's gonna go

[valid sun]

i have 20/25 vision which is impressive seeing as though my parwnts put me on a computer since i was 2

[astral gull]

I got denied one too it sucks

[digital geyser]

i just cannot deal with anythingcnear to my eye so #sensoryissues

[valid sun]

👎

[astral gull]

Just recently got one at least

[valid sun]

if youre afab good luck getting autism

diagnosis

[astral gull]

EXACTLY

[digital geyser]

im not planning on seekinf one iut

[valid sun]

not getting autism LMFAO

thats probably for the best lol

in some states tjey can refuse you voting cause youre autistic

ex. alabama

[digital geyser]

but i just think its funny i went to a counsellor when i was 11 and she never went i think this kid is autistic

[valid sun]

omg

[digital geyser]

people who are autistic have restrictions on emigrating to the uk

[valid sun]

they never said i was autistic they called me like everything else though

[astral gull]

I told the lady who evaluated me that I prob didn't get diagnosed bc all the data was from males

And she agreed

[valid sun]

yeah and europe generally

[digital geyser]

and theres restrictions on autistic people going into other countries too

[astral gull]

Also she asked pronouns and all that she was a G tbh

[digital geyser]

and i would quite like the option to leave if the terfs win

[astral gull]

Yeah

[valid sun]

i feel that way about america rn but i definitely couldn't handle moving

also just dont have the money

[digital geyser]

continental europe🏃

[valid sun]

not even to go to like illinois or smth

ive been holding out in texas

[sturdy trail]

some countries restrict immigration on the basis of people having autism cuz they don wanna pay for healthcare

[valid sun]

yeah lol its just eugenics

[sturdy trail]

this is why i'm just not getting diagnosed

[digital geyser]

its also because they believe autistic people cant work

capitalism

[sturdy trail]

same reason why i don't like x gender marker it makes me paranoid conspiracybrain

[valid sun]

yeah this is what they also do in the states

such as alabama.

[digital geyser]

and they dont want to pay for wealthfare

[valid sun]

i couldnt change my gender marker if i wanted to tbh

not here

id have to go to austin

and like thats so much money

[digital geyser]

the process to get a GRA is so long

[valid sun]

i could definitely get it done if i wasnt in fucking harris county lol

[digital geyser]

i’d probably only get it if i were already fully transitioned medically and socially and were getting married or smth

[valid sun]

the part that fucks everyone over is like "proof"

and im like 100% good on "proof"

[digital geyser]

its so annoying

[valid sun]

cause i have a gd diagnosis for 5 years

and testosterone for 4

[digital geyser]

and the waythey blocked the scottish government reofrming it

[valid sun]

and social transitioning for 6

Yeah fuck that too

[digital geyser]

so ass

honestly

wales’ first minister guy has also defended trans rights though before so thats good for them

[valid sun]

Minnesota making waves rn too

i want to go

but i hate the cold

[digital geyser]

🏴󠁧󠁢󠁷󠁬󠁳󠁿

mini soda

[valid sun]

i have lived in texas all my life so

😭

[digital geyser]

oh man

[valid sun]

off topic i think the comorbidity of autism and avoidant personality disorder in specifically autistic adults is funny and also makes a lot of sense

[digital geyser]

could not imagine living in texas

i cant handle heat above like 20C

[valid sun]

i have a diagnosis for both (surprisingly have avpd diagnosis under the age of 18)

[valid sun]

i like it but its my personal preference

also sorry discord bridging the ios and android mobile clients has fucked up my app so bad

[digital geyser]

i suppose thats cuz im used to uk weather

which is now getting a lot hotter thanks climate change

[valid sun]

yeah its kind of ridiculous

i mean it always was but yknow

[digital geyser]

it hit 36C where i live last summer that was horrific

[valid sun]

it's colder rn its 87f here

[digital geyser]

and im in the north

[valid sun]

"colder" cooler

[misty harness]

it fucking sucks

[digital geyser]

we have a health warning for this weekend for parts of the uk

cuz they’re due to hit 30C down south

[sturdy trail]

oasisd

[valid sun]

you fguys usually dont have AC in the houses either right

[digital geyser]

nope

[valid sun]

or its expensive to use AC

[digital geyser]

one of the computer labs at my school does we were in there during that heat wave last year and it felt so good to actually be COLD

because the rest of that school is like a greenhouse istg

[valid sun]

i can see why the computer lab would have ac lol

[digital geyser]

its newly renovated

tje older ones dont have it

[valid sun]

well shit

those computers are gonna be steaming

[digital geyser]

but yeah last heatwave i just lay jn bed with two fans in my fave, curtains closed wearing nothing but a tank top and shorts it was so bad

and ive been to like california before and didnt die

in the summer

during wildfire times

heat there felt more like a blanket whereas in the uk its more moist

anyway yeah heat bad

[inland schooner]

I recommend cutting a slit on the side of your t-shirts. They help it that do they don't bunch up on your hips

Also this isn't really a quick solution but I recommend working out if that's an option viable to you

[inland schooner]

(Replying to this convo)

[zinc oriole]

Cargo shorts and wearing pants very low waisted helps

[digital geyser]

im defo planning on starting to get more active once my exams are over

are there any exercises you would specifically recommend to help

[inland schooner]

honestly just work out your whole body

you cant 'spot reduce' but you can train one part of your body, but honestly most trans guys i see train only upper body to even it out so there isnt a dominant part of their bodies

but if you do thighs when you begin to lose fat your muscle will show through which is good for having an overall more masculine build

just work out everything tbh, but id focus on upper body as imo, afabs are stronger in legs

like i train legs once a week, but thats becasue it works for me yk? do whatever suits you and your time

[digital geyser]

ok thanks

[vapid dune]

The reverse also helps with transfems to get a more feminine appearance I’ve found I “pass” (eugh) more when I pull my pants up high waisted

Same with like tucking in my shirt like

Just doing anything to show your figure

[unborn atlas]

weird what the meta is

https://media.discordapp.net/attachments/1081427364606640149/1117122334868918463/FB_IMG_1686368038680.jpg

[bronze ocean]

[misty harness]

this. high waist, tuck your shirt in, even if you have a tummy like me lol it def helps

and never ever ever wear a skirt without tucking your shirt, it's a dead giveaway

[unborn atlas]

a dead giveaway to what

[misty harness]

I find it increases clockability like 99% of the time

[unborn atlas]

I dunno about you guys but I am drinking the clocky trans girl kool aid

[frozen breach]

I'm transmasc but I get people thinking I'm a closeted trans girl all the time idk why

[unborn atlas]

https://fxtwitter.com/BLOODSADx/status/1667080773059620864

[unborn atlas]

weird, cis people think I'm a trans man

[misty harness]

I wouldn't care if I lived somewhere that it wasn't dangerous

[unborn atlas]

aw man I'm sad now

[misty harness]

😭

[frozen breach]

the urge to be an androgynous hottie vs the reality that I will not be safe doing so

[misty harness]

I mean I still get clocked as soon as I speak. I don't necessarily want to pass 100% of the time in all the ways, but it's something a lot of people have to care about

[unborn atlas]

I think I'm kind of doomed to never pass so I'm not hurting about it too much

[misty harness]

sometimes I want to sometimes I don't care, it's just a mood thing

[unborn atlas]

my voice is the same register as Christopher Lee

[misty harness]

I like your voice fwiw

[unborn atlas]

everybody does 🚬

[misty harness]

Sorry if that's something that bothers you though

[unborn atlas]

"everybody" includes me

transfeminine aesthetics are cool and beautiful

anybody who accepts us only when we're indistinguishable from cis women is a coward and a charlatan

[misty harness]

agree but also it's totally fine to want to pass for your own preference

[unborn atlas]

oh yeah absolutely massively

my insistence does not imply exclusion

I think I got better chances boymoding

people who pass and are stealth are more powerful than every US marine and god

[cold whale]

you’re more powerful than u think 🫡

[unborn atlas]

my power is vast and terrifying

I am deific in my beauty and graceful in my humility and I'll make an example of anybody who says otherwise

[cold whale]

alright that’s terrifying

[unborn atlas]

AND DON'T YOU FORGET IT!!!!

https://twitter.com/POCHOWEK/status/1667602792817606659

heats⁉ (@POCHOWEK)

BOY OR GIRL
Well, it depends on what you mean by gender. We cannot rule out the possibility that animas and animuses have their own equivalents on the inside too, which would make us ∞...TFTMTFTMTFTMT...∞ girlboy boygirls, infinitely recursive like a matryoshka

Twitter · Jun 10, 2023, 6:41 PM

[chrome snow]

The weapon to surpass metal gear.

[zinc oriole]

I think people just perceive me as a femme gay dude and I'm content with that

Despite the slurs and people being rude lol

My gender presentation makes people kinda irritated where I live and I find it a bit funny

[bronze ocean]

i think most ppl just think im a weird gay guy but i honestly dont know

i feel like most people can sorta tell im not like a 'man' though

[zinc oriole]

People are too worried

[bronze ocean]

gender: failmale

[zinc oriole]

FAILMALE

My transition was weirdgirl to failguy

[bronze ocean]

hell yeah

time-honored tradition

[zinc oriole]

:]

[vapid dune]

God that’s so badass

[zinc oriole]

My weirdness has evolved

[frozen breach]

this is so real holy shit

femcel to incel transition

[unborn atlas]

fuck's a femcel

[astral gull]

Female incel

[unborn atlas]

girls can have a little bit of sexually insecure domestic terrorism, as a treat for being good 😌

(I don't believe that's an organically emergent concept)

anyway tie your worth to anything other than your sexual desirability........<exhausted sigh> challenge <hits the dab>

[astral gull]

What a world we live in

[unborn atlas]

femcels are the straight pride of internet aestheticism

"why don't we get one????"

you should aspire to be something more noble, like a brain parasite or a flesh eating bacteria

[proper igloo]

holy shit i went from failguy to weirdgirl

[zinc oriole]

🤝

Our solidarity

Our hogidarity

Bc Amanda profile pic

[proper igloo]

she has literally so much tgirl swag

[astral gull]

So tru

[zinc oriole]

AGREE I hc her as trans personally

[proper igloo]

i was literally just telling someone that

great minds think alike

something something saw 2 needle pit

[austere jay]

bald

denizens of transdome be advised to not smoke cigarettes don’t be like me

[sturdy trail]

a lot of it is just marianismo

people should use that word more like machismo

[spice sphinx]

Oh god it’s so true

One of my closest irls is one of those ethel cain, midwestern gothic, bell jar girls

I love her to bits

[unborn atlas]

that's a good word actually

dunno if that's what's going on here

[spice sphinx]

Isn’t this the exact opposite thing

[unborn atlas]

femcels feels like a sort of reactionary shock value kind of thing

[spice sphinx]

I think it’s just the rage of female adolescence and growing up in hellworld

[unborn atlas]

yeah honestly

[spice sphinx]

Like I don’t think it’s disingenuous, it’s just very uhh

Spiky

[unborn atlas]

it'd be like if kids in the early 2000s called themselves femorists

actually nvm people were lusting after the columbine shooters I take it back

[spice sphinx]

There’s definitely cliques of it that just get turned into the most awful shit ever

Like misandrist 4chan girls

[unborn atlas]

irony sucks!!!!!!!!!! earnestness rocks!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[spice sphinx]

Eugh

I think most of what I see from femcel stuff nowadays is similar to my irl friend

Just big sylvia plath fans

Fuckin uhhh what’s that movie

Cannibal woman

That kind of stuff

It’s definitely got a lot of shock value stuff but the music and writers of the clique are pretty passionate

[sturdy trail]

idk i see it a lot in femcels

[spice sphinx]

Why are there so many different types of femcels

There’s like, falling in love with serial killers, wanting to be fiercely independent of gender roles and misogyny, and also just people accepting gender roles and wanting to be subservient to men?

Does the term femcel even have a definite meaning

[sturdy trail]

i think everyone dealing with rage of female adolescence should just transition

[spice sphinx]

Kinda real

I think a lot of it manifests with younger lesbian and bi women though I mean that was what I experienced most firsthand with femcel stuff back in high school

Although there’s definitely that fair share of ethel cain fans romanticizing conservative christian households and catholic aesthetics while still trying to be fiercely independent and liberated

The amount of white bi women suburbanites from rich homes raving about stuff like Fleabag with rosaries around their necks I’ve seen it too many times

[sturdy trail]

terribl

[spice sphinx]

I think part of it is wanting to have these experiences like Ethel Cain did or even if they actually did it’s that dramatization of it all that’s alluring to them the “aesthetic” of being some bad to the bone mf from a catholic household, preacher’s daughter type shit

[unborn atlas]

I got a feeling that romanticising christian households wasn't exactly what Ethel Cain was going for

[spice sphinx]

No not exactly

[unborn atlas]

it'd be like listening to Black Dresses and wishing th-[AAAAAGHHHGGG AAAUUHHRRHHH AAAGAGHHGGG NOOOOOO DON'T]

[spice sphinx]

Girls will listen to shit like Ptolemaea and idolize it with that “she’s so me this is literally how I feel when I’m making coffee as a barista for 15 bucks an hour”

[spice sphinx]

What evil thing was about to come out of your mouth

[unborn atlas]

my lawyer has advised I do not not complete this joke

[bronze ocean]

i went from failmale to weirdguy-failgirl

[timid grail]

i went from tomboy weird brony to goth guy

[bronze ocean]

many such cases

the brony to trans masc pipeline

[timid grail]

Also i have been having so many nice positive interactions today with the very clear trans connection today, this super sweet trans woman complimented me and did a bunch of card tricks for me on the bus it was so cute

trans solidarity is the best

[bronze ocean]

or persnaps.. pegasister to trans masc

[cerulean topaz]

There is also a failmale brony to failgirl pegausister pipeline

[timid grail]

and then this trans dude at this dispensary i’ve never been to was super nice to me and complimented my outfit and talked about his soon to be wife it was cute

[bronze ocean]

god so real

[unborn atlas]

one time a trans woman complemented my boots and I became unkillable for several hours

[timid grail]

Literally i feel like a god rn

it made my day instantly good

[unborn atlas]

😊

[cerulean topaz]

An army of transpeople validating each other every 5 seconds would be literally unbeatable in combat

Greatest feeling in the world ngl

[timid grail]

real

[unborn atlas]

uber chain

pictured, trans girls complimenting each other

[cerulean topaz]

of course they're playing tf2

[sturdy trail]

fuck validation all my homies r invalid under cisheteropatriarchy and we love that

top 10 feesh most hated words

[unborn atlas]

yeah man

[sturdy trail]

personally i do not want to be described like a credit card

[unborn atlas]

it's up there with representation

[sturdy trail]

real

[cerulean topaz]

I get that

[chrome snow]

You look rad as hell dude

[astral gull]

Fire vinny

[unborn atlas]

hamdsome

[cerulean topaz]

Anyone have any andro fit tips? I've been mainly sticking to like, tanks, boots, and skinny jeans recently. Kinda love it but I don't want my fits to get stale and also i need more colors than like, black and grey.

[unborn atlas]

longline shirts

[cerulean topaz]

Are those like

Long shirts?

[unborn atlas]

yea

[cerulean topaz]

Ooh thats a bit extreme, makebe like a foot shorter and then ya

[unborn atlas]

yeah this is extreme longline

regular longline would work

[cerulean topaz]

Yah I'll look at some. I also need to find more stuff that accenuates my breasts. They kinda small but I love the looks i get when someone realizes I'm trans

[unborn atlas]

a good bra helps with that

[cerulean topaz]

I still have the same ones I bought early transition a year ago

Have no clue how to shop for them

Everytime ive tried ordering online they come the wrong size

[unborn atlas]

I got fitted

[cerulean topaz]

Ah

I didnt know you could do that

[unborn atlas]

it was pretty funny

the lady said "are you....transgendering?"

[cerulean topaz]

Lmao

[spice sphinx]

I think the critters from critters and the gremlins from gremlins are kinda gender

[inland schooner]

Same LOL this specific guy at my school thinks I'm a trans woman

[unborn atlas]

the cis got no idea

[inland schooner]

I think HES transgender but what do I know

[unborn atlas]

oh woops

[inland schooner]

(The Just because of the transfem stereotype though. Thats my only evidence)

[final heart]

Cringe

[vapid dune]

Jesus Christ you went back like 2 weeks

That’s commitment

[final heart]

Indeed. Just reading through.

I dont keep up with chat channels much

[sturdy trail]

do the other tboys here do sustanon for injection t or something else

nebido looks weird

t window shopping

[astral gull]

baggyyyyyyyy and plenty of neat graphic tees

and oversiezed jeans

[cerulean topaz]

I used to do baggy lol

And graphic tees

Now i do skinny and band tees

But all my band tees are oversized because i think i'm bigger than i am

[astral gull]

it helps w the andro look

[cerulean topaz]

Fair fair

[astral gull]

i also went for a more andro haircut if thats really even a thing

like mid length

[cerulean topaz]

Ah i cant go any shorter than my current length

I love my hair too much

Except for the "oh it's a shame a boy was given all that pretty hair" comments

[astral gull]

thats so mean???

[unborn atlas]

????

people are given the same amount of hair?

now that's some bananas bioessentialism

[cerulean topaz]

Old southern white women are like

A special brand of evil

[astral gull]

EXACTLY

one time i was wearing a spiked choker and the whole shebang and some old dude stood in front of me and crossed his arms and scowled

[cerulean topaz]

Ewww

[astral gull]

and old ladies are liek "you look so dark why??!!?"

and dont even get me started on if you seem afab to their chicken brains but are flat

[cerulean topaz]

Oh god i dont wanna know what that's like

[astral gull]

ive been called sir a few times but like i dont mind

its just weird bc im clearly not a single thing which confuses them

[cerulean topaz]

They will stare at my chest in confusion and call me sir

Sometimes it can be really funny ngl but then they can't leave well enough alone and have to say something

Cuz old people gotta have their "wisdom" heard

[astral gull]

exactly

that reminds me my grandfather says trans ppl are sensitive but gets mad when you call his truck a car

[cerulean topaz]

Lol

[inland schooner]

my mums boyfriend when i say drill instead of spinner 2030 90000 power wyattage 70 FOR SCREWS AND BOLTS ONLY

[astral gull]

um actually its a spinnydoodle 5000 dingle

[inland schooner]

FUCK my bad.....

https://tenor.com/view/bosch-drill-bosch-drill-gif-14421094

spinnydoodle 5000 dingle

[astral gull]

WHAT

THANG**

[proper igloo]

https://tenor.com/view/seal-spin-spinning-spinning-seal-animal-spin-gif-17879679

[astral gull]

TRANSITION GOALS

[proper igloo]

true

[cerulean topaz]

To be a critter

[inland schooner]

https://tenor.com/view/undertale-dog-spinning-spin-gif-22531503

me after i transition fully ^

[astral gull]

unsolicited opinion moment

[cerulean topaz]

How fast does that puppy go????

[inland schooner]

my nan loves doing that

[inland schooner]

am just a silly dog i go 500 mph

[astral gull]

my grandfather thinking he ate when he says "why dont you wear stuff with flowers and pink"

why dont you stop cheating on your wife bill?

[proper igloo]

damn

[cerulean topaz]

GET HIS ASS

FUCK BILL

[astral gull]

got his ass

if i ever said that id get my ass beat

theres a reason why my moms siblings are all half siblings....

[cerulean topaz]

My mom says my unending rage is unbeffiting of a woman

[astral gull]

complete opposite

see - ginger fitzgerald

[cerulean topaz]

Frfr

Angry bitches are the realist

[astral gull]

Anger is rejuvinating

female rage just goes so hard

[valid sun]

if youre on T this is common

it's cause most people assume transgender individuals are mtf

im stealth at work like 99% of the time so i get called like

"bud" "buddy" and "lil man" by like

white guys lol

cause im almost 18 but i look/sound like im 16ish

its obvs im not an aduly

adult

but extremely gender affirming

i wish i had like a weird ethereal strange way i viewed my gender but it hasnt swayed since i knew its always just been like male

not masc or fem or andro just malw

male

also why i dont identify w/ the word transmasc personally

cause my gender isnt fem or masc its just male

[inland schooner]

yeah

real for that

[spice sphinx]

Oh yeah I get mistaken for a transmasc sometimes and idk how to respond to that

[inland schooner]

i do not like the word transmasc as a catch call for all people who transition from afab, like no im not just 'masc' im a whole ass man

[spice sphinx]

Like are you trying to tell a transmasc person they don’t pass??

[valid sun]

its so strange lol cause they only imagine transgender people to not be transitioning so tfems who pass and tmascs who pass in a sense are clocked the oppositw

[inland schooner]

not that theres anything wrong with it, but i dont like it personally

[valid sun]

yeah this/transfem and afab/amab is just sex segregation

but make it progressive i guess

the difference is important though

it just sucks theres no word for it

that isnt that

[inland schooner]

shrug

[valid sun]

and afab/amab was originally for intersex people

but it always gets co opted s9

so

[inland schooner]

i dont know shit about anything but does that not defeat that whole 'point' of being intersex

[valid sun]

i call myself transsexual but it comes off as transmed-y i think i dont want it to though

[inland schooner]

(i say point for a lack of better word)

[valid sun]

no bc its just meant for what theyre assigned as

[inland schooner]

ohh ok thank u

[valid sun]

intersex people can have more male/female endocrine systems

theyre assigned m/f or x at birth rhougu

though*

[inland schooner]

i think the word transmed has been blown out but dont take it from me because im not online really

doesnt transmed literally just mean you think you need to have dysphoria to be trans?

[spice sphinx]

Yes

[valid sun]

its not just that but thats the main thing

[inland schooner]

also i say transsexual because yeah it suits me better

[valid sun]

it's also saying "you have to hate yourself to be trans"

essentially

like "you have to go through xyz surgeries and hrt to be trans"

[spice sphinx]

Kind of

[inland schooner]

is that not kinda the point

[valid sun]

they shit on guys who do hrt but dont get top surgery for example

[spice sphinx]

You see transmed shit on /tttt/

[spice sphinx]

Huh

[inland schooner]

i say that like

please excuse my better lack of wording

but to realise your trans you have to have a (any) form of discomfort with yourself?

[spice sphinx]

Eh

[inland schooner]

that includes a disconnect from gender/ etc becasue that can cause distress

[valid sun]

honestly the word transgender is recently like a thing that i feel will become obsolete soon

cause theres gender diverse people culturally who arent transgender

and who grew up on a separate sex/gender spectrum

but like

no not really

some people just dont care

my partner is transgender but has no dysphoria

[sturdy trail]

ya this is what i've been saying

[inland schooner]

yeah is that not listed usually as like "transgender/nonbinary/gender diverse"?

[valid sun]

yeah

or gender variant

[inland schooner]

oh cool

[spice sphinx]

There does not have to be low self esteem or self hatred or dissatisfaction of any kind

[valid sun]

but people saying stuff like "gender doesnt matter so you dont need to do xyz and you shouldnt conform" dont realize that you cant really break from a society thats engrained certain stereotypes for hundreds of years and most people are comfortable transitioning to look that way

so in reality its more like "gender and sex is a language thats societal" and "language doesnt erase biology"

this is all my opinion though

[sturdy trail]

if anything self hatred just hinders transition

[valid sun]

so its more like who cares

let people do what they feel best

[valid sun]

yeah i feel like this sometimes

[spice sphinx]

I mean part of tearing down these walls is understanding that the concepts of gender are completely fabricated around stereotypes and norms and all that people just conform to.

[valid sun]

right

and that also doesnt mean theyre inherently evil

whats evil is to weaponize it

and to use it to oppress others

we cancelled my top surgery appointment cause i thought about it and i just dont want it/i dont have a strong feeling about it

but some transmed would call me a trender for that 🙄 like its none of your business anywaus

[spice sphinx]

“Transgenderism” as a mental health issue and diagnosis seeks to gain pity from the system for individuals who have some “ailment” instead of focusing on what the importance really should be, and that’s the self determination of people’s identities

[valid sun]

yeah i just view gender as something like a name

it can have cultural aspects or not, it can be chosen or given, it can change, there can be multiple

etc

[spice sphinx]

Calling people “transtrender” has got to be one of the most revealing things about a person’s self worth ever

[valid sun]

yeah lol

like what the fuck is second hand dysphoria

[spice sphinx]

Everyone knows the most important thing about being trans is telling other trans people they’re doing it wrong!

[valid sun]

theyre jealous and they have issues with their environment

its just like top tier projection

some people say that people who transition to be binary are conformists though and i dont really believe that

cause again

it should be personal

self ID in good faith is okay

no matter what it is

some people are comfortable that way

and thats fine

[spice sphinx]

I mean everyone conforms to an extent it’s just how things work

[sturdy trail]

i'm not gonna say anything about this cuz people r gonna get on my ass

[valid sun]

yeah its not like you can break down hundreds of years of societal issues

that easily at least

[sturdy trail]

Increasingly, the assimilationist gay and lesbian groups in the United States, in a kind of throwback to the nineteenth century, argue that homosexuality is inborn, that it is genetically determined ("we can't help it that we're gay, we were born that way, so please don't discriminate against us" - an echo of the nineteenth-century argument that practically solicits pity and that in no way challenges the built-in social repression of same-sex love). The middle-class gay movement today seeks special treatment for a special kind of person who has adopted a "gay" identity - "gay people" - rather than seeking to liberate the repressed sexual potential of everyone. For them, what matters is identity, not practice. The basic argument of the gay movement today boils down to the following: Homosexuals are born that way, and heterosexuals are born that way; therefore, homosexual liberation poses no threat to the status quo and dominance of heterosupremacy. This is the old "nature versus nurture" argument dressed up in new, accommodationist clothes.

reminds me of this

[valid sun]

yeah see like

no one is born with a sexuality or gender

though people whk say its always fluid are wring

sorry if i make typos im disabled and jt hurts to type sometimes

it can be fluid but not always

[sturdy trail]

i'm going to break down hundreds of years of societal issues by having gay sex

[valid sun]

it should be this easy but i think everyone knows its not

[sturdy trail]

this feels kinda like defeatism

[valid sun]

essentially in the same vein as racial blindness or class blindness

nah

just saying its not as easy

we can still do it

but acting like it doesnt exist wont make progression

[spice sphinx]

I think ultimately being critical of the way in which we conform to stereotypes and trends and such is always important. Understanding the futility of a binary or any structured system of categorization

[valid sun]

is what im saying really

[sturdy trail]

what i saying !!!!!! point up emoji

[spice sphinx]

This isn’t that though, what we’re talking about is being critical of these ideas and dismantling them, in the case of your comparison: it’s not racial blindness, it’s critical race theory

[valid sun]

sorry i dont think im clear

i agree with you

what i was saying was that some people can talk about gender/sex in a way thats like "we should disregard everything" without having to struggle with constant socialization/roles being forced

you should absolutely be critical of them and work for liberation

ive had people try to go a route where they think it's essentially just perspective and doesnt affect people though

because theres external forces that push it

family members, workplace, sexualization

etc

but still actively work against it

[spice sphinx]

Oh yeah that’s completely valid, I see people do this shit all the time

Communists disregarding issues of race because “class is the only divider of the people”

[valid sun]

right

[spice sphinx]

Failing to comprehend that even if race is fake it’s effects are not

Same goes with gender norms

[valid sun]

thats what i was trying to say sorry 😅

[spice sphinx]

God marx was such a chud

Racist bastard

[valid sun]

many cases

[spice sphinx]

Lmao

[valid sun]

though his framework fits into progressive ideas very well

if people can at least discuss intersectionality without making it just identity politics blunder though

[spice sphinx]

It’s messy

This is a topic that has been beaten and dragged through the dirt more times than I can count, I think I have heard the term “identity politics” in debate more than anything else in my life

[sturdy trail]

this is why i

oop

this is why i've started using the word identitarian more cuz idpol just reminds me of Those people

[valid sun]

i try not to come off as the same people who say stupif shit like "wokescold" when i use it

saying "wokescold" just makes me assume (theyre) a racist

[spice sphinx]

Postmodernist marketplace of ideas garbo, by detatching these ideas and concepts from real people and making them free floating ideas they are effectively neutered, nothing will come of it as long as it is abstracted and rendered non-actionable by debate

Hundreds of years of revisionist marxism and what have we got to show for it? Jack and shit!

[valid sun]

semi unrelated but doing mutual aid and stuff has made me infinitely more educated about oppression and its day to day interactions than being online

people just say shit online and dont go outside or read about it

theres a number of marxists on twitter who i know have not read shit and/or actively help their community and just get everything from a twitter thread

has to be one of the worst things

[spice sphinx]

It’s a balancing act

The people who disregard all theory in favor of planting trees in their suburbs as praxis aren’t doing much, or as much as they could

And the urbanites that watch breadtube videos while they chow down on their slop aren’t doing shit either

[valid sun]

this is true

lol i barely know what breadtube is but slop is a good word for it

[spice sphinx]

Breadtube is the subset of content creators that are very left leaning and make high production content on the platform

ContraPoints, Jacob Geller, etc.

That’s breadtube

It’s not bad content but it’s like, baby’s first steps

[valid sun]

oh yeah my friends used to watch her

contrapoints

[sturdy trail]

the only one associated with breadtube that i can tolerate is cuck philosophy

explaining deleuze with drum machines has got to be top 10 videos ever

[austere jay]

update on shaved head this is the most gender affirming action i could’ve possibly taken

[unborn atlas]

woo!

[bronze ocean]

i would never call cuck phil a breadtuber he doesnf deserve that

[sturdy trail]

so true

[unborn atlas]

the guy who came up with the term is a toolbelt

[chrome snow]

The only breadtuber that I watch is hbomberguy.

[vapid dune]

The FUCK is a breadtuber??? You people are taking the piss right? Or is it some homie that discusses bread varieties

[bronze ocean]

its like a term people started using for people who make video essays about leftism, then also about anything vaguely relating to "progressive" politics, then basically anybody who made video essays about common topics but is not reactionary about it

[misty harness]

usually used as an insult

[bronze ocean]

yeah nowadays it is

[vapid dune]

I see I see

Gotta love how ever since I’ve been here whenever there’s new people coming in to work, my coworkers feel like taking the liberty to tell them I’m trans. I once asked one of them why the fuck they’re doing this and she said “well you can’t not tell them you have to be upfront about it you shouldn’t be deceiving people and letting them believe you’re a girl”

Cis people logic I swear. I guess by that logic the point is to be looking like a girl but still be known to be AMAB

[zinc oriole]

Cis people don't have to explain that they're cis

And cis gays aren't (always) expected to instantaneously come out

The same respect should go for trans people

[astral gull]

That has to be illegal

[zinc oriole]

Unfortunately not

[bronze ocean]

we gotta start biting

[zinc oriole]

Forcibly outing somebody isn't against the law, the panic law is still legal in a lot of states too

So

:(

[bronze ocean]

perhaps some rending of the flesh

[zinc oriole]

My butcher career starts now

🥩

[bronze ocean]

chop chop haha chop chop hack

[zinc oriole]

🔪🍴🍽

[vapid dune]

What I must make to inform people “lol no it ain’t illegal to discriminate against me or any sort of injustice I face it’s just life”

It’s just cis people being cis people

Thinking apparently I must let the world know that I am trans otherwise I’m “deceiving them”

[astral gull]

God forbid they don't know something abt you that u don't wanna share

[spice sphinx]

Scroll up 9 messages before you asked this

[inland schooner]

That has to be the funniest word wtf 🔥🔥

[spice sphinx]

Ya see it’s called bread tube because it gets stale real fast

Badum tiss

Not actually I have no idea why it’s called that

[bronze ocean]

conquest of bread

[spice sphinx]

Oh yeahh

That thing

[bronze ocean]

certified thought slime moment

[spice sphinx]

I’m just being mean to these poor defenseless very-clearly-rich-asf-bourgeoisie-hipsters

[zinc oriole]

Starting to like my mustache more

I usually shave it but I've been feeling more confident abt it :]

[unborn atlas]

it's a reference to Kropotkin

[sturdy trail]

kropotkin is so mid compared to other anarchist writers

[valid sun]

win then

i havent trimmed or shaved my neck beard since it started growing

i took this picture as a joke and then i felt really gender affirmed right after cause i was like Dude this stupid ass beard..

my eyebrow went ~

[vapid dune]

Yea potemkin is my favorite grappler in guilty gear

[zinc oriole]

WIN

You went 🤨

[unborn atlas]

Battleship Kropotkin

that guy hates bread

[valid sun]

Legit

[unborn atlas]

trans men growing beards: you rock and I want nothing but the best for you

however

don't let it become a neckbeard

[zinc oriole]

My neck hair doesn't grow very often for some reason

Once I shave it it takes forever to come back

[sturdy trail]

it's always either the neckbeard or a pedo stache

[unborn atlas]

and like! good for them! good for them. any amount of facial hair must be a boon and a blessing

but do take a step back and look after yourself

personally

I could never grow a mo

[sturdy trail]

performing masculinity includes facial hair care

and braiding ur armpit hair

[unborn atlas]

trans men who are surprised cis men don't know how to braid hair and trans women who are surprised most cis women don't wear makeup:

FIGHT

[cerulean topaz]

I remember freaking about makeup early on

Looking back, it's really funny how hyperfocused you can get on something that genuinly matters so little

Chilling the fuck out and not always trying to perform gender all the time has helped my transition so much

[vapid dune]

I performed gender so hard I reverted back to masculinity

Shoutout to my fellow transfems who behave like a dude and don’t give in to societal pressure to behave in what’s expected of your appearance

[cerulean topaz]

Hell yah

[grand current]

gender gross and stupid 🤢

all the homies hate gender

icky

[unborn atlas]

I'm feeling that more lately

the only thing that matters currently is my pronouns

[unborn atlas]

where my clocky transfemmes at

[cerulean topaz]

[vapid dune]

Omg meeee . If I don’t do my makeup everyday I look like a whole ass man lmao

It’s the only thing keeping me from being clocked at work

[cerulean topaz]

I kinda like being clocky idk. At first i hated it but i think the androgony rocks

I kinda like how it bugs certain people

[unborn atlas]

https://fxtwitter.com/BLOODSADx/status/1667080773059620864

[vapid dune]

One thing I’ll never not love about you zenoby is how little you care about your voice

Admirable imo

I must try and sound feminine to the cissies but when in the queer comfort zone I’m good sounding like a dude

[vapid dune]

So TRUE

If I didn’t live in Alabama therefore didn’t have to give it my best effort to pass I would deadass not even make an effort to pass appearance or voice wise

I am completely one heck of a dude in a feminized body

[unborn atlas]

you are stronger than every US marine and god 🫡

[timid grail]

me and my trans fem friend were out earlier and were joking about how ppl think she’s a trans guy and ppl think im a trans girl by how we were dressing

its funny when you’re just generally giving trans but being gnc just makes people unsure of what kind lol

being on hormones makes me more comfortable with dressing however but depends on the day

[unborn atlas]

"which way" lookinass

[vapid dune]

This is why I never let my hair drop below my shoulders cus I’d rather have the freedom to present more masc in an environment where I am okay to without being hate crimed

Giving trans dude vibes as a transfem is B word as fuck

[timid grail]

when i studied abroad in australia my classmate told me she thought i was trans fem bc i didnt tell anyone im a trans guy 😭 it was kinda funny

i love confusing cis people

[vapid dune]

Tbh yea. I think I’m sort of losing respect from cis girls at work but gaining plenty from cis guys cus like. I will GLADLY give them a bro hug and bro handshake and yell at them in the manliest most husky voice ever and act like a general meathead around them and it’s made them all respect my name and preferences more. For some reason.

I guess it makes me, a trans person, seem more approachable in their mind?

But the cis girls at work are instead like “you’re supposed to be behaving like a lady that’s why you’re on estrogen!!!!” lol no that’s kinda cringe

[astral gull]

I've had people hesitate before saying Sir or ma'am lmao

They always seem so worried

Do yall ever get weird pfp dysphoria like if the character is too fem you feel like you come off too fem or vice versa

[vapid dune]

I used to when I considered myself a trans girl I was super self conscious about my repressed masculinity. Now I don’t give a damn

[unborn atlas]

"nice dichotomy, shithead! what exists outside it??"

[astral gull]

Ok I thought I was just weird

[unborn atlas]

I think all trans people have an interesting relationship with their assigned aesthetic

I've noticed trans men generally have more of a willingness to engage with their.....I'm not gonna say "feminine side" because I'm not in the fucking 70's

but like I remember people going apeshit over "soft" trans men and it's like

the toxmasc trans men are usually uninteresting, unpleasant people to be around

[astral gull]

If I don't seem androgynous in all regards I'll wanna rip my face off

So I use characters in that sort of appearance (even though SOME aren't the best ppl they're fictional(

[astral gull]

Man I knew some they were such foul little things

[vapid dune]

Think part of what warped my own perception of where I fall on the spectrum between femininity and masculinity is realizing that growing up I didn’t quite admire girl characters for their feminine traits. I admired the “boyish” girls who were strong and independent. Or characters of dubious gender

[unborn atlas]

I know a trans dude who's bald and has a big beard and is way into boxing and he is just the sweetest dude

[vapid dune]

I never admired “traditionally feminine” personality traits whatsoever. Moreso that idea of blurring lines appearance wise

[astral gull]

He sounds like it fs

[tardy creek]

@astral gull has leveled up! (9 ➜ 10)

[astral gull]

Kill

[unborn atlas]

even tho I know we're developing a mutual "I am going to beat the shit out of you (romantic???)" arc together

[astral gull]

CUTE

Reminds mr

Me*

[unborn atlas]

he's drawn my fursona in boxing gear a whole bunch

[vapid dune]

Fighting with your partner in a romantic way and not a toxic way

[unborn atlas]

romantic (friends)

[astral gull]

Why was I like flipping out over my dude friend potential love interest arc saying he'd wear a dress am I insane its not a sexual thing

[vapid dune]

Point still stands

I feel like in the past couple years this is tbh becoming more prevalent like trans people embracing androgyny rather than just wanting to be as close to their chosen gender as possible

Any and all gender expression is valid and rad but it feels like it’s a sign of finally being able to break away from the societal norms that cis people created and being open to express ourselves without giving a shit what cis people have to say about it

And that’s pretty fucking rad

[valid sun]

Trying so hard

it's super patchy cause this is the first time my facial hair is coming in and it's been 4 years

[sturdy trail]

this is my experience too

bro code knows no bounds

[unborn atlas]

you'll figure it out

[sturdy trail]

literally me

[vapid dune]

God I wish that were me

[final heart]

wore a skirt out for like the third time ever last night

walked all the way to the restaurant too

thought i was gonna die fr

[feral wind]

i wore one last day of school got so many odd looks with some harassment

but fuck it we ball

[astral gull]

Mad respectable

[feral wind]

thank you

[final heart]

ppl give me weird looks anyway ig i might as well wear a skirt

[feral wind]

yea same

cause im quiet af

[spice sphinx]

My clinic said they were able to start giving out hrt again but I guess that was a lie 🙃

Running out of meds

[vapid dune]

Florida is really fucking horrible. I’m super sorry to hear

[spice sphinx]

Already out of progesterone as of today

[vapid dune]

Are you not able to access HRT through some online method like plume?

[spice sphinx]

Noap

Telehealth was banned under the bill

[vapid dune]

Would a black market alternative like (I hate having to suggest this) otokonoko not ship to Florida?

[spice sphinx]

Has to be an in person md

[vapid dune]

If you ever must leave Florida I’m sure there’s plenty of people who would be okay with being roommates elsewhere

I don’t care what anyone may say, genuinely I hope Ron Desantis dies I wish him a painful slow death. Him and every other Republican lawmaker. May they all perish for trying to make our life hell like this

[zinc oriole]

The service folx just announced the hrt ban was deemed unconstitutional I thought?

At least I got an email through folx abt that

It's a kind of big fee each month but I think it's worth it

[spice sphinx]

I don’t know of any that ship across state lines like that

[spice sphinx]

No idea what that even is

Oh okay yeah folx health is a telehealth thing that’s not allowed either

[spice sphinx]

Also yeah I don’t got the money to do that girly I’m kinda fucked