#Feeling stuck and overwhelmed about my future

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jovial fox
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Hey, I’m 17 (almost 18) and I really need to talk because my mental health has been getting worse. I have intense insecurity about my height and growth and I obsess over it daily. I constantly worry about whether I’ll grow more, whether I’ve ruined my chances, and every small setback makes me spiral. It’s turned into nonstop looping thoughts that leave me anxious, exhausted, and hopeless.

On top of that, I feel like my life is already falling behind. I still don’t have my high school diploma and I’ll probably get it around 18.5–19, which makes me feel like it’s already over for me compared to people my age. I feel stuck, ashamed, and scared about my future, and I don’t want to keep carrying this alone. I’m here because I really need support and perspective.

hidden crypt
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So from what I'm hearing, you feel as if though you are not enough because you aren't far enough in your goals related to both school and height?

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I understand what you are saying and I am here for you without judgement

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It just seems in my opinion this is something much larger than just about height and school

south vector
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Im 19 years old

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All my friends are in uni

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But im in school

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And even

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I can't sign in school

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Because the school won't make me in

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Its system after i wasn't in school for long time then i can't be in

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So only way is to study at home and do exams for final 12 class

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Don't be ashamed

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Don't be jealous

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Don't be afraid

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You might be broken

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But trust me

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You have the choice

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You have to shine and move forward

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You gotta just race your friends

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Its not over

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It's over when you lose hope

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Make a goal

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Set a goal

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Look at the closest point

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Step by step

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Believe me living with out a goal is a night mare

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Set a Goal and work on it

jovial fox
jovial fox
# south vector Set a Goal and work on it

Thank you for sharing that, it actually helps knowing I’m not alone. I’m sorry you’re dealing with that too, it sounds really hard. You’re right about hope and having a goal, I think that’s what I’ve been missing lately. I get stuck comparing myself to others instead of focusing on my own steps. I really appreciate the encouragement.

south vector
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I don't have my father with me

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Im depressed asf

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But i have to

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Live and go forward

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With a goal

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If i fall

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My family will fall

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If they see e weak

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Me*

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You know why im trying now

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Everything is hard but we can make it easy by going through it

jovial fox
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That’s a lot to carry, and I respect you for still pushing forward. It makes sense why you’re trying, and it honestly motivates me too. Thank you for sharing that with me.

south vector
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May you find hope brother

hidden crypt
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These are important questions to think about. And please let me know.

jovial fox
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I would probably be in college rn, have a job and a car probably. One of the reasons I didn’t get my high school diploma on time is because the year before the last high school year, I had gotten so much acne like so much, my eyes were dry, skin dry lips dry, scalp dry and I would sweat so much because I was on accutane. That made me skip almost every school day and period because I hated myself and I was so embarrassed. I would just sit in class and start sweating so much and it would show on my pants. I skipped 3 of the most important final exams and I regret it. The next year, I told my parents I’ll do online school and I did it for a bit till I had to go to a school center to do the exam, I was so insecure and scared to go that I didn’t and told my parents that school was going well. Now it’s the second year, everyone is in college while I’m still not even halfway done with school even tho I built up the courage to go do the exams and I’m passing all of them. Idk man, I just feel like a failure.

hidden crypt
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I get how all of that can lead to feelings of insecurity. How is your relationship with your friends and family?

jovial fox
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I stopped talking to my friends and stopped going out with them because I don’t want them to see me and look at my face, I just hate myself face and body. My family isn’t helping either , they’re just saying "oh no you’re fine bla bla bla ". Btw I’m sorry for replying late, I was busy editing something.

hidden crypt
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Do you often compare yourself to other people?

jovial fox
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Yes very often actually. When I go outside, I always compare my height to people, especially other men. When they tower over me, it ruins my confidence and makes me even more insecure

hidden crypt
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I see, is it okay if I give some advice as well as my opinion?

sleek oasis
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Hello. I can tell you’re going through a lot right now, and you might feel different or like you’re behind everyone else, but I want to be the person who tells you this clearly, I’m really proud of you. You’ve been strong, and the fact that you’re still here, still trying, says so much about who you are.

Getting your high school diploma later does not make you any less of a person. You’re doing your best, and that effort matters. It’s meaningful, and it’s something to be proud of. Your dreams and your future are still yours, and they can still turn into something good. A late diploma does not take that away from you.

And about your height, you are perfect the way you are. You are lovable exactly as you are. The right people will never measure your worth by something like that. They’ll see you, appreciate you, and care for you without conditions.

I hope you learn to be confident in yourself and to keep going, even when it feels hard. Being this strong, especially when life hasn’t been kind, is something truly special.

DM me anytime I'll be here for you.

jovial fox
jovial fox
hidden crypt
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Hi, sorry for not responding for a while. I have just been mentally blocked as of late. My advice is to try to distract your mind when doing comparisons because while it may seem right, it's working against your well-being and progress. Simply affirming yourself even if they feel fake or forced is a way to practice feeling better about yourself. Because from our talk I understand that there is nothing wrong with you but your thoughts can be reframed.

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Let me know if you have any questions. I know this can be a lot to take in but essentially pausing yourself gently when doing comparisons and negative self talk as well as incorperating affirmations may help. Especially if you try and don't expect it to work for a while. That is because thinking in a different way is difficult at first but will take a lot to shift in a convincing way.

hidden crypt
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Also I want to clarify. When I say affirmations feel fake or forced. I mean it may seem like you don't deserve them by your perspective. You are worth affirming. Every strength others or you see in yourself is real. You just have to convince yourself that.