Losing a meaningful friend after graduation

[verbal helm]

A really meaningful friend decided to end the friendship with me after finding out the mistakes that I have made in the past. I havent contacted as I wanted to respect her wishes but I'm really starting to doubt all the work I've done with the second chance that I was given before the friendship even became a thing.

[tidal tiger]

Good thing that you're respecting her decisions but I think she hasn't moved on from the mistakes you've made in the past, hence the ending of a good friendship

But if you really want to make things work out again then maybe drop her a text and have a deep conversation!

[glossy ginkgo]

But then isn't he violating the boundary she set tho ?

I'm asking cause I had a similar thing with a friend ,we were really good friends but then one argument led to anathor one day and it all blew up ... She told me not to talk to her but I wish we could've atleast not parted on such bad terms

[tidal tiger]

He'll know once he asks about a convo. She can be straightforward and say that she doesn't want to talk about it. And that'll be it.

Unless you're bothering her or spamming her texts, it's fine. A simple text doesn't hurt.

[nocturne tulip]

id honestlyl tell you to let time pass

time softens rough edges and people eventually find space to forgive

even if they dont forgive you, they will recognize change if you have since then

i remember losing a bunch of very close friends over something stupid i did in the past and even though i dont talk with a large majority of them, some chose to reach out and still talk with me today

[sterile herald]

If you can look back at yourself and see yourself when you were making those mistakes, and compare that person to who you are now, if you can see a difference then you can’t let yourself be discouraged. All we can do is try to be better and strive to improve, regardless of who you were, you can always change into who you want to be. And if you think you haven’t changed that much, then it’s all the more reason to not give up and to strive to move forward

[verbal helm]

and yet I lost everyone now. All this time after my history and past mistakes I thoguth I finally grew out of the version of myself that I hated the most. Yet I can see now it just came back to me without realizing it until it was too late. I've completely lost everyone and I don't know what to do anymore and Idk how I can hold onto this much guilt behind me with striving to be the friend I wanted to be for everyone until I crossed a line.

One single mistake made from my relapse of patterns that made me a horrible person came back and I should've noticed it sooner. Ive lost friends that I thought would be by my side forever and choose to be there even with my not so good upbringing

[nocturne tulip]

unfortunately thats life

some people are meant to stay while others dont

while it feels easy to blame yourself over and over again, whats done is done

the best thing you can do now is accept what once was and move ahead, find new people, reinvent yourself