Let me say right now, I fully understand your anxiety. I am going through something similar right now, and I am also a heavy overthinker, which doesn't make things any better. But let me say that it is entirely understandable why you are feeling this anxiety. Still, I would also like to ask: do you know whether these environmental constraints are temporary? Or are they a thing that will last for years? If you don't know, it's totally okay. I wanted to ask that because I want to reassure you that it will not always be like this. I try to tell myself that while I'm experiencing huge moments of anxiety or worry that my partner is losing interest in me, while in reality she may be going through an emotional dip. But for you, please understand that she has reassured you that she still loves you and doesn't feel burdened. It can be hard to try to get something into your head when you overthink or worry. The hardest part is knowing something feels different and still seeing it happen before your eyes, like how you used to talk for whole day hours to just 10-15 minutes. That is the hardest part, and it hurts a lot. But I can promise you right now, it is something you will get used to over time. And I'm really hoping it isn't a permanent thing where you guys talk for 10-15 minutes; I'm hoping it's just a dip in communication due to environmental restraints. Right now, the best things I think you can do are talk to other people about what you're feeling, try to distract yourself with things that you enjoy doing to take your mind off of the things that bring you that anxiety, and even when you do talk to her for a short amount of time, try to enjoy it without thinking "this is going to be so short." Try as much as you can to enjoy the time you have when you talk to her, and understand that she still loves you. You both may process emotions differently, and that's okay. Of course, I know the need for reassurance or comfort from her; believe me, I feel that way all the time. I think it's just going to be a process of getting used to a change that feels difficult to adjust to. But keep in mind, this change isn't permanent, at least I am hoping it isn't. But if there is anything you want to continue talking about, I'd love to try and help in any way I can.
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Oh, I completely understand the feeling of seeming like the present is impossible to get through. But that doesn't mean you're weak at all; you're just carrying something really heavy. You are overwhelmed right now with a lot of things on your plate.
Right now, she's doing the best she can to survive in her environment. You're surviving the distance the best you can. Neither of you is wrong; you're just both under pressure from something bigger than the relationship itself. And once again, her telling you that she still loves you matters a lot. That means the connection isnt gone. Of course, I still understand the struggle to get through these times when talking with her seems scarce, and if you aren't worried about the future, that is good. Lack of communication isn't a lack of love.
She is trying to talk with you as much as she can, but it's hard for her due to her environment. Once again, please understand that this will be something you have to get used to for now. It won't be easy, don't think it will be. It will hurt for a bit until things change. You guys could do routine check-ins with each other during the time she's talking. What is the one thing that's the hardest for you? Is it just not being able to speak as much as you used to, or do you feel like something is different about her? Does she seem to act differently when talking with you? Or does she usually act the way she always has when you guys speak?