Making the right choices

[signal vine]

I’m having tough times making the right decisions for myself. It’s not just about what items I want to get or have, and it’s also about the life choices I’m making. Even when my parents are even trying to help you or suggest something different. I also can’t tell if my relationships with my friends are even getting better or worse. I made a risky move getting back with my ex girlfriend and she is willing to start over. I am needing to learn how to be more open and figure out how I can improve myself so I can be happy.

[proper light]

Hello. I know it is a hard time for you right now and I am happy that you are doing your best. I also know that you are questioning whether you are making the right decisions or not.
Here is what I want you to know. Please do not ever make decisions whenever you are sad or when you are happy. Try not to decide with your feelings and do not let your emotions affect how you choose things. Also, please do not be in a relationship just because you are lonely. You have to get yourself straight and be in a healthy position to decide because otherwise you might end up making the wrong choices.
I see that you have decided to be with your ex-girlfriend. I do not have the right to tell you whether that is a good decision or not because I do not have a right to your personal life.
The only thing you can do now is to be a man of your word. You need to promise that girl that you will stay even when you have finally become better. Once you are finally in the right place of mind you should not leave that girl because she was there to stay and she was willing to try again. Do not love someone only because you need them but love them because you see them for who they are.
I can only speak from experience and the mistakes I have seen people make. It is risky deciding things when you are not in a good place in life because you will end up picking the wrong things.
I am happy that your parents try to give you something as an alternative and that they are there to support you. I know you have been trying hard and it is something to be proud of.
As for your friends, they are there to support you. Hardships are where you will see who is really true and real to you. You will see who stays and who does not. But there are people that also leave because they get tired and that is fine too.
But what I can tell you is this. The person to pick you up is not just someone else. It is yourself. The people around you are there to support you but the decision to be better for yourself is yours alone. It is your decision to continue to keep trying everyday so always remember to keep trying and never ever lose yourself.
The person you have most is you. The person who could help you is you. And the people behind you are what keeps you going.

[proper light]

Pursue your dreams and do not let other people discourage you from what makes you happy. Choose to be the man that would inspire others. That way when another man is in the same position as you then you will inspire them to be better.
​Remain strong despite everything and continue being strong while making small progress each day. Head to the gym and do it for yourself. Do it so you can have a future with the woman you love.
You don't have to figure life out early, don't overwhelm yourself and think of the small steps first because doing the small steps is what starts you from doing the entire thing.

It's better to be consistent than to take a leap and be inconsistent a few days after.

Focus on the small things, like making your bed. It's the first accomplishment of tomorrow and today, and even if you have a bad day, you'll have a nice bed that you made, knowing you made that bed.

Do that as step one, if you don't already.
@signal vine

And don't forget. Even if the world isn't kind to you or even if the people around you aren't kind, you can always be kinder to yourself because you have you.

That's why put yourself first.

[proper light]

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