Why do I feel like nothing is real nothing really matters and I don’t recognise people like my parents and when I speak to them I just go
blanked out and after the interaction with them I just feel awful with my self and lasted question stuff in my head which results in me never being comfortable no matter where I am.
#Help
obtuse vapor
faint rapids
Why do I feel like nothing is real nothing really matters and I don’t recognise ...
That kind of sounds like "dissociation," does it feel like you're someplace else while your body kind of acts on autopilot?
obtuse vapor
That kind of sounds like "dissociation," does it feel like you're someplace else...
Yes I don’t know what I am doing each day it’s like every day after any interaction with my parents or anyone else I am not satisfied and I feel awful afterwards I don’t how we all came here and what would happen and that we can’t control that which annoys me
I feel like I can’t even do anything even like the simplest tasks like driving or walking I simply can’t I feel like everyone’s watching and everything is all fake. My eyes are always not comfortable where they are it’s like it’s never natural where I am looking
faint rapids
Man that sounds really stressful, have you tried talking to your parents about it?
obtuse vapor
No but I don’t want to. It’s like I know what type of character I want to be in my mind but I can’t show it if you understand . I am always comparing my self to others and I just don’t know what I am doing
faint rapids
Alright, let me try to rephrase and you tell me if this sounds right:
You feel like the there is "the person you want to be" and there is "the person you are now" and they are currently not the same person. And also that you blank out during a lot of social interactions and activities. These things cause you stress and make you feel unsatisfied with your life.
obtuse vapor
Yes basically
humble raft
Most people are just as complex as you
You only see what others show intentionally or unintentionally
faint rapids
ah apparently i can't link
humble raft
Wow
humble raft
Seemed good from what little I read
faint rapids
okay @obtuse vapor , I'm not going to rewrite that whole message but I'll give a shorter one. essentially i think you have 3 main problems: you are dissociating, you are unsatisfied with who you currently are, and you are constantly experiencing distress.
There is a grounding method called 5-4-3-2-1 method, this is to help you address the dissociative problems you have. If you notice yourself dissociating, use that method. Look it up since I can't link it, watch a video on YouTube of a mental health professional explaining it so you can understand it better.
I'm not a therapist but my wife uses that method a lot and it helps her feel more in control after
obtuse vapor
Is that the method where you list out 5 things you see and stuff
faint rapids
If you wanna talk more about feeling unsatisfied with who you currently are or your feelings of your eyes constantly feeling uncomfortable, we can also talk about that
5 things you see, 4 things you physically feel (like touching), 3 things you hear, 2 things you smell, 1 thing you taste
It can be hard to remember to do it while you are dissociating but maybe you can set an alarm on your phone to go off around the times that you know you would be dissociating and that can help inspire you to do it
and also friend if you want to dm me feel free, i hope you can get this all figured out because I also know what it feels like to be dissatisfied with my body, I'm a short, out of shape white dude