My Situationship

[fresh coyote]

So I have been talking to this girl for 5 months now and everything has been going smoothly up until 2 weeks ago. We used to text daily, tell each other about our days, flirted, good mornings and good nights, and overall the both of us were consistent. we talked in person but only a little because the both of us were shy with each other around our classmates. We had moments where I felt that we are definitely going to be end up in a relationship like taking pictures with her, and physical closeness like holding hands. We even had a serious conversation one time about us, we talked about how my feelings for her is real and wanted to be in a relationship with her but she doubted me and said that maybe I am just infatuated. We kept talking and I managed to convince her, so we both agreed to "try" as in getting to know each other more emotionally on a deeper level. That happened last month and we really did go through those talks. But now for some reason, it recently became one sided on my end to the point we haven't talked for almost a week now. This is all new to me and I dont know how to deal with this. I have been searching on the internet for reasons to why she is doing this and I am still lost. Is this avoidant behavior or did she simply lose interest?

[cedar osprey]

Nah you are just getting used for attention.

[sudden cliff]

She also might've just lost interest. It definitely happens.

My son's first girlfriend did the same thing. They clicked for a bit then she just kinda wandered off.

[fresh coyote]

dang

[fresh coyote]

that hurts

[sudden cliff]

It does.

[fresh coyote]

idk how I should feel rn. She is the first girl I've invested my feelings in

[sudden cliff]

Feel hurt, feel loss, feel your feels. It hurts and it might for a while, but life goes on.

[urban osprey]

I’m not sure but the moment they know the real you is when maybe their fantasy of you disappears

[sudden cliff]

I heard a TED Talk about loss one time that said something along the lines of "You don't miss your ex, you miss the promise of who they could've been."

[fresh coyote]

that sounds realistic

she texted me "how are you" last night

[fresh coyote]

i have mixed feelings for this

[minor sonnet]

Sounds like there's also an element where you thought you had a better grasp of the situation than you actually did. Anytime you get excited about anything, it's gonna be great, maybe you didn't see the signs of things ending and this is the first one you actually noticed. Which is fine because that is a really hard skill to learn. There also has to be an understanding where you aren't entitled to her time or attention. I would bring it up directly, if she wants to tell you what's up then great, if she doesn't then that's kinda that.

[fresh coyote]

hey, thanks for letting me know. I will bring it up eventually just so i can have peace of mind.

[minor sonnet]

You also sound fairly young so you will be alright. Everyone has to go through this learning experience, some people come out the other side with life long trauma, so you'll be alright, I promise

[fresh coyote]

I really appreciate you, stuff happens i guess