So, it's been a little more than a year since me and her had this huge fight. Let's call her "Vanessa". So Vanessa and I were really good friends, we were really close, we had like a 9-10-year-old friendship. We were in the same school, and at the end of that year, I kinda fell in love with her. So I waited, waited, and waited until I decided to finally tell the truth. I told her that I'm in love with her, but she rejected me, and it was okay. Then I made a huge mistake. I posted the conversation to my TikTok channel. I mean to play the innocent, but of course, I didn't show her face or name. So after like 5 or 10 minutes, she found out and she rightfully texted me about this and swore the fuck out of me. So we argued, and she eventually said that she doesn't want to see me anymore and just be strangers. After some time, I started to feel bad, and I just couldn't get her out of my head. I still feel this, but it's just complicated, and I still can't get her out of my head. There are times when I see her because we don't live too far from each other. So my question is, what should I do?
#I did it, but.
terse sorrel
radiant jewel
So, it's been a little more than a year since me and her had this huge fight. Le...
That's tough man. I applaud you for having the courage to try, even though what you did afterwards was less then ideal
I think at this point both of you should respect each others wishes and focus on your own lives for a while, if conversation or interactions happen due to circumstances that can't be avoided, nothing you can do about it except staying civil and detached, remind yourself that if she wants to be strangers then there is no reason to force anything, relationships, friendships, anything that involve 2 people requires 2 people, and if she's not willing then there is no point or reason in trying
Focus on yourself, your hobbies, job/education, your goals and just live your life. You'll be reminded of her sometimes, but that's alright. I'm sure she had a huge impact on your life and you had the same for hers over 10 years. It's not something to forget, rather something you can cherish for having in the first place.
terse sorrel
That's tough man. I applaud you for having the courage to try, even though what ...
I understand, and ngl this message did make me think about this, but still, even if I focus on these because I tried and am still trying to, but I just can't. I see her everywhere. In downtown, at my gym, when I'm hanging out with my friends, everywhere. And yeah, you're right that I should focus on my own life, but there's still something in me that tells me I need to protect her at any cost. I just can't describe it, but maybe it's because she was always there for me. If you have any other advice you can give me, that would be really helpful for me.
But there's one question in me still.
Should I tell her or wait?