#How to get rid of her without hurting her

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river basalt
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my ex and I were in a toxic relationship, we had been arguing for three years and she was always the one who left(in the sense of ignoring me and saying she doesn't love me) I was the emotional one who blocked her after my trying to get her back

It always comes back after 2-3 months, it's always nice at the beginning and we always fight, it was always my jealousy and I always accepted it back because I didn't have time to get over it.

Now that we've been at a long distance, we've been seeing each other from time to time, and now she came and wanted to see me, but this time I don't have feelings for her.

I made a mistake and I got into a relationship with her again because I didn't want to hurt her, I thought she would get angry quickly and it would be the same as before, only next time I won't make a mistake

She used to be repulsive, angry, she didn't care about me, I was possessive and I just wanted her to love me, I was always in second place, someone was always more important

But now it's different, all I wanted and told her that I miss her is now before she left, she even cried and I don't feel anything, I thought all this, but I worry enough not to hurt her, what should I do?

plain forum
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i would say there’s no exact solution to ur situation, but you’re going to have to make choices in your life that will inevitably hurt people, but you have to remember it’s for your own sake, and a decisions like those are not selfish at all. the most courageous things we can do is being honest, where we have to face the consequences of people’s guilt, frustration, and anger. in truth, after you tell her that you no longer having feelings, it is up to her to decide how she will handle it, and whatever her reaction is something you cannot control, but it doesn’t change that they decision you made was right and that will ultimately lead you to a better life instead of staying stuck in the same chapter.

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and it wouldn’t be right to stay in a relationship without having feelings for your partner