I’ve been best friends with said friend Willow since 8th grade we have always been a little rocky but still close friends. In 8th grade we stopped being friends for a bit over something that was admitingly my fault. We re connected freshemen year through a shared sport and became super close. At the time I was dateing a really bad guy and this upset willow because it made me really sad and I would always complain to her about him but once again my fault I never acted on it because I did not know how. Sophomore year after I found out my bf had be lieing to me and some pretty bad stuff willow gave we an ultimatum, she said I break up with him or she stops being my friend. So I immediately broke up with him and she was very happy with him me until I week later I told her I needed to talk to him one more time just to tie off loose ends and get my stuff back from him. But she did not
#My best friend is an A hole and stoped being my friend and I can’t get over her.
peak inlet
like that and started to ignore me and eventually cut me off and “break up” with me friendship wise saying I was too negitive and I talked but did not act. This hurt a lot it made we super sad and depressed it felt worse then any break up I had gone through. It also hurt more seeing her online or at school liveing her life so unbothered with out my presence knowing that I was destroyed and my life was so out of wack with out her presence. I started to get super anxious going places where I knew she would be seeing as we had shared intrest and every time I would see her or have to talk to her it would make me want to throw up. We were “broken up” for about six months until junior year when we reconnected over the sport that reconnected us freshemn year. Being friends again gave me a lot of anxity I was so scared she was going to leave me again I felt like I was on tip toes and walking on egg shells all the time. I also realized even through we reconnected I was not the most important person to her anymore like she was to me and it stung. During those six months of lack of friendship she had started to become friends with my cousin whitch hurt because he is just the male version of me and he was really rubbing it in my face that they were friends and me and her weren’t. During when we
Reconnected she started dateing my cousin whitch weirdly hurt it was weird and made me uncomfortable. At that time I started to talk to a new guy but willow did not like him so I had to stop talking to him PMO but then I found a different one she approved of I started to date my now bf. Willow would come to break up with my cousin and a couple month later get with her current bf Caleb. I did not dislike him or anything I was just weary at first something was off to me. AND I WAS RIGHT SOMETHING WAS OFF. I went on a double date with her and I noticed they were being weird so I asked her about it after and she said HE ABUSES HER. Verbally and physically she showed me proof. I love willow so much so this upset me a lot a lot and I started to HATE her bf. I told her she needed to dump his ass imediately and run as far away as possible BUT SHE WOULDENT LISTEN said he is going to change and things are going to get better pmo. This went on for months and she was getting really negitive and a bum and was pushing away all her friends in favor of him and no one could ever hang out with her because where ever willow went Caleb followed, and Caleb hates all her friends and all her friends hate him. He knew that I especially did not like him because I told him to his face willow needs to break up with him. So he started to shit talk me to anyone who would listen
Saying I’m a bad horrible person who is evil and vindictive and manipulative and everyone needs to see my true colors (HE HAD ONLY MET ME TEO TIMES AT THAT POINT). This literally went on for months and I got pissed and major cracks formed in me and willows relationship I can’t even quite remember what set it off but we had a big argument and I told her she is bum and a no good horrible friend and I will always be a better friend then she is and that her relationship with Caleb is ruining her relationship with others and that I’m not going to talk to her about Caleb anymore because she dosent listen to me when I do. It felt like I was relieving the situation with my bf from sophomore year just roles reversed. Even though I was a little mean with my words willow took it to heart and was not mad she was just glad I was honest with her and she made an effort to fix her friendship relationships. I was still a little salty and mad at her in general but things slowed to a simmer. Fast forward to November things were find between us we hung out and we talking one day and then the next she just started ignoring me I thought she was being a jerk or Caleb got into her phone but this went on for now 5 weeks. I was not really bothered though
Figure she was being a jerk until I got really pissed because we both do theater and even through we are at the same theater practices every day she still was not talking to me Liek I was litterly fitting a dress onto her putting safety pins in and she was not talking me, Caleb was though but were cordial about it, even though we hate each other mutually we’re cordial. It just got to a boiling point were me and willow had been in the bathroom coincidentally at the same time washing our hands at the same time and she still was not talking to me. So after practice I called a mutual friend and was asking her about it. That’s when I found out willlow was “breaking up” with me again. She told the mutual friend that she just dident want to be my friend anymore she Dosent hate me and is not mad at me but I’m just too negitive about her a Caleb and she’s known me since middle school and I’ve always been this way and even though I changed last time she stopped being my friend people like me never change (WHITCH IS COUNTERINTIUIVE BECASUE I TOLD HER CALEB WAS NEVER GOING TO CHANGE AND SHE SAID NOOOOO ITS GETTING BETTER HE IS GOING CHANGE PMO) I guess she had also talked to another mutual friend about me painting me like a bad person because I’m always “spamming” her to break up with Caleb, BUT THESE OTHER PEOPLE DONT KNOW HE ABUSES HER. As well I found out she only felt building about “breaking up” with me the first time because she started dateing my cousin. As well prior she had said I have changed deeply multiple times when I had deep events happen so she can’t turn right around and say I never change because I do on a side note as well prior she said she dident count me as a friend.
until 4 months into me thinking we were friends sigh. It just hurts a lot it feels like my original wound I got from the first time she stopped being my friend was re opened ten times bigger. I love willow so much platonically romanticly in all ways I would do anything for her but she dosent value my friendship the same I value hers and she has made his very apparent whitch is weird because when I started to get a new bestie who was one of our mutual friends she got super upset and defenseive saying she dident like how close me and the other girl were getting and that I never tell her anything anymore. Whitch was true because she would get upset when I would tell her anything haveing to do with stuff happening in my life boyfriends or needing advise, like I’m going to tell some who is going to listen and be nice about it not you willow . I was fine thinking she was just being a jerk ignoring me but know she’s “breaking up” with me made her feel horrible. It’s been about a week now and it’s thrown me into a deep depression and is makeing me feel crazy. All I’ve been doing since I got the news is crying listing to take me to church on look and starring at the painting of Joan of ark she made me. It feels like religious psychosis but I know it’s not it just a weird feeling it’s giving me like abandonment ptsd and just really scared of the people I love leaving me ( for refrence in the time of our not being friends prior I had other friend who was arguable a closer friend then willow ghost all of her friends including me and dip, and then the bf I got right after my and willows first “breaking up” the first bf I got with out her approval looming broke up with me in the same fashion willow did by ignoring me, which really hurt because he was my first LOVE and it destroyed me in the
same way willow did and on another side note she was mad she didn’t know anything about him once we became friends again like excuse me we were not friends when I started to date him and excuse me why would I talk to you about him when last time I had a bf and talked to you about him you stopped being my friend for 6 months like this whole situation is the first “break up” just roles flipped flopped and yes i could given willow ultimatums like she did to me and i could have “broke up” with her but i didn’t and won’t because i stand that im a better person then her and always will be). I really love her but I know there’sb practically nothing I can do in situation, advise?