Unsure about a friendship

[rugged hollow]

Hello, I’m unsure about a friendship dynamic and i’d like a few opinions on whether the friendship is normal or if it’s something i should slowly step away from.

Basically, there’s this girl and we have been friends for a couple of years. We consider ourselves best friends now but i’ve noticed a few things in the friendship that i don’t appreciate having in my ideal friendship.
So you know how a lot of girls are “girls girls” these days? Like they’re super supportive of each other, always shower each other with compliments, hype each other up irl and on social media, are physically affection, etc. Well, my friend doesn’t like girls girls because she thinks they are too much and she isn’t a girls girl either. I have to ask her to compliment me, she doesn’t hype me up on social media or when i send pictures of myself- she says stuff like “I was asking for other pictures” or “Your hairstyle is ugly”, etc., I don’t notice a lot of support from her when it comes to my future- she often says stuff like, “oh your parents would never let you do that” in a sort of demeaning way.

So yeah it’s this amongst a couple of other stuff that i’m not fond of so i’m not sure it this is the right kind of friendship and if i could step away and cut it off slowly.

<@&1483139848717209705> can someone please advice on the above?

[frail cedar]

what's up?

[rugged hollow]

@frail cedar

[prisma skiff]

Wassup

[rugged hollow]

@prisma skiff

[frail cedar]

do you think she's deliberately being mean or is there maybe a misunderstanding?

[rugged hollow]

deliberately probably because she does it a lot and she’s been doing it all over the years?

[frail cedar]

how long have you been friends with her?

[rugged hollow]

couple of years

[prisma skiff]

Well if your "friend" does say stuff like then it's not a friend in my opinion

[rugged hollow]

right? that’s what i was thinking

[frail cedar]

does she ask you for compliments etc too?

[rugged hollow]

idk, i don’t remember because we haven’t met in a while but she does seek validation sometimes

[frail cedar]

there's a possibility she's just a very blunt person as well but nevertheless if you don't want to stay friends with her there's nothing wrong with that

[prisma skiff]

I mean my friends laugh at me for getting a trash cut

[rugged hollow]

yeah

[frail cedar]

if youre looking for different things in the friendship maybe you should consider that too, if you want a "girls' girl" and she's not cutting it for you someone else might support you?

[rugged hollow]

that’s normal i do that to my guy friends as well but not all the time

[frail cedar]

have you tried talking to her about how you feel?

[rugged hollow]

yeah that’s what i figured

[rugged hollow]

i have indirectly sometimes it never made a difference

[frail cedar]

does being direct with her seem like a good idea?

[prisma skiff]

You should stay as a friend in my opinion

[frail cedar]

if youre indirect maybe she won't notice and if you try to communicate clearly and she doesn't care then that's another problem

[rugged hollow]

it really doesn’t

[frail cedar]

why is that?

[rugged hollow]

she has her exams going on rn, and they go on for a long time

after they’re over we’ll both be off on our way

separate paths

[rugged hollow]

it’s not something she has the time for and i’ve tried mentioning it i recently did as well she just said she’s tired

and that the pictures were black and white so that’s why she didn’t compliment

it’s lowkey tiring

[rugged hollow]

why

[prisma skiff]

As a distinct friends

Not close friends

[frail cedar]

were you planning on parting ways anyway then?

[rugged hollow]

oh yeah, that makes sense

[rugged hollow]

it wasn’t planned planned ofcourse but that’s most likely what will happen after we pass school

[frail cedar]

it's your choice to keep in touch or not then

[prisma skiff]

Being friends with some1 who doesn't support each other isn't a good idea 😭

[rugged hollow]

exactly 😭😭