#Living in an extremely conservative country

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ivory tusk
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For the past 4-5 years I've been living in the country my parents were born in, I'm American by birth but their not. One thing I've noticed is people here are much more comfortable with saying slurs, homophobia and most importantly (to me as a woman) sexism. I'll hear people (who are no black) say the n-word in every sentence they speak, talk about traditional roles of man and wife and specifically how women are much weaker, dumber and worse than men. The country I live in is in fact so sexist you don't barely any women on the street because they all stay at home cooking for their husbands and taking care of children. I won't specify where exactly I live but I will tell it's very close to Afganistan, which if you know is one of the most sexist and exploitative countrys towards women, and my country definently takes a lot of inspiration from them. For example, women aren't allowed to show their stomachs or knees in public, in some places they can wear short sleeves as long as their neck is covered, but otherwise if you don't do this, it's likely you'll be stared at by a lot of people or even worse 🍇 ed. I once decided to wear a shirt that showed my stomach as the neck was pretty high so I figured my relatives wouldn't say anything as it was only a bit of skin, but then when I went to go see my grandma, yes, my GRANDMA she kept touching the bare skin on my stomach weirdly while hugging me, then proceeded to tell my mother how thin I was (I was 13 and she was 70 something). I felt EXTREMELY uncomfortable in that moment, and I felt terrible about how I looked afterwards and kept trying to hide my body by holding pillows and other things. This kind of stuff also happens when I want to go out, I always have to show my outfits to my Mom to make sure she deems them "appropriate", this kinda stuff made me extremely conscience of how I looked from a young age, I'm always thinking about how much skin I'm showing and whether I look like a "sl*t" who's "asking for it".

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Not to mention, one time when I was on the dining table with my family my older brother was talking about how much he hated women and I proceeded to argue with him of course because he was saying this in front of his own little sister and MOTHER, during this whole arguement nobody in my family even my mother and father called him out for what he was saying. Another thing that happened with the same brother was when I was driving in the car with him and my Dad and we saw this poor trans woman, asking us for money, and my Dad gave some to her but then when we drove away my brother proceeded to insult her when we drove away and repetitively misgendered her too and talked about how trans people are not human and they don't deserve our money, telling my Dad it's useless to give our money to her and surprisingly, even my Dad agreed with me that she deserved it as many trans people in my country are poor because their families kick them out for expressing themselves, which is why it hurt me a lot that my own brother was being so insensitive and rude to people who literally needed help. Anyways, I would tell you all more but then I'd have to tell you m whole life story, and I'm not willing to type that. Thanks to anyone who read this and if you have any advice on how to cope with a situation like this I'd love that

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