Alr so I’m generally popular in my school and I don’t really have problems with talking to girls(ones I don’t have any romantical feelings for) and it’s easy for me to talk to people. But recently I’ve found this girl who just mesmerizes me and it’s hard to talk to her in person cuz she is so cool that I get nervous and her friends are highkey scary, I also end up messing things up with her every single time I start to make progress. Like today I was making progress and I accidentally exploded a chocolate milk and it got all over me and it splashed a little on her. It just frustrates me because we used to talk all day every day until I started messing things up all the time. And all my freinds tell her to talk to her in real life but I get so nervous too and I end up just feeling like the biggest loser because I feel like she is loosing intreasted because I can’t even muster up the courage to talk to her. Essentially I just need help to figure out how to talk to her in real life and stop fucking shit up because I’ve already messed up thrice. I think what happened today made her not wanna talk to me anymore tho. I just need help she is the sweetest prettiest girl and I lowk have a fat crush on her and I know she used to like me before and I just wanna be able to make it how it was before I started messing things up.
#Feel like a loser cuz I can’t talk to my crush
turbid olive
vast shoal
First of all, you feel anxious because you care a lot; that's normal, so don't think it's unusual or "pathetic." I totally understand the chocolate milk moment. I'm sure it was really awkward, but people don't lose interest over accidents, so don't worry about her losing interest from moments like those. And you definitely aren't "messing things up." The only problem is what you're telling yourself after it happens. For example, when the chocolate milk explodes, it gets all over you, some of it gets on her, and your mind instantly starts thinking, "I ruined everything." That then causes you to overthink. I'll tell you right now what the biggest mistake you're making is, and that's trying to be smooth, not mess up, say the right thing, all that stuff. But that pressure is killing your natural personality, which is usually what girls like. Your goal right now is to have a regular, short interaction. Thats it. Something super simple at first, and gradually work your way up. It's absolutely terrifying to even try to say something to a girl you really like, but I am sure it will help. Dont try to think of this whole conversation you have to have, genuinely something simple at first can go a long way. But quick question for you, have you two ever talked before? whether it was briefly for a few seconds, or a full conversation.