I need advice on how to stop this and gain weight without being ugly

[iron harbor]

TW: || body weight, body shaming, and talk about an ED ||
|| So basically I keep getting body shamed and no one gives a damn when I tell them its rude.
My dentist thinks bc we family friends that they can say things, like “omg Victoria, you should eat more, you look so skinny! Eat some protein for once” They used Victoria when I told them to use Vickie, and they keep telling me to eat more. Sure, Im underweight and not in a healthy category for body percentage, but you dont just straight up tell me to eat more? I told them I eat a lot and my meds give me a fast metabolism along side my teen metabolism. She
says “I wish I had ur body Victoria I could use your diet”
I tell her my diet is a lot of junk food and like 6 meals a day, and she freaking said “No need to lie Victoria, tell me whats ur deal? You cant be eating like a fat pig and looking like a skeleton?” I just wanted to leave and I told her that i felt really uncomfortable and its body shaming and calling me a liar when I wasnt lying. She responded with “Thats not body shaming im telling you how skinny and perfect you are” I tell her that I want the convo over with and how it IS body shaming and how she wasnt saying I was perfect. As well as no ones perfect and im already insecure enough about my body weight for anyone to say anything. she ended with “why would you be so insecure? All the guys like those flat tummies Victoria” I just left at that point, I was done with it. ||

|| Some information:
Im skinny, like not healthy skinny.
Im tall sure, but having a 23 inch waist and weighing 94 pounds isn’t healthy. I want to gain weight but my insecure and comparison self thinks if I get over 100lbs Im ugly and overweight and I wont look good anymore. 100lbs is so far from being overweight but I cant get myself to go over it..So I basically starve myself when I get to 97-99 pounds because its too close. I was once 69 pounds 2 years ago. I have an eating disorder. Yet no one believes me, my mom thinks im beautiful and should be happy im skinny. Im not happy. I want to weigh more, But I also really really dont. And Im sorry if this is a sensitive topic so im gonna censor it in case of triggering anyone. ||

[vital ether]

Just cause someone gain weight doesn't mean they are ugly xD if you're trying to go for fitness maybe do lean diet of body recomp.
If you're just honestly wanting to gain weight for the sake of gaining weight eat but eat healthy food that doesn't have alot of oils ( inflammatory food) and have good gut beneficial nutrients

People disregard gut health alot for a good healthy skin and lifestyle. Consider keeping your gut health well.

Eat probiotics too , example:- curd , yogurt etc

[iron harbor]

thank you. I rly wanna fix my brain into knowing that i wont be viewed as ugly etc bc im over 100lbs. I just have had a lot of tramua and words spoken to me so I feel like obligated to stay skinny

[echo furnace]

Considerung your age: its not that deep. But for the future and to avoid those situations: The best way to deal with condescending adults is to just stay silent. They willl eventually shut up. I remember people making fun of my slim figure as a teen, but after 2 years of no reactions even familiy didnt dare to bring it up again.