(this is my first time in this sevrer so i'm kinda neurvous and sorry for my bad english) I'm 17 and yet i feel like I'm an idiot. Its always that time whenever i feel like an idiot with the lack of education but also gives more information to something that isn't important to education or anything important but rather by interest and someone in need for help that is other than critical thinking. I can read sometimes but can't understand any words to put them together for a meaning and understanding complex words that I could not understand.
#I dont know why I feel like I'm not smart enough but not dumb at the same time
flint aspen
I'm from a country where most of the people i live in speak in their native language which I didnt learn much from due to my forgetfullness. I just feel pathetic knowing that an actual child knows more than me and soon they would be more smarter than I am when they are older.
I just wanna be more smarter to understand things on what i could not, even if its so simple. And yet its so simple for me to understand at the same time like its a mix feeling on if im smart about it or not
odd arrow
So from what I can understand,you feel frustrated with yourself because you say you are stupid because you don’t understand things as fast as others do, or not knowledgeable enough or you can’t articulate(like put things into words that easily)?
timber bone
(this is my first time in this sevrer so i'm kinda neurvous and sorry for my bad...
Hey! Don’t worry, you’re not an idiot. 😊 Everyone struggles with some things, and it’s normal to feel that way sometimes. It’s great that you’re curious and want to learn, even if some words or ideas are tricky. You’re already doing something important — trying and helping others. Keep going, you’re doing better than you think!
flint aspen
So from what I can understand,you feel frustrated with yourself because you say ...
in a way kinda. I also have a thing where i somewhat understand how others feel more rather than knowing stuff in learning which is weird for me
like smart enough to do something but lack the wit of it
or smth
odd arrow
Hey! Don’t worry, you’re not an idiot. 😊 Everyone struggles with some things, a...
Correct I agree, no one has the same processing speed or learning ability, there is always something you are good at and you can build from there, example you are good at hands on work, that’s a form of skill
flint aspen
I may have another thing where i can understand well, but thats what everyone simply had what others dont which leads to me just being a dummy with a decent amount of empathy.
literally on highschool and yet i feel like i didnt learn anything at all man
i just forget it all
timber bone
I may have another thing where i can understand well, but thats what everyone si...
Hey, I get what you mean. Feeling like you’re “behind” sometimes is normal, but having empathy is really important — not everyone has that. Everyone has things they’re good at, even if it’s not always obvious. You’re not a dummy; you just have your own strengths.
odd arrow
Learning anything usually is if you understand it, you better retain that knowledge
Like remember it
autumn fractal
Many people grow up speaking just one language and going through one school system. Comparing yourself to others will almost always make you feel worse. They aren’t living your life, facing your challenges, or having your experiences !!
From your message, I see someone who is brave enough to discuss their insecurities. You’re still in the middle of your growth. Everyone is unique, and there is no real definition of being stupid. Everyone learns at their own speed and in their own way.
odd arrow
True,school doesn’t teach you everything, you will just keep learning something new almost every day
Knowledge or learning comes from school, books, everyday experiences, activities etc, it’s almost limitless where you can learn
flint aspen
I'm that of a stubborn person sadly. I just feel a bit off telling out my problems even to my parents because my stubborness usually predict what they are saying like "you are not that you could be better if you just try that" they do care what i love them for it but I feel like it didnt really hit well on me much
odd arrow
Hm then what exactly do you like to learn? Like topics that excite you?
flint aspen
my impatient mind always distract me to understand or read stuff
hell i rarely read a book at all yet more invested to a semi novel like story game
which SOMEWHAT got me more invested on how it represent through the developemnt of characters on how they feel
like a character named hong lu which supress his emotions due to his truamatic backstory and the consequences of telling it out which leads to him hiding his emotions till many long years yada yada and stuff
I understand how they feel in the story
but i cant explain it
its just hard for me to put it out on words on anything because my mind is scatterbrained
odd arrow
I see someone still trying to put into words that we can understand to listen to you, that is a good start
odd arrow
not smart on intelligence though sadly <:hamster:1243091630420922389>
Let me give you something I hope you can understand. School is like putting many different animals to race, except you know the fish definitely can’t run and has to plop to the finishing line
You don’t have to compare yourself, just ask yourself what interests you, usually interests can grow to something we are good at and proud of
Usually school is there to teach you how to go about society to work but it shouldn’t limit you or make you think you are stupid because of grades,because no one is stupid, everyone is just build different in many ways and raised differently.
flint aspen
I dont wanna compare myself to others, i just want to learn better where a fish who already knows how to swim yet don't know where to go.
odd arrow
Then perhaps ask yourself the questions like where in life do you wanna go, like you wanna be a doctor? You love animals hence you wanna do jobs relating to animals?
autumn fractal
like a character named hong lu which supress his emotions due to his truamatic b...
Bad grades do not make who you are. Everyone in school faces their problems. I am sure you are not alone in feeling this way. You are already showing that you are smart, about feelings. Not everyone can. Share how others feel. It takes a kind of smarts to connect with someones story and understand their emotions.
flint aspen
I am very sorry if im denying yall help but i feel like i wanna talk more about my problems to find a correct reasson
Idk if it sounds rude sry
odd arrow
No no it’s fine, I am sure all of us here still want to hear you out
At least for me I apologise, I have a direct way of saying things but I promise I am doing my best to show empathy.
autumn fractal
No no it’s fine, I am sure all of us here still want to hear you out
My eyes are wide open! ☺️
flint aspen
My parents want me to get a better education along with the fee being so high and yet i chose to waste it over my own distraction. The cause of my bad grades is myself being incompetent on my learning because i chose not to. And the fact i acknowledge what is happening makes me a bad person, even if i had empathy or anything. I'm too stubborn to change and too stuborn to not wanting to stay in the same shallow sea forever.
I am my own problems which i have caused and i complain about it.
I am that person who is too stubborn to change my path and yet complains on being in the same road that leads to nowhere
I always had random breaksdowns on what I'm going to do in life and then forget about it or drown it off with something
odd arrow
Stubbornness often come from feeling whatever new proposal or advice leads to uncertainty hence you reject the advice, or you are confused yourself with what you want and you rather stick to whatever you are on while you try figure out, then you get frustrated when you can’t find your answers
flint aspen
(It's late on my time, sorry if i can't be helped gn 
)
odd arrow
No for me I am trying to understand what to say
flint aspen
Its all good
odd arrow
What I can say is that you don’t have to have everything in life figured out, many things takes time and reflection to derive something you can learn from, you don’t even need to know exactly what career you want to go to right now, you can simply outline what you are interested in example you love painting, you love math example, strengthen those parts you know you like because if you like something, you are more willing to work on it
Simply slow down, one at a time, like you already did your part of opening up to random strangers about your insecurities and admitting things that take courage, I am proud of you for that