#being an ugly lonely girl is so embarrassing

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tribal carbon
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I can’t wrap my head around it. Idk what to do. Eh does it matter? Does it? Whatever I do. Whatever. I knew w that face and body I was doomed

fluid nacelle
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i honestly feel the same way. i feel like people would feel more empathy towards me if i were prettier

tribal carbon
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Yeah

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I don’t even think I would’ve problems (or long lasting ones) if I was pretty

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I would have no problem having a bf, and interest, and confidence

fluid nacelle
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being pretty does come w it's problems tho, but i see what u mean

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life would be a bit better

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fluid nacelle
# tribal carbon Which problems ?

i can imagine that if i were pretty i wouldn't know if i guy was just with me for my looks, and that he wouldn't like me if i were ugly

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which means that his intentions were bad

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like as soon as you get sick or maybe have an accident where you don't look the same, they're outta that bitch

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fluid nacelle
tribal carbon
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They can i believe

fluid nacelle
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take zendaya as an example, if she was bald she would still be beautiful

tribal carbon
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At least they could try

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Anyway

fluid nacelle
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(not that being bald is ugly at all)

tribal carbon
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In my balance having guys there “just” bc I’m pretty is better than no guys at all

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And if they suck I just have to leave them

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At least I’ve a choice lol

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flint depot
tribal carbon
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I mean yes

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But I would prefer being attractive to someone

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There’s only much stuffs you can buy

flint depot
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In eyes who someone thats likes you, you would always be attractive. I used to not care how I look, using glasses braces and my hair was never ready yet I still attracted some guys.

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tribal carbon
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And I still look ugly and attract no one

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I just think you naturally pretty

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Not much to say

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wind grotto
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I am a boy and I might not fit in with this, but I think I am ugly too, short hair, 180 waves, everyone calls me bald and this and that, but the most important thing is being confident in yourself, that is key, saying negative things about yourself will only make things worse

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wind grotto
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flint depot
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flint depot
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never let them know your next move, plus if you keep cutting your hair it grows more and faster

wind grotto
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Now I hear it in discord💔

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tropic plaza
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I hope this story makes you feel better. My experience with being "good-looking" and having a "good personality" is that I lost my friends cuz 2 of them both have a crush on me but I don't wanna date. Their friends surely don't want to play with me either cuz they have been ignoring me

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So now I have no friends because our friendship can't never be the same again

tribal carbon
brittle kestrel
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brittle kestrel
tribal carbon
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I mean no one cares abt my personality bc im ugly

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I guess it’s a mix of the two

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outer pebble
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I try to do the best that I can with what I have. Show up and show out, take up space, do the things you love. You are just as worthy of love and respect as anyone else but it all starts with you. Be kind to yourself. 🫂🌷

tribal carbon
brittle kestrel
# tribal carbon I mean romantically bruh

Romantically or platonically . People should be less about their looks and more about their personality.

Its K . You will soon find someone who loves and cares about you for the person you are and not for your looks .

Just hang in there. Please don't be discouraged.

strong dust
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Hey, if people dont come for you because of your look, they might not even like you for what you really are. Youre worth a lot. If you need to talk in dms, I'm here. Youre beauty is just hidden, lets find it

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tribal carbon
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Idk what to do anymore

brittle kestrel
# tribal carbon Thanks

You have a major opportunity for genuine connection .

See a person is very pretty , they can be never sure whether the other person is into them for who they are or just in their looks and body.

But when a person is not that pretty and still someone shows interest.
Then that means genuine interest in who you are as a person.

Besides sister , it's K . Having a good personalinty and kkind nature is much more important than beautiful looks

tribal carbon
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I’m crashing out

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Again

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Alone

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As always

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Fuck this face and body

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brittle kestrel
quartz coral
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I get the feeling no matter what im gonna say it wouldnt totally 100% get rid of your low self esteem issues , but when it comes to looks just know this , looks are subjective and dont really matter . Theres people out there who probably would want to be around you and be your friend but if you go for people who really arent wanting to be your friend and judge you based on looks alone ? Yeah they arent worth it and you should move on .

So at the end of the day all im trying to say is , its okay to be ugly , I personally think all that matters is if you have a nice personality which you seem to do 😋✌

(also as i finished writing this section i just realized from the replies your looking for someone romantically (I think unless im stupid to take things out of context ?) so my bad 😭)

I feel like the things i said can also be applied when looking for a partner , if they judge you on looks alone ? Then honestly they don't deserve you , and like i said , looks are subjective and dont always matter if you're looking for the right person .

And please dont take this as me being mean or anything but if you want to feel pretty in anyway you could try things like skin care as thats somewhat helped me with my low self esteem issues or just taking walks around somewhere yknow staying fit (I REALLY hope i didnt come off as rude or mean and if i did im very sorry I just want you to feel nice about yourself :( )

I know I sound like most of the people in the replies which I know your probably gonna get tired of hearing but I hope you do figure out something that works with you getting friends or a partner :)

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And holy yap i wrote alot 😭✌

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eternal monolith
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u have a fixed mindset

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Yeah there are things way above looks in a human, that's 100% true

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don't put ur value in ur looks

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Ur value is deeper than that

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yet still you can always improve your looks if you'd like

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Nothing is fixed

dry ore
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hmm

eternal monolith
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You can improve anything you want

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you have the identity of an ugly lonely girl

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how are you supposed to grow when you're so attached and fixed to this identity?

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How are you supposed to grow past it?

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don't put your self value and identity into external things

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And then from there it will be easy to change the external things, like looks, if you want to

dry ore
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being a human is just being a banana. We've got 60% DNA similarities to bananas, now your feeling would be "wow what is this guy yapping about bananas, when I need help." Do we look at how many black spots are on the bananas? we don't. We simply look at the inside and decide whether we should consume it or not. Soo, best advise from me is focus on the inner engineering, outer engineering depends on the inner engineering of the building ^^. You are not ugly, trust me. There are much uglier people out there in the world, who hide it through make-up, sweet words, and vulgar stuff. but you openly admitting to the fact your ugly. Already shows and proves your leagues above them

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and if the person is nice, more people will come to you!! Why are good teachers valued more? is it cause they look good? no. They're given more value because of the qualities they posess that's why students flock to them!

eternal monolith
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well looks do matter

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For romantic things

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but it's easy to improve

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She just needs to realise she isn't fixed in this identity of being an ugly girl

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That's just an illusion

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She can grow in any way she likes

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It's possible

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Anything is possible

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The only limits are within ur mind

dry ore
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well.. It's kinda a benefit too yk?? You can get the people who feel genuinely about you

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as opposed to people who'll take advantage of you

eternal monolith
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But looks are scientifically proven

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Psychologically and biologically

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To have a huge affect on relationships

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No point of denying it

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But it's easy to improve them

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She just needs to detach from her negative self identity

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And make a choice then

golden marten
fluid nacelle
golden marten
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Just come to vc

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Idk

tribal carbon
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Ayo there was a whole convo here that i missed lol

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eternal monolith
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You can improve your looks

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It's not a hard thing

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You only think it's impossible because you've been telling yourself ur ugly over and over

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eternal monolith
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Shouldn't focus so much on looks though but u can improve it if u want

eternal monolith
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It doesn't

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just be healthy, workout for a while, eat clean, drink a lot of water, that's all the looks u need for romantic relationship. Everything else will come ur way when it's time

tribal carbon
# eternal monolith You only think it's impossible because you've been telling yourself ur ugly over...

Okay we gonna put the record straight. I don’t wanna argue but I just wanna contextualize. I do not know what you assume about me based on your experience but I didn’t woke up and thought “oh hey let’s tell to myself I’m ugly”. I was told I was, and as I grew up I could understand I was. People get praised, complimented and looked upon for certain physical traits. I don’t have those traits nor have I ever been complimented for any of my physical traits. W that I’ve been mocked and insulted over my looks and I could see that people would never want to have a face like mine or have resembling features. Experiences and observations lead me to think I was ugly. Not the other way around. Thanks

golden marten
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Ok

eternal monolith
tribal carbon
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But you didn’t answer so idk

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eternal monolith
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Check dms for a second

tribal carbon
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Uh ok

tribal carbon